FabSwingers.com forum: 100 plus men to one womam

By *lder A Wiser Passion OP Woman
over a year ago

morecambe

Yes 100 plus men to one woman on here

We need more women on here to join the site and life style so come on folk how we going to do this

so lets come up with ideas

and why do women leave on here so come folk what are your thoughts

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By *iverpooldarkoMan
over a year ago

wilmslow

Advert on the tv

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

"Yes 100 plus men to one woman on here

We need more women on here to join the site and life style so come on folk how we going to do this

so lets come up with ideas

and why do women leave on here so come folk what are your thoughts

They leave I expect because they get bombarded by to many inane messages from single men which puts them off reading them and therefore staying on the site.

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By *empsey and hotpieceMan
over a year ago

North west

"Yes 100 plus men to one woman on here

We need more women on here to join the site and life style so come on folk how we going to do this

so lets come up with ideas

and why do women leave on here so come folk what are your thoughts

It’s like the changing of the seasons or the tides of the sea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes 100 plus men to one woman on here

We need more women on here to join the site and life style so come on folk how we going to do this

so lets come up with ideas

and why do women leave on here so come folk what are your thoughts

They leave I expect because they get bombarded by to many inane messages from single men which puts them off reading them and therefore staying on the site. "

This.

We are starting to get to this point of thinking about leaving because of constant crude and inane messages from single men

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I think a lot just use it between relationships too.

Then there’s the women that were never real in the first place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes 100 plus men to one woman on here

We need more women on here to join the site and life style so come on folk how we going to do this

so lets come up with ideas

and why do women leave on here so come folk what are your thoughts

I’m bi but omit men from my looking for list as get super tired of being spoken to or treated like a slut

Yes I have kinks and s high sex drive who on here doesn’t but most guys think a dick pic and an offer should seal the deal !!

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By *layfulpairsxCouple
over a year ago

Southend

"Yes 100 plus men to one woman on here

We need more women on here to join the site and life style so come on folk how we going to do this

so lets come up with ideas

and why do women leave on here so come folk what are your thoughts

They leave I expect because they get bombarded by to many inane messages from single men which puts them off reading them and therefore staying on the site.

This.

We are starting to get to this point of thinking about leaving because of constant crude and inane messages from single men"

Just filter out single blokes. Simples

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

We need more women on here to join the site and life style. "

There are lots of single women on Fab. The problem is that there are far, far too many men, many of which think that it’s a fuck site, and have joined because they aren’t getting any elsewhere. I genuinely believe that it needs to be more difficult for wannabe men from joining, and hanging around for ever. Something as simple as needing to be verified quicker, or perhaps an invitation scheme, so you can only join if you’ve been to a club and made contact with a member who is happy to verify you. I understand that there will always be exceptions to the rules, but the amount of guys in here that are in their twenties really doesn’t properly represent the lifestyle.

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

"Yes 100 plus men to one woman on here

We need more women on here to join the site and life style so come on folk how we going to do this

so lets come up with ideas

and why do women leave on here so come folk what are your thoughts

Thinking of going myself ..... I cleared my inbox on Friday night and have 340 unread now - it’s just a waste of time as I can’t get through that many and most are ‘Hi’ or something crude.

Lots of female friends I’ve met from here say the same ....

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

We need more women on here to join the site and life style.

Tbh something so simple as a ten question pre screening questionnaire would sort out the chancers and a requirement for a profile pic of some sort.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Sounds good to me I don't have a problem with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes 100 plus men to one woman on here

We need more women on here to join the site and life style so come on folk how we going to do this

so lets come up with ideas

and why do women leave on here so come folk what are your thoughts

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it's actually only 9.2 men to women ratio and wouldn’t it be great if the roles eventually got reversed and women out numbered me, that would certainly transform the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes 100 plus men to one woman on here

We need more women on here to join the site and life style so come on folk how we going to do this

so lets come up with ideas

and why do women leave on here so come folk what are your thoughts

it's actually only 9.2 men to women ratio and wouldn’t it be great if the roles eventually got reversed and women out numbered me, that would certainly transform the site

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

" Tbh something so simple as a ten question pre screening questionnaire would sort out the chancers and a requirement for a profile pic of some sort. "

Yes, or perhaps a probation period, where their messages can be flagged as inappropriate or insubstantial and looked at by a mod

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

"Yes 100 plus men to one woman on here

We need more women on here to join the site and life style so come on folk how we going to do this

so lets come up with ideas

and why do women leave on here so come folk what are your thoughts

it's actually only 9.2 men to women ratio and wouldn’t it be great if the roles eventually got reversed and women out numbered me, that would certainly transform the site

outnumbered men "

The go to POF or Tinder you’re far outnumbered there and lots use for NSA

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

" it's actually only 9.2 men to women ratio "

Where do you get that figure from?

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
over a year ago

Didcot

Send some my way

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I thought that was an offer. Ooh kinky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve found putting filters on messaging helps massively. Then just zoom through deleting the hi messages or those without a face photo.

More woman .... oh wow! That’d be great but you can’t make the horse drink

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By *ustfun001Man
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Yes 100 plus men to one woman on here

We need more women on here to join the site and life style so come on folk how we going to do this

so lets come up with ideas

and why do women leave on here so come folk what are your thoughts

Ok so i have a theory, it might be alot of BS but it might have some truth, ill let you sexy people decide.

The reason Tinder has 50 million users is because of how it makes you feel. by SWIPING left or right you are not left feeling insecure or inadequate because you've sent 20 messages and not one reply. And from a woman's perspective you are inundated with cringy messages or unsolicited dick pics. and before i get slated I know there is a difference between Tinder and Fab!

Now Im not suggesting this should be tinder for swingers but the old school way the website runs(Im not criticising) will have people leaving and an unbalanced ratio the only logical way is to limit the men / woman ratio or charge with an incentive for more woman? or change how messages are sent and received? charging then becomes commercial and the site might lose the special part?

Hehe thats my 2 pennies....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but I’m one in a million

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I’ve found putting filters on messaging helps massively. Then just zoom through deleting the hi messages or those without a face photo.

More woman .... oh wow! That’d be great but you can’t make the horse drink

Filters help, plus setting rules for how you run your profile. I still get lots of messages (because my filters are set the best way that works for me) but most I can just zap.

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By *iverpooldarkoMan
over a year ago

wilmslow

Actually a really good point. A swiping option might be a good idea. That way only when someone matches with you can you message them. Would stop the newbies being overwhelmed by lots of messages. Just look at how many people get involved with the swipe left or right posts on the forum

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By *layfulpairsxCouple
over a year ago

Southend

Definitely agree that a probation period would be a good idea. Except...Fabswingers is a business. They want to profit. The more traffic they get, the more people join, the more successful they are deemed to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are so many ladies that join but end up leaving for many reasons.

1. The sheer amount of messages they have to wade through is shocking it's like a second job.

2. The quality of message are poor at best in 90% off messages received.

3. The abuse they get for not replying or if they do for saying no is ridiculous.

Fabs needs to up its game, the site is great for the most part but it needs to move with the times. There should be options to report abuse and attach the screen shot with the user getting removed/ ip address banned.

Ladies accounts could be preset to filters on so it gives them time to adjust to the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would suggest the addition to a filter on messages that only allowed emails with a face pic.

Photos are added to the site and catagorised. Surely there could be some review process where it identified an official face photo almost and that had to be attached to an email as a pre requisite. Just like only allowing site subscriber emails ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes 100 plus men to one woman on here

We need more women on here to join the site and life style so come on folk how we going to do this

so lets come up with ideas

and why do women leave on here so come folk what are your thoughts

Just block single guys then .

They leave I expect because they get bombarded by to many inane messages from single men which puts them off reading them and therefore staying on the site.

This.

We are starting to get to this point of thinking about leaving because of constant crude and inane messages from single men"

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By *ustfun001Man
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Definitely agree that a probation period would be a good idea. Except...Fabswingers is a business. They want to profit. The more traffic they get, the more people join, the more successful they are deemed to be.

I dont disagree with you, but if it was solely a business its poor to say the least times have moved on and investment into the early 2010 type website should be seriously looked at, the app is ok at most but visually lacking and needs some development too. Before i get shot im not slagging Fab off im stating it cant be purely business if it was it would have moved on. (sorry this is my website / app design is my world so pretty opinionated about the subject)

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

"I would suggest the addition to a filter on messages that only allowed emails with a face pic.

I don’t have face pics on my profile and totally understand why people don’t- we need a minimum characters per message filter to start ..... that would put off the ‘hi’

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

" I don’t have face pics on my profile and totally understand why people don’t- we need a minimum characters per message filter to start ..... that would put off the ‘hi’ "

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By *ustfun001Man
over a year ago

East Sussex

" I don’t have face pics on my profile and totally understand why people don’t- we need a minimum characters per message filter to start ..... that would put off the ‘hi’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first joined on a single profile I left as was bombarded with messages from guys, not because I’m a babe, as didn’t even have pics at first, but because I’m female. Felt like a cattle market, and so many crude messages. No attempt to actually converse and find out if I was into those type of messages. Those I met were respectful, but left after a month because of those who weren’t x Viv x

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

"When I first joined on a single profile I left as was bombarded with messages from guys, not because I’m a babe, as didn’t even have pics at first, but because I’m female. "

Unfortunately, far too many man are more interested in ANY sex than who they have it with, or the lifestyle. They will message every woman (especially newcomers) within an hour’s drive with the same copy and paste shit in the vague hope that one of them will reply. That’s the biggest problem with a vast majority of the guys, and why some form of probation would sort out the serious contenders from the wannabes. Clubs do this by charging men more, but there are plenty of other options.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve found putting filters on messaging helps massively. Then just zoom through deleting the hi messages or those without a face photo.

More woman .... oh wow! That’d be great but you can’t make the horse drink

Filters help, plus setting rules for how you run your profile. I still get lots of messages (because my filters are set the best way that works for me) but most I can just zap. "

Me too... it works. The sites what you make it

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

If guys constructed decent messages , read profiles properly more would stay increasing the numbers slowly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If guys constructed decent messages , read profiles properly more would stay increasing the numbers slowly "

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

The usual reasons are suggested..too many messages to much.. blah blah.

The honest truth there are countless reason they left. Only they know why they joined and left... just as many reasons for the single guys and couples that leave.

The new ladies that join (on my updates) are often rejoining so chances are know the message filters exist and often have them applied.. thete is a basic tutorial profile setup when you join..certainly was for me.

To the guys who wish there were loads more woman ..why ?. make it easier for you..? if you're not what they seek same result no interest..

I treat fab as a two way street we all have the same choices..yes please or no thanks .

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Stop more men from joining?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes 100 plus men to one woman on here

We need more women on here to join the site and life style so come on folk how we going to do this

so lets come up with ideas

and why do women leave on here so come folk what are your thoughts

it's actually only 9.2 men to women ratio and wouldn’t it be great if the roles eventually got reversed and women out numbered me, that would certainly transform the site

outnumbered men

The go to POF or Tinder you’re far outnumbered there and lots use for NSA "
I don't want NSA or pof or tinder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop more men from joining? "

Easy now you'll spark a riot

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Stop more men from joining?

Easy now you'll spark a riot

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Yes 100 plus men to one woman on here

We need more women on here to join the site and life style so come on folk how we going to do this

so lets come up with ideas

and why do women leave on here so come folk what are your thoughts

it's actually only 9.2 men to women ratio and wouldn’t it be great if the roles eventually got reversed and women out numbered me, that would certainly transform the site

outnumbered men

The go to POF or Tinder you’re far outnumbered there and lots use for NSA I don't want NSA or pof or tinder

Neither do I. I'm looking for a swingng relationship, can't get that on pof or tinder, also the lie more in those sites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been on n off here over 6yrs and everytime I’ve left it’s been because of pushy or rude men and couples but I do suspect most of the couples that have pissed me off the man of that couple has been in the driving seat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes 100 plus men to one woman on here

We need more women on here to join the site and life style so come on folk how we going to do this

so lets come up with ideas

and why do women leave on here so come folk what are your thoughts

it's actually only 9.2 men to women ratio and wouldn’t it be great if the roles eventually got reversed and women out numbered me, that would certainly transform the site

outnumbered men

The go to POF or Tinder you’re far outnumbered there and lots use for NSA I don't want NSA or pof or tinder

Neither do I. I'm looking for a swingng relationship, can't get that on pof or tinder, also the lie more in those sites. "
I lie on the beach a lot

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

So a couple of my thoughts.

1. When someone joins, only photo verified accounts can initially contact them (at least slow the rush down a little).

2. Rather than having to filter and block all blokes, there is an option to only accept messages from verified users.

3. Users are limited to a set number of out bound messages (to different people?) a day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So a couple of my thoughts.

1. When someone joins, only photo verified accounts can initially contact them (at least slow the rush down a little).

2. Rather than having to filter and block all blokes, there is an option to only accept messages from verified users.

3. Users are limited to a set number of out bound messages (to different people?) a day.

This could help, I also think more needs to be done when verifying pics because lots of pics on here are from models/online (catfish) but strangely have been photo verified as genuine!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Recruitment advertising like the Army ...join Fab be the best , oh wait they’re leaving in droves too . Yep you’re stuffed gents

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Recruitment advertising like the Army ...join Fab be the best , oh wait they’re leaving in droves too . Yep you’re stuffed gents

Yup we're up shit creek without a paddle...how very kinky for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Recruitment advertising like the Army ...join Fab be the best , oh wait they’re leaving in droves too . Yep you’re stuffed gents

Yup we're up shit creek without a paddle...how very kinky for us

Just as likely to get shot at too

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By *izzymonkeyMan
over a year ago

Hiding In A Bush

"Yes 100 plus men to one woman on here

We need more women on here to join the site and life style so come on folk how we going to do this

so lets come up with ideas

and why do women leave on here so come folk what are your thoughts

.......and here was me thinking this was a post about organising a bukkake party!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To attract newbies, I think changing the swingers part of this sites name may help.

Alot of single women and men, aren't actually into swinging but more the FAB part of this site...Friends And Benefits.

There's no reason why you can't lump swinging into that bracket too. Don't you guys like building friendships before you start swinging with the other person?

I know I don't like being lumped within the swinging bracket. I wouldn't care if family or friends found me on FAB site but I sure as heck care if they found me on a swingers site! Even though swinging isn't all what this site is about, I find the name makes folk assume I am a swinger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Recruitment advertising like the Army ...join Fab be the best , oh wait they’re leaving in droves too . Yep you’re stuffed gents

Yup we're up shit creek without a paddle...how very kinky for us

Just as likely to get shot at too

Blimey sounding more and more like the day job in London

Well will be great to go out on top.

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

Genuine or not /Filters or not I think because of the shear volume of texts women receive they just mass delete ..

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"To attract newbies, I think changing the swingers part of this sites name may help.

Alot of single women and men, aren't actually into swinging but more the FAB part of this site...Friends And Benefits.

There's no reason why you can't lump swinging into that bracket too. Don't you guys like building friendships before you start swinging with the other person?

Why should fab drop the swingers part of their name? That's the whole point of this site surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another tedious post which feeds into the fact that women get too many messages

simple solution ladies turn on your filters so you get no messages and then search yourself, simple, job done, unless..........

......you get a thrill or measure your self worth by the amount of messages you get, then can’t help you with that one x

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

"Another tedious post which feeds into the fact that women get too many messages

simple solution ladies turn on your filters so you get no messages and then search yourself, simple, job done, unless..........

......you get a thrill or measure your self worth by the amount of messages you get, then can’t help you with that one x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes 100 plus men to one woman on here

We need more women on here to join the site and life style so come on folk how we going to do this

so lets come up with ideas

and why do women leave on here so come folk what are your thoughts

More like 300 to 1 due to the amount of fake female profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To attract newbies, I think changing the swingers part of this sites name may help.

Alot of single women and men, aren't actually into swinging but more the FAB part of this site...Friends And Benefits.

There's no reason why you can't lump swinging into that bracket too. Don't you guys like building friendships before you start swinging with the other person?

Why should fab drop the swingers part of their name? That's the whole point of this site surely? "

No it isn't the whole point of this site as I mentioned in my post. This site isn't just a swingers site. So I don't see why it's mainly advertised as such.

Op asked for opinions and that's mine. I know other people who won't join this site because of its name and as such do not want to be labelled a swinger. Equally I've experienced people off this site, assume I'm a swinger because I'm on here.

Seeking a friends and benefits is normal in today's society. Thankfully times have moved on. Swinging is still frowned upon though. So I and many others do not wish to by lumped in with a lifestyle we play no part in.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"To attract newbies, I think changing the swingers part of this sites name may help.

Alot of single women and men, aren't actually into swinging but more the FAB part of this site...Friends And Benefits.

There's no reason why you can't lump swinging into that bracket too. Don't you guys like building friendships before you start swinging with the other person?

Why should fab drop the swingers part of their name? That's the whole point of this site surely?

No it isn't the whole point of this site as I mentioned in my post. This site isn't just a swingers site. So I don't see why it's mainly advertised as such.

Then it's obviously started as a swingers site and has evolved into other scenarios. Friends and benefits can be found on many other non swinging sites such as tinder bumble and pof. Unlikely to be able to find swingers on these sites or mmf scenarios etc.

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By *shyaWoman
over a year ago

bedford

so to the point! - men assuming women on this site are sluts; and the one line profiles with cock shots - it's like declaring oneself "I'm a dick"

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

"To attract newbies, I think changing the swingers part of this sites name may help.

Alot of single women and men, aren't actually into swinging but more the FAB part of this site...Friends And Benefits.

There's no reason why you can't lump swinging into that bracket too. Don't you guys like building friendships before you start swinging with the other person?

Why should fab drop the swingers part of their name? That's the whole point of this site surely?

No it isn't the whole point of this site as I mentioned in my post. This site isn't just a swingers site. So I don't see why it's mainly advertised as such.

I don't think I agree with your reasoning.

It's like me joining the Sailing Club. I don't sail, but like the social aspect of the club.

There's more people in the club there for the social than sailing. Yet I don't insist it change its name.

There are still a significant number of swingers on this site, and it is mostly setup to support that lifestyle. However, it also supports others, even though they are well catered for elsewhere.

If you don't like the association, then maybe join a site without the "stigma"?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"To attract newbies, I think changing the swingers part of this sites name may help.

Alot of single women and men, aren't actually into swinging but more the FAB part of this site...Friends And Benefits.

There's no reason why you can't lump swinging into that bracket too. Don't you guys like building friendships before you start swinging with the other person?

Why should fab drop the swingers part of their name? That's the whole point of this site surely?

No it isn't the whole point of this site as I mentioned in my post. This site isn't just a swingers site. So I don't see why it's mainly advertised as such.

I don't think I agree with your reasoning.

It's like me joining the Sailing Club. I don't sail, but like the social aspect of the club.

There's more people in the club there for the social than sailing. Yet I don't insist it change its name.

There are still a significant number of swingers on this site, and it is mostly setup to support that lifestyle. However, it also supports others, even though they are well catered for elsewhere.

If you don't like the association, then maybe join a site without the "stigma"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If any of these new women need checking out then I would be happy to provide my services. And by services I mean...

No I don't mean my dick...

Who am I kidding. Yes. I meant my dick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These new women aren't getting at my 100+ men. Bugger off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes 100 plus men to one woman on here

We need more women on here to join the site and life style so come on folk how we going to do this

so lets come up with ideas

and why do women leave on here so come folk what are your thoughts

How do you arrive at these figures, cause I don’t think it’s anything like, maybe 20- 1. Then time women filter down to actual viable options it’s probably about even if you’re a decent bloke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100 men to 1 woman... mmmmm.. bring it on if I'm the 1 woman I'm game

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Now ladies, let's share lol.

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester

"Yes 100 plus men to one woman on here

We need more women on here to join the site and life style so come on folk how we going to do this

so lets come up with ideas

and why do women leave on here so come folk what are your thoughts

Mostly its the abusive messages, guys offering money and the hassle which drives women away. It might make more seance to only allow a certain number of men to join like they restrict how many males can go into a club some nights.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Thing is the forums are not indicative of the scene.

It is more of a fantasy Facebook.

Go to good clubs, think you will find a more level playing field and what’s more real.

Someone should start a thread, who has met off the forums and who hasn’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now ladies, let's share lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100 choices each, and still you moan you can't find one....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lone female here ?? I suppose I have been very lucky (so far), only been here for a couple of months, and the majority of messages I have received have been from very polite couples and men. Of course I have had some men that have been rude (not in a good way) maybe some of it may be due to not having a picture as my profile? I soon get an idea if they are true swingers and just out for a free fuck. But having said that we shouldn't have to avoid putting a picture for fear of getting abusive/aggressive messages. I'm still getting know the scene (and so far loving it) i hope i don't get to the stage where I get fed up and leave because of these idiots.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thing is the forums are not indicative of the scene.

It is more of a fantasy Facebook.

Go to good clubs, think you will find a more level playing field and what’s more real.

Someone should start a thread, who has met off the forums and who hasn’t."

Clubs do filter how many men, women and couples get entry so it will be more of a level playing field, which is why clubs work better for single women than fab does

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over a year ago

"Yes 100 plus men to one woman on here

We need more women on here to join the site and life style so come on folk how we going to do this

so lets come up with ideas

and why do women leave on here so come folk what are your thoughts

They leave I expect because they get bombarded by to many inane messages from single men which puts them off reading them and therefore staying on the site.

This.

We are starting to get to this point of thinking about leaving because of constant crude and inane messages from single men

Just filter out single blokes. Simples"

This, if single guy messages piss you off just block and search for them yourselfs!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes 100 plus men to one woman on here

We need more women on here to join the site and life style so come on folk how we going to do this

so lets come up with ideas

and why do women leave on here so come folk what are your thoughts

How do you arrive at these figures, cause I don’t think it’s anything like, maybe 20- 1. Then time women filter down to actual viable options it’s probably about even if you’re a decent bloke."

Don't forget multiple accounts of the same guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes 100 plus men to one woman on here

We need more women on here to join the site and life style so come on folk how we going to do this

so lets come up with ideas

and why do women leave on here so come folk what are your thoughts

We need a Thanos style 'Snap' to rid fab of half the male population.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate the idea of only guys paying. Been on other sites that do that and it makes the guys more desperate and half the women just want to chat. On here it's much fairer and you don't feel like they've paid for your company

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

"Hate the idea of only guys paying. Been on other sites that do that and it makes the guys more desperate and half the women just want to chat. On here it's much fairer and you don't feel like they've paid for your company

And it's not really enough to change behaviour. You just end up with the wankers willing to pay to abuse people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To attract newbies, I think changing the swingers part of this sites name may help.

Alot of single women and men, aren't actually into swinging but more the FAB part of this site...Friends And Benefits.

There's no reason why you can't lump swinging into that bracket too. Don't you guys like building friendships before you start swinging with the other person?

Why should fab drop the swingers part of their name? That's the whole point of this site surely?

No it isn't the whole point of this site as I mentioned in my post. This site isn't just a swingers site. So I don't see why it's mainly advertised as such.

Sorry maybe it is just me, but I have never once seen FAB stand for Friend and Benefits bu the owners or even in the forums.

Where have you seen this written?

Are you sure you are not just assuming that's what FAB stands for because you don't like swinging?

The word "and" is never capitalised. Friends and Benefits would be written FaB not FAB!

I have always assumed FAB to be short for Fabulous Swingers, like you would say That's just fab.

In that case when joining the two words, the first shortened word would be in all capitals, while the second word would only have the first character in upper case.

Therefore, Fabulous Swingers becomes FABSwingers.

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over a year ago

"To attract newbies, I think changing the swingers part of this sites name may help.

Alot of single women and men, aren't actually into swinging but more the FAB part of this site...Friends And Benefits.

There's no reason why you can't lump swinging into that bracket too. Don't you guys like building friendships before you start swinging with the other person?

Why should fab drop the swingers part of their name? That's the whole point of this site surely?

No it isn't the whole point of this site as I mentioned in my post. This site isn't just a swingers site. So I don't see why it's mainly advertised as such.

Sorry maybe it is just me, but I have never once seen FAB stand for Friend and Benefits bu the owners or even in the forums.

Where have you seen this written?

Are you sure you are not just assuming that's what FAB stands for because you don't like swinging?

The word "and" is never capitalised. Friends and Benefits would be written FaB not FAB!

I have always assumed FAB to be short for Fabulous Swingers, like you would say That's just fab.

In that case when joining the two words, the first shortened word would be in all capitals, while the second word would only have the first character in upper case.

Therefore, Fabulous Swingers becomes FABSwingers."
cmon you know and I know it stands for Fabulous And Bearded

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over a year ago

"Yes 100 plus men to one woman on here

We need more women on here to join the site and life style so come on folk how we going to do this

so lets come up with ideas

and why do women leave on here so come folk what are your thoughts

I was googling for some reason, and I saw an article that read "I joined Britains most popular swinging site and got a hundred dick pics in an hour"

I think that culling people who do that sort of thing would probably be a step in the right direction

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

"Yes 100 plus men to one woman on here

We need more women on here to join the site and life style so come on folk how we going to do this

so lets come up with ideas

and why do women leave on here so come folk what are your thoughts

Why is it a problem? Us greedy girls are more than happy to take on more than avarage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its only 8.6 men to women ratio omg imagine a 100-1 you'd never get a reply let alone a meet

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

If women were treated with courtesy and not treated like unpaid whores, maybe more would join and/or stay. And I'm not tarring all with the same brush, by the way, as there are a lot of decent guys on here.

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over a year ago

"If women were treated with courtesy and not treated like unpaid whores, maybe more would join and/or stay. And I'm not tarring all with the same brush, by the way, as there are a lot of decent guys on here. "
exactly i know some to

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

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Perhaps in addition to attracting more women, we should also be educating many of the single men. Too many seem to think that a profile on this site guarantees sexual success with women. It does not.

This is NOT a site for cheap, easy, damaged, desperate, promiscuous women seeking validation from men. It is a hub for people who share a healthy and adventurous interest in sex. All of the same rules that exist in polite society also exist here. Or they should.

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By *estofbothCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

I think colour coding on the inbox would help a lot, instead of all unread being yellow, have yellow for men, orange for couples, blue for women and maybe green for people you’ve messaged before.

Certainly for us it would help us scan our unread messages, and we’ve been told by some lady friends that were on here and have since left that it was so hard to find messages from people they were in conversation with that they often got lost. Maybe even some sort of message folder or something would do it.

Ultimately fab is a business, and unfortunately current model seems to be more about current turnover and less about developing the site for sustainability.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps in addition to attracting more women, we should also be educating many of the single men. Too many seem to think that a profile on this site guarantees sexual success with women. It does not.

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