FabSwingers.com forum: Face pics or no reply

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hate it when you read that on profile. Then when you send a pic no reply, think its rude as some people are very shy and have to be very discreet, either with the job they do or partner/wife does not know about sight or sexual orientation thoughts please.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

They are saying without a face pic it's definitely no reply...they aren't guaranteeing a reply with a face pic.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I understand that but what about a few messages first then say our time is limited and would you send a face pic now and we will do the same see if we click

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People can ask for.

You don't have to comply.

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

If you don't like their rules....sod 'em and move along.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand that but what about a few messages first then say our time is limited and would you send a face pic now and we will do the same see if we click "

In this instance, I think their no reply is a reply n itself. They didn't fancy you and to spare a load of potential grief, left the conversation.

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By *arc5t5Man
over a year ago

Chorley

It makes me piss myself laughing when they don't have any pictures or even a green flag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand that but what about a few messages first then say our time is limited and would you send a face pic now and we will do the same see if we click "

Trouble is, the female of the species have us by the short hairs. They're so heavily outnumbered and hence in such demand that they can make up their own rules, and change them, at will. Common sense doesn't often seem to enter into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand that but what about a few messages first then say our time is limited and would you send a face pic now and we will do the same see if we click "

Because it's their profile and they can run it how they like. Women and couples get infinitely more messages per day than guys, all they're doing is cutting out the people who can't make the effort; if you want to meet them then they're going to see your face eventually

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Hate it when you read that on profile. Then when you send a pic no reply, think its rude as some people are very shy and have to be very discreet, either with the job they do or partner/wife does not know about sight or sexual orientation thoughts please."

You not think it's rather presumptuous just because you sent the picture that you expect a reply...

See this kind of rant in the forum all the time tens upon tens of guys looking to meet single ladies and couples just having a profile does not mean they have to respond.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand that but what about a few messages first then say our time is limited and would you send a face pic now and we will do the same see if we click "

I'm with you op on this one. I would never ask for a face pic straight away. I find it's good to have a chat first. Then exchange pics if both parties click

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just accept no reply means not for them. Some delete which actually tells you straight away not for them. Think about it, if you find them horny so do lots of others, they have loads of messages, so many men come across as entitled on here we are entitled to Zero, picture or not have manners have morals have decorum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand that but what about a few messages first then say our time is limited and would you send a face pic now and we will do the same see if we click

I'm with you op on this one. I would never ask for a face pic straight away. I find it's good to have a chat first. Then exchange pics if both parties click"

Now I prefer it the other way around. I'd rather do pics first thing. I'd hate to get to know someone, potentially getting on well, only to find they don't float my boat visually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand that but what about a few messages first then say our time is limited and would you send a face pic now and we will do the same see if we click

We don't have you by the short n curlies. Men pull them out n hand them to us, in the hopes of a shag. Our rules would still be our rules, regardless of how many men were here. Alot of men are just so desperate to get laid and don't like it when they don't, so blame us for making rules, you can choose to ignore women whose profiles state things you don't like...most choose to message anyway, then moan about no response and rules, when they do. No?

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

Then don’t message them?

It’s their choice to ask for a face picture.

It’s your choice whether you message them with a picture or not. No one is forcing you to do it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand that but what about a few messages first then say our time is limited and would you send a face pic now and we will do the same see if we click

No chance of a quickie then, I s'pose?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand that but what about a few messages first then say our time is limited and would you send a face pic now and we will do the same see if we click

I'm with you op on this one. I would never ask for a face pic straight away. I find it's good to have a chat first. Then exchange pics if both parties click

Now I prefer it the other way around. I'd rather do pics first thing. I'd hate to get to know someone, potentially getting on well, only to find they don't float my boat visually. "

Yes I can understand that too...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand that but what about a few messages first then say our time is limited and would you send a face pic now and we will do the same see if we click

Yes. But I imagine it's generally in the spirit of "nothing ventured...". The huge asymmetry in male/female populations on fab means. quite clearly, that females will always be able to pick and chose their partners from the large (and largely desperate, you're right) pool of available men.

So, while I hate to contradict a lady, you do indeed have us firmly clenched in your dainty fists.

It's not right, or wrong, it's just the way it is.

If a man chooses to play this game, them's the rules. Take it or leave it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The whole face pic thing does our head in a bit.

People who ask too early put us off, I get there has to be some attraction but see if you get on first.

Personality is much more attractive than a face.

It's all a bit shallow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The whole face pic thing does our head in a bit.

People who ask too early put us off, I get there has to be some attraction but see if you get on first.

Personality is much more attractive than a face.

It's all a bit shallow"

But this is fantasy for me, why is it shallow that I should want to be attracted to the person I fuck? No personality could make up for me by fancying that person.

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

"The whole face pic thing does our head in a bit.

People who ask too early put us off, I get there has to be some attraction but see if you get on first.

Personality is much more attractive than a face.

It's all a bit shallow

But this is fantasy for me, why is it shallow that I should want to be attracted to the person I fuck? No personality could make up for me by fancying that person."

Couldn’t agree with this more.

Yes I’m shallow, so sue me! I want physical attraction AND personality!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*by not fancying that person*

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"The whole face pic thing does our head in a bit.

People who ask too early put us off, I get there has to be some attraction but see if you get on first.

Personality is much more attractive than a face.

It's all a bit shallow"

Some attraction? Nah we need lots of attraction. Not here to just fuck anything. Personality and physical attraction or it ain't happening. Can't understand why that would be shallow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The whole face pic thing does our head in a bit.

People who ask too early put us off, I get there has to be some attraction but see if you get on first.

Personality is much more attractive than a face.

It's all a bit shallow

But this is fantasy for me, why is it shallow that I should want to be attracted to the person I fuck? No personality could make up for me by fancying that person."

We don't all work the same way, I suppose.

The most powerful attraction I've ever felt, ultimately love, to be honest, was/is for a woman I met online last year. The most amazing mind, wit, creativity. We really dovetailed together perfectly. I wanted her regardless of appearance. The woman inside is overwhelmingly more important to me than the pretty packaging.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Just move on to another profile if you don't want to send a pic 1st message.

Even though you send a pic,you might not be their type etc .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was available to meet, it was ‘No face pic, no chat. My rules.’ If someone is on here secretly then I definitely wouldn’t want to know.

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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Its peoples preference suck it up and send one or pass their profile by. You wouldn't want some bi guys complaining you wouldn't let them fuck you as your profile isn't looking for men would you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need to see someone’s eyes.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Dont undetstand women that ask for face pics with first message but also dont understand males who are foolish enough to send one. At the end of the day if they did'nt then these women would get no messages and maybe re think their demands.

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

"The whole face pic thing does our head in a bit.

People who ask too early put us off, I get there has to be some attraction but see if you get on first.

Personality is much more attractive than a face.

It's all a bit shallow

But this is fantasy for me, why is it shallow that I should want to be attracted to the person I fuck? No personality could make up for me by fancying that person.

We don't all work the same way, I suppose.

But most of us aren’t looking for love or anything even remotely approaching it. I’m married to my soulmate. Infact it would make me run a mile if there was even a hint of that sort of thing!

I’m looking for someone who I can have a good laugh with AND I think is very attractive. Yes attraction is in the eye of the beholder but if I’m not feeling it then it’s not happening!

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

No reply is a reply in itself I suppose.

People can ask for what they want on their profile but the choice is always yours whether to make contact or not.That’s how I look at it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I need to see someone’s eyes. "

Eyes really are special. Windows to the soul.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The whole face pic thing does our head in a bit.

People who ask too early put us off, I get there has to be some attraction but see if you get on first.

Personality is much more attractive than a face.

It's all a bit shallow

But this is fantasy for me, why is it shallow that I should want to be attracted to the person I fuck? No personality could make up for me by fancying that person.

We don't all work the same way, I suppose.

Which is fine for me if I want a relationship or a life partner. I'm just not that arsed when it comes to bouncing round and bumping fun bits for a couple of hours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I need to see someone’s eyes.

Eyes really are special. Windows to the soul."

Eyes and mind for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The whole face pic thing does our head in a bit.

People who ask too early put us off, I get there has to be some attraction but see if you get on first.

Personality is much more attractive than a face.

It's all a bit shallow"

When I am playing, my face is visible on my profile anyway but, I get on well with alot of people I would never want to sleep with... If I talk to people, just a normal conversation, they assume, as we get on, that I do want to sleep with them, even when my profile says I am not meeting to play. So no face, no reply is definitely my thing when looking to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dont undetstand women that ask for face pics with first message but also dont understand males who are foolish enough to send one. At the end of the day if they did'nt then these women would get no messages and maybe re think their demands."

I won’t even respond if no picture. Sorry but I don’t want to send messages to someone I can’t see. I need to see if they would be remotely my type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The whole face pic thing does our head in a bit.

People who ask too early put us off, I get there has to be some attraction but see if you get on first.

Personality is much more attractive than a face.

It's all a bit shallow

But this is fantasy for me, why is it shallow that I should want to be attracted to the person I fuck? No personality could make up for me by fancying that person.

We don't all work the same way, I suppose.

But most of us aren’t looking for love or anything even remotely approaching it. I’m married to my soulmate. Infact it would make me run a mile if there was even a hint of that sort of thing!

I’m looking for someone who I can have a good laugh with AND I think is very attractive. Yes attraction is in the eye of the beholder but if I’m not feeling it then it’s not happening!"

Quite so. I'm not on Fab looking for a soulmate either (nor was I looking for one last year either - on twitter it was that I stumbled upon her). Some profiles here do read as a bit too earnest for my liking, I must say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The whole face pic thing does our head in a bit.

People who ask too early put us off, I get there has to be some attraction but see if you get on first.

Personality is much more attractive than a face.

It's all a bit shallow

But this is fantasy for me, why is it shallow that I should want to be attracted to the person I fuck? No personality could make up for me by fancying that person.

Couldn’t agree with this more.

Yes I’m shallow, so sue me! I want physical attraction AND personality!"

It's our own opinion, are we not allowed one of those anymore. Grow up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The whole face pic thing does our head in a bit.

People who ask too early put us off, I get there has to be some attraction but see if you get on first.

Personality is much more attractive than a face.

It's all a bit shallow

But this is fantasy for me, why is it shallow that I should want to be attracted to the person I fuck? No personality could make up for me by fancying that person.

We don't all work the same way, I suppose.

Which is fine for me if I want a relationship or a life partner. I'm just not that arsed when it comes to bouncing round and bumping fun bits for a couple of hours."

Everyone is different, we personally find personality more attractive, have met some nice looking people who just have no personality or conversation skills. That's just our opinion and respect others people's opinion (unlike another couple on here)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your right my wife would kill me if she found out I was in this sodden pit of debauchery....

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

"The whole face pic thing does our head in a bit.

People who ask too early put us off, I get there has to be some attraction but see if you get on first.

Personality is much more attractive than a face.

It's all a bit shallow

But this is fantasy for me, why is it shallow that I should want to be attracted to the person I fuck? No personality could make up for me by fancying that person.

Couldn’t agree with this more.

Yes I’m shallow, so sue me! I want physical attraction AND personality!

It's our own opinion, are we not allowed one of those anymore. Grow up"

So it’s ok for you to say that it’s shallow to need to be physically attracted to someone first and foremost, but if someone dares to be tongue in cheek back that’s not ok?

If you want to call me shallow because of my perspective, then you crack on. I absolutely 100% do need to be attracted to someone and yes I do need to see their face. If you think that makes me shallow, you are of course entitled to your own opinion...

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By *adylydfordWoman
over a year ago

altinkum

I won’t even respond if no picture. Sorry but I don’t want to send messages to someone I can’t see. I need to see if they would be remotely my type. "

This... my time is limited and precious. Sexual attraction is 100 important gor me. I dont have a set type but i need to find something attractive or whats the point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The whole face pic thing does our head in a bit.

People who ask too early put us off, I get there has to be some attraction but see if you get on first.

Personality is much more attractive than a face.

It's all a bit shallow

But this is fantasy for me, why is it shallow that I should want to be attracted to the person I fuck? No personality could make up for me by fancying that person.

Couldn’t agree with this more.

Yes I’m shallow, so sue me! I want physical attraction AND personality!

It's our own opinion, are we not allowed one of those anymore. Grow up

So it’s ok for you to say that it’s shallow to need to be physically attracted to someone first and foremost, but if someone dares to be tongue in cheek back that’s not ok?

Show me where I called you shallow!!!!

Again we voiced our opinion and didn't single you out but you got the hump and blocked us so don't say it was "tongue n cheek"

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

"The whole face pic thing does our head in a bit.

People who ask too early put us off, I get there has to be some attraction but see if you get on first.

Personality is much more attractive than a face.

It's all a bit shallow

But this is fantasy for me, why is it shallow that I should want to be attracted to the person I fuck? No personality could make up for me by fancying that person.

Couldn’t agree with this more.

Yes I’m shallow, so sue me! I want physical attraction AND personality!

It's our own opinion, are we not allowed one of those anymore. Grow up

So it’s ok for you to say that it’s shallow to need to be physically attracted to someone first and foremost, but if someone dares to be tongue in cheek back that’s not ok?

Show me where I called you shallow!!!!

Again we voiced our opinion and didn't single you out but you got the hump and blocked us so don't say it was "tongue n cheek""

Blocking you was nothing to do with me taking the hump - we clearly aren’t compatible so I blocked you to ensure neither of us waste each other’s time in the future. Don’t take it so personally!

And your first post literally said that asking for face pictures early on is all a bit shallow. To which I replied that if wanting physical attraction AND personality makes me shallow... then clearly I am! Not sure why you’ve taken it so personally, but it just reaffirms why I blocked you as we aren’t compatible!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The whole face pic thing does our head in a bit.

People who ask too early put us off, I get there has to be some attraction but see if you get on first.

Personality is much more attractive than a face.

It's all a bit shallow

But this is fantasy for me, why is it shallow that I should want to be attracted to the person I fuck? No personality could make up for me by fancying that person.

Couldn’t agree with this more.

Yes I’m shallow, so sue me! I want physical attraction AND personality!

It's our own opinion, are we not allowed one of those anymore. Grow up

So it’s ok for you to say that it’s shallow to need to be physically attracted to someone first and foremost, but if someone dares to be tongue in cheek back that’s not ok?

Show me where I called you shallow!!!!

Again we voiced our opinion and didn't single you out but you got the hump and blocked us so don't say it was "tongue n cheek"

No worries, all the best

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By *hebritukCouple
over a year ago

London

We agree that it is a little rude too. We put our face pictures on our friends list or will send if requested after some chat or flirting. But we have the decency to decline. Manners matter!

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By *ames in LaoisMan
over a year ago

portloaise

Fact is, we are on a site primarily for hooking up with strangers for fun.

If we make friends along the way, it's a bonus. Being treated with respect. Bonus. Because there will be idiots and disrespectful people of all genders and backgrounds. Also, people are picky. And so they should be. For fucks sake

We are talking about getting naked and intimate with people.

Frustration and angst all boil down to a sense of entitlement and an expectation that people see the world as we do. It doesn't work like that.

Every person IS entitled to set up the profile they want as long as its within site rules. We don't have to message. We don't have to respond. People can put whatever the fuck parameters they want on meeting people. It's not about being fair.

We are a bunch of horny fuckers trying to get our kicks. It amazes me how much drama arises just from expectations out of kilter with reality.

Don't like what you see, move along. Find your tribe and fuck the rest. Or not, depending on your preferences, lol)

Whether or not someone wants a face pic or not isn't something people should be falling out over. But that's my opinion. And if you've read what I just wrote, that doesn't matter a fuck either way, lol

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