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By *ee whizz40 OP   Man
over a year ago

glenrothes

Hi all I fancy doing some of the local clubs but I would prefer someone else to go with but although lots say they want to go many don't actually want too when the time comes to going.

I know I will end up going myself but what's the best way to find a sexy single that wants to do the club scene with someone. Been here a while now so know how hard it is to find a like minded friend ?? .

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Hi all I fancy doing some of the local clubs but I would prefer someone else to go with but although lots say they want to go many don't actually want too when the time comes to going.

I know I will end up going myself but what's the best way to find a sexy single that wants to do the club scene with someone. Been here a while now so know how hard it is to find a like minded friend ?? ."

Think of it from the sexy singles point of view, just like on here, she'll get plenty of attention in a club. Just because you walk through the door together, it doesn't mean she'll stay with you, within 5 minutes she could hook up with a guy or couple and leave you on your own.

I know that would dent my ego. Your best bet is go on a newbie night, you won't be the only one attending for the first time either then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you want to go with someone?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

And also, am I accountable if this person misbehaves? Does this person think they're entitled to sex with me because we've come together? Is it just a means to a cheaper club night?

It's a no from me unless I'm going with someone I already know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And also, am I accountable if this person misbehaves? Does this person think they're entitled to sex with me because we've come together? Is it just a means to a cheaper club night?

It's a no from me unless I'm going with someone I already know. "

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

Just go on your own the first few times. It's just easier. Just remember that polite banter goes a long way. No need to be raucous but if you can hold a decent conversation it helps. Just try not to be too introverted!

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By *ee whizz40 OP   Man
over a year ago

glenrothes

Just been trying to find someone as open minded as me who wants to go to clubs. That's all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just been trying to find someone as open minded as me who wants to go to clubs. That's all. "

But you’re likely to find someone there

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"Just been trying to find someone as open minded as me who wants to go to clubs. That's all. "

Oddly enough, the best place to find someone like that would probably be in a club

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm just saying those are the reasons I wouldn't (ever) go with a stranger.

Go on your own. It's not the end of the world.

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only


"Hi all I fancy doing some of the local clubs but I would prefer someone else to go with but although lots say they want to go many don't actually want too when the time comes to going.

I know I will end up going myself but what's the best way to find a sexy single that wants to do the club scene with someone. Been here a while now so know how hard it is to find a like minded friend ?? .

Think of it from the sexy singles point of view, just like on here, she'll get plenty of attention in a club. Just because you walk through the door together, it doesn't mean she'll stay with you, within 5 minutes she could hook up with a guy or couple and leave you on your own.

I know that would dent my ego. Your best bet is go on a newbie night, you won't be the only one attending for the first time either then "

your best bet is going alone & becoming friends with a single already into the clubs, I wouldn't & I don't think many other singles would go along with someone they didn't know, after all you wont know how they will react should you not find them attractive but prefer someone else once you get there.

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By *ee whizz40 OP   Man
over a year ago

glenrothes

Her going away and enjoying her self not an issue. I am very open to the sharing that the club's bring into play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Her going away and enjoying her self not an issue. I am very open to the sharing that the club's bring into play.

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If you click reply+quote we’ll know who you’re replying to

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Her going away and enjoying her self not an issue. I am very open to the sharing that the club's bring into play.

"

With respect, lots of guys say that and women are given lots of reasons not to believe it.

You're extremely unlikely to find someone to go with unless you know them already. I'm not trying to kill your fun, just telling you how it is for me and many other women.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Her going away and enjoying her self not an issue. I am very open to the sharing that the club's bring into play.

"

Sharing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Her going away and enjoying her self not an issue. I am very open to the sharing that the club's bring into play.

"

Also, sharing?

Women (and people) aren’t property, they aren’t to be ‘shared’

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Her going away and enjoying her self not an issue. I am very open to the sharing that the club's bring into play.

Also, sharing?

Women (and people) aren’t property, they aren’t to be ‘shared’ "

Mmhm.

This is exactly why I don't go with strangers.

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only


"Her going away and enjoying her self not an issue. I am very open to the sharing that the club's bring into play.

"

but if shes only gone with you for the sake of going to a club accompanied its not really sharing is it? unless you are expecting her to partake as a 'couple' with you

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

He could have meant the sharing of the experience... but I wouldn't chance it.

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By *ee whizz40 OP   Man
over a year ago

glenrothes


"Why do you want to go with someone?"

Just thought it would be good to go with another. Go most places myself anyway. Finding a like minded fun friend would be the real reason.

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only


"He could have meant the sharing of the experience... but I wouldn't chance it. "

possibly but im with you on that, I wouldn't/don't take the chance either

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Going with a friend can be great.

Going with a stranger... likely somewhere between not great and disastrous (as a woman anyway).

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By *ain and sortedMan
over a year ago

Old Harlow Essex

I often go on my own and have met some great people there , some go just for the thrill of the night get nawty and forget, others become club friends. More often you go the more likely people see you as a person not just a single bloke twat haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (male) used to go alone before I got with Mrs always had a great time. Just stay polite don't over step peoples boundaries and you will make some great friends and you will have lots of good times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why not put an add for a club companion in "Meets & events"

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By *ee whizz40 OP   Man
over a year ago

glenrothes


"why not put an add for a club companion in "Meets & events""

now that's a possibility. And maybe the best answer yet.

But already way to much negative vibes on this subject of finding someone to go with. So stay clear of the clubs for now.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"why not put an add for a club companion in "Meets & events"

now that's a possibility. And maybe the best answer yet.

But already way to much negative vibes on this subject of finding someone to go with. So stay clear of the clubs for now. "

What's negative about it? Would you rather we lie?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t call it negative vibes! It’s just telling you what is the best to do

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

why is it always negative when its not what someone wants to hear

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By *ee whizz40 OP   Man
over a year ago

glenrothes


"why is it always negative when its not what someone wants to hear "

Just personally just don't want the grief of it. Just thought i'd ask a question and most are say "no going to happen" and that's negative to me. (Not me personally) to the idea of going with someone in general. So in short I'll just keep doing what I do and I might turn up at a club someday. But more than likely not.

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By *racy_JacksWoman
over a year ago

Derby

Organised socials can be good for this. I generally prefer not to go alone and every time I've been this year it has been with guys I've met at these events.

You can find them in the meet request and parties section.

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By *inocchio1Man
over a year ago

wakefield

Go on your own, just look at it as socialising with like minded people, if something else happens that's a bonus

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I won’t go to a club with someone unless I know them and like them. The point to me is to enjoy the club experience with that person - I’m no one’s ticket in.

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By *inkyman1964Man
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent


"why is it always negative when its not what someone wants to hear

Just personally just don't want the grief of it. Just thought i'd ask a question and most are say "no going to happen" and that's negative to me. (Not me personally) to the idea of going with someone in general. So in short I'll just keep doing what I do and I might turn up at a club someday. But more than likely not. "

Just leave those single ladies who go to Swinger's Clubs on their own to the single guys who go on their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As an experienced swinger/ club lover I personally tend to stay away from newbies who want to go to a club they all say just a social but you get there and they expect so much more.

Do not be scared of going to a club on your own it can be daunting but as long as you are polite and respect boundaries you will be ok the more you go the more likely you will meet someone to play with. I would suggest going to a newbie club night or try a local munch

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