FabSwingers.com forum: false or cheesey flattery

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

is the anyone else who hates false / cheesey flattery it seems every single message now is

hi babe

hi hun

hi sexy

hi beautiful

hi gorgeous

i really find it annoying what makes it worse is there is no face pic on me profile either ? i can't be the only one it annoy's can i ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know how annoying some words can be especially if a person doesn't know you.

But the first two even women use them on guys.

Surely it's just a modern annoying greeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"is the anyone else who hates false / cheesey flattery it seems every single message now is

hi babe

hi hun

hi sexy

hi beautiful

hi gorgeous

i really find it annoying what makes it worse is there is no face pic on me profile either ? i can't be the only one it annoy's can i ?

As soon as I see something like that in a message it's an instant delete. It makes me shudder and immediately puts me off. I don't feel annoyed about it thoug but sometimes do think to myself "shame they've put this in a message as I liked the profile and would have been interested in chatting".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"is the anyone else who hates false / cheesey flattery it seems every single message now is

hi babe

hi hun

hi sexy

hi beautiful

hi gorgeous

i really find it annoying what makes it worse is there is no face pic on me profile either ? i can't be the only one it annoy's can i ?

Totally agree.

Usually sent with a dick pic and from a blank avatar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate messages that end with a xx. No idea why but really really puts me off!

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By *otwife for useCouple
over a year ago

manchester

First few words have you delete no thought blank profile etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Disgusting way to start a message, would you prefer....

Dear Greedy Wife ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are just informal greetings with no negative intentions!

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

"I hate messages that end with a xx. No idea why but really really puts me off!"

How about just one x lol

Babe, hun or what ever aren’t fake charms, I use em just as words of endearment

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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

So now people are wrong for saying hello?

Would you prefer ‘dear madam’?

Any excuse to have a go...sad really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"is the anyone else who hates false / cheesey flattery it seems every single message now is

hi babe

hi hun

hi sexy

hi beautiful

hi gorgeous

i really find it annoying what makes it worse is there is no face pic on me profile either ? i can't be the only one it annoy's can i ?

For me when it’s with wow you look great/ hi beautiful. No public pics at all so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So rather than making this another moan thread, how about advising what people should include as a greeting???

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

"So rather than making this another moan thread, how about advising what people should include as a greeting???"

Good call ... less of the negative shot and more the up beat

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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

"So rather than making this another moan thread, how about advising what people should include as a greeting???"

Well said - perhaps ‘to whom it may concern’?

Remember, you can’t ask how people are and you can’t ask what they’re up to either. You can’t ask what they’re looking for. You cannot compliment them or even obliquely mention sex. You can’t ask what they do for work or what they do in their spare time. You can’t ask about their family or what they like or dislike in life.

Yet you’re supposed to be immediately interesting; funny; engaging; unique; cool; and attractive.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I don't mind babe or whatever (cheeky or trouble I do dislike). But I'm sure every woman rolls her eyes with the compliments sometimes. Some are genuine. But no, I'm not better than Fab. I'm not the most gorgeous woman on Fab. Shouting (via all caps) how hot you think I am makes you look deranged.

And most of the compliments are obviously copy-pasted and sent to everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use 'hun' or 'hunny' even face to face. Nobody would dare to complain

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"is the anyone else who hates false / cheesey flattery it seems every single message now is

hi babe

hi hun

hi sexy

hi beautiful

hi gorgeous

i really find it annoying what makes it worse is there is no face pic on me profile either ? i can't be the only one it annoy's can i ?

They just sound like naff messages from men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate messages that end with a xx. No idea why but really really puts me off!

How about just one x lol

Babe, hun or what ever aren’t fake charms, I use em just as words of endearment "

That's how I view them. I may not like the term babe, but I read it in the context it is made. A common term of endearment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So rather than making this another moan thread, how about advising what people should include as a greeting???

Well said - perhaps ‘to whom it may concern’?

Yet you’re supposed to be immediately interesting; funny; engaging; unique; cool; and attractive.

I think some would also complain about the lack of messages, should they not have the volume to discount.

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By *coxy69Man
over a year ago

Stone

I have often seen pictures on profiles and think WOW!, when this happens I send a message but I always start by saying ‘i’m Not expecting a response”

The complement is ALWAYS GENUINE

You can either take it or leave it, no response required

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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

[Removed by poster at 08/08/19 08:55:52]

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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

"I hate messages that end with a xx. No idea why but really really puts me off!

How about just one x lol

Babe, hun or what ever aren’t fake charms, I use em just as words of endearment

That's how I view them. I may not like the term babe, but I read it in the context it is made. A common term of endearment

Absolutely - bit like saying “hello mate” to a guy even if you don’t know the man

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Given that this is a non instant text based format, you do actually have time to collect your thoughts. There's no need to be daft or inane.

I do like the compliments I consider genuine (although I don't always reply). But the highly exaggerated or generic just make me roll my eyes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Disgusting way to start a message, would you prefer....

Dear Greedy Wife ?"

yep 100% greedy wifey or wifey or just a plain hi will suit me fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So now people are wrong for saying hello?

Would you prefer ‘dear madam’?

Any excuse to have a go...sad really "

??but its not hello is it and as for any excuse to have a go ? really ? ive read far far worse on the forums but im having a go yeah right course i am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have often seen pictures on profiles and think WOW!, when this happens I send a message but I always start by saying ‘i’m Not expecting a response”

The complement is ALWAYS GENUINE

You can either take it or leave it, no response required

i do leave it every one deleted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate messages that end with a xx. No idea why but really really puts me off!

How about just one x lol

Babe, hun or what ever aren’t fake charms, I use em just as words of endearment

That's how I view them. I may not like the term babe, but I read it in the context it is made. A common term of endearment

Absolutely - bit like saying “hello mate” to a guy even if you don’t know the man "

its nothing like saying ello mate ? at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first joined fab, I had no photos at all but would get messages saying "love your pics",

"You are beautiful", "great body babe".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"is the anyone else who hates false / cheesey flattery it seems every single message now is

hi babe

hi hun

hi sexy

hi beautiful

hi gorgeous

i really find it annoying what makes it worse is there is no face pic on me profile either ? i can't be the only one it annoy's can i ?

Annoying enough to leave it would seem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i just wanna be call jen nothing else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't stand them. Complete lack of imagination.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"When I first joined fab, I had no photos at all but would get messages saying "love your pics",

"You are beautiful", "great body babe".

Yup. All the time

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

"I hate messages that end with a xx. No idea why but really really puts me off!

How about just one x lol

Babe, hun or what ever aren’t fake charms, I use em just as words of endearment

That's how I view them. I may not like the term babe, but I read it in the context it is made. A

common term of endearment

Hi babe ... lol ..... close by I see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like babe, hun etc unless it's someone I know. And I don't like smutty talk (not genuine sexy talk). Makes the guy sound immature. But it s out the ones I won't want to meet!

I guess a simple 'hello' to start a message is best. Can't remember how FWB started his first message to me, but it must have hit the right note lol

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I sort of have an eye roll limit. Most of these things I'll overlook, but it gets to a certain point and I go, oh god, enough, ugh.

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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

"I hate messages that end with a xx. No idea why but really really puts me off!

How about just one x lol

Babe, hun or what ever aren’t fake charms, I use em just as words of endearment

That's how I view them. I may not like the term babe, but I read it in the context it is made. A common term of endearment

Absolutely - bit like saying “hello mate” to a guy even if you don’t know the man

its nothing like saying ello mate ? at all"

I didn’t say “ello mate” I said “hello mate”.

Why is it nothing like it?

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By *anDare70Man
over a year ago

kirkby

"is the anyone else who hates false / cheesey flattery it seems every single message now is

hi babe

hi hun

hi sexy

hi beautiful

hi gorgeous

i really find it annoying what makes it worse is there is no face pic on me profile either ? i can't be the only one it annoy's can i ?

If there is any going spare I’ll happily receive it. I’m shallow like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just an initial hello or hello hrglass.

Mentioning something specific to my profile or pictures so I know it's not a simple cut and paste to multiple women.

I love humour too, so often something funny or quirky will grab my attention.

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