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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When discussing another issue recently on fabs it was suggested recently that taking money towards gangbang costs could be _iewed as charging for sex.

Personally I strongly disagree. It is not considered paying for sex when we pay to go to a swingers club. Yes it is there for sex and we have sex there, but freely. The money element is about providing the space.

If holding a gang bang I consider it reasonable the cost gets split between me and the guys.

To get a hotel in town(Bristol) where we can get to rooms without passing reception as well as a bag of drinks and big box of condoms costs around 120/130 quid usually. If I get 4 single guys to chip in 25 quid each I think that is fair.It is not commercial or selling sex, all kitty gets spent on putting on the night. It certainly less than many swingers clubs charge single guys. It hardly seems fair that the woman should foot the whole bill. Most important though the money is NOT for any sex that may go on. All the guys that come to the gb nights seem happy with it, but now someone has said it is charging for sex I just wonder what others feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When discussing another issue recently on fabs it was suggested recently that taking money towards gangbang costs could be _iewed as charging for sex.

Personally I strongly disagree. It is not considered paying for sex when we pay to go to a swingers club. Yes it is there for sex and we have sex there, but freely. The money element is about providing the space.

If holding a gang bang I consider it reasonable the cost gets split between me and the guys.

To get a hotel in town(Bristol) where we can get to rooms without passing reception as well as a bag of drinks and big box of condoms costs around 120/130 quid usually. If I get 4 single guys to chip in 25 quid each I think that is fair.It is not commercial or selling sex, all kitty gets spent on putting on the night. It certainly less than many swingers clubs charge single guys. It hardly seems fair that the woman should foot the whole bill. Most important though the money is NOT for any sex that may go on. All the guys that come to the gb nights seem happy with it, but now someone has said it is charging for sex I just wonder what others feel."

All share, all fair. In my opinion anyway.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

not a penny of profit, it is more than acceptable.

enjoy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the rare occasions that I use a hotel, I insist on 50/50 but then its usually one on one.. not sure how I'd _iew it for multiples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both parties should pay for hotel. Or all involved. Bugs me when I see profiles saying only do hotel meets and single bloke to pay all costs.

Not on that I dont think

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"When discussing another issue recently on fabs it was suggested recently that taking money towards gangbang costs could be _iewed as charging for sex.

Personally I strongly disagree. It is not considered paying for sex when we pay to go to a swingers club. Yes it is there for sex and we have sex there, but freely. The money element is about providing the space.

If holding a gang bang I consider it reasonable the cost gets split between me and the guys.

To get a hotel in town(Bristol) where we can get to rooms without passing reception as well as a bag of drinks and big box of condoms costs around 120/130 quid usually. If I get 4 single guys to chip in 25 quid each I think that is fair.It is not commercial or selling sex, all kitty gets spent on putting on the night. It certainly less than many swingers clubs charge single guys. It hardly seems fair that the woman should foot the whole bill. Most important though the money is NOT for any sex that may go on. All the guys that come to the gb nights seem happy with it, but now someone has said it is charging for sex I just wonder what others feel."

The problem is how the police _iew it not how you _iew it...you may say the money is not for sex...they might disagree,...its why u need to be very careful. Prostitution isnt illegal in this country but the fecked laws mean it is a grey area.

As for a normal hotel meet split 50/50 has always seemed fair to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Policing and Crime Act 2009 made amends to the laws on soliciting and loitering for the purposes of prostitution. The main changes are the shifting of focus from the prostitutes to the customers. Before 1 April 2010, it was illegal for a customer to kerb crawl/solicit only if this was done "persistently", or "in a manner likely to cause annoyance". Today, all forms of public solicitation by a customer are illegal, regardless of the manner in which the prostitute was solicited. In regard to prostitutes, before 1 April 2010, a prostitute was committing a crime by soliciting/loitering in a public place more than once in a period of one month. Today, she commits a crime if she does it more than once in a period of three months.

Former laws which have been replaced by the new offenses created by the Policing and Crime Act 2009.

From 1959 to 1 April 2010,[13] it was an offence for a common prostitute to loiter or solicit in a street or public place for the purpose of prostitution: This offence was created by section 1(1) of the Street Offences Act 1959.

From 1985 to 1 April 2010[13] it was an offence for a person to solicit another person, or different persons, for the purpose of prostitution (which in this case means soliciting for the purpose of obtaining the other person's services as a prostitute) from a motor vehicle while it is in a street or public place, or in the immediate vicinity of a motor vehicle that he has just got out of or off, while he is in a street or public place, if he does so persistently, or in a manner likely to cause annoyance to the person, or to any of the persons, solicited, or likely to cause nuisance to other persons in the neighbourhood: This offence was created by section 1(1) of the Sexual Offences Act 1985 and was known as kerb-crawling.

From 1985 to 1 April 2010[13] it was an offence for a person to persistently solicit another person, or different persons, for the purpose of prostitution (which in this case means soliciting for the purpose of obtaining the other person's services as a prostitute): This offence was created by section 2(1) of the Sexual Offences Act 1985.

[edit] Reform to prostitution laws

According to the present law, one prostitute may work from an indoor premises, but if there are two or more prostitutes the place is considered a brothel and it is an offence.

Historically, local police forces have wavered between zero tolerance of prostitution and unofficial red light districts.

During recent years there has been long and widespread debate about the legal situation of prostitution in the UK, and, currently, the government appears to favour tough "anti-prostitution" laws. The debate had centred around whether UK should follow the example of Netherlands, Germany or New Zealand and tolerate prostitution, or whether the country should make it illegal to pay for sex, like in Sweden, Norway and Iceland. In 2006, the government raised the possibility of loosening the prostitution laws and allowing small brothels in England and Wales, but in the end the plans to allow "mini brothels" were abandoned, after fears that such establishments would bring pimps and drug dealers into residential areas. Instead, it was decided that prostitution should not be tolerated and the laws should become even stricter.

After this, a government minister suggested that rather than permitting mini-brothels, they would like to tackle the "demand side" of prostitution and make it illegal to pay for sex.[14] This was Minister for Women and Equality, Harriet Harman.[15][16] Ministers pointed to Sweden, where purchasing sexual services is a criminal offence.

The government's tougher approach towards prostitution began to make legislative progress in 2008, as Home Secretary Jacqui Smith announced that paying for sex from a prostitute under the control of a pimp would become a criminal offence. Clients could also face rape charges for knowingly paying for sex from an illegally trafficked woman, and first-time offenders could face charges.[16]

The Policing and Crime Act 2009 made it an offence to pay for the services of a prostitute "subjected to force" to implement that proposal. It also made other provisions in relation to prostitution.

SO WHO IS TO SAY THAT A PERSON OR PERSONS MAY FEEL AGRAVATED ENOUGH TO CALL POLICE AND SAY THAT SOMETHING UNTOWARD HAS TAKEN PLACE IN THAT HOTEL ROOM THAT THEY ARE NOT HAPPY WITH

MAYBE THEY FEEL THEY HAVE BEEN PIMPED OUT

AGAIN A GREY AREA PERHAPS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Both parties should pay for hotel. Or all involved. Bugs me when I see profiles saying only do hotel meets and single bloke to pay all costs.

Not on that I dont think "

Completely agree with you. Whenever I've done a hotel meet, costs have been split equally. Ms

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I certainly never feel 'pimped out', my husband wades through all the messages and ditches the ones without pictures, too old or disrespectful tone and only messages my number to the guys in the right age range, not too fat and sound genuine. He mostly keeps away the wrong kind of attention, he's very good really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest i think it depends on whos doing the asking, if i was talking to a guy on here and we arranged to meet in a hotel i would expect to share costs as we both agreed to get the room, however if i had already booked a room then asked someon to join me in a room i had already booked i wouldnt expect them to put towards it, as i booked the room and i asked them so why should they chip in?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For the OP - The costs of the night should be split equally, end of.

If I was attending a gang bang in a hotel I would expect to share the costs with everyone else attending.

When I meet couples I split the costs 50/50.

When I meet a single female, I cover the cost myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For the OP - The costs of the night should be split equally, end of.

If I was attending a gang bang in a hotel I would expect to share the costs with everyone else attending.

When I meet couples I split the costs 50/50.

When I meet a single female, I cover the cost myself "

Interesting. Why pay the lot for a single fem but go 50/50 with a cpl? is that cos theres a male in the cpl perhaps?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For the OP - The costs of the night should be split equally, end of.

If I was attending a gang bang in a hotel I would expect to share the costs with everyone else attending.

When I meet couples I split the costs 50/50.

When I meet a single female, I cover the cost myself "

just out of interest why do you cover the cost yourself for a woman but not a couple?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For the OP - The costs of the night should be split equally, end of.

If I was attending a gang bang in a hotel I would expect to share the costs with everyone else attending.

When I meet couples I split the costs 50/50.

When I meet a single female, I cover the cost myself

Interesting. Why pay the lot for a single fem but go 50/50 with a cpl? is that cos theres a male in the cpl perhaps?"

lol great minds think a like or is it idiots never differ lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For the OP - The costs of the night should be split equally, end of.

If I was attending a gang bang in a hotel I would expect to share the costs with everyone else attending.

When I meet couples I split the costs 50/50.

When I meet a single female, I cover the cost myself

Interesting. Why pay the lot for a single fem but go 50/50 with a cpl? is that cos theres a male in the cpl perhaps?

lol great minds think a like or is it idiots never differ lol"

lol pleased to no you kiddo but which one of us is dumber then. I mean im thick like but I dont fancy claiming the title haha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I think it is because there is a male in a couple lol

And I have just never let a lady pay. with my ex I always paid. Even when I go out with female friends I always pay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be honest I think it is because there is a male in a couple lol

And I have just never let a lady pay. with my ex I always paid. Even when I go out with female friends I always pay. "

so your making the guy pay for the privilege of watching you fuck his mrs lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol if that's how you want to put it then that's how you want to put it. But on a serious note, I think it's just the way I have been brought up, or to be honest I dunno, but for me it just feels right to always pay for a girl. And if there is another male around then he should split the cost with me. Just how I feel. So even if I meet a couple I wouldn't ask the lady half.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt pay for a hotel ever. Then again i only meet people at my house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol if that's how you want to put it then that's how you want to put it. But on a serious note, I think it's just the way I have been brought up, or to be honest I dunno, but for me it just feels right to always pay for a girl. And if there is another male around then he should split the cost with me. Just how I feel. So even if I meet a couple I wouldn't ask the lady half."

Putts kettle on and settles down for the Emily Packhursts modern day fems for all equal rights brigade to come back on this one lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol if that's how you want to put it then that's how you want to put it. But on a serious note, I think it's just the way I have been brought up, or to be honest I dunno, but for me it just feels right to always pay for a girl. And if there is another male around then he should split the cost with me. Just how I feel. So even if I meet a couple I wouldn't ask the lady half.

Putts kettle on and settles down for the Emily Packhursts modern day fems for all equal rights brigade to come back on this one lol"

not from me, i always offer to pay towards a room but if the guy insists on paying im not going to argue with him lol

however i dont get the not asking the female half of a couple for money towards a room, if they are a couple its their money so no matter who gives you the cast its still coming out of her pocket as welll as his

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"not a penny of profit, it is more than acceptable.

enjoy x"

That's the key point, to my mind. If a group of friends go out for dinner and one of them pays for the meal on a credit card and the others pay him/her back their share of the bill, is the one with the card charging them for the food?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It would be hoped we live in an age of equality. If we do a gangbang we aim for 4 single guys plus us. We split costs by 5 as suggested chip in, so basically we pay same as a couple as the singles that attend. However they are a lot of work for master joy who does most of the booking running around,shopping and often does a buffet for half time. He loves to watch, join in and take pics but he sure does a lot of leg work too.

Play at home is out of the question for us as we have 3 of our kids still live at home.

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

we must be one of the rare couples that see's clubs as selling sex, as thats the whole idea of them.

then again, there are hotels in japan that you cant rent by the hour so couples can have fun.

OP's situation? i thin you are well within your rights to ask for costs towards the facilities you provide, absolutely. i mean, would you expect someone to turn up at your front door without maybe a bottle of wine or something? same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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however i dont get the not asking the female half of a couple for money towards a room, if they are a couple its their money so no matter who gives you the cast its still coming out of her pocket as welll as his "

Err I don't get it either. I think what I mean is that I would deal with the male half of the couple when splitting the costs.

When with a female I will always pay. Is that wrong? Just doesn't feel right for me if she pays.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

my husband is the same mate, its old school but one of the nicer faces of inequality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol glad am not the only one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always think its the person who books it although if it wasn't us we would offer half as its only polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we must be one of the rare couples that see's clubs as selling sex, as thats the whole idea of them.

"

how are clubs selling sex?

now im talking swingers clubs here not clubs that lay on girls, but if i go to a club i dont work for the club, im there as a customer, i pay to get in and use the facilities im not paying for sex, if i go and dont fancy anyone i dont play simple as, just because you go to a club does not mean you HAVE to play and the club wont refuse you back in if you dont lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol if that's how you want to put it then that's how you want to put it. But on a serious note, I think it's just the way I have been brought up, or to be honest I dunno, but for me it just feels right to always pay for a girl. And if there is another male around then he should split the cost with me. Just how I feel. So even if I meet a couple I wouldn't ask the lady half."

I can understand where this comes from as I've been brought up that way (from the female perspective). Yes it's old school. I've moved with time and would always offer half, but I wouldn't argue if they insist on paying lol. I also don't argue if they want to pay for the drinks, etc. I do enjoy the kind of old fashioned way of being taken care of by a man, like holding doors, carrying bags for me. I put in other efforts, like bringing all the toys, condoms, lubes, I spend a fortune on lingerie to look sexy..... I guess it's all give and take?! As long as both parties are happy with the agreement, why not.

And as for the OP's point, I agree if all split equally it's all fair.

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

some refreshing vies on here - I was told I was insulting a couple for asking them to share the cost of a hotel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A guy I once chatted to staid in a Dublin hotel on holidays. We agreed to meet up but then he asked me to pay half for his hotel! The word starting with F and ending with uck off came to mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the few occasions we have had hotel meets, we, as a couple have paid for the room, as we get to use it for the full night, enjoy the brekkie etc that comes with it. We wouldn't ever expect anyone else to pay on our behalf, or for our "services" and think that any couple that does is taking the mick quite frankly. We would offer to split costs etc i guess if we were the visiting party on a hotel meet! This has got me thinking here! Has also restored my faith in the gentlemen on the site too.......good manners make a huge difference, well done boys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A guy I once chatted to staid in a Dublin hotel on holidays. We agreed to meet up but then he asked me to pay half for his hotel! The word starting with F and ending with uck off came to mind. "

im with you on that one, i get quite a few men mail me who are working in my area so in a hotel, i refuse to pay towards hotels of men who are staying in them with work, why should he get his expenses back and half back from me too? i actually think thats just cheeky and trying to make money out of me like that will deffo not get them a meet even if after they agree i shouldnt pay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Split the costs with a couple. Would expect single males to arrange and pay for hotel. Often more risk in the males not turning up. We have been asked by males to book hotel and pay.Not doing that, sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A guy I once chatted to staid in a Dublin hotel on holidays. We agreed to meet up but then he asked me to pay half for his hotel! The word starting with F and ending with uck off came to mind.

im with you on that one, i get quite a few men mail me who are working in my area so in a hotel, i refuse to pay towards hotels of men who are staying in them with work, why should he get his expenses back and half back from me too? i actually think thats just cheeky and trying to make money out of me like that will deffo not get them a meet even if after they agree i shouldnt pay"

The cheek of some people! Can't believe that they're trying to get sex and make a bit of money out of it lol.... like you once they even suggest anything like it I'm out of there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless I was booking the room (in which case I would pay the full cost of the room), then I wouldn't pay anything towards it - reason being I state quite clearly in my profile that I want a man who can accommodate as I can't - I'm more than happy to meet in a hotel but that has to be the man's decision as to whether I am "worth" the price of a room. I am also happy to meet in a club if that helps with their can't accom problem, in which case I would pay for my own entry fee - bottom line - I have some lovely friends who can accom so why do I need to pay to meet someone who cant?

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran


"Split the costs with a couple. Would expect single males to arrange and pay for hotel. Often more risk in the males not turning up. We have been asked by males to book hotel and pay.Not doing that, sorry. "

Seems you're in a minority

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unless I was booking the room (in which case I would pay the full cost of the room), then I wouldn't pay anything towards it - reason being I state quite clearly in my profile that I want a man who can accommodate as I can't - I'm more than happy to meet in a hotel but that has to be the man's decision as to whether I am "worth" the price of a room. I am also happy to meet in a club if that helps with their can't accom problem, in which case I would pay for my own entry fee - bottom line - I have some lovely friends who can accom so why do I need to pay to meet someone who cant?"

I think it depends how much you want to meet someone, i have paid for hotel rooms fully befor if ive really wanted to meet them simply because id sooner meet a guy i really like and pay for the room myself than meet a guys that ok that pays for the room, not everyone has the money for hotels and i understand that so im more than happy to pay if it gets me to meet guys i really like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last message to Belles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not in a. Minority

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unless I was booking the room (in which case I would pay the full cost of the room), then I wouldn't pay anything towards it - reason being I state quite clearly in my profile that I want a man who can accommodate as I can't - I'm more than happy to meet in a hotel but that has to be the man's decision as to whether I am "worth" the price of a room. I am also happy to meet in a club if that helps with their can't accom problem, in which case I would pay for my own entry fee - bottom line - I have some lovely friends who can accom so why do I need to pay to meet someone who cant?

I think it depends how much you want to meet someone, i have paid for hotel rooms fully befor if ive really wanted to meet them simply because id sooner meet a guy i really like and pay for the room myself than meet a guys that ok that pays for the room, not everyone has the money for hotels and i understand that so im more than happy to pay if it gets me to meet guys i really like"

Exactly - thats why I said if I was booking the room (which I have been known to do for some very delicious people) I would cover the full cost and wouldn't say "well if you want me you have to pay" xxxx

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran


"Not in a. Minority "

How so - certainly on here everyone but you say they split the cost of a hotel with a single man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are right to have a _iew, no issue with that. However this is a small section of membership. What we find from our contacts is lots of couples won't take the risk. Let's face it couples and single woman have no issue meeting other people.Its the males who often have the problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sam Sampson kook at response most who have replied are not happy to pay costs or even half

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran


"People are right to have a _iew, no issue with that. However this is a small section of membership. What we find from our contacts is lots of couples won't take the risk. Let's face it couples and single woman have no issue meeting other people.Its the males who often have the problem"

so how is it a risk if they guy pays for the hotel and then you pay half when you arrive you don't lose anything if the guy doesnt turn up then - but to expect someone to pay for everything when the meet is supposed to be about mutual fun is not really in the spitit of swinging

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran


"Sam Sampson kook at response most who have replied are not happy to pay costs or even half"

Think your wrong there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People are right to have a _iew, no issue with that. However this is a small section of membership. What we find from our contacts is lots of couples won't take the risk. Let's face it couples and single woman have no issue meeting other people.Its the males who often have the problem"

hhmmm I see it differently. After going through the huge pile of single men offering to meet me, finding a compatible, great guy who I get along with, hits all or most of my boxes, I wouldn't want to offend them by insisting on them paying for the hotel just because 'they'are lucky to meet me as single males have issues meeting women'. I really hope that they will treat me with respect and give me a great night so I would treat them the same.

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran


"People are right to have a _iew, no issue with that. However this is a small section of membership. What we find from our contacts is lots of couples won't take the risk. Let's face it couples and single woman have no issue meeting other people.Its the males who often have the problem

hhmmm I see it differently. After going through the huge pile of single men offering to meet me, finding a compatible, great guy who I get along with, hits all or most of my boxes, I wouldn't want to offend them by insisting on them paying for the hotel just because 'they'are lucky to meet me as single males have issues meeting women'. I really hope that they will treat me with respect and give me a great night so I would treat them the same. "

I met someone recently who said they would feel like a prostitute if they didn't pay half towards the cost of the hotel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sam Sampson kook at response most who have replied are not happy to pay costs or even half

Think your wrong there "

actually i think over all most single females are happy to go halfs on hotels with guys but for some reason a hell of a lot of couples arnt?

problem is far to many people are happy to take the piss out of single guys, because they know its harder for them to meet they feel they have the rights to dictate to the guy whats going to happen on a meet and whos paying, whats even a bigger problem is a lot of single guys are happy to be treat like this to get a meet so these people keep on doing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I met someone recently who said they would feel like a prostitute if they didn't pay half towards the cost of the hotel "

I wouldn't take it that far, it's not like he's paying me additionally for sex. As I stated previously if he insists on paying for the hotel I'm ok with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People are right to have a _iew, no issue with that. However this is a small section of membership. What we find from our contacts is lots of couples won't take the risk. Let's face it couples and single woman have no issue meeting other people.Its the males who often have the problem

hhmmm I see it differently. After going through the huge pile of single men offering to meet me, finding a compatible, great guy who I get along with, hits all or most of my boxes, I wouldn't want to offend them by insisting on them paying for the hotel just because 'they'are lucky to meet me as single males have issues meeting women'. I really hope that they will treat me with respect and give me a great night so I would treat them the same. "

its really refeshing to see a down to earth women on here

far to many women single and female halfs of couples (and even sometimes the male half) get far to above their stations on here and start insisting unrealistic demandes in a meet and get quite demanding

dont ever change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We more often go to clubs and of course each pays their entrance fee. On the odd occasion when we meet at a hotel it's always the male requesrs

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran


"Sam Sampson kook at response most who have replied are not happy to pay costs or even half

Think your wrong there

actually i think over all most single females are happy to go halfs on hotels with guys but for some reason a hell of a lot of couples arnt?

problem is far to many people are happy to take the piss out of single guys, because they know its harder for them to meet they feel they have the rights to dictate to the guy whats going to happen on a meet and whos paying, whats even a bigger problem is a lot of single guys are happy to be treat like this to get a meet so these people keep on doing it"

You could be right but thank god there are enough people out there who are in this for all the right reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's have some reality here. It probably right that most couples dictate the terms. Why not?

To say its like prostitution is over the top. I guess individuals here have personal axes to grind. A couple refusing to meet on the males terms

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran


"

I met someone recently who said they would feel like a prostitute if they didn't pay half towards the cost of the hotel

I wouldn't take it that far, it's not like he's paying me additionally for sex. As I stated previously if he insists on paying for the hotel I'm ok with it. "

Just quoting them thats all - and did offer to pay for it all but they insisted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

its really refeshing to see a down to earth women on here

far to many women single and female halfs of couples (and even sometimes the male half) get far to above their stations on here and start insisting unrealistic demandes in a meet and get quite demanding

dont ever change "

aw thanks! likewise! I'm old and set in my ways so I doubt I'll change much haha!

I am demanding, but more in the ways of what kind of men I meet. But I really try and treat everyone the way I want to be treated. Hence, I can sometimes get a bit disappointed when they don't live up to my hopes e.g. being rude. But that's an area I still seem to need to work at and change

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran


"Let's have some reality here. It probably right that most couples dictate the terms. Why not?

To say its like prostitution is over the top. I guess individuals here have personal axes to grind. A couple refusing to meet on the males terms "

Don't think I have ever know a couple to meet a guy on his terms isn't it about comprimise if people want to meet - if they don't then just move on - i don't see anyone on here with an axe to grind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we are initiating a hotel meet as we fancy a change of scenery, then we will pay full cost of the room.

However, if the other couple and us both want a hotel meet then we split the cost.

Sarah and Mat xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let's have some reality here. It probably right that most couples dictate the terms. Why not?

"

because its supposed to be mutual fun, im sorry but any guy who meets a couple who says jump and he says how high is just desparate, and im sorry if that offends, but any guy with any self respect would tell them to piss off, and id sooner be told to piss of than have a guy jump thro hoops for me because im the only person offering to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Call me old fashioned but I would insist on paying on a first meet .

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Split the cost unless we are there anyway...by which i mean if the hotel is booked solely for the meet, 50/50 split

Meeting alone i would never let the man pay..i would feel under an obligation to play...if a man wants to pay for my company i would prefer cash...i need some new shoes

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By *ngie-babyWoman
over a year ago

huntingdonish

feel i need to chip in here, as, in a roundabout way it was me who started this from a previous thread.

firstly, i must say tha,t on said previous thread, i was not getting at the op but merely giving a warning that they could possibly find themselves on the wrong side of the law.

if it's a one on one with cpls or singles, i see no problem with splitting the cost of a hotel etc, but in the ops situation, where they are inviting, and (technically) charging a number of men for sex with one female, albeit in a gang bang with a willing female, then technically and i do emphasise the word technically, it is a group of men paying for sex.

this was what i was trying to warn the op about, as previously stated, it is imho, a very grey area, and some disgruntled gent could, maybe report it to the law, which COULD result in prosecution.

maybe i'm wrong, i dont know, all i was trying to say was.

be very very careful

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"feel i need to chip in here, as, in a roundabout way it was me who started this from a previous thread.

firstly, i must say tha,t on said previous thread, i was not getting at the op but merely giving a warning that they could possibly find themselves on the wrong side of the law.

if it's a one on one with cpls or singles, i see no problem with splitting the cost of a hotel etc, but in the ops situation, where they are inviting, and (technically) charging a number of men for sex with one female, albeit in a gang bang with a willing female, then technically and i do emphasise the word technically, it is a group of men paying for sex.

this was what i was trying to warn the op about, as previously stated, it is imho, a very grey area, and some disgruntled gent could, maybe report it to the law, which COULD result in prosecution.

maybe i'm wrong, i dont know, all i was trying to say was.

be very very careful"

you are not wrong and without going into details gb organisers can be done for pimping.

As i said before its not about intent as far as the law is concerned

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Maybe we should rethink things. When it comes to it we can afford to pay for the room, when we started asking for chip into costs it was never about the money, but to deter and filter out the time wasters. We thought is someone chucks some money into the night they will show up and that has worked so far, no one has left unhappy (see verifications).

Peoples thoughts have given us quite a bit to think about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe we should rethink things. When it comes to it we can afford to pay for the room, when we started asking for chip into costs it was never about the money, but to deter and filter out the time wasters. We thought is someone chucks some money into the night they will show up and that has worked so far, no one has left unhappy (see verifications).

Peoples thoughts have given us quite a bit to think about."

if it works for you keep doing it

We all do things some wont agree with, your not breaking the site rules by asking for help with costs and lets be honest no matter what we do some will agree some wont

If its working for you carry on doing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you split the room costs it's not pimping. Like most couples we are approached by males wishing to meet. If we feel we want to meet we ask if they can accommodate and if can not they arrange the hotel and deal with costs. If we go to a club we pay our own costs. Males have asked us to meet and arrange hotel and pay. We are not desperate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm in a hotel for work and get to meet, no way would I ask her to "chip in"! Work are paying for it so I wouldn't charge!

If a couple/woman wanted to meet in a hotel, I would offer to pay half. If they said I had to pay all I would not oblige! BUT... If it was me who initiated the hotel idea, I wouldn't ask them to half the costs (but would accept if they offered).

For me that's the polite way, if you organise something, you pay. And if someone organises something for you, you offer to pay.

To the OP, I would (and have!) pay my fair share for the room for a gangbang. But I expect to stay the night and not get kicked out after an hour! Lol

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs


"When discussing another issue recently on fabs it was suggested recently that taking money towards gangbang costs could be _iewed as charging for sex.

Personally I strongly disagree. It is not considered paying for sex when we pay to go to a swingers club. Yes it is there for sex and we have sex there, but freely. The money element is about providing the space.

If holding a gang bang I consider it reasonable the cost gets split between me and the guys.

To get a hotel in town(Bristol) where we can get to rooms without passing reception as well as a bag of drinks and big box of condoms costs around 120/130 quid usually. If I get 4 single guys to chip in 25 quid each I think that is fair.It is not commercial or selling sex, all kitty gets spent on putting on the night. It certainly less than many swingers clubs charge single guys. It hardly seems fair that the woman should foot the whole bill. Most important though the money is NOT for any sex that may go on. All the guys that come to the gb nights seem happy with it, but now someone has said it is charging for sex I just wonder what others feel."

You are not paying for sex at a club, you are paying for the use of the facilities only.

When advertising a meet at a hotel you are offering sex and therefor by asking people to pay towards this it's where it could be considered paying for sex.

However, if a couple or single have already booked the room because its the only way they can play then its down to them, if however you want to arange a meet using a hotel then split /share the cost and all stay over night and enjoy a breakfast!

Difficult because someone needs to book and pay up front.

Someone say it's the gentlemanly way to pay for a the lady and I can follow opening doors, giving up a seat but when it comes to sex you may find that ladies prefer to go Dutch so there's no preconceived idea that sex is def on the menu.

Remember that if you're sharing the cost of the room equally then why shouldn't those sharing stay the whole night?

Also what if you organise a group and one doesn't get to play do they get a refund of costs incurred for the evening....

Possible minefield!

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By *heekygeordieguyMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"To be honest i think it depends on whos doing the asking, if i was talking to a guy on here and we arranged to meet in a hotel i would expect to share costs as we both agreed to get the room, however if i had already booked a room then asked someon to join me in a room i had already booked i wouldnt expect them to put towards it, as i booked the room and i asked them so why should they chip in?"

Ditto,Good Answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol if that's how you want to put it then that's how you want to put it. But on a serious note, I think it's just the way I have been brought up, or to be honest I dunno, but for me it just feels right to always pay for a girl. And if there is another male around then he should split the cost with me. Just how I feel. So even if I meet a couple I wouldn't ask the lady half.

Putts kettle on and settles down for the Emily Packhursts modern day fems for all equal rights brigade to come back on this one lol

not from me, i always offer to pay towards a room but if the guy insists on paying im not going to argue with him lol

however i dont get the not asking the female half of a couple for money towards a room, if they are a couple its their money so no matter who gives you the cast its still coming out of her pocket as welll as his "

in that case, perhaps it should be split 3 ways?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

in that case, perhaps it should be split 3 ways?"

ok ban that woman from the thread

this is complicated enough for some without you throwing another angle into it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

in that case, perhaps it should be split 3 ways?

ok ban that woman from the thread

this is complicated enough for some without you throwing another angle into it "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

in that case, perhaps it should be split 3 ways?"

packing list for hotel meet:

sexy outfit

condoms

lube

vibrators

any other naughty toys

calculator

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"

To the OP, I would (and have!) pay my fair share for the room for a gangbang. But I expect to stay the night and not get kicked out after an hour! Lol "

So if 5 guys pay their share for the room, all 5 stay the night?

Thatll be cosy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

in that case, perhaps it should be split 3 ways?

packing list for hotel meet:

sexy outfit

condoms

lube

vibrators

any other naughty toys

calculator

"

And a wallet .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't think we could do this again after the last experience! Got to know a couple a few times built up a freindship as well.

Paid for hotel ourselves and paid for there drinks and they said they would return the favour next time by booking another hotel.

Well we were taken for granted

Never mind u live and learn..Always learning in the swinging game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

in that case, perhaps it should be split 3 ways?

packing list for hotel meet:

sexy outfit

condoms

lube

vibrators

any other naughty toys

calculator

And a wallet .

"

whoops! I forgot my wallet! I'll pay you back next time

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Sounds like I've been a bit remiss, as I've stood the cost of hotel rooms, letting visitors pay nothing - think I'm going to rethink this, though I do sometimes use the bed overnight for sleep too.

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