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By *rotica x OP   Couple
over a year ago

Chepstow/Portugal

Messages from hubby to women on here as a response to a no thanks, are so disrespectful... sorry I know I’m with him, I’ve told him so many times but he just keeps sending nasty messages back as if he was a single male. I don’t care if we are on as a couple and women who see are put off... I’ve spoken to him and he disregards it. It’s embarrassing and comes across as if I’ve written it so I apologise to the lady (that’s if she hadn’t blocked us).

Please no negative comments I already know! It’s disgusting and I shouldn’t put up with it.

I’m reaching out to the couples going through the same? Not the single women or single men. And please no trolling, I’ve had enough of being told I’m shit or he’s shit etc etc.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Sorry I don't understand are you talking about your husband?

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Stafford

Can't really help. My husband isn't rude on our couples profile. Tbh he doesn't really care if someone says no thanks. It doesn't affect his day or his sleep. Maybe a time out from fab is needed if he's being this way.

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth


"Messages from hubby to women on here as a response to a no thanks, are so disrespectful... sorry I know I’m with him, I’ve told him so many times but he just keeps sending nasty messages back as if he was a single male. I don’t care if we are on as a couple and women who see are put off... I’ve spoken to him and he disregards it. It’s embarrassing and comes across as if I’ve written it so I apologise to the lady (that’s if she hadn’t blocked us).

Please no negative comments I already know! It’s disgusting and I shouldn’t put up with it.

I’m reaching out to the couples going through the same? Not the single women or single men. And please no trolling, I’ve had enough of being told I’m shit or he’s shit etc etc. "

Correct me if I read this wrong .......are you saying that your hubby sends abusive messages in response to being turned rejected?

If so it’s a sure fire way to get your profile permanently removed from Fab when the recipients report you!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It’s a shame he doesn’t have more self confidence to be able to accept rejection. There are many reasons why people reject people and weirdly, he might have been one of them. Ladies might not always be looking for sex or thinking about it at the time he messages, for example. I would ask him again not to be rude as a) it’s rude, b) it’s against the site rules and c) makes him look like a knob.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes she’s talking about her husband

Love your page btw

You should add me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He doesn't sound like a very nice person given that description of his behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm getting massive big alarm bells here.

If he is abusive and can't take rejection, you need to come off and stop trying because:

1. WTF does he think he is giving abuse following a no thank you.

2. What would happen if you had a social and the other couple / lady / whatever, said no thank you and didn't want to take things further?

3. What are you doing putting up with it, woman? Is there a safeguarding issue? What is he like if you don't fancy sex one night?

You need to have a long hard chat with him and set some rules and communication boundaries. But seriously, if he can't handle rejection on here, he won't in real life, and he's a risk.

Good luck

N xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

talk to him and if he is unable to stop sending abusive messages delete your profile

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By *arakiss12TV/TS
over a year ago

Bedford

Punch him a good punching should sort him out. Then........ do it again just to make sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's 49, you're 24, he's abusive if rejected and now you're posting a plea of sorts...the alarm bells are deafening!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the above. Behaviours like this do not exist in isolation.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"talk to him and if he is unable to stop sending abusive messages delete your profile"

This is a couple issue not a Fab issue.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

You ask for no negative comments, ok. But, for goodness’ sake, be careful and seriously think about whether this is working for you. And get help if you need it. Mr.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He sounds like an awful person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, I’m not sure what you are trying to achieve with this post.

Why are you not apologising to the people in question privately instead of on here?

If your husbands behaviour is ongoing you soon won’t have a profile as it will be removed by admin.

You need to sort out your problems offline as I take it he will see this thread?

I hope you resolve your issues.

Miss V

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By *heeky-gingerWoman
over a year ago

Not meeting


"talk to him and if he is unable to stop sending abusive messages delete your profile

This is a couple issue not a Fab issue. "

Totally agree. I don’t think a site like Fab, or swinging in general, can possibly work if you aren’t both in complete agreement about where all of your lines are and about how you’re going to approach it. You need to discuss and agree all of your boundaries, not just sexual ones but etiquette ones as well, and then come back and approach the site the way you’ve both agreed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also you mention that it comes across as if you’ve sent the abusive message. That is really unpleasant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I'm getting massive big alarm bells here.

If he is abusive and can't take rejection, you need to come off and stop trying because:

1. WTF does he think he is giving abuse following a no thank you.

2. What would happen if you had a social and the other couple / lady / whatever, said no thank you and didn't want to take things further?

3. What are you doing putting up with it, woman? Is there a safeguarding issue? What is he like if you don't fancy sex one night?

You need to have a long hard chat with him and set some rules and communication boundaries. But seriously, if he can't handle rejection on here, he won't in real life, and he's a risk.

Good luck

N xx"

If he's treating other women like that he will treat you the same OP.

Don't let love mask the truth. Be honest with yourself. His behaviour is affecting you. You are worth much more than putting up with that. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 word controlling

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By *rotica x OP   Couple
over a year ago

Chepstow/Portugal

Thanks my loves, all comments appreciated and thoroughly read. He doesn’t come onto the forums and just needed somewhere to vent. Got annoyed last night because I’ve said to not bother messaging unverified new women profiles. It’s pointless because he’ll end up calling them fake blah blah...

I do love him, he seems to get offended easily on here is all

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


" Thanks my loves, all comments appreciated and thoroughly read. He doesn’t come onto the forums and just needed somewhere to vent. Got annoyed last night because I’ve said to not bother messaging unverified new women profiles. It’s pointless because he’ll end up calling them fake blah blah...

I do love him, he seems to get offended easily on here is all "

Then ask him not to send any messages and do it yourself.

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By *ent and bratCouple
over a year ago

here there everywhere

Fact it says on your profile....

"Yes we are picky but so should you be. It shows you have standards and know what you want"

And then he takes offence when people are picky. Alarm bells ringing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fact it says on your profile....

"Yes we are picky but so should you be. It shows you have standards and know what you want"

And then he takes offence when people are picky. Alarm bells ringing"
This

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By *agenta400Woman
over a year ago

All over the shop


"Messages from hubby to women on here as a response to a no thanks, are so disrespectful... sorry I know I’m with him, I’ve told him so many times but he just keeps sending nasty messages back as if he was a single male. I don’t care if we are on as a couple and women who see are put off... I’ve spoken to him and he disregards it. It’s embarrassing and comes across as if I’ve written it so I apologise to the lady (that’s if she hadn’t blocked us).

Please no negative comments I already know! It’s disgusting and I shouldn’t put up with it.

I’m reaching out to the couples going through the same? Not the single women or single men. And please no trolling, I’ve had enough of being told I’m shit or he’s shit etc etc. "

Maybe a practical solution would be to remove yourself from your couples profile and create one for yourself saying you play as a couple. He can carry on his way. And you can make connections with negativity.

I wish you well.

Xxxx

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By *agenta400Woman
over a year ago

All over the shop

Without negativity!! Have not got my readers on!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Thanks my loves, all comments appreciated and thoroughly read. He doesn’t come onto the forums and just needed somewhere to vent. Got annoyed last night because I’ve said to not bother messaging unverified new women profiles. It’s pointless because he’ll end up calling them fake blah blah...

I do love him, he seems to get offended easily on here is all "

What do you mean he got annoyed? With you?

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By *rotica x OP   Couple
over a year ago

Chepstow/Portugal

No, I got annoyed x

Picky comment on our profile yes you’re right I agree... I’m actually embarrassed..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Messages from hubby to women on here as a response to a no thanks, are so disrespectful... sorry I know I’m with him, I’ve told him so many times but he just keeps sending nasty messages back as if he was a single male. I don’t care if we are on as a couple and women who see are put off... I’ve spoken to him and he disregards it. It’s embarrassing and comes across as if I’ve written it so I apologise to the lady (that’s if she hadn’t blocked us).

Please no negative comments I already know! It’s disgusting and I shouldn’t put up with it.

I’m reaching out to the couples going through the same? Not the single women or single men. And please no trolling, I’ve had enough of being told I’m shit or he’s shit etc etc. "
so your partner or husband is being rude to people who message you as a couple?

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

Why are you apologising for your husband? He,s his own person.......his mistakes are not yours!

And to be honest, if he replies to no thankyou with abuse, is fab really the place for him?....

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By *ent and bratCouple
over a year ago

here there everywhere


"No, I got annoyed x

Picky comment on our profile yes you’re right I agree... I’m actually embarrassed..

You personally seem lovely but you havent painted himself in the best light. Only ever want peace and happiness for all so hope it all works out for you sweetie x

"

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