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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Has anyone else grown a little to fond of a regular friend on here?

Foolish or?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everybody has to have a favourite!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes i did and yes foolish

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Neither of us has. It's never foolish to develop feelings, how you act on them might be though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not foolish at all.

We all have had a little bit of a crush on someone we have met on here, well most of us i am sure.

I have fallen for several peeps over the years, but always tempered with a little realism that it probably will not be taken further.

Still hoping to find someone i can call at least a FWB.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why somebody would think it is foolish?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Am more of an eggs in 1 basket kinda girl so it’s not really a case of favortisim..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both have favourites, but I think our relationship is secure enough that it’s not a problem and can speak about stuff like this with each other without a problem but saying that if lee was ever to arrange meets on his own that would be a issue,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes i did and yes foolish"

What did you do to resolve it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Think the feeling foolish is because it is what it is..

It was never going to be anything more and that was clear so when you realise you’ve gotten a little fond your left feeling that foolishness because it’s not reciprocated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

Hot wife is off limits other than each other sexual satisfactions...

Win win.....she can give hubby the 24/7 grief and I can watch (pssss only kidding if you read this Sam)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very fond... foolish? No.. she feels the same

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Very fond... foolish? No.. she feels the same"

Not in my case a don’t think so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, he's my partner now though so it worked out alright

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast


"Think the feeling foolish is because it is what it is..

It was never going to be anything more and that was clear so when you realise you’ve gotten a little fond your left feeling that foolishness because it’s not reciprocated "

It's not foolish and totally understandable......., you cant help who you fall for in life...

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By *ovingittwoCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Players only love you while they're playing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Players only love you while they're playing. "

Love this response... pretty much how the story goes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think the feeling foolish is because it is what it is..

It was never going to be anything more and that was clear so when you realise you’ve gotten a little fond your left feeling that foolishness because it’s not reciprocated

It's not foolish and totally understandable......., you cant help who you fall for in life...

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Foolish for letting it happen though

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By *ovingittwoCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"Players only love you while they're playing.

Love this response... pretty much how the story goes "

It's so true, hope you pick yourself up x

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast


"Think the feeling foolish is because it is what it is..

It was never going to be anything more and that was clear so when you realise you’ve gotten a little fond your left feeling that foolishness because it’s not reciprocated

It's not foolish and totally understandable......., you cant help who you fall for in life...

Foolish for letting it happen though "

Not at all.....your human like the rest of us mere mortals

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Players only love you while they're playing. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone else grown a little to fond of a regular friend on here?

Foolish or? "
I suppose it's only human to get feelings once you start sharing alot together, sex makes these feelings escalate

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Players only love you while they're playing.

Love this response... pretty much how the story goes

It's so true, hope you pick yourself up x"

Am sure ile bounce back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is he married ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is he married ? "

Certainly not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Players only love you while they're playing.

Love this response... pretty much how the story goes

It's so true, hope you pick yourself up x

Am sure ile bounce back "

If you need a rebound..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very fond... foolish? No.. she feels the same

Not in my case a don’t think so "

Im not very stereo typical of most guys on here i dont think, i was looking for a fwb arrangement somthing kept between the two of us. Id sooner have loads of socials before jumping into bed.. the connection has to be there, i dont like one night stands or multiple sexual partners. I think this is why its working well with her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Players only love you while they're playing.

Love this response... pretty much how the story goes

It's so true, hope you pick yourself up x

Am sure ile bounce back

If you need a rebound.. "

That’s very kind of you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You just need to find a better sexual partner an if that doesn’t work your in trouble....

(Light hearted reply)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I don't think it's foolish though, if you get on and you really connect then it's only natural your feelings might grow!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's natural. Just need to work through it.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"Players only love you while they're playing. "

Brilliant response says it all really.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well am certainly feeling a little more easier on myself I thought I was just being ridiculous...

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast


"Well am certainly feeling a little more easier on myself I thought I was just being ridiculous... "

Welcome to normality.....I'd be more worried if you hadnt of had those thoughts x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well am certainly feeling a little more easier on myself I thought I was just being ridiculous...

Welcome to normality.....I'd be more worried if you hadnt of had those thoughts x"

Would that of made me unhuman haha x

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast


"Well am certainly feeling a little more easier on myself I thought I was just being ridiculous...

Welcome to normality.....I'd be more worried if you hadnt of had those thoughts x

Would that of made me unhuman haha x"

Lol maybe x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well am certainly feeling a little more easier on myself I thought I was just being ridiculous...

Welcome to normality.....I'd be more worried if you hadnt of had those thoughts x

Would that of made me unhuman haha x

Lol maybe x"

Well thank god for that then haha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Players only love you while they're playing. "

Not always lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My favourite has now become my partner, and we only meet together x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you asked this person how they feel? They might be thinking the same thing about you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone else grown a little to fond of a regular friend on here?

Foolish or? "

Your not foolish your only human and do have feelings, so i don't think you are alone in this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone else grown a little to fond of a regular friend on here?

Foolish or? "

I have a special lady i like just to chat too

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By *arkhorse66Man
over a year ago

bristol


"Well am certainly feeling a little more easier on myself I thought I was just being ridiculous... "

Not foolish, but if you recognise it’s moved on the sooner you start enjoying time with someone else the sooner you will feel better

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well am certainly feeling a little more easier on myself I thought I was just being ridiculous...

Not foolish, but if you recognise it’s moved on the sooner you start enjoying time with someone else the sooner you will feel better "

And this is my problem i don’t have any interest in trying to pursue anything else

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast


"Well am certainly feeling a little more easier on myself I thought I was just being ridiculous...

Not foolish, but if you recognise it’s moved on the sooner you start enjoying time with someone else the sooner you will feel better

And this is my problem i don’t have any interest in trying to pursue anything else "

As someone else has already said...have you spoken too them about how you feel.....?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup. I kind of see it as when you spend a lot of time with someone it's inevitable. I worried and worried about it when I realised that I had caught the feels but after almost pushing him away because of it I decided to pull up my big girl panties and discuss it with him. He was cool - it didn't scare him off. He knows I don't want to change our situation. So it's all good. Please don't feel foolish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and yes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yup. I kind of see it as when you spend a lot of time with someone it's inevitable. I worried and worried about it when I realised that I had caught the feels but after almost pushing him away because of it I decided to pull up my big girl panties and discuss it with him. He was cool - it didn't scare him off. He knows I don't want to change our situation. So it's all good. Please don't feel foolish "

I don’t myself it’s great as it is.. am guessing it scares me incase he meets an finds something better that’s it actually that’s what it is because i do like him so much x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well am certainly feeling a little more easier on myself I thought I was just being ridiculous...

Not foolish, but if you recognise it’s moved on the sooner you start enjoying time with someone else the sooner you will feel better

And this is my problem i don’t have any interest in trying to pursue anything else

As someone else has already said...have you spoken too them about how you feel.....?"

Yeah he knows x

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Yep, from the first time I got her down the pub. We have been together now over one and a half years now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yep, from the first time I got her down the pub. We have been together now over one and a half years now."

Lovely x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very fond... foolish? No.. she feels the same"

Be foolish not to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's so easily done

And so hard when they begin to ignore you !!

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By *drenaline rushMan
over a year ago

Burnley

It’s never foolish you never know where or in what circumstances yiu May meet someone.

For me just embrace what life throws you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yup. I kind of see it as when you spend a lot of time with someone it's inevitable. I worried and worried about it when I realised that I had caught the feels but after almost pushing him away because of it I decided to pull up my big girl panties and discuss it with him. He was cool - it didn't scare him off. He knows I don't want to change our situation. So it's all good. Please don't feel foolish

I don’t myself it’s great as it is.. am guessing it scares me incase he meets an finds something better that’s it actually that’s what it is because i do like him so much x"

Then seriously talk to him tell him. Honestly with mine it was weird I wasn't jealous at all when he met people he already played with before me or people when he was working away it was when he met new people I got niggles and I realised it was because I was worried that he would decide to make them his priority not me. I ended up telling him and he reassured me that no one could ever top me or replace me and he certainly isn't looking for a replacement. That's all it took for me to stop worrying. Just communicate your worries with him, if your worth anything to him he will reassure you.

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By *inkyKittyWoman
over a year ago

Swindon

Happened to me, I feel in love with mine, he did too.

We got together, it was amazing. Then he became distant, slept with someone from here behind my back. Then he wasn’t interested in me anymore.

My lesson from that, was it’s easy for men on here to have that one special person, then just as easy to pick another woman up and replace you.

This is purely my opinion, and yes it hurt like a bitch, but I’m stronger, and for me I won’t be making that same mistake again!

I’ve adopted that way of thinking, let the guys come to me, and be honest that I do sleep with other men who have talents that they may not have.

As I say in my profile, you’d have to be a king to win my heart.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Happened to me, I feel in love with mine, he did too.

We got together, it was amazing. Then he became distant, slept with someone from here behind my back. Then he wasn’t interested in me anymore.

My lesson from that, was it’s easy for men on here to have that one special person, then just as easy to pick another woman up and replace you.

This is purely my opinion, and yes it hurt like a bitch, but I’m stronger, and for me I won’t be making that same mistake again!

I’ve adopted that way of thinking, let the guys come to me, and be honest that I do sleep with other men who have talents that they may not have.

As I say in my profile, you’d have to be a king to win my heart.

"

The 3rd and 4th paragraph is pretty much what am afraid of..

But it’s inevitably going to happen isn’t it Am such a di**head!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester


"Players only love you while they're playing. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes....Luckily enough we still got on really well

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I would be very cautious on here. If someone is clear with you that they only want NSA then don't wait hoping they will change their minds because they very rarely do.

It's happened to me and its so hard to let go especially when the sex is amazing and you get on so well.

I understand all eggs in one basket as I've done the same and it does end making you feel foolish...

I'm very strict with myself now of who I will meet and have no qualms that if I developed feelings for someone who didn't want anything more then I would stop seeing them.

You just have to learn what works for you best, but try to protect yourself too x

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

The trouble is people are far more likely to go that extra and put out for you if they fancy you and you genuinly make them believe there is something more between you. So naturally to make someone believe that and reap the benifits while continuing to play the field looking for something better it chapter 1 in the shit bags play book. It's a tactic not exclusive to men. Unfortunately but understandably it makes for some very jaded people out there.

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By *ovingittwoCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"The trouble is people are far more likely to go that extra and put out for you if they fancy you and you genuinly make them believe there is something more between you. So naturally to make someone believe that and reap the benifits while continuing to play the field looking for something better it chapter 1 in the shit bags play book. It's a tactic not exclusive to men. Unfortunately but understandably it makes for some very jaded people out there."

You are a wise man x

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Was going to say no, then had a little think...

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