FabSwingers.com forum: The Elusive Female for FFM

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So we have never managed to find that all elusive female to join us for some horny/sexy fun?

Preference would be for them to approach us, is that where we are going wrong?

Is it our age? Our profile? Or do they simply not exist lol x

Any thoughts from our fellow fabbers? X

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

It's an eternal challenge for many on here.

Single ladies are the smallest group of people on here and they are generally inundated with messages. Generally the people who pursue them are only thinking about what they want and say nothing about "what's in it for the lady".

With such high demand, there's no "need" for ladies to go searching, they can just pick from all of the messages.

You might have better luck at a club.

Cal

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"It's an eternal challenge for many on here.

With such high demand, there's no "need" for ladies to go searching, they can just pick from all of the messages.

You might have better luck at a club.

Cal"

Very true and good advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's an eternal challenge for many on here.

With such high demand, there's no "need" for ladies to go searching, they can just pick from all of the messages.

You might have better luck at a club.

Cal

Very true and good advice

Thank you...was beginning to get a complex lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So we have never managed to find that all elusive female to join us for some horny/sexy fun?

Preference would be for them to approach us, is that where we are going wrong?

Is it our age? Our profile? Or do they simply not exist lol x

Any thoughts from our fellow fabbers? X"

Yeah it’s definitely wrong to expect them to approach you. If you want something you have to go and get it.

Also for FFM I’ve noticed it’s more important for the two women to get along with each other first of all, rather than diving straight into things. Let your female partner take the lead in conversations and build trust with the woman you’re looking for before suggesting to take it further.

The only times I’ve ever had FFM have been when the girls were already friends in real life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people can't see what you look like (Your pics are all friends only) then they are not going to approach you.

Maybe be a little more proactive and doing the looking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve had plenty of FFM with single ladies, only a few have been directly from chatting on here, the majority are from clubs or parties.

If a couples general motivation to be on fab is FFM meets you’ve not much hope.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Again thank you all...all good advice and good feedback to consider too xx

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By *inkyNinjaWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the rainbow...

I haven’t approached any couples - they’ve always approached me. If I was looking and making the approach I would want to look at pics on a profile without having to make the first contact and subsequently become friends.

I agree with the previous poster - women have struck up the convo with me first. But after the initial contact I like to chat with both the woman and the man to make sure everybody wants the same things.

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

Forget about what you want and start thinking, how do you look and sound when approaching them.

We make an effort to socialise and get to know people before approaching them with anything else. It's a very slow process but has benefited us overall.

Most of our play meets with single women, have been from face to face interaction and it's usually with women we have built a previous non-play history with. It will help by attending parties, events and workshops that are right for you and speak with people.

Once people realise, you're not some desperate couple, they become more relaxed and by asking the right questions without being too intrusive, you'll then start to create a bond.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lots of single ladies at clubs and far easier to meet them there than on here.clubs have private lockable rooms if u wish to be alone

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

All our FFM have come from couples we have already met and play with as a foursome.

We don't actively look for single females and are too suspicious when contact by a single lady to believe they are anything other than a fake profile.

Clubs are you best bet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As people above have said it will probably be better you looking and messaging them .

Ffm is something we would love to experience with a single lady but we actually don’t go actively looking or messaging unless a really nice profile pops up and grabs our attention that we think we would click with going off what they have written . we know ladies get inundated with messages and we just don’t like to be in with the masses of messages for the sake of it unless we feel that we would really match what they are looking for . Maybe we should try harder too haha .

Good luck in your search xx

Mrs xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As people above have said it will probably be better you looking and messaging them .

Good luck in your search xx

Mrs xx "

Totally know what you mean we tend not to approach for the same reasons I think the club feedback from this post is really good....thanks for your post to this thread good luck too xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As people above have said it will probably be better you looking and messaging them .

Good luck in your search xx

Mrs xx

Totally know what you mean we tend not to approach for the same reasons I think the club feedback from this post is really good....thanks for your post to this thread good luck too xx"

Thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First off, we definitely exist

But I agree with some of the above comments, you should really be the ones doing the approaching- and when you do, be sure to send a message that indicates you've read the woman's profile, and a picture of you both attached to the message can go a long way.

I very rarely approach others here, especially couples- I usually wait for them to come to me, so I know that they've read my profile and I'm what they're looking for.

It's definitely doable, good luck in finding your unicorn!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"First off, we definitely exist

I very rarely approach others here, especially couples- I usually wait for them to come to me, so I know that they've read my profile and I'm what they're looking for.

It's definitely doable, good luck in finding your unicorn!"

Hiya, thank you for the valuable insight really appreciate that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My only moan regarding couples is when (& it is nearly always) it's all about what they want and their needs! Well I'm here fo what I want and my needs so try to find a lady with the same wants and include her and her needs 100%. I'm lucky to have a couple and it's 100% a 3way equal thing!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My only moan regarding couples is when (& it is nearly always) it's all about what they want and their needs! Well I'm here fo what I want and my needs so try to find a lady with the same wants and include her and her needs 100%. I'm lucky to have a couple and it's 100% a 3way equal thing!"

Thanks for sharing and yes when we do find our female that will of course be our aim as we appreciate how important that always is x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're always on the lookout for single ladies.. how ever I will confess, I dont do much looking

women have a hard time on here (loads of messages etc).

So we usually hunt at parties

Adam.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our FFM meets are always a 3 way equal thing, hence our “equal way dynamics” strapline

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"M is bi and enjoys being with a woman as part of a couple swap" so why would a single woman approach you, especially when you have no public photos?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

""M is bi and enjoys being with a woman as part of a couple swap" so why would a single woman approach you, especially when you have no public photos?"

We don’t have public photos because of a bad experience the last time we had an account on here....so we keep photos under our friends profile so we can ensure we trust those we share them with.

As for why a single woman would approach us....that’s why we posted and sought advice and feedback....thanks for sharing in the thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate to be asked when it’s help

Me fulfil my mans fantasy style, I’m not from Ann summers u use to spice up

Ur life, I personally would say in a club chances of it happening are highly likely for me as all 3 are there mutually live so no one is talking on behalf everyone can see if there is an attraction etc. I have had friendships with couples and so it can come from there , but as for being invited as the third wheel so to speak, I guess it’s the approach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our FFM meets are always a 3 way equal thing, hence our “equal way dynamics” strapline"

this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So we have never managed to find that all elusive female to join us for some horny/sexy fun?

Preference would be for them to approach us, is that where we are going wrong?

Is it our age? Our profile? Or do they simply not exist lol x

I think expecting a single fem to approach a couple is a very ballsy thing to do.

You need to go to a club, lots of single fems attend and you are more likely to be successful in what you want

Any thoughts from our fellow fabbers? X"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it never used to be rare so something has change maybe the extra woman has got fed up with being viewed as a sextoy maybe ?? ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I adore women and our last MMF was mostly just me sending the gorgeous girl into a frenzy or orgasms ha ha. I love to pleasure women so its definitely not just about us.

We haven't found a woman on fab yet, parties seem to work well but its mostly been part of a couple swap. Simply because that's how it has fallen.

It may help that I play with women alone too so they're certainly not about turning Adam on! I mean, he would be a saint not to be turned on but I'm greedy.

Eve. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't have any public pics so I wouldn't look at you twice.

It's extremely rare for me to approach anyone and I would be unlikely to do so with no public pics.

Veris are good though so well done for getting those.

Us unicorns do tend to spread the word about couples we like, so get yourself a good reputation and that'll help.

Clubs, events and socials are more likely to attract a unicorn. It's safer for us and we're generally greedy bitches so the more, the merrier!

Happy hunting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it never used to be rare so something has change maybe the extra woman has got fed up with being viewed as a sextoy maybe ?? ..

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not seen since 1983, but they were the ff. I was the lucky m...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single female...been on here for 9 weeks & I've been approached by 1 couple in total...I must be doing something wrong!

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"We’ve had plenty of FFM with single ladies, only a few have been directly from chatting on here, the majority are from clubs or parties.

If a couples general motivation to be on fab is FFM meets you’ve not much hope."

Yup, same here, clubs, parties and socials are best for making friends etc.

Bandying about terms like "unicorn" etc will also not do you any favours... they are people, not mythical beasts lol!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You don't have any public pics so I wouldn't look at you twice.

It's extremely rare for me to approach anyone and I would be unlikely to do so with no public pics.

Veris are good though so well done for getting those.

Us unicorns do tend to spread the word about couples we like, so get yourself a good reputation and that'll help.

Clubs, events and socials are more likely to attract a unicorn. It's safer for us and we're generally greedy bitches so the more, the merrier!

Happy hunting

Thank you appreciate the feedback and advice x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I adore women and our last MMF was mostly just me sending the gorgeous girl into a frenzy or orgasms ha ha. I love to pleasure women so its definitely not just about us.

We haven't found a woman on fab yet, parties seem to work well but its mostly been part of a couple swap. Simply because that's how it has fallen.

It may help that I play with women alone too so they're certainly not about turning Adam on! I mean, he would be a saint not to be turned on but I'm greedy.

Eve. X"

Thanks Eve....yep general consensus seems to be to get our butts to a club....thanks for your input and advice, much appreciated x

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I also agree that I would be put off by the lack of public pictures. You don’t need to show your faces or any identifying marks/tattoos. Just something that gives an idea of your personalities.

Also you only have verifications from men, no couples. I know it’s easiest to get veris from men, but again the clubs should help with that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm a single female...been on here for 9 weeks & I've been approached by 1 couple in total...I must be doing something wrong!

Getting some good verifications though

If you’re ever over our way let us know and we will drop you a message and start a ball rolling perhaps x

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