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By *tacey4u OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Norwich

I've been here for a number of years but hardly ever discover dom girls. Stereo typically those I have discovered tend to be bbw. Is there a better place to meet girls who like sub partners and the illusive Mrs Grey. Love to hear your thoughts on this topic.

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

I can be very dominant with a real woman, but never with a guy

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By *tacey4u OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Norwich

I guess there are simply more sub females than dominant ones about in fab land x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of us don't tend to shout about it because often the men that attracts are too submissive

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By *tacey4u OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Norwich

I guess there are many levels of sub or Dom but that's expected. There is just a huge gap in the number of sub to Dom profiles. Oh to meet a dom female who likes sub tvs x

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Stafford

We do exist. But if we all liked and wanted the same things it would be a very boring world.

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By *tacey4u OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Norwich

We all have likes and dislikes but there is still a big gap in fab land. I should maybe post an add for lightly sub Cd seeks hot mildly Dom female??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (female) prefer not to advertise this side of my sexual personality on our profile.

Its very infrequent that I let that side of my personality out to play. I like to let the urges build up within me for a very long time as this makes the playtime more intense.

When the need to play this role is required we would seek a suitable sub for ourselves.

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By *tacey4u OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Norwich

It's just all very complicated. I'd give my cock to a woman who is Dom.... This still doesn't answer why those few Dom females tend to be larger or bbw?

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Stafford


"It's just all very complicated. I'd give my cock to a woman who is Dom.... This still doesn't answer why those few Dom females tend to be larger or bbw? "

Does it really matter why?

And it seems you're putting 2+2 together and making 6.

Just because you've seen more women who aren't what society deems as acceptable doesn't mean that smaller women aren't Dom.

Or maybe some of us larger women are comfortable in our own skin and know who we are, allowing us to let our son side out. But it comes across as you're after s Dom but she has to be skinny. Therefore making the tick boxes harder to tick.

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Maybe best stick you’re hand in pocket for this experience, so you can pick and choose your kick better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

I am not sub. Maybe not dom enough, but more so than sub.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole


"I've been here for a number of years but hardly ever discover dom girls. Stereo typically those I have discovered tend to be bbw. Is there a better place to meet girls who like sub partners and the illusive Mrs Grey. Love to hear your thoughts on this topic. "

Maybe try looking for a Domme = female, rather than a Dom = male. You may be better off on another Fet (ilfe) rearrange letters site.

Yes, Dommes like me exsist. This is a swinging site for swingers. So I don't let my Domme out to play often.

We're going to Lam, Oi this Sunday. A summer Fetish event. I will be very much a sub to my Dom.

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By *obi_DDCouple
over a year ago

Dundee

I'm a Domme but there doesn't seem to be as much demand on here so I've not bothered advertising much.

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By *ylonSlutTV/TS
over a year ago

Durham

OP you are going to be fishing in a very small pool on here. As pointed out above a more specific website is going to have more of what you seek, although you will still be in a massive majority. I found the easiest way to meet dominant women was via munches and clubs, have met dommes via online but that requires lots of time effort and patience. As for more bbw women being dominant can't really comment as someones size is pretty irrelevant to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I quite like a dominant woman, bur irs nice to flip and change depending on mood. I generally find ive always been the dominant one in relationships

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP you are going to be fishing in a very small pool on here. As pointed out above a more specific website is going to have more of what you seek, although you will still be in a massive majority. I found the easiest way to meet dominant women was via munches and clubs, have met dommes via online but that requires lots of time effort and patience. As for more bbw women being dominant can't really comment as someones size is pretty irrelevant to me."

Well said

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By *r_GirthMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Have a wierd fantasy about being dommed by a butch lesbian type.

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By *r_GirthMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"Have a wierd fantasy about being dommed by a butch lesbian type."

I also have a strange funtasy in which I can spell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs can be very demanding shhhhh!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some of us don't tend to shout about it because often the men that attracts are too submissive "

In my experience they tend to be intense, clingy, try to say what they think you want to hear and initially top from the bottom.

Submission isn't just letting a domme sit on top ... just saying

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Some of us don't tend to shout about it because often the men that attracts are too submissive

In my experience they tend to be intense, clingy, try to say what they think you want to hear and initially top from the bottom.

Submission isn't just letting a domme sit on top ... just saying "

This ^^

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By *tacey4u OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Norwich

Gutted that you're in Dundee x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been dominated before and loved it. Love to try again

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By *ister KinkyMan
over a year ago

Sussex

I’m currently a bottom leaning switch, but I’ve had fully D/s relationships in the past and don’t take any notice of the person’s size. It’s the mental connection, trust, understanding and loyalty that matters. That can take years to develop and certainly isn’t skin deep.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

OP Dommes looking for male gendered subs are the unicorns of the kink/fetish world and as such very rare to find, and tend to have very exacting standards around what they are looking for, and expect any potential submissives to meet those standards knowing full well they are fishing in a very big pool that is filled to the brim with eager subs.

Your best bet is to become as knowledgeable as you can about your submission what it means to you, what you are looking for in a dominant etc etc and then spend time at munches and on sites catered more to the kink world - there are Dommes here but as this thread alone has shown most of them don't tend to use this site to look for submissives.

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By *otwife for useCouple
over a year ago

manchester

We have a bitch and occasionally let another one in

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By *tacey4u OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Norwich


"We have a bitch and occasionally let another one in "

Sounds like i should apply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have a bitch and occasionally let another one in "

Knock knock

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By *ucky88oMan
over a year ago

london

It is hard to find a dominant female here.

In my opinion i think they may doubt the subs genuine intentions.

I also think some claiming to be subs may make it difficult for the genuine ones out there.

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By *othicslaveCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

I can be but generally towards a man its hard to be dom as its natural to be submissive i think ,well it is to me anyhows, love being controlled ect mmmm

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By *othicslaveCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is hard to find a dominant female here.

In my opinion i think they may doubt the subs genuine intentions.

I also think some claiming to be subs may make it difficult for the genuine ones out there."

On the other side some claiming to be dommes and wanting to only take advantage can also make it more difficult. Unfortunately fakes sit on both sides of the coin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every so often I encounter someone who I think might be the one. Then after a long drawn out conversation I'm asked to buy them an Amazon gift card!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I chatted with a domme on another site once.

She was gorgeous and had her own dungeon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely well dominant at the beginning

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south


"Absolutely well dominant at the beginning "
I agree with naughty and nice , I don't advise or advertise my wants on here , Best to leave a little to the imagination

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By *igcockman37Man
over a year ago

Cyberspace

Would love to find a dominate Woman/Couple who likes camchats.

Maybe someone here looking for a camslave? Please contact me

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By *ylonSlutTV/TS
over a year ago

Durham


"Would love to find a dominate Woman/Couple who likes camchats.

Maybe someone here looking for a camslave? Please contact me"

In my nearly 20 years in the bdsm scene i have yet to come across any dominant lady that is into this or one that does it except for financial reward. But good luck in your search.

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By *laveofwomenMan
over a year ago

Warwickshire

I'm very much a slave and would love to one day be owned by a dominant woman and to do exactly as I'm told when I'm told

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"Some of us don't tend to shout about it because often the men that attracts are too submissive

In my experience they tend to be intense, clingy, try to say what they think you want to hear and initially top from the bottom.

Submission isn't just letting a domme sit on top ... just saying

This ^^"

Yes, all of this. It's why I have found 2 men in 20 years I'm happy to have sub to me.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"OP Dommes looking for male gendered subs are the unicorns of the kink/fetish world and as such very rare to find, and tend to have very exacting standards around what they are looking for, and expect any potential submissives to meet those standards knowing full well they are fishing in a very big pool that is filled to the brim with eager subs.

Your best bet is to become as knowledgeable as you can about your submission what it means to you, what you are looking for in a dominant etc etc and then spend time at munches and on sites catered more to the kink world - there are Dommes here but as this thread alone has shown most of them don't tend to use this site to look for submissives."

Knowing yourself, your submission and why you submit is hugely important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't consider my self a very submissive man, but there is something about the thought of a dominant lady which does something for me.

However I think finding a Domme who does it for her own pleasure and not financial gain is almost impossible.

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By *laveofwomenMan
over a year ago

Warwickshire


"I don't consider my self a very submissive man, but there is something about the thought of a dominant lady which does something for me.

However I think finding a Domme who does it for her own pleasure and not financial gain is almost impossible.

"

But a true slave would give his owner financial tributes and gifts to show his devotion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't consider my self a very submissive man, but there is something about the thought of a dominant lady which does something for me.

However I think finding a Domme who does it for her own pleasure and not financial gain is almost impossible.

But a true slave would give his owner financial tributes and gifts to show his devotion "

And a true domme doesn't need it. Thats a paid for service.

If that's what you want to do then you can go online and take your pick out of mistress dommes.

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By *eamgreen30Couple
over a year ago

stroud

I am a Domme I own a sub called Baby. I fear we are few and far between tho. Proper dominant women that is, not those that fancy telling someone what to do. It takes balls (kind of) to punish someone properly. You have to be confident and sure with everything you do with your sub. The point is to gain trust where your sub will do whatever you wish. Can’t do that unless you can satisfy their needs. Most women think they like the idea of crushing a mans balls under their heel, but many won’t actually go through with it properly.

S x

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By *eamgreen30Couple
over a year ago

stroud


"I don't consider my self a very submissive man, but there is something about the thought of a dominant lady which does something for me.

However I think finding a Domme who does it for her own pleasure and not financial gain is almost impossible.

But a true slave would give his owner financial tributes and gifts to show his devotion

And a true domme doesn't need it. Thats a paid for service.

If that's what you want to do then you can go online and take your pick out of mistress dommes. "

Exactly this!! A real domme is an independent woman who shouldn’t need to bribe their sub or expect financial gains. I don’t even have sex with my sub, that’s not what he needs. He might want to fuck me but the knowledge that he never will is enough.

S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't consider my self a very submissive man, but there is something about the thought of a dominant lady which does something for me.

However I think finding a Domme who does it for her own pleasure and not financial gain is almost impossible.

But a true slave would give his owner financial tributes and gifts to show his devotion

And a true domme doesn't need it. Thats a paid for service.

If that's what you want to do then you can go online and take your pick out of mistress dommes.

Exactly this!! A real domme is an independent woman who shouldn’t need to bribe their sub or expect financial gains. I don’t even have sex with my sub, that’s not what he needs. He might want to fuck me but the knowledge that he never will is enough.

S x "

Right

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

First off there is no such thing as a "true" or "real" Domme. Domination and submission is highly subjectve. It also doesn't have to involve the giving or recieving of pain or 'punishment' thats sadomasochism. (a Domme can be sadistic and a sadist can have no desire for submission from their bottom)

Regarding gifts: if someones love language is recievng gifts then it makes sense that they would appreciate a submissive showing their devotion by giving gifts. From a purely practical sense the costs of outfits and toys can run into the thousands, why wouldn't I appreciate some of that cost being covered by a submissive?

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By *laveofwomenMan
over a year ago

Warwickshire


"First off there is no such thing as a "true" or "real" Domme. Domination and submission is highly subjectve. It also doesn't have to involve the giving or recieving of pain or 'punishment' thats sadomasochism. (a Domme can be sadistic and a sadist can have no desire for submission from their bottom)

Regarding gifts: if someones love language is recievng gifts then it makes sense that they would appreciate a submissive showing their devotion by giving gifts. From a purely practical sense the costs of outfits and toys can run into the thousands, why wouldn't I appreciate some of that cost being covered by a submissive?"

From my point of view I would serve my owner however she wanted me to. So if it was gifts I would happily do as I'm told and get her what she wanted or if she wanted be to kneel and be her foot stool for the night again I would happily say thank you and get on my hands and knees

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First off there is no such thing as a "true" or "real" Domme. Domination and submission is highly subjectve. It also doesn't have to involve the giving or recieving of pain or 'punishment' thats sadomasochism. (a Domme can be sadistic and a sadist can have no desire for submission from their bottom)

Regarding gifts: if someones love language is recievng gifts then it makes sense that they would appreciate a submissive showing their devotion by giving gifts. From a purely practical sense the costs of outfits and toys can run into the thousands, why wouldn't I appreciate some of that cost being covered by a submissive?

From my point of view I would serve my owner however she wanted me to. So if it was gifts I would happily do as I'm told and get her what she wanted or if she wanted be to kneel and be her foot stool for the night again I would happily say thank you and get on my hands and knees "

Would you give my ex £500 and wash her car for her, then be done and leave?

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By *laveofwomenMan
over a year ago

Warwickshire


"First off there is no such thing as a "true" or "real" Domme. Domination and submission is highly subjectve. It also doesn't have to involve the giving or recieving of pain or 'punishment' thats sadomasochism. (a Domme can be sadistic and a sadist can have no desire for submission from their bottom)

Regarding gifts: if someones love language is recievng gifts then it makes sense that they would appreciate a submissive showing their devotion by giving gifts. From a purely practical sense the costs of outfits and toys can run into the thousands, why wouldn't I appreciate some of that cost being covered by a submissive?

From my point of view I would serve my owner however she wanted me to. So if it was gifts I would happily do as I'm told and get her what she wanted or if she wanted be to kneel and be her foot stool for the night again I would happily say thank you and get on my hands and knees

Would you give my ex £500 and wash her car for her, then be done and leave? "

If it got to the point where we had built up trust and she was the owner of me then as her slave and property of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First off there is no such thing as a "true" or "real" Domme. Domination and submission is highly subjectve. It also doesn't have to involve the giving or recieving of pain or 'punishment' thats sadomasochism. (a Domme can be sadistic and a sadist can have no desire for submission from their bottom)

Regarding gifts: if someones love language is recievng gifts then it makes sense that they would appreciate a submissive showing their devotion by giving gifts. From a purely practical sense the costs of outfits and toys can run into the thousands, why wouldn't I appreciate some of that cost being covered by a submissive?"

The thing is most dommes who I have come across are only in it for the money. They're seeking suckers who are stupid enough to give them money and that is the joy for them.

Where others do it because they like the feeling of being in control and the goal isn't the cash/gifts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First off there is no such thing as a "true" or "real" Domme. Domination and submission is highly subjectve. It also doesn't have to involve the giving or recieving of pain or 'punishment' thats sadomasochism. (a Domme can be sadistic and a sadist can have no desire for submission from their bottom)

Regarding gifts: if someones love language is recievng gifts then it makes sense that they would appreciate a submissive showing their devotion by giving gifts. From a purely practical sense the costs of outfits and toys can run into the thousands, why wouldn't I appreciate some of that cost being covered by a submissive?

From my point of view I would serve my owner however she wanted me to. So if it was gifts I would happily do as I'm told and get her what she wanted or if she wanted be to kneel and be her foot stool for the night again I would happily say thank you and get on my hands and knees

Would you give my ex £500 and wash her car for her, then be done and leave?

If it got to the point where we had built up trust and she was the owner of me then as her slave and property of course "

You would get bankrupt very easily. You are a prime example of what 95% of these so called mistress dommes are seeking.

Just a pay pig.

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By *laveofwomenMan
over a year ago

Warwickshire


"First off there is no such thing as a "true" or "real" Domme. Domination and submission is highly subjectve. It also doesn't have to involve the giving or recieving of pain or 'punishment' thats sadomasochism. (a Domme can be sadistic and a sadist can have no desire for submission from their bottom)

Regarding gifts: if someones love language is recievng gifts then it makes sense that they would appreciate a submissive showing their devotion by giving gifts. From a purely practical sense the costs of outfits and toys can run into the thousands, why wouldn't I appreciate some of that cost being covered by a submissive?

From my point of view I would serve my owner however she wanted me to. So if it was gifts I would happily do as I'm told and get her what she wanted or if she wanted be to kneel and be her foot stool for the night again I would happily say thank you and get on my hands and knees

Would you give my ex £500 and wash her car for her, then be done and leave?

If it got to the point where we had built up trust and she was the owner of me then as her slave and property of course

You would get bankrupt very easily. You are a prime example of what 95% of these so called mistress dommes are seeking.

Just a pay pig. "

Sorry you know me well do you?

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"The thing is most dommes who I have come across are only in it for the money. They're seeking suckers who are stupid enough to give them money and that is the joy for them.

Where others do it because they like the feeling of being in control and the goal isn't the cash/gifts. "

I'd suggest you are looking in the wrong places.

Approaching people online is always going to mean you're more likely to encounter people who use this as a source of income although financial domination is a genuine fetish so I'd suggest you stop calling them 'suckers'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First off there is no such thing as a "true" or "real" Domme. Domination and submission is highly subjectve. It also doesn't have to involve the giving or recieving of pain or 'punishment' thats sadomasochism. (a Domme can be sadistic and a sadist can have no desire for submission from their bottom)

Regarding gifts: if someones love language is recievng gifts then it makes sense that they would appreciate a submissive showing their devotion by giving gifts. From a purely practical sense the costs of outfits and toys can run into the thousands, why wouldn't I appreciate some of that cost being covered by a submissive?

From my point of view I would serve my owner however she wanted me to. So if it was gifts I would happily do as I'm told and get her what she wanted or if she wanted be to kneel and be her foot stool for the night again I would happily say thank you and get on my hands and knees

Would you give my ex £500 and wash her car for her, then be done and leave?

If it got to the point where we had built up trust and she was the owner of me then as her slave and property of course

You would get bankrupt very easily. You are a prime example of what 95% of these so called mistress dommes are seeking.

Just a pay pig.

Sorry you know me well do you? "

What you say is enough. Too eager.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thing is most dommes who I have come across are only in it for the money. They're seeking suckers who are stupid enough to give them money and that is the joy for them.

Where others do it because they like the feeling of being in control and the goal isn't the cash/gifts.

I'd suggest you are looking in the wrong places.

Approaching people online is always going to mean you're more likely to encounter people who use this as a source of income although financial domination is a genuine fetish so I'd suggest you stop calling them 'suckers'.

"

Okay il call them mugs.

I don't look for them. I've been approached by quite a few over the years.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"The thing is most dommes who I have come across are only in it for the money. They're seeking suckers who are stupid enough to give them money and that is the joy for them.

Where others do it because they like the feeling of being in control and the goal isn't the cash/gifts.

I'd suggest you are looking in the wrong places.

Approaching people online is always going to mean you're more likely to encounter people who use this as a source of income although financial domination is a genuine fetish so I'd suggest you stop calling them 'suckers'.

Okay il call them mugs.

I don't look for them. I've been approached by quite a few over the years. "

Yes there are *some* who are indeed "mugs" or "suckers" who get drawn in by the thrill of it.

There are also those who, as Lady Jayne said, are into the fetish of financial domination and do so knowing exactly what they are doing - there are also those who are happy to pay for the "service" of being dominated just the same as there are those who will pay for sex as a service - years ago I knew someone who happily paid £100/hour to be dominated because it provided him the release he needed without complications and he was incredibly switched on about it, and saw it as no different from spending the money on a night down the pub. Those people aren't mugs or suckers and to dismiss them as such is very wide of the mark.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thing is most dommes who I have come across are only in it for the money. They're seeking suckers who are stupid enough to give them money and that is the joy for them.

Where others do it because they like the feeling of being in control and the goal isn't the cash/gifts.

I'd suggest you are looking in the wrong places.

Approaching people online is always going to mean you're more likely to encounter people who use this as a source of income although financial domination is a genuine fetish so I'd suggest you stop calling them 'suckers'.

Okay il call them mugs.

I don't look for them. I've been approached by quite a few over the years.

Yes there are *some* who are indeed "mugs" or "suckers" who get drawn in by the thrill of it.

There are also those who, as Lady Jayne said, are into the fetish of financial domination and do so knowing exactly what they are doing - there are also those who are happy to pay for the "service" of being dominated just the same as there are those who will pay for sex as a service - years ago I knew someone who happily paid £100/hour to be dominated because it provided him the release he needed without complications and he was incredibly switched on about it, and saw it as no different from spending the money on a night down the pub. Those people aren't mugs or suckers and to dismiss them as such is very wide of the mark."

I know not all are mugs but many are looking for them.

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By *eamgreen30Couple
over a year ago

stroud


"The thing is most dommes who I have come across are only in it for the money. They're seeking suckers who are stupid enough to give them money and that is the joy for them.

Where others do it because they like the feeling of being in control and the goal isn't the cash/gifts.

I'd suggest you are looking in the wrong places.

Approaching people online is always going to mean you're more likely to encounter people who use this as a source of income although financial domination is a genuine fetish so I'd suggest you stop calling them 'suckers'.

Okay il call them mugs.

I don't look for them. I've been approached by quite a few over the years.

Yes there are *some* who are indeed "mugs" or "suckers" who get drawn in by the thrill of it.

There are also those who, as Lady Jayne said, are into the fetish of financial domination and do so knowing exactly what they are doing - there are also those who are happy to pay for the "service" of being dominated just the same as there are those who will pay for sex as a service - years ago I knew someone who happily paid £100/hour to be dominated because it provided him the release he needed without complications and he was incredibly switched on about it, and saw it as no different from spending the money on a night down the pub. Those people aren't mugs or suckers and to dismiss them as such is very wide of the mark.

I know not all are mugs but many are looking for them. "

Mickey I’m swaying to agreeing with you. More often than not women claiming to be dommes are in for financial gain. They get no thrill or sexual satisfaction out of controlling another human. They are manipulating men which kind of gives the rest of us decent ones a bad name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Financial Domination. Sugar Daddies, Pay Pigs- whatever name you give it will always be an emotive subject when it comes to Domination. As already stated by someone it is a proper fetish for some and thats fair enough if it is what they want. The demand is there for it.

The issue is (and this is from experience) some see it as an easy way to make cash without fully understanding it and the reasons behind it and how to look after the person. Not all but it only takes a few bad apples to spoil it for everyone else.

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By *ondonFreakMan
over a year ago

London

I`ve been around the scene for 20 years, there's been a huge rise in "findommery" in the last 5 years, before then it was virtually unheard of. Pro-Dommes were Pro-Dommes & that was it, now it just seems to be a quick money making scheme for every Tina, Deidre & Harriet..

Desperate times call for desperate measures I guess, but it does spoil it, as doing stuff purely for money rather than fun & a passion detracts from the whole experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think naturally dominant ladies are like an endangered species

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By *ants Horse Hung CockMan
over a year ago

co durham

Id love to find a dom woman

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By *tace 309TV/TS
over a year ago

durham


"I guess there are many levels of sub or Dom but that's expected. There is just a huge gap in the number of sub to Dom profiles. Oh to meet a dom female who likes sub tvs x "
I think you are, looking in the, wrong place on here. Join the fetish/bdsm scene. There's loads of dominant females around but you have to go to events,, clubs, and munches to find them. They don't actually coming running to find you

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I think naturally dominant ladies are like an endangered species"

As I said further up they're (when it comes to the ones seeking male submissives) the unicorns of the kink world and always have been going back 20 years or more - but they do exist and naturally have the pick of the crop (pun intended) which is why it is key for any male submissive to be as knowledgable about his submission and what it means to him as possible.

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By *eamgreen30Couple
over a year ago

stroud

We exist! We just have to be choosy with our submissives because so much can go wrong.

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By *agenta400Woman
over a year ago

All over the shop


"I've been here for a number of years but hardly ever discover dom girls. Stereo typically those I have discovered tend to be bbw. Is there a better place to meet girls who like sub partners and the illusive Mrs Grey. Love to hear your thoughts on this topic. "

What do mean “stereotypically”!

I’ll have you know BBW dommes are not that common. Every bloody club/event I go to is full of skinny dommes.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"I've been here for a number of years but hardly ever discover dom girls. Stereo typically those I have discovered tend to be bbw. Is there a better place to meet girls who like sub partners and the illusive Mrs Grey. Love to hear your thoughts on this topic.

What do mean “stereotypically”!

I’ll have you know BBW dommes are not that common. Every bloody club/event I go to is full of skinny dommes. "

This too! 20 years on the scene and mmy Domme Friends are too small to steal clothes from!

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By *ucky88oMan
over a year ago

london


"I don't consider my self a very submissive man, but there is something about the thought of a dominant lady which does something for me.

However I think finding a Domme who does it for her own pleasure and not financial gain is almost impossible.

But a true slave would give his owner financial tributes and gifts to show his devotion

And a true domme doesn't need it. Thats a paid for service.

If that's what you want to do then you can go online and take your pick out of mistress dommes.

Exactly this!! A real domme is an independent woman who shouldn’t need to bribe their sub or expect financial gains. I don’t even have sex with my sub, that’s not what he needs. He might want to fuck me but the knowledge that he never will is enough.

S x "

As a sub knowing I would never get to have sex with my Domme I find extremely arousing.

Especially if I'm aware She is having plenty of fun with others x

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By *eamgreen30Couple
over a year ago

stroud


"I don't consider my self a very submissive man, but there is something about the thought of a dominant lady which does something for me.

However I think finding a Domme who does it for her own pleasure and not financial gain is almost impossible.

But a true slave would give his owner financial tributes and gifts to show his devotion

And a true domme doesn't need it. Thats a paid for service.

If that's what you want to do then you can go online and take your pick out of mistress dommes.

Exactly this!! A real domme is an independent woman who shouldn’t need to bribe their sub or expect financial gains. I don’t even have sex with my sub, that’s not what he needs. He might want to fuck me but the knowledge that he never will is enough.

S x

As a sub knowing I would never get to have sex with my Domme I find extremely arousing.

Especially if I'm aware She is having plenty of fun with others x"

You sound like a good boy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've had a couple of meets where Annie has role played domme and it was very erotic. I think she's a natural domme, and she'd love to do more, but finding the right sub male has proven difficult.

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By *ucky88oMan
over a year ago

london


"I don't consider my self a very submissive man, but there is something about the thought of a dominant lady which does something for me.

However I think finding a Domme who does it for her own pleasure and not financial gain is almost impossible.

But a true slave would give his owner financial tributes and gifts to show his devotion

And a true domme doesn't need it. Thats a paid for service.

If that's what you want to do then you can go online and take your pick out of mistress dommes.

Exactly this!! A real domme is an independent woman who shouldn’t need to bribe their sub or expect financial gains. I don’t even have sex with my sub, that’s not what he needs. He might want to fuck me but the knowledge that he never will is enough.

S x

As a sub knowing I would never get to have sex with my Domme I find extremely arousing.

Especially if I'm aware She is having plenty of fun with others x

You sound like a good boy "

Thank You

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’m bossy. But not dominant.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"We've had a couple of meets where Annie has role played domme and it was very erotic. I think she's a natural domme, and she'd love to do more, but finding the right sub male has proven difficult."

As with any kind of meet on here finding the right match is always key and probably more so from a D/s perspective as there are so many variants of both Dom/me and submissive, and even within that differing elements and needs on both sides of the coin. Add into the mix those who have seen BDSM porn or read those books and think "I'll have some of that" and it does indeed become difficult to find the right person, but it's not entirely impossible.

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

This is a generally well discussed post. The topic has a lot of angles.

There was an interesting personal journal entry on FL about the loneliness of being a singleton submissive male who craved a D/S relationship with a single mistress.

In the article the author mentioned pro dommes and understood why others went to them but it was not for him.

I know a number of submissive guys who are very downhearted. All equally nice guys but it is tough out of there.

The problem is people cannot turn off their D/S cravings like a tap. Particularly if you are looking for a monogamous D/S relationship or one with a deep connection.

In regard to pro dommes from a rope perspective, I have over the year spoken to a number of women who have been adding rope to their skills as they wanted to be pro dommes. It does seem, for some women it appears to be a viable career path. It can also work for them in a part time way by the pro dommes allowing subs to buy or contribute to things. I know of pro dommes that do that. However, as with all fetish, provided the subs go into it with their eyes open and are actually getting something from it, and can afford it, then your kink is not my kink etc.

On the flip side some of the women who responded to the journal emtry stated how difficult it is for female subs to find the right dom. Some had reached the point where they did not want to go out to munches and events.

As dommes have pointed out on this thread, finding subs that are into what the domme is into, and that will not top from the bottom is difficult.

I don't think there are any simple answers, finding relationships is difficult. Add the kink element makes it even more so.

From a personal point of view as a dominant I have swung from the sanguine "it is all part of life's rich tapestry" to " being this way sucks". However, I can practice rope or practice flogging or throwing whips that take the edge off being downhearted.

I would imagine as a submissive flogging yourself does not work!

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

I'm naturally dominant and there's no way i'd do anything BDSM and NSA with anyone off here. I keep that stuff for relationships only so that it feels real and the trust needed is there. Most guys seem to want NSA porn fantasies pandered to, rather than actually be dominated by someone female anyway...and if you look at the comments you can tell some people are topping from the bottom and only want what they want to be on offer rather than the women themselves asking for what they want (money, for example). Not saying you have to comply with any domme but i think if you see women as superior and want them to be in control then you can't really criticise what they're doing as a Domme or wanting to do.

I'm not a pro-domme but do get why some women go that route.

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By *ondonFreakMan
over a year ago

London


" There was an interesting personal journal entry on FL about the loneliness of being a singleton submissive male who craved a D/S relationship with a single mistress.

In the article the author mentioned pro dommes and understood why others went to them but it was not for him.

I know a number of submissive guys who are very downhearted. All equally nice guys but it is tough out of there.

The problem is people cannot turn off their D/S cravings like a tap. Particularly if you are looking for a monogamous D/S relationship or one with a deep connection.

I don't think there are any simple answers, finding relationships is difficult. Add the kink element makes it even more so."

I`ve pretty much consigned myself to the fact I`ll probably remain single till I die, as I don't think I`d be able to deal with a normal vanilla relationship again.

The chances of finding someone who I'm attracted to, who finds me attractive, who is socially compatible & visa-versa AND who is "kink-compatible", is frankly smaller than miniscule..

Sometimes it gets to me, but most of the time I'm just numb to it all..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a few on here that I have bumped into and many weren't bigger girls so its all a matter of luck and searching on here.

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By *ucky88oMan
over a year ago

london

Bump

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes please

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By *igcockman37Man
over a year ago

Cyberspace

Any dom woman looking for a sub man to dominate on cam?

Pm me please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing more attractive than a confident woman..

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london


"Every so often I encounter someone who I think might be the one. Then after a long drawn out conversation I'm asked to buy them an Amazon gift card!!

"
lolololol love it

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london

I love being teased so many a year ago when I first started swinging my hope was to meet a woman and for her to be my Domme. I was lucky enough to find someone but much to my surprise by our third meet the roles were reversed. She ended up being my sub for three years. Much to my surprise at the time I discovered how sexually dominant I was instinctively.

That said I do still have occasional cravings to be dominated by a woman But I'm not sure I have ever encountered a woman who would be able to dominate me in a way that I would genuinely enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love all aspects of dom play whether your male female tv ts its all a turn on to me. I love to submit and i do as im told or expect a good punishment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a cuckold for many years our marriage evolved into a female led Marriage which at 1st I rebelled against but through punishments I soon learned the errors of my ways.Im now a happy content Sissy cuckold in a wife led Marriage and being honest I feel more relaxed and stress free I do as I’m told without question and my sex life is mainly there to please my Wife and her Lover and being honest I enjoy my life now regards Cuck

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