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Is there ANY hope for chubby guys?

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By *0something1965 OP   Man
over a year ago

Belfast

Lots of guys messaging me (seems they like chubby fellas!) but no girls. I love larger ladies but are there any girls who feel the same about chubby or, lets face it, fat guys?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you know that it's your weight that precludes you?

It could be your height, your age, your marital status, any one of or any combination of ...

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By *0something1965 OP   Man
over a year ago

Belfast

Lots of guys effusing about large ladies but no ladies doing the same about big guys.

I check out the profiles of ladies who catch my eye (and many more besides). In their veris, i havent seen any chubby guys. There are a LOT of guys my age in great shape on tbose veris - none in my shape.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lots of guys effusing about large ladies but no ladies doing the same about big guys.

I check out the profiles of ladies who catch my eye (and many more besides). In their veris, i havent seen any chubby guys. There are a LOT of guys my age in great shape on tbose veris - none in my shape. "

My honest opinion ...

Fat guys don't do well with a lot of women

The ones that do tend to be taller, younger and not married

ALL those things will go against you

If you lost weight and came back in another six months, do you think you would fair any better?

I'm not trying to be mean, just realistic

As a fellow short arsed, aging chunk, I feel your frustration, but I do recognise it is a combination of factors that preclude me from meets, not just because I like a pie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lots of guys messaging me (seems they like chubby fellas!) but no girls. I love larger ladies but are there any girls who feel the same about chubby or, lets face it, fat guys? "
always take pics lying down and from above lol

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By *andL-LiverpoolCouple
over a year ago

Huyton

Mrs l here, I'm a fat lady and I totally love fat guys, they are sexy.

I agree the whole bbw community has a lot of following but dont see as much for bhm xx

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By *edbath 5Man
over a year ago

london

Chubby with a little willy here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, I don't think your lack of success on here has anything (or much) to do with your size. I would be looking for reasons elsewhere. You are one of many, many men on here, have no public pics, have to be discreet so that's already two things against you. Why would a woman choose you instead of another guy from thousands available? Is your profile showing you from the best possible angle?

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By *0something1965 OP   Man
over a year ago

Belfast

You have a point! However, im not sure i have a best angle! I naively thought honesty was the best policy but its getting me nowhere. But you cant argue with the stats 25 looks and no messages. Ill look at changing my profile first then losing weight - you never know, might start getting noticed at home then!

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By *0something1965 OP   Man
over a year ago

Belfast


"Mrs l here, I'm a fat lady and I totally love fat guys, they are sexy.

I agree the whole bbw community has a lot of following but dont see as much for bhm xx"

Yeah - this is my take on it too. I am married and have always been tbis size so it must have been the personality that attracted her rather than the looks (esp as shes been trying to get me to lose weight for years). Fat guys per se dont have much of a following

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here’s a mad idea which I’m sure we will be getting some abuse for. Have you thought about getting yourself into better shape? It may improve your sex life but it will improve your normal life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is always someone who will find an attraction, just need to keep looking

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Lots of guys messaging me (seems they like chubby fellas!) but no girls. I love larger ladies but are there any girls who feel the same about chubby or, lets face it, fat guys? "

Chubby and fat are completely different and you have no pics for us to see. I dont mind a chubby man but as long as they are not huge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I love a bigger man , specially when I’m a big girl myself! I love a dad bod!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's definately a size thing and more to do with curvy women having an ego the same size as their appetite in a lot of cases.

I'm 6'2" and a 36" waist and have been called "overweight" many times by over weight women who are looking for muscles and a six pack.

Don't let it bother you, If you're not for them just move on to the next or better still, just try a club.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Married, 54 wanting to meet 18-99, one dubious veri, say your chubby etc but no pics

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Im not sure it’s your size limiting you. You’re married, have no pics, have one veri that looks fake, and have that stupid Facebook bs on your profile. Loads of chubby guys do okay here so maybe you need to lay the blame at another door.

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By *0something1965 OP   Man
over a year ago

Belfast


"Oh I love a bigger man , specially when I’m a big girl myself! I love a dad bod! "

There we go!!! A nice message!! Honestly! It is SOO refreshing to have a little ego massage rather than a barrage of criticism! I understand people wìll not like some aspects of my profile but like my granny said (like EVERYBODY'S granny said!) if you cant say anything nice then...

Thank you x

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By *oul BrothaMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy far far away


"Here’s a mad idea which I’m sure we will be getting some abuse for. Have you thought about getting yourself into better shape? It may improve your sex life but it will improve your normal life. "

You should really take this comment away OP with all due respect. I'm pretty fat myself and am trying to lose weight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loose the weight and your cock gets bigger and you get more girls so win win

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Oh I love a bigger man , specially when I’m a big girl myself! I love a dad bod!

There we go!!! A nice message!! Honestly! It is SOO refreshing to have a little ego massage rather than a barrage of criticism! I understand people wìll not like some aspects of my profile but like my granny said (like EVERYBODY'S granny said!) if you cant say anything nice then...

Thank you x "

Haven't seen any abuse on this thread, just honest opinion. Hard to judge a black silhouette

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By *0something1965 OP   Man
over a year ago

Belfast

Just to clarify- didnt say abuse - said criticism - and it was in private

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s worse for skinny guys. At least larger people can lose weight. Skinny people are stuck like it by nature a lot of the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh I love a bigger man , specially when I’m a big girl myself! I love a dad bod! "

So why haven't you sent me a message.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Ive never found it a problem.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Lots of guys messaging me (seems they like chubby fellas!) but no girls. I love larger ladies but are there any girls who feel the same about chubby or, lets face it, fat guys? "

I’m a large fella, don’t have problems, I have a number of USP’s which I use and negativity it’s one of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to be attracted to guys who are not too thin or fat but my recent bf is very slim sooooo idk just have a good personality and that's what matters.

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By *DreamOfGenieWoman
over a year ago

London


"It's definately a size thing and more to do with curvy women having an ego the same size as their appetite in a lot of cases."

Seriously??!

I'm more attracted to someone with meat on their bones personally...excellent big spoons, great cuddles and more pound for the pushin'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a chubby/big guy i do ok on here but its like alot of other people have said u need to have a decent profile and some pics to get replies and just dont expect a reply from everyone, i have met and talked to plenty of women that prefer a bigger guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's definately a size thing and more to do with curvy women having an ego the same size as their appetite in a lot of cases.

Seriously??!

I'm more attracted to someone with meat on their bones personally...excellent big spoons, great cuddles and more pound for the pushin' "

Love you're chubby ness some one else will

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By *entleman55Man
over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r

Cuddling expert over here x

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By *ornyblue69Man
over a year ago

Wirral

Hope so. Been one for a while now.

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By *ossauMan
over a year ago

Perth


"Mrs l here, I'm a fat lady and I totally love fat guys, they are sexy.

I agree the whole bbw community has a lot of following but dont see as much for bhm xx"

Old fat guy here, who loves your pics & mind!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More cushion for the pushin!

I'm a fat guy, in the process of losing weight though (nearly 3 stone in just under 8 weeks).

Since turning fat a couple of years ago I've found it difficult to date, but a lot of that is down to the confidence I've had in myself.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

To answer your question of whether there’s any hope for chubby guys - yes there is.

However! Some women won’t like your marital status.

Some won’t like your lack of pictures.

Some won’t like how your profile is written.

Some won’t like your lack of veris.

And yes, some won’t like your body shape.

What you need to do is make the most of what you’ve got, change what you can change today (not your weight) and get out there with a positive attitude, making yourself the kind of person that women want to meet.

Because there are plenty of blokes who aren’t married and aren’t overweight who don’t get meets either.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lots of guys messaging me (seems they like chubby fellas!) but no girls. I love larger ladies but are there any girls who feel the same about chubby or, lets face it, fat guys? "

The odds are stacked against you, I am afraid. It seems that on this site, for the most part, women are after guys who can it gym it five times a week because they either have the money or they don't have health issues that stop them from doing exercise. As far as this site alone goes, I wouldn't put hope in it getting you anywhere. Try making friends with some people and going to events. You might have a bit more luck there. Will take a bit of time, so don't expect anything on your first couple of visits. But you're more likely to find someone interested in you there

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Lots of big people in clubs and they seem to get alot of sex..

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By *cottishcockMan
over a year ago

glasgow

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By *cottishcockMan
over a year ago

glasgow

I’m the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course there is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes Ok there are

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Lots of big people in clubs and they seem to get alot of sex.."

Chams reserves Sunday especially

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London


" The odds are stacked against you, I am afraid. It seems that on this site, for the most part, women are after guys who can gym it five times a week.....As far as this site alone goes, I wouldn't put hope in it getting you anywhere. "

Such bullshit I’m afraid, and indicative of many of the men on here to blame looks or over expectant women. I’m pretty far from gym fit, and not great looking, and have an archetypal dad bod. I, and plenty more like me have plenty of socials and meets. It’s about being friendly, trustworthy, imaginative and not believing that the site owes you anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" The odds are stacked against you, I am afraid. It seems that on this site, for the most part, women are after guys who can gym it five times a week.....As far as this site alone goes, I wouldn't put hope in it getting you anywhere.

Such bullshit I’m afraid, and indicative of many of the men on here to blame looks or over expectant women. I’m pretty far from gym fit, and not great looking, and have an archetypal dad bod. I, and plenty more like me have plenty of socials and meets. It’s about being friendly, trustworthy, imaginative and not believing that the site owes you anything. "

Well said,some people really shouldn't speak for other ,for me it's all about the guy himself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lots of guys messaging me (seems they like chubby fellas!) but no girls. I love larger ladies but are there any girls who feel the same about chubby or, lets face it, fat guys?

The odds are stacked against you, I am afraid. It seems that on this site, for the most part, women are after guys who can it gym it five times a week because they either have the money or they don't have health issues that stop them from doing exercise. As far as this site alone goes, I wouldn't put hope in it getting you anywhere. Try making friends with some people and going to events. You might have a bit more luck there. Will take a bit of time, so don't expect anything on your first couple of visits. But you're more likely to find someone interested in you there"

Rubbish

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By *entleman55Man
over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r


" The odds are stacked against you, I am afraid. It seems that on this site, for the most part, women are after guys who can gym it five times a week.....As far as this site alone goes, I wouldn't put hope in it getting you anywhere.

Such bullshit I’m afraid, and indicative of many of the men on here to blame looks or over expectant women. I’m pretty far from gym fit, and not great looking, and have an archetypal dad bod. I, and plenty more like me have plenty of socials and meets. It’s about being friendly, trustworthy, imaginative and not believing that the site owes you anything.

Well said,some people really shouldn't speak for other ,for me it's all about the guy himself "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no hope for any guys, chubby or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like podgy chaps, I don't fancy skinny ones.

Hev

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When it comes to swinging, chubby women get to feel desirable, chubby men fat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When it comes to swinging, chubby women get to feel desirable, chubby men fat."

Another totally rubbish statement

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


" The odds are stacked against you, I am afraid. It seems that on this site, for the most part, women are after guys who can gym it five times a week.....As far as this site alone goes, I wouldn't put hope in it getting you anywhere.

Such bullshit I’m afraid, and indicative of many of the men on here to blame looks or over expectant women. I’m pretty far from gym fit, and not great looking, and have an archetypal dad bod. I, and plenty more like me have plenty of socials and meets. It’s about being friendly, trustworthy, imaginative and not believing that the site owes you anything. "

Agree completely.

Don’t paint yourself as a victim who can’t possibly get anywhere because of your weight / age / height / cock size.

If you’re worth seeing and you can show that, you’ll get plenty of people to meet

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