FabSwingers.com forum: Menopause

By *oAn67 OP Couple
over a year ago

poole

Ok all you lovely females out there.

Are you or have you been through menopause whilst swinging?

My wife is starting her menopause now. We have chatted about everything dealing with this.

Any advice for us males?

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Love advice

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Patience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hot flushes at the mo and night sweats finding it hard to have fun to much because I get so dam hot x

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By *oAn67 OP Couple
over a year ago

poole

Did or have you lost your sex drive?

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By *omesticated_VixenWoman
over a year ago

sw London

Be patient and understanding

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By *oAn67 OP Couple
over a year ago

poole

How about dryness?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did or have you lost your sex drive?"

Made me want it more x

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By *oAn67 OP Couple
over a year ago

poole

"Be patient and understanding

Yes I am. Just like to now what other couples do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It varies lady to lady so difficult to advise but lots of ladies do swing through their menopause

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How about dryness?"

Yep that to use lube make it so much better x

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By *oved Up 2Couple
over a year ago

nottingham

Hot sweats and forgetfulness (thank god for HRT!). Certainly not dried me up or diminished my sex drive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes but id finished mine before i knew anything about it ...i was one of the lucky ones i had it early at 40 no affects at all same sex mad all the way thru it and still sex mad after no pills for me ... but ive seen a few women go thru hell with it too it affects everyone different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was a chat on this subject a few weeks ago... brill advice. Go see if u can find it....

Every woman is different...

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Don't let the doctors fob her off.

Don't acceot that they are right as 99% have no clue and will give her anti depressants just to get her out of their hair.

It's a minefield and patience is the key.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went through menopause relatively young. I got very confused about how I felt about sex and the kind of sex I wanted and even lost interest at all for a while.

Then I came out the other side of it and my libido just went up up up. Now I have more sexually confidence than ever and more sex than ever.

Hang in there!

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Didn't reduce my sex drive...some dryness to labia but not internal. Hot sweats means I feel uncomfortable and not sexy. But after a shower I am raring to go.

Be guided my your lady and what she wants. Lots of reassurance and affection is definitely required.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've really had a hard time with menopause. Where to start..... I've struggled for a few years. Wait gain really bad, constant mood swing, laughing one minute crying the next. The hot sweats have been the worst for me. Everywhere I go the sweat pours down my face even if it's cold. Really put me off meeting and going clubs as I'd look good one minute the next I'd look hideous. Nights I'm constantly changing my bedding it's that bad. I sympathise with anyone going through it

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

Going through it now. No symptoms. There were a few hot flushes about a year ago but none at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Going through it now. No symptoms. There were a few hot flushes about a year ago but none at the moment."

Your very lucky, hope it stays that way for you

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

Also going through it now, biggest problem is the hot flushes and I’d say my sex drive has increased

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Did or have you lost your sex drive?"

Yes

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"How about dryness?"

Yes

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Ok all you lovely females out there.

Are you or have you been through menopause whilst swinging?

My wife is starting her menopause now. We have chatted about everything dealing with this.

Any advice for us males?"

Yes, find out how it's affecting your partner individually and deal with that. Don't assume that all the symptoms that other women get will automatically happen to her. Advise her to ask at your surgery if there's a doctor who has an interest in women's health and see them if she has problems. If she experiences vaginal dryness find a lube that suits and use it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hot flushes at the mo and night sweats finding it hard to have fun to much because I get so dam hot x"

Get a desk fan and put it on during sex, helps massively!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does sex drive come back afterwards or is it a permanent feature?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Does sex drive come back afterwards or is it a permanent feature? "

It depends on the individual and the reasons for loss of desire.

Pain, dryness etc probably won't come back not unless the causes are addressed.

Hormonal, possibly will come back

Insecurity due to body changes, possibly will come back once the woman comes to terms with it.

Relationship issues, will come back if sorted.

What some men forget is that they change too and that can have an impact. So often I see guys complaining that their wives have lost interest in sex and they've let themselves go massively. Of course this doesn't apply to anyone on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Watch this morning right now.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

"Does sex drive come back afterwards or is it a permanent feature? "

Mine did not go anywhere.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

Dryness: as I am tiny, I always need lube. Maybe occasionally dry up in the process, but how long do you rub the same wet thing without it getting a bit dry?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Does sex drive come back afterwards or is it a permanent feature?

Mine did not go anywhere."

I think there's a tendency to think that menopause is the same for all women. That's why I say treat the individual symptoms.

I've been incredibly lucky so treating me for a whole range of symptoms would have been a waste of time

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Menopause is different for each woman. Once Alexis had overcome the hot flushes she has experience no discernable difference in sex drive or anything else.

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By *ush12345Woman
over a year ago

Northwich

"Does sex drive come back afterwards or is it a permanent feature? "
.. You are right there! As my sex drive has gone since I had a hysterectomy

.. it was fine before that..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im starting this i think. Sex drive has deff gone up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok all you lovely females out there.

Are you or have you been through menopause whilst swinging?

My wife is starting her menopause now. We have chatted about everything dealing with this.

Any advice for us males?"

"Ok all you lovely females out there.

Are you or have you been through menopause whilst swinging?

My wife is starting her menopause now. We have chatted about everything dealing with this.

Any advice for us males?"

I’m apparently peri-meni just now but neither up nor down. I *think* it may be due to the fact my doctor advised that I get another contraceptive implant fitted when she removed the last one at expiry around a year ago. I seem to be getting away with all the usual hormonal symptoms - no hot flushes or mood swings (although I’ve never really been affected by PMT, always been too laid back for my own good!). My only issue has been pretty rapid weight gain which I am now in the process of dealing with through diet and exercise which is understandably boosting my confidence more than anything. Maybe worth investigating the implant before your wife goes down the HRT route? There’s also a website my doctor recommended that’s definitely worth a look at - www.menopausematters.co.uk. Some great advice and information there. Good luck!!

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Why does it start with men and end in pause.

Smiles

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I'm just wiping the sweat from my phone screen to read this thread

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"I'm just wiping the sweat from my phone screen to read this thread

So the soggy bed isn’t squirting?

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By *easidegirlWoman
over a year ago

south shore

I'm always running hot, windows open all year round, sex drive went through the roof, not having periods helped me to enjoy sex more.

Middle age itself affects me more..creaky joints, afternoon naps, but luckily meno has been fairly straightforward x

Just talk to her, see how she feels, I guess no two days are the same x

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

What has bothered me the most was losing some of my hair, not as in bald patches but just getting finer and finer and shorter. That’s what has upset me the most

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

"What has bothered me the most was losing some of my hair, not as in bald patches but just getting finer and finer and shorter. That’s what has upset me the most "

You’re not alone, it’s one of Mrs M’s symptoms too.

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