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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's becoming quite boring when you come across a profile and think ' ooh la laa ' in the French accent lol , I would like to get to know a bit more about her and guess what you can't send a message because your under her age limit by , Ok wait for this a miserly 1 or 2 years OMG , its quite deflating.

And don't say just move on to the next profile because its become quite evident there are a lot more guys that want to meet than women on this site , it just seems to narrow the options a lot more for genuine single guys that want to meet .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop moaning.

Girls and couples rule this site if they don't want to meet a certain age then respect it and move on.

Guys are in the 100s on this site and tbh most guys on here think its a site to get sex easy well it ain't far from it. its a good place to meet people who have a good intrest in sex.

Just because you msg that ladie don't mean she's going to drop her nickers for you.

It's like having a women at work you talk but don't mean she wants drag you of the loo and have a wild time. There got to be a connection.

If you can't get your head around this and think men have a hard time on here. Don't think this is the site for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How is someone's personal preference narrowing your options?

You do realise people join the site for their own hedonistic pleasure. If you find that boring because it excludes you, the owners are not holding you hostage here you're free to leave at anytime.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If the first 2 replies are a marker for what's about to happen on this thread , I better put on my tin hat and duck for cover lol

I wish people would understand the question before they start firing bullets .

Just reaching for my bulletproof vest

I joined the site at my own accord and I don't need anyone to tell me when to leave , I know the way out .

Now all the unpleasantries are out the way can we have some sensible replies please .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry, I miss your point, so please, do enlighten us.

References to "tin hats and bulletproof vests" are childish, as is having a strop because you are excluded from some profiles.

Do you expect people to change/lower their standards/preferences to accommodate you?!!

Really?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If the first 2 replies are a marker for what's about to happen on this thread , I better put on my tin hat and duck for cover lol

I wish people would understand the question before they start firing bullets .

Just reaching for my bulletproof vest

I joined the site at my own accord and I don't need anyone to tell me when to leave , I know the way out .

Now all the unpleasantries are out the way can we have some sensible replies please . "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And what do you expect us to do? People are entitled to have a preference on anything they like so if you are unable to access their profile because you are either too old or too young, I am afraid that's tough

It doesn't narrow your options at all, if there are say 30,000 single women and you can only access 20,000, do you seriously expect me to believe you cannot find someone to shag don't forget socials and clubs too, you might find that no-one asks how old you are in midst flow

I did wonder when someone would comment on the message filter after it came out last year though this isn't quite what I thought would happen, nor did I think it would take so long

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like the previous posters have said its the users themselves who decide which mail to allow through, not the site, so it is down to people's preferences at the end of the day, which you can't blame them for as we can't help what we are attracted to.

Plus I'm only slightly younger than you so should be in the same boat. Yet I have no problem with the filters whatsoever, I simply have fun with ladies who are looking for a man of 34, plus some who aren't but message me first because they find I suit their requirements anyway.

In truth the only thing I have beef with is my stupidly high amount of working hours as without that hurdle I'd be able to meet much more of the time, rather than often cramming every part of my social life into part of a single day...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just don't get turned on by the idea of someone younger than me. I've actually lowered my limit to 30 but since I turned 31 I've yet to actually meet someone of that age.

Why should I change that just because you want to meet? It's not 1 or 2 measly years to me, it's the difference between getting turned on at the thought of meeting someone and not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has preferences and I don't see why people should change them just because it narrows the options for other people.

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By *pl- capdagdeCouple
over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

Unfortunately women are kings when it comes to this,you as a single guy are just one of thousands all wanting the same.Fact is doesn't matter how old or ugly the woman is if she only wants guys under "25" for example she'll get them..

Life's a bitch but hats how it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres a lady on here who letts just say is older than me. She has a clear age limit of which I fall short by a good couple of years yet.

We have had some good banter so far and tho I think hey come on woman what the hells wrong with you I am a man at 36yrs old ya no. I have to respect her age preference for a reason as it is her preference

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By *pl- capdagdeCouple
over a year ago

Cap d agde,France


"Unfortunately women are kings when it comes to this,you as a single guy are just one of thousands all wanting the same.Fact is doesn't matter how old or ugly the woman is if she only wants guys under "25" for example she'll get them..

Life's a bitch but hats how it is "

That's *

The other option of course is get very rich find yourself some young bit,then you'll get to shag just about anything you want no matter what age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unfortunately women are kings when it comes to this,you as a single guy are just one of thousands all wanting the same.Fact is doesn't matter how old or ugly the woman is if she only wants guys under "25" for example she'll get them..

Life's a bitch but hats how it is

That's *

The other option of course is get very rich find yourself some young bit,then you'll get to shag just about anything you want no matter what age. "

Hmmm ok im working on it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's becoming quite boring when you come across a profile and think ' ooh la laa ' in the French accent lol , I would like to get to know a bit more about her and guess what you can't send a message because your under her age limit by , Ok wait for this a miserly 1 or 2 years OMG , its quite deflating.

And don't say just move on to the next profile because its become quite evident there are a lot more guys that want to meet than women on this site , it just seems to narrow the options a lot more for genuine single guys that want to meet . "

to be blunt, based on that post, your buggest problem may be your attitude rather than other pepples age preferences.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"It's becoming quite boring when you come across a profile and think ' ooh la laa ' in the French accent lol , I would like to get to know a bit more about her and guess what you can't send a message because your under her age limit by , Ok wait for this a miserly 1 or 2 years OMG , its quite deflating.

And don't say just move on to the next profile because its become quite evident there are a lot more guys that want to meet than women on this site , it just seems to narrow the options a lot more for genuine single guys that want to meet . "

am i missing something here ... you are unhappy people have age perference and you are outside that by a year or two . so why then have you set an age perference up to 62???lol ! .is it a case of dont do as i do ,do as i say ?? you have perferences jus same the same as others .if you wish them to respect yours then you have to respect others . i will point out that you are pinning being turned down due to age ,it may have nothing to do with your age they may just not be attracted to you ,not impressed by your message /profile ,not local enough or far away enough ect ect ,numerous other reasons ! stop focusing on those you dont fit what they want and take posative action. re vamp profile and pics, review your approach and accept not everyone will want to play with everyone on here !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just don't get turned on by the idea of someone younger than me. I've actually lowered my limit to 30 but since I turned 31 I've yet to actually meet someone of that age.

Why should I change that just because you want to meet? It's not 1 or 2 measly years to me, it's the difference between getting turned on at the thought of meeting someone and not "

Your age detector must be very finely tuned.

If I stood infront of you 3 men of ages 28 , 29.

30 and then you gave them a good shuffle lol so you did not remember the men's ages , how would you know which man fits your age criteria ? How can you tell ?

Remembering some younger can look older and vice versa .

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By *uslaffMan
over a year ago

manchester


"Stop moaning.

Girls and couples rule this site if they don't want to meet a certain age then respect it and move on.

Guys are in the 100s on this site and tbh most guys on here think its a site to get sex easy well it ain't far from it. its a good place to meet people who have a good intrest in sex.

Just because you msg that ladie don't mean she's going to drop her nickers for you.

It's like having a women at work you talk but don't mean she wants drag you of the loo and have a wild time. There got to be a connection.

If you can't get your head around this and think men have a hard time on here. Don't think this is the site for you. "

Is English your first language ?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I just don't get turned on by the idea of someone younger than me. I've actually lowered my limit to 30 but since I turned 31 I've yet to actually meet someone of that age.

Why should I change that just because you want to meet? It's not 1 or 2 measly years to me, it's the difference between getting turned on at the thought of meeting someone and not

Your age detector must be very finely tuned.

If I stood infront of you 3 men of ages 28 , 29.

30 and then you gave them a good shuffle lol so you did not remember the men's ages , how would you know which man fits your age criteria ? How can you tell ?

Remembering some younger can look older and vice versa ."

okay... i am going to ask this...

is it really adult to critise other people's preferences especially when you have them yourself....

glass house by any chance.....

see replace "age"... for "colour" or "build" or "sexuality"......... and step back, outside looking in..... what you think of people making the same complaint...

you would probably make the same argument as everyone else is..... preference!!!!

but because the preference affects you.... you look at it differently!

the facts of life say you are not going to appeal to everyone.... so what do people use up so much energy and angst complaining and moaning about those who don't....... as opposed to focusing and making you the best "you" you can be to attract those who do.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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okay... i am going to ask this...

is it really adult to critise other people's preferences especially when you have them yourself....

glass house by any chance.....

see replace "age"... for "colour" or "build" or "sexuality"......... and step back, outside looking in..... what you think of people making the same complaint...

you would probably make the same argument as everyone else is..... preference!!!!

but because the preference affects you.... you look at it differently!

the facts of life say you are not going to appeal to everyone.... so what do people use up so much energy and angst complaining and moaning about those who don't....... as opposed to focusing and making you the best "you" you can be to attract those who do.....

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"I just don't get turned on by the idea of someone younger than me. I've actually lowered my limit to 30 but since I turned 31 I've yet to actually meet someone of that age.

Why should I change that just because you want to meet? It's not 1 or 2 measly years to me, it's the difference between getting turned on at the thought of meeting someone and not

Your age detector must be very finely tuned.

If I stood infront of you 3 men of ages 28 , 29.

30 and then you gave them a good shuffle lol so you did not remember the men's ages , how would you know which man fits your age criteria ? How can you tell ?

Remembering some younger can look older and vice versa ."

ok think of it this way . you state your straight, if a guy messages you does it matter if hes straight ,bi or gay ??? you still wouldnt be interested as NOT YOUR PREFERENCE . or should we do away with all prferences as it doesnt suit you ?? maybe all the tvs ,bi or gay guys should message you as i think its only fair you give them a chance lol !!! as i said before bit hypocritical bitching about others age preferences when you have it set your self ohhh over 62s should message you too as you say only an age how would you tell......

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's becoming quite boring when you come across a profile and think ' ooh la laa ' in the French accent lol , I would like to get to know a bit more about her and guess what you can't send a message because your under her age limit by , Ok wait for this a miserly 1 or 2 years OMG , its quite deflating.

And don't say just move on to the next profile because its become quite evident there are a lot more guys that want to meet than women on this site , it just seems to narrow the options a lot more for genuine single guys that want to meet .

am i missing something here ... you are unhappy people have age perference and you are outside that by a year or two . so why then have you set an age perference up to 62???lol ! .is it a case of dont do as i do ,do as i say ?? you have perferences jus same the same as others .if you wish them to respect yours then you have to respect others . i will point out that you are pinning being turned down due to age ,it may have nothing to do with your age they may just not be attracted to you ,not impressed by your message /profile ,not local enough or far away enough ect ect ,numerous other reasons ! stop focusing on those you dont fit what they want and take posative action. re vamp profile and pics, review your approach and accept not everyone will want to play with everyone on here ! "

My preferences will now be going down to 55 lol the site gives you an option when you join so I chose to set an age limit (never thought I would be posting this on a forum at the time ) . So technically I am guilty of something I am having a little moan about . However I do not rule out meeting people slightly younger older and I do not BLOCK people from sending me a message because of their age when you click send message option apart from males because I am straight .

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


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My preferences will now be going down to 55 lol the site gives you an option when you join so I chose to set an age limit (never thought I would be posting this on a forum at the time ) . So technically I am guilty of something I am having a little moan about . However I do not rule out meeting people slightly younger older and I do not BLOCK people from sending me a message because of their age when you click send message option apart from males because I am straight . "

but some, rightly or wrongly, will feel as strongly about "age" as you do about "sexuality"....... and that is the point!!

we are not all the same... and a preference is a preference is a preference........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's becoming quite boring when you come across a profile and think ' ooh la laa ' in the French accent lol , I would like to get to know a bit more about her and guess what you can't send a message because your under her age limit by , Ok wait for this a miserly 1 or 2 years OMG , its quite deflating.

And don't say just move on to the next profile because its become quite evident there are a lot more guys that want to meet than women on this site , it just seems to narrow the options a lot more for genuine single guys that want to meet .

am i missing something here ... you are unhappy people have age perference and you are outside that by a year or two . so why then have you set an age perference up to 62???lol ! .is it a case of dont do as i do ,do as i say ?? you have perferences jus same the same as others .if you wish them to respect yours then you have to respect others . i will point out that you are pinning being turned down due to age ,it may have nothing to do with your age they may just not be attracted to you ,not impressed by your message /profile ,not local enough or far away enough ect ect ,numerous other reasons ! stop focusing on those you dont fit what they want and take posative action. re vamp profile and pics, review your approach and accept not everyone will want to play with everyone on here !

My preferences will now be going down to 55 lol the site gives you an option when you join so I chose to set an age limit (never thought I would be posting this on a forum at the time ) . So technically I am guilty of something I am having a little moan about . However I do not rule out meeting people slightly younger older and I do not BLOCK people from sending me a message because of their age when you click send message option apart from males because I am straight . "

how do you not know they havent given a extra few years to either side of their age barrier, it might say 30-40 for example but really they might be wanting people 33-38 and just had a few years either side so people like yourself can send a message!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's a good point Stockton and I agree with you agree with you and agree with you Fabio

we all have preferences .

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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to be blunt, based on that post, your buggest problem may be your attitude rather than other pepples age preferences."

And based on your reply your 'buggest' problem is you can't spell , and I understand that is a problem for some people .

I really don't have an attidude , honest . It was just a lighthearted thread in an attempt to make everyone smile

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"It's becoming quite boring when you come across a profile and think ' ooh la laa ' in the French accent lol , I would like to get to know a bit more about her and guess what you can't send a message because your under her age limit by , Ok wait for this a miserly 1 or 2 years OMG , its quite deflating.

And don't say just move on to the next profile because its become quite evident there are a lot more guys that want to meet than women on this site , it just seems to narrow the options a lot more for genuine single guys that want to meet . "

lol yes, get all excited and then deflated in one fair swoop. I am guessing you would wish your mum and dad had started sperminating a couple of years before

Sadly though, most of us have to draw a line somewhere, so why you end up being a couple of years or even one year out at times.

Why not send a wink? We don't normally check winks but one time did and we had a wink off a person just below our age range , we mailed them and ended up meeting them. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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lol yeas I am guessing you would wish your mum and dad had started sperminating a couple of years before

Sadly though, most of us have to draw a line somwhere, so why you end up being a couple of years or even one year out at times.

Why not send a wink? We got a wink off a person just below are age range , we mailed them and ended up meeting them. Good luck. "

You leave my mum and dad out of this

You can't wink if your blocked ?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


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lol yeas I am guessing you would wish your mum and dad had started sperminating a couple of years before

Sadly though, most of us have to draw a line somwhere, so why you end up being a couple of years or even one year out at times.

Why not send a wink? We got a wink off a person just below are age range , we mailed them and ended up meeting them. Good luck.

You leave my mum and dad out of this

You can't wink if your blocked ?

"

Ah damn...it must have been before Admin set up the age range blocks...we had an age range in our profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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lol yeas I am guessing you would wish your mum and dad had started sperminating a couple of years before

Sadly though, most of us have to draw a line somwhere, so why you end up being a couple of years or even one year out at times.

Why not send a wink? We got a wink off a person just below are age range , we mailed them and ended up meeting them. Good luck.

You leave my mum and dad out of this

You can't wink if your blocked ?

Ah damn...it must have been before Admin set up the age range blocks...we had an age range in our profile."

Don't let it bother you its probably been that long since I had a meet and good sex

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Ah just realised, we don't block ages from mailing us....so now you need to hope the people you are fancying don't do the same thing and you can wink em

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Your age detector must be very finely tuned.

If I stood infront of you 3 men of ages 28 , 29.

30 and then you gave them a good shuffle lol so you did not remember the men's ages , how would you know which man fits your age criteria ? How can you tell ?

Remembering some younger can look older and vice versa ."

You're missing the point lol we're not talking about picking people out of a line up. Ages are on profiles and for whatever reason, it switches me off when I see a man is younger than me. Attraction isn't a science and it's not logical. I have a thing for older men and that's not going to change just because someone else wants to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I take your point Bright , but I do have a point too if this was in everyday life where people did not have an age stamped on their foreheads

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Ah now you are sounding like everyone should have an open age range, even if they don't want to meet them.

That would be pretty silly as it would bring more people onto the forum starting threads about people that don't have age preferences on their profile and should have to save them getting deflated when they realise they are not likely to get anywhere....did you see what I did there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely if someone has limits,preferences,whatever, then that's entirely up to them, and you shouldn't be worrying about what you can't change, and just respect em for it.

If they've set an age range filter up, I'm sure they've thought it out well, and the lower or higher end is there for a reason.

I'm also sure that one single profile doing that is not seriously limiting your choices - the glass is seriously more full than empty - it's really more just a case of knowing what you like to drink

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's an Internet thing. If your serious go to a club.

I've met many couples who have been happy to play with me in a club but who's profile age limits would exclude me. It works the other way round too lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ah now you are sounding like everyone should have an open age range, even if they don't want to meet them.

That would be pretty silly as it would bring more people onto the forum starting threads about people that don't have age preferences on their profile and should have to save them getting deflated when they realise they are not likely to get anywhere....did you see what I did there? "

Erm, No , but your gonna tell me , no doubt

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Surely if someone has limits,preferences,whatever, then that's entirely up to them, and you shouldn't be worrying about what you can't change, and just respect em for it.

If they've set an age range filter up, I'm sure they've thought it out well, and the lower or higher end is there for a reason.

I'm also sure that one single profile doing that is not seriously limiting your choices - the glass is seriously more full than empty - it's really more just a case of knowing what you like to drink

Wolf

"

I could not agree more , It must have been the drink that got me to post this topic , what was I thinking

I do tend to go for the more juicier variety when it comes to my drink

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"Ah now you are sounding like everyone should have an open age range, even if they don't want to meet them.

That would be pretty silly as it would bring more people onto the forum starting threads about people that don't have age preferences on their profile and should have to save them getting deflated when they realise they are not likely to get anywhere....did you see what I did there?

Erm, No , but your gonna tell me , no doubt "

Wellll....what I meant was.......nah if you can't figure it out I might save the typing

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"It's becoming quite boring when you come across a profile and think ' ooh la laa ' in the French accent lol , I would like to get to know a bit more about her and guess what you can't send a message because your under her age limit by , Ok wait for this a miserly 1 or 2 years OMG , its quite deflating.

And don't say just move on to the next profile because its become quite evident there are a lot more guys that want to meet than women on this site , it just seems to narrow the options a lot more for genuine single guys that want to meet . "
Lots of people get messages stating i know that im only one year out of your age range, but im sure you can make an exception, some will, some wont, its not rocket science OP, age filters are there to be used whether you like them or not, again, some will use them, some wont....i really dont understand your thinking to be honest, you have said stuff like this before when you have been on previously, its obvious to me that you are not getting what you want from the site, i think sometimes you come across as your glass is half empty if im to be honest.

So why is this? Im not sure, maybe you have unrealistic expectations? Im not knocking that as im sure you are not the only one, but in all honesty you come across as someone that will never be happy with stuff no matter what...anyway having said all that , why dont you concentrate on the people that are interested in you, instead of moaning about the people who are not?

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By *r-MissCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

We have age limits on our profile however we have set them a year or so either way of what we are really looking for. This is to allow for that possible great guy who is one year over/under our criteria.

I understand why people use the age limits, we got sick of really young guys sending messages saying we should try a younger guy. Everyone has preferences and you just have to deal with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's becoming quite boring when you come across a profile and think ' ooh la laa ' in the French accent lol , I would like to get to know a bit more about her and guess what you can't send a message because your under her age limit by , Ok wait for this a miserly 1 or 2 years OMG , its quite deflating.

And don't say just move on to the next profile because its become quite evident there are a lot more guys that want to meet than women on this site , it just seems to narrow the options a lot more for genuine single guys that want to meet . "

you seem quite willing to narrow our options of what we can say though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suspect that most people on here have been disappointed at some point. I've read about couples who have been let down not just singles.

I not only have to put up with being a single male but an ancient one

I'm thinking of offering a prize to the last person to have sex with me before it all conks out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ah now you are sounding like everyone should have an open age range, even if they don't want to meet them.

That would be pretty silly as it would bring more people onto the forum starting threads about people that don't have age preferences on their profile and should have to save them getting deflated when they realise they are not likely to get anywhere....did you see what I did there?

Erm, No , but your gonna tell me , no doubt

Wellll....what I meant was.......nah if you can't figure it out I might save the typing "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's becoming quite boring when you come across a profile and think ' ooh la laa ' in the French accent lol , I would like to get to know a bit more about her and guess what you can't send a message because your under her age limit by , Ok wait for this a miserly 1 or 2 years OMG , its quite deflating.

And don't say just move on to the next profile because its become quite evident there are a lot more guys that want to meet than women on this site , it just seems to narrow the options a lot more for genuine single guys that want to meet . Lots of people get messages stating i know that im only one year out of your age range, but im sure you can make an exception, some will, some wont, its not rocket science OP, age filters are there to be used whether you like them or not, again, some will use them, some wont....i really dont understand your thinking to be honest, you have said stuff like this before when you have been on previously, its obvious to me that you are not getting what you want from the site, i think sometimes you come across as your glass is half empty if im to be honest.

So why is this? Im not sure, maybe you have unrealistic expectations? Im not knocking that as im sure you are not the only one, but in all honesty you come across as someone that will never be happy with stuff no matter what...anyway having said all that , why dont you concentrate on the people that are interested in you, instead of moaning about the people who are not?"

I knew you would understand femme

Your advice has been taken aboard , thanks .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thing is is you have your age limit set at 40, this is just an example, and someone mails you whos 38 you may think on its just a couple of years and then someone mails you whos 36 and again you think oh i met a 38 year old it just a couple of years next thing you know your bonking a 21 year old

if age bothers you you have to draw the line somewhere and stuck to it

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk


"It's becoming quite boring when you come across a profile and think ' ooh la laa ' in the French accent lol , I would like to get to know a bit more about her and guess what you can't send a message because your under her age limit by , Ok wait for this a miserly 1 or 2 years OMG , its quite deflating.

And don't say just move on to the next profile because its become quite evident there are a lot more guys that want to meet than women on this site , it just seems to narrow the options a lot more for genuine single guys that want to meet . "

I can't be arsed to read all the replies on this thread and it might have already been said, we are ALL entitled to our preferances and if I'm not wrong you have an age preferance on your own profile - Why won't you meet people over 55? I assume it's because that is YOUR preferance!

(ok I'm waiting for my 24hr cooling off period again lol)

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish


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Your age detector must be very finely tuned.

If I stood infront of you 3 men of ages 28 , 29.

30 and then you gave them a good shuffle lol so you did not remember the men's ages , how would you know which man fits your age criteria ? How can you tell ?

Remembering some younger can look older and vice versa .

"

You know, you might have something there, I'm not really 52, It's a typo, I'm only 25 really - honest- just had a hard short life!!

Now who wants to meet!

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All I read on this thread from the op is moan moan fucking moan

My advice grow a pair! People won't meet u as all your threads are moan,winge moan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

I only ask for a female (K insists on the age) although a pulse is a nice optional extra

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Preferences are there for everyone. Im sure you OP have preferences, just as the rest of us do. Im sure your preferences dont suit everyone, but it is your preference.

Get over yourself dude!

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By *vorlongtongueMan
over a year ago

plymouth

what happens if the profile specifies "fit" and adds an age limit, not all us old farts are past it!!!!

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk


"what happens if the profile specifies "fit" and adds an age limit, not all us old farts are past it!!!! "

I can usually 'fit' in the lift, to unfit to use the stairs

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By *peedypeteMan
over a year ago

derby

If people in their 30's are complaining about it being hard to meet folks, should wait until they are over 50 and then learn what difficult really is. I have an occasional rant when folks mess me about, but overall I enjoy the few meets I get and so should everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just don't get turned on by the idea of someone younger than me. I've actually lowered my limit to 30 but since I turned 31 I've yet to actually meet someone of that age.

Why should I change that just because you want to meet? It's not 1 or 2 measly years to me, it's the difference between getting turned on at the thought of meeting someone and not

Your age detector must be very finely tuned.

If I stood infront of you 3 men of ages 28 , 29.

30 and then you gave them a good shuffle lol so you did not remember the men's ages , how would you know which man fits your age criteria ? How can you tell ?

Remembering some younger can look older and vice versa ."

Personally I would look at them, decide they are way too young and not bother at all, remember, if someone is more interested in their own age, those ages will never look on par with mine

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By *andS66Couple
over a year ago

Derby


"It's becoming quite boring when you come across a profile and think ' ooh la laa ' in the French accent lol , I would like to get to know a bit more about her and guess what you can't send a message because your under her age limit by , Ok wait for this a miserly 1 or 2 years OMG , its quite deflating.

"

Just looked at your profile, and find it strange that you've got an age range on your profile....pot, kettle and black springs to mind!

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By *exki11enWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I don't understand the problem with people blocking what they're not looking for?

It saves you wasitng your time waiting for a response you're never going to get.

To be fair, I see why people do it. I regularly get messages from 21, 22, 23, 50, 51, 52 yr olds who have just not bothered to read my profile. Why should I have to bother reading through this tripe, when, quite frankly, I don't want to have sex with anyone young enough to be my son or old enough to be my dad - just because they can't read???

Yeah, yeah, I know. You're different. You read profiles before replying.

Obviously not, or you wouldn't know they'd blocked you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stop moaning.

Girls and couples rule this site if they don't want to meet a certain age then respect it and move on.

I think you will find i rule this site G!! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *avalier_JTMan
over a year ago

Midlands & Beyond

I get what you're saying, I have the same problem at the other end...I'm a couple of years older than the age specified... !

Reading a profile through a few times will also reveal that (if you're not blocked anyway) your message will get deleted if you don't meet the criteria.

So, in my experience you have to search for those people whose criteria you fit, then send a 'sit up and take notice' message.

Don't ask me what one looks like, there's no formula to this.

Also helps to go to the local clubs and be friendly and relaxed without any expectations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have that I prefer men under 40.. but dont have my filters set to exclude those over.. if a guy messaged me that didnt look his age... and fit other areas I would consider him.

I used to have 50 as the upper limit but found that I prefered 20-30 but thought that was a little restrictive..

To be fair how someone looks to me is more important than the age.

Cali

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