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By *awtyPapa OP   Man
over a year ago

Southend-on-Sea

What is it with verifications that state "I'm keeping this one to myself" and "back off guys she/he's all mine" just seems unnecessary to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally a lot of aggression on Fab in my experience

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

When someone says you cannot have something, doesn't it make you want it all the more?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly didn't know that was even a thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it with verifications that state "I'm keeping this one to myself" and "back off guys she/he's all mine" just seems unnecessary to me. "

Aggressive or just humorous?

Think you are reading too much into it myself.

Surely it's just their way of saying how good the person is. Lighten up!

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"What is it with verifications that state "I'm keeping this one to myself" and "back off guys she/he's all mine" just seems unnecessary to me.

Aggressive or just humorous?

Think you are reading too much into it myself.

Surely it's just their way of saying how good the person is. Lighten up!

"

This is how I always read them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's... a joke.

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"What is it with verifications that state "I'm keeping this one to myself" and "back off guys she/he's all mine" just seems unnecessary to me. "

I don't think they're really going to fight you, just a bit of tongue in cheek humour.

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

I see that as a joke or a complimnt to say yr good and they want more ..

But as u can see from my veries I don’t have that problem lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is that aggression?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it with verifications that state "I'm keeping this one to myself" and "back off guys she/he's all mine" just seems unnecessary to me. "

Well its the person giving the verifications choice what to put in it and the recipient if they should display it or not. I would guess its to put off certain types and your dislike would confirm its working.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I don't see that as aggressive personally!

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I never have that problem ... no one ever wants to keep me

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke


"I never have that problem ... no one ever wants to keep me "

U hang in there babe I’m coming get u ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it with verifications that state "I'm keeping this one to myself" and "back off guys she/he's all mine" just seems unnecessary to me.

Aggressive or just humorous?

Think you are reading too much into it myself.

Surely it's just their way of saying how good the person is. Lighten up!

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"I never have that problem ... no one ever wants to keep me

U hang in there babe I’m coming get u .. "

Ha ha ha..... you did get lost ....it’s them here Valleys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would be flattered if someone stated that they wanted to keep us to themselves.

We see that on verifications, and just take it light hearted, and assume all had a good time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's written in humour??

I've never taken it any other way than that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just funny. Not weird stalkerish behaviour at all.

Until they post your veri and then they start mailing you day and night. And your hamster goes missing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it with verifications that state "I'm keeping this one to myself" and "back off guys she/he's all mine" just seems unnecessary to me. "
British people are aggressive have you not noticed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See it more as a compliment and humour, although I must be crap as no one has ever said that about me, haha x Viv x

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"What is it with verifications that state "I'm keeping this one to myself" and "back off guys she/he's all mine" just seems unnecessary to me. "

Makes me laugh cos they are pretty pathetic, especially the 'treat them right or you will have me to answer to.' Get a grip mate. Who's going to take you seriously? ....and seriously what will you do if people don't?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you say in a veri you would kinda like to keep them to yourself it's a compliment to that person. It's the receivers choice whether to share that veri or keeps it private. I've only once sent one like it and it's still private between us.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

It’s called blowing smoke up peoples arses. The amount of times I’ve read a friends veri and sent them a message saying “sounds like you had a good time last night”. To be sent the reply “I shan’t be seeing him again”. Always read between the lines. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it with verifications that state "I'm keeping this one to myself" and "back off guys she/he's all mine" just seems unnecessary to me. British people are aggressive have you not noticed? "

No we fucking aint!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see it as aggressive. The only thing that concerns me, it that the writer may have strong feelings for the other person which may not be reciprocated. Or that the writer might genuinely mean this and become a bit nasty if I were to meet the other person and we got on really well. I'm not keen on being stalked or similar!

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By *easidegirlWoman
over a year ago

south shore

Its just a generic phrase, I have used it, its funny not aggressive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's just humour....

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By *aturewomanloverMan
over a year ago

staffs/cheshire


"I don't see it as aggressive. The only thing that concerns me, it that the writer may have strong feelings for the other person which may not be reciprocated. Or that the writer might genuinely mean this and become a bit nasty if I were to meet the other person and we got on really well. I'm not keen on being stalked or similar!"

bang on that's how I see it,. I'm with OP I don't think it needs be written, comes across to me like it's finally the first meet they had and they're getting clingy already (probably have a moan and a cry if the woman met someone else)

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem

Depends how much you know of the person leaving the verification.

Some it's all lighthearted fun, others you know they are trying to mark their territory. So I'd say it's 50/50 if you don't know the verifier

It may be a swinging site but there's a lot of people on here with monogamous mentality and jealousy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't it just mean they don't want to share? How is it aggressive?

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

No one has ever said that about me....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't see it as aggressive. The only thing that concerns me, it that the writer may have strong feelings for the other person which may not be reciprocated. Or that the writer might genuinely mean this and become a bit nasty if I were to meet the other person and we got on really well. I'm not keen on being stalked or similar!

bang on that's how I see it,. I'm with OP I don't think it needs be written, comes across to me like it's finally the first meet they had and they're getting clingy already (probably have a moan and a cry if the woman met someone else) "

You don't have to even meet someone for that to happen tbf, talking is enough for most that would go that way... And if I thought it was meant that way, in a veri, it wouldn't be displayed and contact would be cut.

I have only written it once and after a first meet, we have now been FWBs for the last 3 years... But I find it a huge turn on when he plays with others, so no stalkery weirdness from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it with verifications that state "I'm keeping this one to myself" and "back off guys she/he's all mine" just seems unnecessary to me. "

Its not to be taken literally it's more tongue in cheek

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends how much you know of the person leaving the verification.

Some it's all lighthearted fun, others you know they are trying to mark their territory. So I'd say it's 50/50 if you don't know the verifier

It may be a swinging site but there's a lot of people on here with monogamous mentality and jealousy.

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They are usually, glaringly obvious though eh?! Especially if you have gotten to the meeting for sex stage!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Aggressive may be a mundane very, or one with a qualified positivity, so that others are less interested, the recipient doesn't get too who inflated etc. Or they don't give one.

I don't see these as anything but cliches, humour that's been repeated many times but not tedious like 'i don't bite unless you ask me to'

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I’ve wrote a veri like it before, it’s very much humorous. If I genuinely wanted to “keep” them then I wouldn’t verify. I did it it as a he’s a good one to meet

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By *irl4fucking18Woman
over a year ago

city

Some peoples verifications are absolutely horrific imo. The graphic detail of every move they make in the bedroom is a turn off for me straight away. Block gone next please..

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem


"Depends how much you know of the person leaving the verification.

Some it's all lighthearted fun, others you know they are trying to mark their territory. So I'd say it's 50/50 if you don't know the verifier

It may be a swinging site but there's a lot of people on here with monogamous mentality and jealousy.

They are usually, glaringly obvious though eh?! Especially if you have gotten to the meeting for sex stage! "

Lots of people decide when to meet at different stages some don't get to know a person can be 3 messages at most one being a meeting point.

Doubt anyone would find out much about them in that time.

Others message for varying periods before a social, so they don't get to the sex bit for a while. Even then you probably wouldn't know till after when they start messaging people who veris after them being quite offensive.

It's a random world and anything can happen. So obviously will always depend on the individual.

It's fair enough to say people who frequent the chatrooms it's easier to see who they get possessive over or if they don't get possessive at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Example....... I had a average time couldn’t care less about her , I came that's all that mattered, she turned up ok 33 minutes late but wouldn’t meet again, lovely woman though don't mess her about or else that sort of thing?

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport


"It’s called blowing smoke up peoples arses. The amount of times I’ve read a friends veri and sent them a message saying “sounds like you had a good time last night”. To be sent the reply “I shan’t be seeing him again”. Always read between the lines. Lol. "

This made me laugh!

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By *awtyPapa OP   Man
over a year ago

Southend-on-Sea

Hmmmm maybe I should have titled the thread "possesive verifications",

I understand that some are very much tounge in cheek, but the jury appear to be 50/50 on the intent behind the veris I'm talking about.

Thanks for your input everyone, a well balanced, civil thread.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London


"Hmmmm maybe I should have titled the thread "possesive verifications",

I understand that some are very much tounge in cheek, but the jury appear to be 50/50 on the intent behind the veris I'm talking about.

Thanks for your input everyone, a well balanced, civil thread. "

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Verification @thread.

"Treat it with respect"

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

A bit needy and territorial imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm neither needy or territorial, just cuz i said it once and have kept him as a friend doesn't mean anymore than i would like to play again, it's complimentary humour that's all that's returned and taken in the vein it was meant

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"It's... a joke. "

Ain't it just!

Tongue in cheek humour and clear as daylight.

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem


"It's... a joke.

Ain't it just!

Tongue in cheek humour and clear as daylight."

Wish it was just a joke I've met guys who demand I see no one else and get rid of everyone I'd been seeing.

They throw in emotional manipulation as if it would work and then calling me names.

One in particular just won't go away making new names on messengers just to get in touch and thinks sorry will fix it all.

Telling me I shouldnt let a guy touch me or kiss me telling me that it would upset him and make him angry!

Pft I don't need that shit my body my choices. He was told straight up who I am and my playmates. He has no reason to get uppity over it when he accepted it. I'm no one's property.

If it was actually a joke great but some people really shouldn't be on fab.

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By *hebritukCouple
over a year ago

London

Testosterone Overdose!!!

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"It's... a joke.

Ain't it just!

Tongue in cheek humour and clear as daylight.

Wish it was just a joke I've met guys who demand I see no one else and get rid of everyone I'd been seeing.

They throw in emotional manipulation as if it would work and then calling me names.

One in particular just won't go away making new names on messengers just to get in touch and thinks sorry will fix it all.

Telling me I shouldnt let a guy touch me or kiss me telling me that it would upset him and make him angry!

Pft I don't need that shit my body my choices. He was told straight up who I am and my playmates. He has no reason to get uppity over it when he accepted it. I'm no one's property.

If it was actually a joke great but some people really shouldn't be on fab. "

We're talking about displayed verifications and the type of verifications spoken about here are clearly described by the op. if a veri was described in the way you've described no one would display such or if they felt that type of veri was serious or threatening again why would anyone display it? When your profile is not hidden do you show the veris from those disgraceful guys threatening you? And they should also be reported if not done so already.

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem


"It's... a joke.

Ain't it just!

Tongue in cheek humour and clear as daylight.

Wish it was just a joke I've met guys who demand I see no one else and get rid of everyone I'd been seeing.

They throw in emotional manipulation as if it would work and then calling me names.

One in particular just won't go away making new names on messengers just to get in touch and thinks sorry will fix it all.

Telling me I shouldnt let a guy touch me or kiss me telling me that it would upset him and make him angry!

Pft I don't need that shit my body my choices. He was told straight up who I am and my playmates. He has no reason to get uppity over it when he accepted it. I'm no one's property.

If it was actually a joke great but some people really shouldn't be on fab.

We're talking about displayed verifications and the type of verifications spoken about here are clearly described by the op. if a veri was described in the way you've described no one would display such or if they felt that type of veri was serious or threatening again why would anyone display it? When your profile is not hidden do you show the veris from those disgraceful guys threatening you? And they should also be reported if not done so already."

My profile is hidden due to not planning on meeting at the moment.

But I've had them veri on my old account. I've reblocked and moved on.

I wouldn't display their possessive veris and I certainly won't see them again.

To report there needs to be evidence and when conversations aren't on fab well all a person can do is block.

People will display what ever veris they choose it's their profile. I'd assume if they found the person to be aggressive possessive as such it wouldn't last long due to being blocked.

Some just never talk to them again and so verifications remain.

As I said before depends on the individual to take a verification as lighthearted fun or serious it's 50/50

People can seem to be something but true self comes out. What can seem lighthearted can be much worse.

It's a coin toss basically

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"It's... a joke.

Ain't it just!

Tongue in cheek humour and clear as daylight.

Wish it was just a joke I've met guys who demand I see no one else and get rid of everyone I'd been seeing.

They throw in emotional manipulation as if it would work and then calling me names.

One in particular just won't go away making new names on messengers just to get in touch and thinks sorry will fix it all.

Telling me I shouldnt let a guy touch me or kiss me telling me that it would upset him and make him angry!

Pft I don't need that shit my body my choices. He was told straight up who I am and my playmates. He has no reason to get uppity over it when he accepted it. I'm no one's property.

If it was actually a joke great but some people really shouldn't be on fab.

We're talking about displayed verifications and the type of verifications spoken about here are clearly described by the op. if a veri was described in the way you've described no one would display such or if they felt that type of veri was serious or threatening again why would anyone display it? When your profile is not hidden do you show the veris from those disgraceful guys threatening you? And they should also be reported if not done so already.

My profile is hidden due to not planning on meeting at the moment.

But I've had them veri on my old account. I've reblocked and moved on.

I wouldn't display their possessive veris and I certainly won't see them again.

To report there needs to be evidence and when conversations aren't on fab well all a person can do is block.

People will display what ever veris they choose it's their profile. I'd assume if they found the person to be aggressive possessive as such it wouldn't last long due to being blocked.

Some just never talk to them again and so verifications remain.

As I said before depends on the individual to take a verification as lighthearted fun or serious it's 50/50

People can seem to be something but true self comes out. What can seem lighthearted can be much worse.

It's a coin toss basically"

Only people I can see showing the recorded veri would be those with one veri or those interested in numbers and I would put money on it being displayed in the verification summary only. Those comments the op describes: I'm keeping this one to myself" and "back off guys she/he's all mine" again I stand by what I say, it's tongue in cheek and overwhelmingly put in a humorous way.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

To me, if you project yourself into another persons verifications, it says more about you than them.

Observation.

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"What is it with verifications that state "I'm keeping this one to myself" and "back off guys she/he's all mine" just seems unnecessary to me.

Aggressive or just humorous?

Think you are reading too much into it myself.

Surely it's just their way of saying how good the person is. Lighten up!

This is how I always read them."

Same here

Though I do know of a lady who would get in touch with a certain gentleman whenever he displayed a new veri even if it was a social. She definitely had some insecurities so not sure this is the right place for her but at least the man got a bit extra attention after meets social or otherwise!

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