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By *eamgreen30 OP   Couple
over a year ago

stroud

Good morning you lovely lot! I was just wondering how many of you keep this lifestyle totally private and who of you are loud and proud. I understand that many of you will need to be discreet due to work and family but are any of you brave enough to spill your guts to a friend?

S x

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Totally discreet would never tell any of our family although if they found out it would not be the end of the world. Similar whilst some of our friends are pretty liberated (we have our suspicion about a few of them) we would never just announce we are swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We was let it be out in the open but a family member is also on this site and sent us a message with a pic...now we keep it private but we do chuckle to ourselves because that family member makes out they are sweet and innocent

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By *llNatural36FWoman
over a year ago

Denbighshire

Most of my friends know but not my family, work would probably freak

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Two vanilla friends know one for safety and one because she saw me reading a message with pics. There's no need for most people to know - my sex life is my sex life, I don't want to know the details of theirs and likewise.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"Two vanilla friends know one for safety and one because she saw me reading a message with pics. There's no need for most people to know - my sex life is my sex life, I don't want to know the details of theirs and likewise. "

The safety thing is imperative ... everyone should take heed of that

Meeting anyone carries risks and just like any ‘date’ site there are weirdos

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By *eamgreen30 OP   Couple
over a year ago

stroud

I suppose for single women, men and those in couples who meet alone, having someone know for safety makes total sense. I never meet alone except for socials with women only. Even then I’ve considered putting a tracking app on my phone so Mr B knows where I am at all times.

For me it’s sometimes very difficult to keep it to myself because it makes me happy! So many people have asked what’s got me smiling and I can’t say “oh well last night I watched my fella fuck the absolute shit out of a girl while I was blowing her bloke” lol. Mr B is a very private person and maybe not quite so open about these things in public so I keep it myself but I do have a hard time doing that sometimes.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"Good morning you lovely lot! I was just wondering how many of you keep this lifestyle totally private and who of you are loud and proud. I understand that many of you will need to be discreet due to work and family but are any of you brave enough to spill your guts to a friend?

S x "

I don't try to hide my swinging past as I believe in total honesty. In this day and age most people are surprisingly Ok with it.

And yes even if I am in a vanilla relationship I do tell them that I have done swinging. Saying that I only ever do swinging if I am single I don't cheat

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Her adult sons, his brother and a few of our vanilla friends know. We are not ashamed of our lifestyle - the friends say it's not for them but they understand it's part of our relationship. Some have asked what we actually do, but we don't go into details. One asked what clubs were like and we said we'd take her... she's thinking about it!

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By *eamgreen30 OP   Couple
over a year ago

stroud


"Good morning you lovely lot! I was just wondering how many of you keep this lifestyle totally private and who of you are loud and proud. I understand that many of you will need to be discreet due to work and family but are any of you brave enough to spill your guts to a friend?

S x

I don't try to hide my swinging past as I believe in total honesty. In this day and age most people are surprisingly Ok with it.

And yes even if I am in a vanilla relationship I do tell them that I have done swinging. Saying that I only ever do swinging if I am single I don't cheat

"

It would only be cheating if the other person didn’t also enjoy the lifestyle

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Not exactly load and proud but don't lie about it.

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By *ffanotdykeCouple
over a year ago

Telford

18 months ago some one, we are not absolutely sure who,made a point of telling our famili]y and work colleaques of our membership at Chameleons. It caused us a great deal of grief.Some members of our family are still not speaking to us as they have been talked about in our relatively small community.

The A***hole took a great deal of effort to hide thier identity.

One day we will get the proof we need and then scores will be settled.

G&A

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By *portyndNaughtyMan
over a year ago

Nearby Hinckley

Totally private I wouldn’t dare to open up to my closest friends.

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

My sister sort of found out and knows I swing. She is a prude and thinks I'll go to hell but we're sisters so are bound for life!

I have a GF who knows and I text before every new meet (and she does the same) and that's for safety. The blokes I meet know that this friend of mine is aware they are meeting me that moment.

Other than that, my private life is my private life. However I don't make a huge effort to keep things totally secret. If guys come to my place they can be (and I'm sure have been) seen by neighbours and I'm sure neighbours have seen them either leaving at late o'clock or their cars parked overnight. I'm sure have been seen kissing different men in public over the years.

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By *unshine05Man
over a year ago

,

Keep it private, like to keep my private life private

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By *ioletVixenMrBlueBiCouple
over a year ago

northwich

Some of our friends know, it was one of our friends who encouraged us to sign up to Fab as we were nervous to take the plunge for ages to start with. The people in my team at work know, I don’t know about anybody else at work but if they do they haven’t said anything. I wouldn’t want family knowing though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally private

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Stafford

1 friend knows. We don't actively chat about it though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In. No one would believe me anyway as I am so boring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few of our friends know but we're not that far into our journey yet so we're still keeping it discreet. If it's something that we feel will certainly be a large part of our life in the future then we won't hide it from anyone, but certainly won't be shouting about it either. We already know what we'd say to the kids or our parents if they found out, if it was friends or acquaintances who asked then we'd just say "yes, we do, you interested in knowing more?"

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By *inkyCouple1927Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle

A few of our friends know, but we’ve not told family. On the friends front, we don’t see why they’d have a reason to judge - it’s our sex life after all...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely wouldn’t share with family but we have dropped subtle hints to friends from time to time.

I told outright a close friend recently and he was cool about it, intrigued and then asked when we were going to invite him to join us ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst I don't think I have ever talked about the details of my sex life because just why? But about sex omg we're open as lol again I would never just bring up swinging, just why? Lol ... but I've never hidden the fact that I'm open sexually ... let's face it, I've been happily single for 26 years and openly always had fwbs so it's pretty much common knowledge. Yes my family and friends all know ... would I share details? Never but the odd funny story is great to share!!

It's a small part of a brilliant life and as part of me nothing to be ashamed of ... and I have never felt judged in any way ever! All is good in the world

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Several of my friends are aware.

They are kinky, but monagamous.

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