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Wife thinks I'm strange

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By *uncpl187 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ramsgate

My wife thinks I am strange because I'm not the sort of guy that could just lay there and let her have fun with me.

I can't just lay there,I have to be doing something.I could play with her for hours and not have her touch me and for me that is just as exciting. I let her do her thing for about 5 mins or so and then feel I need to pleasure her.

She loves me doing it but asks why can't I just lay there and enjoy what she is doing.

Am I really that strange??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife thinks I am strange because I'm not the sort of guy that could just lay there and let her have fun with me.

I can't just lay there,I have to be doing something.I could play with her for hours and not have her touch me and for me that is just as exciting. I let her do her thing for about 5 mins or so and then feel I need to pleasure her.

She loves me doing it but asks why can't I just lay there and enjoy what she is doing.

Am I really that strange??"

No I’m the same I love to pleasure women and don’t like just being pleasured alone I have to do something lol

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By *uncpl187 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ramsgate

Thank you. I'm glad I'm not the only one.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Try restricting yourself to using one hand ..then one finger from one hand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm the same in reverse . It's rare I relax enough to let someone give . I start to feel like I'm being selfish or that they will think I'm rubbish . Sometimes I think it's my way of compensating for my weight. I don't think it's ever been an issue to them but to me , I feel I need to x

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By *uncpl187 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ramsgate

You are a beautiful woman so you have no need to compensate for anything. I am sure what ever you do to anyone you meet they enjoy it all.Confidence can be an issue,my wife is also on the large size.

But more body more fun xx

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

Put the boot on the other foot and see it from her point of view. You like giving and seeing the pleasure on her face, she’s just the same albeit you’re sort of denying her fun. I think it’s all about finding the perfect balance between two people when it comes to giving and receiving. No right or wrong, if everyone is happy, crack on.

Ed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not alone mate. If my GF is not having s good time then it effects my enjoyment too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mutual fun if the best it’s like a competition lol

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By *uncpl187 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ramsgate

I just love starting off with a slow tantric massage and that gets her going.

I just love seeing her reactions to her enjoyment and that gets me more turned on.And when she squirts I feel like I am in heaven

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooooh Ive had what she wants for years.... its shit.

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By *jbucksCouple
over a year ago

Bletchley


"My wife thinks I am strange because I'm not the sort of guy that could just lay there and let her have fun with me.

I can't just lay there,I have to be doing something.I could play with her for hours and not have her touch me and for me that is just as exciting. I let her do her thing for about 5 mins or so and then feel I need to pleasure her.

She loves me doing it but asks why can't I just lay there and enjoy what she is doing.

Am I really that strange??"
I know how you feel as I’m the same. I think for me my main pleasure is knowing that she is enjoying herself and please and I think it’s a go to. Which I know I’m going to struggle with this soon as Wednesday is my birthday and it’s her time of the month but I know she wants to make my birthdays special so I wouldn’t be surprised if she gives me a bj which I love but a part of me will feel the urge to want to satisfy her that would satisfy me knowing she has had pleasure if that makes sense but obviously I can as it’s time of the month. I hope that sort of helps and explains from my perspective of what you may feel or going through

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By *jbucksCouple
over a year ago

Bletchley

Plus I don’t think it’s strange to make it equal pleasures shall we say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mind works in the way of if I'm in the mood of just giving why not accept and enjoy it? You can give later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I'm the same I can take control with her and I'm more than happy to pleasure her but as soon as she takes control of me I still feel the need to be doing something

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By *uilder506Man
over a year ago

bognor


"My wife thinks I am strange because I'm not the sort of guy that could just lay there and let her have fun with me.

I can't just lay there,I have to be doing something.I could play with her for hours and not have her touch me and for me that is just as exciting. I let her do her thing for about 5 mins or so and then feel I need to pleasure her.

She loves me doing it but asks why can't I just lay there and enjoy what she is doing.

Am I really that strange??"

I know what you mean lol one of my hands at least needs to be doing something

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By *uncpl187 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ramsgate

I am not saying the lady can't have equal play time.I just find it more of a turn on knowing I am giving her pleasure. I agree with people when they say about women might want the same thing.I get that. But as a personal preference I prefer to give more than I receive.

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