FabSwingers.com forum: Ignoring after face pic request

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I messaged a couple and they subsequently asked, albeit with just three words, for a face pic.

As always I obliged, despite the fact they had clearly not read my profile, “if you ask for a face pic, please send one of yourself with the request”

They viewed the pic, then go silent.

Now I know I’m no Brad Pitt, but surely a simple, ‘sorry, you’re not our type’ isn’t too much to expect?

It’s certainly what I would do.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

No reply = no interest. It's stated in the site rules/faqs. Once you accept that, you'll find your Fab experience becomes far less stressful

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And I get that.

But since they HAVE initially replied then a simple ‘no thanks’ is simply courteous?

It’s no stress, I’ll simply move on.

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

Realistically we think the person who messages first should send the first face pic, and not expect anything in return. It’s not a rule.... just the way the world often works.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And I get that.

But since they HAVE initially replied then a simple ‘no thanks’ is simply courteous?

It’s no stress, I’ll simply move on.

Some people just find it hard to say no thanks after seeing a pic in fear of hurting your feelings. I know I find it particularly hard to say something. It’s why I prefer to see a face on profile or in first message. That way no awkwardness happens.

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By *wansfeetCouple
over a year ago

Guisborough

I agree it’s a little rude not to reply with a “no thanks”, if they had asked for a face picture. However, they may not have wanted to hurt your feelings and felt that a no reply was better than a no.

And as it’s said so many times on Fab “no one owes you a reply.” But after some dialogue has occurred I feel it’s common curtesy to at least say no thanks in a polite way.

Just my 2 cents anyway. Others may well think differently.

Kiki x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Realistically we think the person who messages first should send the first face pic, and not expect anything in return. It’s not a rule.... just the way the world often works. "

I always send a face pic when I message people

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

At time Curtesy on here is a lost word .. but not all are disrespectful.. most are polite and fun .. still get no meets though .. face pic or not lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does come across as impolite to not get a reply.

However, we never worry if we get no reply.

Sometimes, as per site rules, and as we state, no reply = no interest.

We used to reply to messages, but, received the torrents of abuse and pleading. Probably why very few people respond to messages, not about ‘hurting feelings’.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

"I messaged a couple and they subsequently asked, albeit with just three words, for a face pic.

As always I obliged, despite the fact they had clearly not read my profile, “if you ask for a face pic, please send one of yourself with the request”

They viewed the pic, then go silent.

Now I know I’m no Brad Pitt, but surely a simple, ‘sorry, you’re not our type’ isn’t too much to expect?

It’s certainly what I would do."

Nope I’m with you. A polite thanks for the pic but you’re not for us doesn’t harm anyone. Rather than wondering if they’re just gonna message later etc.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If they had ignored our profile and requested a face picture with three words we wouldn't have been replying to them let alone sending a face picture.

It's the nature of the beast I'm afraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I messaged a couple and they subsequently asked, albeit with just three words, for a face pic.

As always I obliged, despite the fact they had clearly not read my profile, “if you ask for a face pic, please send one of yourself with the request”

They viewed the pic, then go silent.

Now I know I’m no Brad Pitt, but surely a simple, ‘sorry, you’re not our type’ isn’t too much to expect?

It’s certainly what I would do."

Put on your profile “ DO NOT SEND A FACEPIC REQUEST WITHOUT SENDING ONE YOURSELF IN SAID REQUEST”

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I messaged a couple and they subsequently asked, albeit with just three words, for a face pic.

As always I obliged, despite the fact they had clearly not read my profile, “if you ask for a face pic, please send one of yourself with the request”

They viewed the pic, then go silent.

Now I know I’m no Brad Pitt, but surely a simple, ‘sorry, you’re not our type’ isn’t too much to expect?

It’s certainly what I would do."

I think you might need to read your profile again. Unless you've changed it since you posted this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I messaged a couple and they subsequently asked, albeit with just three words, for a face pic.

As always I obliged, despite the fact they had clearly not read my profile, “if you ask for a face pic, please send one of yourself with the request”

They viewed the pic, then go silent.

Now I know I’m no Brad Pitt, but surely a simple, ‘sorry, you’re not our type’ isn’t too much to expect?

It’s certainly what I would do.

I think you might need to read your profile again. Unless you've changed it since you posted this."

Opps lol

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"I messaged a couple and they subsequently asked, albeit with just three words, for a face pic.

As always I obliged, despite the fact they had clearly not read my profile, “if you ask for a face pic, please send one of yourself with the request”

They viewed the pic, then go silent.

Now I know I’m no Brad Pitt, but surely a simple, ‘sorry, you’re not our type’ isn’t too much to expect?

It’s certainly what I would do."

Congratulations you've been a victim of big Barrie.

An obese guy with a beard with food stuck in it is sat in his crusty y fronts in front of his cum splattered PC screen and unfortunately your photo has joined his wank bank

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

"I messaged a couple and they subsequently asked, albeit with just three words, for a face pic.

As always I obliged, despite the fact they had clearly not read my profile, “if you ask for a face pic, please send one of yourself with the request”

They viewed the pic, then go silent.

Now I know I’m no Brad Pitt, but surely a simple, ‘sorry, you’re not our type’ isn’t too much to expect?

It’s certainly what I would do.

Congratulations you've been a victim of big Barrie.

An obese guy with a beard with food stuck in it is sat in his crusty y fronts in front of his cum splattered PC screen and unfortunately your photo has joined his wank bank

Hahahaha I always forget there are actually guys pretending to be couples and pic collectors.

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By *n Search Of SunsetCouple
over a year ago

Search Of Sunset

You failed your own rules.

They didn't send a face pic when asking for yours so why did you expect a no thanks response?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I messaged a couple and they subsequently asked, albeit with just three words, for a face pic.

As always I obliged, despite the fact they had clearly not read my profile, “if you ask for a face pic, please send one of yourself with the request”

They viewed the pic, then go silent.

Now I know I’m no Brad Pitt, but surely a simple, ‘sorry, you’re not our type’ isn’t too much to expect?

It’s certainly what I would do."

This happens to me on a daily basis

. My loss I'm sure

Each to their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its not to say at least no thanks, but i find the most rude is after you sent pic they delete and block you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think its not to say at least no thanks, but i find the most rude is after you sent pic they delete and block you "

Only a scary pic would have me doing that!!

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

Whoever initiates the conversation should send a photo first. Not whoever asks for it first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think its not to say at least no thanks, but i find the most rude is after you sent pic they delete and block you "

This kinda made me laugh

I've had that a few times as well! Usually the male half of a couple. Good times.

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By *arkndirtyMan
over a year ago

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Without any shadow of a doubt the most awesome meets are with people who make things easy. When people act like dicks, rude or ignorant they will invariably be disappointing meets.

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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

"I messaged a couple and they subsequently asked, albeit with just three words, for a face pic.

As always I obliged, despite the fact they had clearly not read my profile, “if you ask for a face pic, please send one of yourself with the request”

They viewed the pic, then go silent.

Now I know I’m no Brad Pitt, but surely a simple, ‘sorry, you’re not our type’ isn’t too much to expect?

It’s certainly what I would do."

Not really because you get the "but why not" followed by more begging messages as you are the only one to reply in their inbox.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Realistically we think the person who messages first should send the first face pic, and not expect anything in return. It’s not a rule.... just the way the world often works. "

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think its not to say at least no thanks, but i find the most rude is after you sent pic they delete and block you "

He says in his profile if your not interested delete my message and block me.

So what's he complaing about???

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Delete etc is clearly meant regarding initial messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Their attitude with just 3 words would have put me off and I wouldn't have sent them anything.

Yes it's rude of them not to reply. Lucky escape, they would be a nightmare meet. Entitled and rude.

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By *razoMan
over a year ago

Kent

There are some rude people here. Came across a couple that treats single guys like a piece of shit. Blocked and move on.

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By *ack Flash400Man
over a year ago

The Bat Cave

If you had my face, you'd now what rejection is!

Like a bulldog chewing a wasp! lol

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

A sorry not our type reply is the polite reply if they are not interested but at the same time no reply is also an response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Delete etc is clearly meant regarding initial messages."

Well they have found out more about and decided your not for them and deleted your message

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