FabSwingers.com forum: Is it just me?

By *estinysswingers OP Couple
over a year ago

Worsley

Mrs Destiny here...

We've been swinging on and off for 10 years. We usually do club meets.

We've swung with some great couples but there's been loads of times where the mans rock hard to the point of combustion, we get to the room etc and everything's fine. My husband is pounding the other wife and as soon as the guy puts a condom on he flops..... I won't lie it gives me a bit of a complex

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By *evinpoolMan
over a year ago

mayo/Galway

He might feel intimidated by the way ur husband is pounding his wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps the condom is the wrong size. Too small restricts blood flow, causing mr floppy. Or perhaps he's so used to not using condoms with wife, the act of using them triggers the reaction mentally.

It's highly unlikely to be your fault

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

I’ve had it a cpl of times and believe me it’s not u.. or yr fault .. condoms aren’t for everyone .. the atmosphere might feel wrong to him..

when it’s happened to me I’ve then tried to pleasure the lady with my tongue and fingers and had some nice results ..

So hun it ain’t u x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps the condom is the wrong size. Too small restricts blood flow, causing mr floppy. Or perhaps he's so used to not using condoms with wife, the act of using them triggers the reaction mentally.

It's highly unlikely to be your fault "

You're banging, Mrs Destiny

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

"Perhaps the condom is the wrong size. Too small restricts blood flow, causing mr floppy. Or perhaps he's so used to not using condoms with wife, the act of using them triggers the reaction mentally.

It's highly unlikely to be your fault

You're banging, Mrs Destiny

I’m not banging Mrs Destiny at all.. I wish I was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps the condom is the wrong size. Too small restricts blood flow, causing mr floppy. Or perhaps he's so used to not using condoms with wife, the act of using them triggers the reaction mentally.

It's highly unlikely to be your fault

You're banging, Mrs Destiny

I’m not banging Mrs Destiny at all.. I wish I was

Punctuation is important

Drop her a line, you never know

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Perhaps there’s a small prick in the condom that would not help

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By *uck-RogersMan
over a year ago

Oakhill

"Mrs Destiny here...

We've been swinging on and off for 10 years. We usually do club meets.

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No need to have a complex my love. Put the condom on for him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mrs Destiny here...

We've been swinging on and off for 10 years. We usually do club meets.

After seeing your I've I can guarantee I would not be going soft till at least the 3rd or 4th round

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happened to Dolly last week. She was sucking his cock which was rigid and he got up to put on a condom and that was it. He lost his erection and he just left in a huff!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mrs Destiny here...

We've been swinging on and off for 10 years. We usually do club meets.

Stress can affect some men and the pressure to perform can really get to some people which is sad really. I guess this is why so many pop pills these days when they really don't have to if they can chill out first.

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By *estinysswingers OP Couple
over a year ago

Worsley

Thanks guys. It’s just happened so often over the years that I thought it may be me xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks guys. It’s just happened so often over the years that I thought it may be me xx"

No definitely not you .I think some guys just get a little shy whilst playing especially if their own Mrs is with them I think they feel they shouldn't be seen too get too excited to be with another woman in front of the Mrs maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mrs Destiny here...

We've been swinging on and off for 10 years. We usually do club meets.

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some guys are allergic to latex in fact lots of people not just guys are allergic to latex perhaps that don't even know it obviously occasionally it could be nerves to but I feel for you in this instant hubby is going great guns and you're not getting a sausage

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Men are often hammered for saying they don't enjoy sex with a condom or can't have sex with a condom or the sensation is wrong etc. But maybe there is some truth in this for a lot of guys.

But safe sex is key and there's not much getting around having to use one with different partners. I would suggest not letting them get distracted or separated from the play getting in on. Help them to keep their mind on the game. Maybe put it on for them and make it part of the play rather than a distracting pause in the play.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

It happens sometimes, not the end of the world unless one party gets their nix in a twist about it.

Generally with a bit if imagination you can get things back on track

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By *estinysswingers OP Couple
over a year ago

Worsley

I never make a fuss at all. I do try and get things back on track but sometimes I feel like once they’ve lost it they’ve lost it due to confidence etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's happened to me once tried everything to get him hard again but no joy I'm glad as he turned out to be a nasty piece of work

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

It could be that he’s turned on by the thought of seeing his wife’s with another man but once it starts it turns him off. Or he’s worried about how his wife will react later. Or he’s always had the impotence issue which is why his wife wants to swing, so she gets what she wants while you try and keep him occupied. Or it could be nerves.

Who knows? But I’m sure it’s happened to the best of them. I’m pretty sure it’s not you though, if he wasn’t attracted to you I’m sure it wouldn’t have got to the point of almost fucking.

Lou x

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By *ikeandmollyCouple
over a year ago

swindon

"Mrs Destiny here...

We've been swinging on and off for 10 years. We usually do club meets.

I feel the same sometimes.

Molly

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By *ikeandmollyCouple
over a year ago

swindon

"It could be that he’s turned on by the thought of seeing his wife’s with another man but once it starts it turns him off. Or he’s worried about how his wife will react later. Or he’s always had the impotence issue which is why his wife wants to swing, so she gets what she wants while you try and keep him occupied. Or it could be nerves.

Lou x "

That last bit made me feel a lot better about stuff so hope it helps the OP

Molly

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By *estinysswingers OP Couple
over a year ago

Worsley

Yeh it does help a bit. Annoys me a little when I’m getting no cock though

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By *ave-and-LouiseCouple
over a year ago

Torquay

"Perhaps the condom is the wrong size. Too small restricts blood flow, causing mr floppy. Or perhaps he's so used to not using condoms with wife, the act of using them triggers the reaction mentally.

It's highly unlikely to be your fault "

It could be this. Louise and I have not used them for about 15 years. She's always been on the pill or used a coil, so only guys that have joined us have used them. On the odd occasions I've used one recently, it has definitely had an effect on my hardness and makes me cum really quickly! D

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By *andkCouple
over a year ago

Wisbech

I only have to look at a condom and Mr floppy comes to town. If we're using them then I need a couple of little blue pills

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By *estinysswingers OP Couple
over a year ago

Worsley

I always wonder why the men don’t practice at home

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

It’s happened to me too ..

I love the foreplay more than the sex ..

Once the condom is on its the fun over for me..

I feel very little and could never cum with one on ..

But a necessary evil on here unfortunately x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr here.

Try a diffrent brand some are better than others skyn are closet brand to the feeling of not useing one in my opinion.

Never had the issue my self but you could try frw diffrent things like to save time before play just starts put tear in condom pack for easy openin (that way there not struggling with it as there's always one in the pack that wants to resist)

Incase it is a issue of them being uncomfy once they see there partner I suggest discussing with your man that he dose not penetrate first see if this make a difference.

But generally it could just be performance anxiety, the many things that can cause it and different for every one.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

"I always wonder why the men don’t practice at home

This

It's happened to me plenty of times, the guys will then try to bareback or they'll manage to get one on and then sneakily will remove it during sex.

I've often wondered why they don't practice at home to get used to condoms. Try different sizes, have a few posh wanks.

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By *rkrisssMan
over a year ago

Berkshire

I'm sorry, there's no excuse for it! I mean really? It takes a whole 7-8 seconds to slip it on? If a lady is laying in front of me, naked, legs open, waiting for me.... Damn, I get mine wrapped in 3 seconds!!! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here this might help you.

It's called "condom collapse syndrome" official name

It's been scientifically proven its not the women or the condom fault but more issue with the user mainly stress anxiety.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

"Thanks guys. It’s just happened so often over the years that I thought it may be me xx"

Not just you.

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By *arakiss12TV/TS
over a year ago

Bedford

That's why they call em passion killers.

When you think about it what other creature on this planet puts a condom on.

Not a normal thing to do but has become the norm. Strange that.

I've had it happen to me, definitely the condom did it. By the time you've fiddled around with the wrapper and worked out which way it goes on read the instructions got the lube on got into position waited for the moon to get in the right position it's gone to sleep.

Liquid condoms could be the answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately condoms do this, ive not had good experiences with them and certainly dont trust them anymore ive had them break too many times, i think thats why i have a complexion with them.

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By *estinysswingers OP Couple
over a year ago

Worsley

"Mr here.

Try a diffrent brand some are better than others skyn are closet brand to the feeling of not useing one in my opinion.

Incase it is a issue of them being uncomfy once they see there partner I suggest discussing with your man that he dose not penetrate first see if this make a difference.

But generally it could just be performance anxiety, the many things that can cause it and different for every one. "

Can’t try a different brand as it’s not my husband it happens too. The guys need to try different brands/get used to them at home I think.

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By *bzcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

Mr here.

Judging by your pictures, it’s unlikely to be “you” in a negative way at least.

It’s more likely to be a subconscious thing on the men’s part. Possibly just nervousness at the situation itself, or at the thought he’s away to enter another woman as his wife is there.

Possibly he’s seeing your husband fucking his wife in a way that makes him think he’s not going to be as good at fucking you, and therefore you won’t enjoy it as much as his wife is or you do with your husband.

Most likely though, it’s just the dick. dicks are, well... dicks. They have a mind of their own and go up and down at the most inappropriate and inconvenient times!

PS, love the pics! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes..happens with single guys too..condom comes out and the erection goes south...I have to admit I do get a bit of a complex about it..always feel like Iv let him down but not being sexy enough...really silly I know but still feel bad about it

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By *dx69Man
over a year ago

London

It could be the fit. Married guys probably aren’t much used to using condoms unless they play a lot, so they may not know the right size for them. I used to struggle with condoms, especially when they’re too tight. I suggest maybe keeping a few handy in different sizes.

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By *estinysswingers OP Couple
over a year ago

Worsley

"It could be the fit. Married guys probably aren’t much used to using condoms unless they play a lot, so they may not know the right size for them. I used to struggle with condoms, especially when they’re too tight. I suggest maybe keeping a few handy in different sizes. "

Mr Destiny here. We do have a few sizes on us but I don’t think Mrs Destiny should have to find the right fit for them! She’s not a tailor. They should do it for themselves like I do!

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