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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi guys we are still really new to this,we have been really lucky and met a lovely couple on here about 4 days after joining and we have had 2 meets with them upto now, both meets involved more than socials

We have been looking for fwb for each of us for single meets not in the couple, so mrs has had no problem finding people as all woman on her will understand you get sent alot of messages she hasnt had to randomly message 1 person lol, mrs is at the stage now where she has a social planned and is comfortable with this person so far, as for me (mr) I have spoken to a very small hand full of people and nothing has happened yet if I get a reply its either no thanks or there wanting the mrs lol so after a while it becomes a disheartening if I send out 20 messages,if I am really lucky I will get 1 reply, is there any tips from experienced people so can get an idea on how to sort this, plus I'm not a dick pic sender so that has to be a plus for me right?

Also how have other couples found single meets ? we both loved it with the couple seeing each other with other people it was a huge turn on and we had amazing sex afterwards, the thought of that was what brought us here originally before we done anything, now we are trying the single meets, we both have mixed feelings about it but ultimately both want to do this.

Would love to know how other couples found it and what they expected and felt with doing this first time ?

Mr P & Mrs S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

being a male from a couples profile will have no advantage for when you play alone you will be seen as a single guy like the rest therefore your one of many

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mixed feelings = doubt so if in doubt do nowt , for some it works but for many it has brought many problems , spoken to several couples who have done this scenario & they wished they never ventured into it . It certainly wouldn’t appeal to us but hey each to their own & sometimes best kept as a fantasy. Just our opinion

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"being a male from a couples profile will have no advantage for when you play alone you will be seen as a single guy like the rest therefore your one of many"

Yeah I am seeing that tbh, being apart of a couples profile tho I can see how desperate some men are on here message after message being pushy dick pics etc and I dont want to be seen as one of them so I dont know if I'm being too nice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Mixed feelings = doubt so if in doubt do nowt , for some it works but for many it has brought many problems , spoken to several couples who have done this scenario & they wished they never ventured into it . It certainly wouldn’t appeal to us but hey each to their own & sometimes best kept as a fantasy. Just our opinion "

ts not really doubt like we dont want to do it, we both really do and were both extremely turned on by it, it's just after being together 17yrs we was 16/17 when we got together neither of us have done anything like this before so feel a bit weird

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Stafford

Mr, you will have more luck at clubs, even having a singles profile won't guarantee you find a friend to play with much like having a couple's profile. Men are 10 a penny here and women are in short supply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would continue as a couple to be honest get used to each other having fun with each other then later on try the separate fun there are many hardcore swinging couples who never play alone and wont play alone its a different ball game as they say

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

You gotta remember that there are tonnes of men queuing up to take your missus to bed. She can pick and choose easily. You on the other hand will struggle. Nothing personal, just a numbers game. Make sure you’re ready for this reality check and good luck!!

Ed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i would continue as a couple to be honest get used to each other having fun with each other then later on try the separate fun there are many hardcore swinging couples who never play alone and wont play alone its a different ball game as they say "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Mr, you will have more luck at clubs, even having a singles profile won't guarantee you find a friend to play with much like having a couple's profile. Men are 10 a penny here and women are in short supply. "

We have been to clubs years ago and neither of us really liked it tbh, we want to try and have a connection with someone and it to be a regular fwb not just a 1 night thing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You gotta remember that there are tonnes of men queuing up to take your missus to bed. She can pick and choose easily. You on the other hand will struggle. Nothing personal, just a numbers game. Make sure you’re ready for this reality check and good luck!!

Ed"

Haha yes I have already noticed that haha

I'm not a dreamer so I understand I will be waiting alot longer than she is

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i would continue as a couple to be honest get used to each other having fun with each other then later on try the separate fun there are many hardcore swinging couples who never play alone and wont play alone its a different ball game as they say "

It's a thing we really want to try tbh it's what we came on for at 1st the couples thing was always an 'in the future' thing but it just happened and we did like it,

We have said we are going to try it and obviously if one of us isnt happy at any point it will stop

Thanks for your input tho

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

Ten a penny, tonnes of guys, your misdus can pick and choose .. yawn..

There may be lots more guys than ladies the numbers are what they are..(if the forums are to be believed there aren't many good guys ) if non are what you seek it matters not whether there is one or thousands.

Find your uniqure selling point focus on the ladies that appeae to have similar interests as you.. remember guys have the same choice as anyone else..yes please or no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mr, you will have more luck at clubs, even having a singles profile won't guarantee you find a friend to play with much like having a couple's profile. Men are 10 a penny here and women are in short supply. "

ain’t that the fucking truth

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ten a penny, tonnes of guys, your misdus can pick and choose .. yawn..

There may be lots more guys than ladies the numbers are what they are..(if the forums are to be believed there aren't many good guys ) if non are what you seek it matters not whether there is one or thousands.

Find your uniqure selling point focus on the ladies that appeae to have similar interests as you.. remember guys have the same choice as anyone else..yes please or no thanks "

Haha very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only 7 weeks in and you are already looking to meet separately, sounds a recipe for disaster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have been here a few weeks, you both have doubts about meeting alone. So why do it? Stick to meeting as a couple and enjoy that, you don't have to explore everything ASAP you can just take your time

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Only 7 weeks in and you are already looking to meet separately, sounds a recipe for disaster"

Even tho that's what we came on looking for in the first place?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You have been here a few weeks, you both have doubts about meeting alone. So why do it? Stick to meeting as a couple and enjoy that, you don't have to explore everything ASAP you can just take your time"

Yes totally agree but it's not doubts we have, we both really want to do this as this is what we came on here for in the 1st place, the couples meets as always a "in the future" thing it just happened 1st haha

We have been together for 17 yrs since we was 16 so havent been on dates or with anyone else since so our mixed feelings are just nerves because we havent done this before,

Surely everyone gets nervous before there 1st meet when its something they have never done before?

We was nervous with the couple when we met them for the 1st time and they was aswell and they have experience with this,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Your opinion, but everyone is different and want to trying things there own way that doesn't mean it's wrong !

Isn't swinging ment to be open to everyone kinks and desires ?

We looking for find out what others experienced and felt the first time round, not negative comments Mrs s x

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem

One option you could use is other platforms that are open and honest. Like okcupid. Explain what you're looking for and wait for mutual likes.

Men moan they have to pay which is untrue just have to wait for mutual interest.

Or here offer to meet socially as a couple your prospective meet. Most women never believe a male half of a couple is actually a couple. This way your prospective meets gets to see the truth and permission from your other half to meet. Or in some case no permission if they don't get on but it's better if they do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"One option you could use is other platforms that are open and honest. Like okcupid. Explain what you're looking for and wait for mutual likes.

Men moan they have to pay which is untrue just have to wait for mutual interest.

Or here offer to meet socially as a couple your prospective meet. Most women never believe a male half of a couple is actually a couple. This way your prospective meets gets to see the truth and permission from your other half to meet. Or in some case no permission if they don't get on but it's better if they do.

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Is that like a tinder type of thing?

Mrs keeps saying to try tinder but I'm not keen on it because I want to be honest and like you say women wont believe me when I say I'm allowed to they will always think I'm cheating

Thanks for your advice

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem


"One option you could use is other platforms that are open and honest. Like okcupid. Explain what you're looking for and wait for mutual likes.

Men moan they have to pay which is untrue just have to wait for mutual interest.

Or here offer to meet socially as a couple your prospective meet. Most women never believe a male half of a couple is actually a couple. This way your prospective meets gets to see the truth and permission from your other half to meet. Or in some case no permission if they don't get on but it's better if they do.

Is that like a tinder type of thing?

Mrs keeps saying to try tinder but I'm not keen on it because I want to be honest and like you say women wont believe me when I say I'm allowed to they will always think I'm cheating

Thanks for your advice "

It's options for hookups, making new friends, short term relationships, long term. And option to say you're non-monogamous. I like it over other dating sites I've used. But for me saying I'm a swinger and a liberated woman looking to date on there I generally find the same I do here is just a one off fuck.

POF is worse people ask me for pricelists which result in blocking them. And I've found a lot of people off fab are on POF too. I really dislike POF

Okcupid you find people by what your interested in, you answer as many questions as you can and see your matches. Like a match and see if they like you in return.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"One option you could use is other platforms that are open and honest. Like okcupid. Explain what you're looking for and wait for mutual likes.

Men moan they have to pay which is untrue just have to wait for mutual interest.

Or here offer to meet socially as a couple your prospective meet. Most women never believe a male half of a couple is actually a couple. This way your prospective meets gets to see the truth and permission from your other half to meet. Or in some case no permission if they don't get on but it's better if they do.

Is that like a tinder type of thing?

Mrs keeps saying to try tinder but I'm not keen on it because I want to be honest and like you say women wont believe me when I say I'm allowed to they will always think I'm cheating

Thanks for your advice

It's options for hookups, making new friends, short term relationships, long term. And option to say you're non-monogamous. I like it over other dating sites I've used. But for me saying I'm a swinger and a liberated woman looking to date on there I generally find the same I do here is just a one off fuck.

POF is worse people ask me for pricelists which result in blocking them. And I've found a lot of people off fab are on POF too. I really dislike POF

Okcupid you find people by what your interested in, you answer as many questions as you can and see your matches. Like a match and see if they like you in return."

Yeah I'm not a fan of dating sites but I think it's because I have never used any haha

I will definitely have a look at okcupid

Thanks for you advise

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