FabSwingers.com forum: Justification of me being a swinger

By *inkyKitty OP Woman
over a year ago

Swindon

So, this is more of a rant, and a chance to talk to the audience of the singletons on this site!

Lately I’m finding there have been a few couples that seam to believe that just because I’m a single person, means I’m not a swinger!

So a little of me.

I’ve been swinging since I was 19 (admittedly I wasn’t aware it was swinging). I had several MFFs and a small handful of men and women who I’d meet and have sex with. Then I stumbled across FAB. I started going to clubs, parties and socials, even went to Cap A’dge As a single female!

For a small brief time I was a couple on this site, and yes it was fun, but I wouldn’t have judged anyone for being either being a couple or a single person.

I like that I can be a swinger and experience so many things that a vanilla single person wouldn’t.

I feel it’s time we end this thinking that swinging is a couples only thing. We should bound together and get rid of the old ways, and open up to the new way of swinging is a lifestyle for everyone to enjoy, regardless of relationship status!

Please, without this turning into a battle match, I’d love to hear your thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're a couple who only meet singles, so by definition we couldn't be swingers without singles. Ergo, we must all be swingers together.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Thought I would solve this once and for all, as I agree totally Op. So I googled definition of a swinger. Answer;

swinger

/'sw???/

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noun

INFORMAL

a lively and fashionable person who goes to a lot of social events.

"one of the oldest swingers in town"

INFORMAL

a person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners.

"a twilight world of swingers and wife-swapping

'A person' singular

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By *heslimoneMan
over a year ago

Deeside

You don't need to justify yourself you can partake in any lifestyle you like on any site you like and with or without whatever labels you like, it's not up to others to define you.

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South

"Thought I would solve this once and for all, as I agree totally Op. So I googled definition of a swinger. Answer;

swinger

/'sw???/

Learn to pronounce

noun

INFORMAL

a lively and fashionable person who goes to a lot of social events.

"one of the oldest swingers in town"

INFORMAL

a person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners.

"a twilight world of swingers and wife-swapping

'A person' singular

Case closed M'lud.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

You don't need to justify yourself.

Use the site as you see fit.

I do

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We learned long ago to never justify our choices to anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has different reasons and interpretations of swinging. They are personal but the effect leads to sharing the outcomes and fun!

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

" I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Wish I had the balls to go to Cap!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

That sounds like a great idea and how on the face of it, swinging should be. However swingers are humans and the very common traits of envy, jealousy, competition and gossiping mean that in our experience swingers as a group are the least inclusive people we know. Individually of course it's different and individuals are who you should concentrate on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s been a few posts about this lately. There’s some who think that but they aren’t the sort for you. Plenty of couples want singles and don’t want singles put off by those that don’t welcome them. You belong, don’t worry what they say. X

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By *lex D.Man
over a year ago

London

Based on above definitions / descriptions it sure seems I'm a swinger despite being single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

swinging is a label for a lifestyle thats so open to many aspects that it should not be labeled in the first place.

if you are involved in the lifestyle you are by definition a swinger no matter who you are.

thats always been our take

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"swinging is a label for a lifestyle thats so open to many aspects that it should not be labeled in the first place.

if you are involved in the lifestyle you are by definition a swinger no matter who you are.

thats always been our take

I like this.

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South

"swinging is a label for a lifestyle thats so open to many aspects that it should not be labeled in the first place.

if you are involved in the lifestyle you are by definition a swinger no matter who you are.

thats always been our take

Perfect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - you just be yourself, ignore the critics and revel in their jealousy

"life is for living, as we are a long time dead"

with that in mind , have fun and be happy

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Happy swinging op xx

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