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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I’ve been talking to a woman on here for a couple of weeks who wanted to take the chat off here to another format....no problem

What I will add is I’m not really sure what I want at the moment and make this clear from the start to people, just not feeling much fun at the moment.

Suddenly her “fella” messages me to create a group chat. No mention of a bloke on her profile, she is photo verified though. On the chat she didn’t talk either. So are they the same person and if so how did she get verified.

I called him out and said this wasn’t how I thought it was, I just thought a female only. He seemed to have all the answers

So have I been taken for a fool, and if I have I’m gutted as I thought I was more street wise than that

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By *estinysswingersCouple
over a year ago

Worsley

Gut feeling says somethings not right here. They’ve not been honest with you.

Don’t be gutted. We all get burnt from time to time no matter how careful we are.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"So I’ve been talking to a woman on here for a couple of weeks who wanted to take the chat off here to another format....no problem

What I will add is I’m not really sure what I want at the moment and make this clear from the start to people, just not feeling much fun at the moment.

Suddenly her “fella” messages me to create a group chat. No mention of a bloke on her profile, she is photo verified though. On the chat she didn’t talk either. So are they the same person and if so how did she get verified.

I called him out and said this wasn’t how I thought it was, I just thought a female only. He seemed to have all the answers

So have I been taken for a fool, and if I have I’m gutted as I thought I was more street wise than that "

It sounds like it was a bloke, playing silly games.

Don't beat yourself up over it, some fakers are very plausible, up to a point.

A shame you were duped for a while, these idiots don't care how they fuck around with people's emotions.

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

If your Spidey Sense is tingling...... Delete and Block.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Your profile says "if you are playing with your partners permission I will need to speak to the partner". So weren't they just following your instructions ?

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Unfortunately there are a number of profiles on here where the main profile is run by someone else pretending to be someone even more else. Then there are those that have masters and will only be communicated with through the master. Either way they should have mentioned any of this to you in the beginning Best thing to do is get out of group chat and block and same with profile on here and possibly report profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your profile says "if you are playing with your partners permission I will need to speak to the partner". So weren't they just following your instructions ?"

Not when there’s been no mention of a partner before even when I asked and not for a 3sum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found asking if they’d ever experienced having a speculum used on them would usually sort out the women from the blokes pretending to be one.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Yes it sounds like it's just a guy to me, sorry, maybe he got a female friend to do the photo verification for him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like it was a man tbh

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By *achel SmythTV/TS
over a year ago

Farnborough


"Your profile says "if you are playing with your partners permission I will need to speak to the partner". So weren't they just following your instructions ?

Not when there’s been no mention of a partner before even when I asked and not for a 3sum"

Hi Sarah,

I have had a number of conversations with ‘couples’ where funnily enough the lady is never there or part of the discussion. I am always wary ... in fact probably too wary here, but think it probably pays to be.

Lovely pictures and profile btw xx

Rachel xx

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

We've had similar.

The goalposts have been moved and you were not given the whole picture before changing formats or from the profile or during your fab conversations. For us this is a false representation of that profile which we'd report and say why, then block. 100% not your fault,op, there's some sneaky feckers on here.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Sounds like a guy chancing it. Why they think that such deception will work is a mystery.

Block, consider reporting, and move on.

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By *ellytransvTV/TS
over a year ago

Wirral

Just dont let this experience put you off in any way. Just move on from it and start again chatting to new people. You will naturally just be more cautious next time and be more wary of similar people or conversations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You really don't know yet get back talking to the woman ask either for cam or kik cam or a telephone call to verify she exists and say you don't want contact with the guy....... Simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was 'she' wanting sex chat?

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

I unusually find if they ask for sex chat, talk about the fun they’ve had with a male FAB user, produce a picture of a lady claiming to be them but it’s from across the room and not looking at the camera, or their profile text doesn’t match to the person they present themselves to be, it’s highly likely a man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it looks like a duck, swims like a duck, and quacks like a duck, then it's probably a sad bloke pretending to be a duck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell me about it. I even sent a live picture to one then they just disappeared on kik. Ive also seen a couples photo on here being used by a single man on kik. Its so lame!

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Single ‘fake’ women are getting easily verified on here from with the promise of meeting them

I’ve had about 10 guys tell me that’s happened to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it looks like a duck, swims like a duck, and quacks like a duck, then it's probably a sad bloke pretending to be a duck. "

True though

Quack

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

Impossible to know but most likely you were taken for a ride. Either way, since things don't smell right best for you to move on there are way too many other things to worry about in life.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"If it looks like a duck, swims like a duck, and quacks like a duck, then it's probably a sad bloke pretending to be a duck. "

Or a witch!

I'll fetch my larger scales.

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By *aughty Lovers 69Man
over a year ago

Wallasey

Something similar happened to us a couple of weeks ago, a very harsh lesson learned for us, but it does definitely play on your emotions and you are left wondering what happened and why. We are now much more careful who we speak too and unfortunately we are a little less trusting in people xx

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I only use fab for chatting with fab people. No reason to use anything else.

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By *estofbothCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Same thing happens to us a lot. Single female, becomes couple, becomes guy who needs to meet you alone to “check that you’re ok” before meeting the lady.

There’s also a male profile we’ve reported, numerous female profiles have verified him, and the lady’s in question don’t have any verifications except him. All of these “women” have messaged us first, asked for pictures and videos and who knows what from the start, and have not been able to send more than one picture of themselves, always too busy to video chat or verify in any way. And really sing this guys praises.

It’s infuriating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most important thing to do is learn from it. Lots of fakes on here. Over time you’ll become tuned into it.. good luck for the future xxx

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