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By *aul-in-Essex OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford Area

Hate this, I met a girl 2 weeks ago, she is a single Mum of 3 - we hit it off right away, had THE most amazing sex sessions. BUT then she gets all clingy texting all day - asking me deep probing questions, I made it clear from the off that I am in a loving relationship but was looking for NSA fun without any emotional tie. She starts saying that she has fallen in love and want's more commitment from me...................I have had to end it sharpish and I feel awful for her - I did not want to hurt anyone but I can't be dragged into a love you need you type of relationship.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is hard, especially if you were open and honest with her from the outset about what you wanted.

Sounds like she has mistaken the sexual connection for something more personal.

I have had guys do the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Impossible to fall in love with someone within 2 weeks don’t mean this in a disrespectful way but it’s probably lust for her & i’d Stick to your guns taking on someone else 3 kids is a big step to take

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

You never really know what you’re going to feel in the future and at least she felt able to be honest with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was she initially happy for NSA sex? Maybe you are just too good in bed that she can't stop thinking about you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hate this, I met a girl 2 weeks ago, she is a single Mum of 3 - we hit it off right away, had THE most amazing sex sessions. BUT then she gets all clingy texting all day - asking me deep probing questions, I made it clear from the off that I am in a loving relationship but was looking for NSA fun without any emotional tie. She starts saying that she has fallen in love and want's more commitment from me...................I have had to end it sharpish and I feel awful for her - I did not want to hurt anyone but I can't be dragged into a love you need you type of relationship."

i hate this too clingy people yuk massive turn off

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

Quite some time ago I played with a wife on and off for about three years - all my visits to her were 1-on-1, with her husband (who arranged them) not present...

....at one quite early meet, she blurted out "I love you" - and not at a particularly intense moment, which was a bit worrying, but I laughed it off...

....she never said it to me again - I always thought she'd simply confused lust for love...

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By *aul-in-Essex OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford Area

I do think she confused love and lust - or she was more emotionally vulnerable than I anticipated - I hate it because I never wanted to make someone unhappy. TBH we were very compatible in bed and maybe it was too good to be true. Having said that I am adorable

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

well its over now. Maybe one offs are the way forward for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i get it all the time clingy guys as soon as i sense it its given the boot and block time can't be done with it ...i love my man we are solid as a rock yet guys who dont know me or him think they know better lol saying that the first person that did it was years ago way way before fab wanted me to leave him to run of with her she was long time married too these people just plainly and simply dont understand the life style at all im not one person when it comes to swinging we are two the reason it works is because we are two even when i play alone we are still two .. that's how us strong couples in the scene play...

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

The wife who told me she loved me quite early on left her husband for my 'replacement' a few years later...

....couldn't help but wonder if a similar thing happened - but it didn't last, and she went back to him afetr a few months...

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By *aul-in-Essex OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford Area

yep I get that.

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By *aul-in-Essex OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford Area

How rude and judgmental. And yes my Partner is fully aware - and that is why we are still together after 20 years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a good idea. You cant name and shame or discuss messages on here. It's against forum rules.. just report and block

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"That is hard, especially if you were open and honest with her from the outset about what you wanted.

Sounds like she has mistaken the sexual connection for something more personal.

I have had guys do the same.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

You can only control your own conduct not that of others. You where honest with them. It's an unfortunate situation for both of you. Just sometimes the part of the course in this game. All you can do is cut ties.

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By *aul-in-Essex OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford Area

Thank you to all who replied. I have asked ADMIN to delete thread, as I included the name of the messenger in the cut and paste.

I guess it's all a learning experience.

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