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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi - I have been on the site for a couple of weeks but don't seem to be getting any meets. Lots of time wasters but especially no women or couples taking interest.

Any advice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you've been here as couple of weeks and haven't had meets????? And your complaining.....jeez....some guys take months to get good meets.

Advice Patience!!!!

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By *lam rockerMan
over a year ago

Tain

two weeks!!!

It may take a little longer than that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you have one veri so you must have had a meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Correct - 1 meet but that's all. Not very good at being patient!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You haveve been on the site one week that's it - and already had a meet.

Be patient. Females are limited in number and have both couples and single blokes vying for their attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What were you expecting?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

OK - I get the message. Be patient!

Thanks though, makes me feel better that I am not wasting my time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couple of weeks and 1 meet? Thats good going! Most single lads are on here for months without a sniff. You're obviously doing something right (this thread not included).

Oh and just cos everyone doesn't want to drop their knickers for you doesn't make them timewasters =)

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

1 week and 1 meet.

If you havent patience then this maybe not the best place for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Couldn't agree more - I am talking about the ones who set up a meet or ask for additional photos and then totally disappear - but I guess you get that on every site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couldn't agree more - I am talking about the ones who set up a meet or ask for additional photos and then totally disappear - but I guess you get that on every site."

Additional as is face/cock pics or additional as in filthy action shots? x

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

swinging is about a great fuck not a quick fuck;if thats not what you are looking for this place night not be for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its about aiming your message to the person make sure you make it almost personal to them then they may reply and if possible make them laught

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By *TUDLY_GOOD_FUCKMan
over a year ago

mansfield

Jeez I have waited years to meet some cpls...

Patience of a saint ! Lol

Take it steady neddy everything comes to he who waits, well I hope so anyway

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


" Not very good at being patient!"

well you best learn quick....

good luck, it will happen... just takes time.

Have fun

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"Correct - 1 meet but that's all. Not very good at being patient!"

then in all honesty, this may not be the right avenue for you m8..

you certainly need patience with this..

good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Additional as in action shots and penis shots. I guess they may just be collectors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jeez I have waited years to meet some cpls...

Patience of a saint ! Lol

Take it steady neddy everything comes to he who waits, well I hope so anyway "

Definitely this ^^^^

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi - I have been on the site for a couple of weeks but don't seem to be getting any meets. Lots of time wasters but especially no women or couples taking interest.

Any advice?"

What are your expectations from this site? How many meets or replays do you think you should get say over a 14 day period?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Additional as in action shots and penis shots. I guess they may just be collectors."

I don't think you'll find many people wanting to collect pics of cocks. Action shots maybe. We see enough cock shots on profiles x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Were a couple n not had a meet so dont stress about a few weeks. Good things come to those who wait!!!

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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago

oldbury


"Correct - 1 meet but that's all. Not very good at being patient!"
#ah hum you are currently in contact with us on our joint profile but we cant meet in the day its not that people arent interested sometimes its just that people cant do daytimes

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I was going to ask the same thing that dark thoughts said...

what on earth was your perception of what was going to happen on the site? in a way I think it gives away your perception of what you think about swingers.....

1 week in... 1 meet.... and still moaning!!

I bet if you were to ask men who have been on the site what would be there answer if they had a meet inside their first week i am betting 99% of them would say..."lucky bastard!"

i would say to people... time,patience,common sense...

1 week isn't really giving it time... and the original post isn't really showing a great deal of patience either.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why not just join a bunch of other sites too... oh thats right,,,, most websites charge single guys to be on them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

also, see the thread about male photos... bathroom mirror shots are just the sexiest...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why not just join a bunch of other sites too... oh thats right,,,, most websites charge single guys to be on them... "

Wow he didn't deserve that! He is asking for advice not to be put down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Additional as in action shots and penis shots. I guess they may just be collectors."

they must be collectors, ive never had a genuine meet ask me for action photos, picture of down below yes but not shagging pics, probs were collectors

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi - I have been on the site for a couple of weeks but don't seem to be getting any meets. Lots of time wasters but especially no women or couples taking interest.

Any advice?"

You need to take your time, not expect too much too quickly. You need to gain peoples trust and once you have things will improve hopefully.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What do you suggest then? Pay a professional photographer!! Anybody offering to take some photos of me ( not in the bathroom mirror) then feel free to contact me xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why pay other sites when I am paying to be on this site. Keen to meet people yes, desperate I am not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 week/1 meet = not getting anywhere ?

So are you asking how to have more than one meet a week? ... Go to a club I guess.. But there are no guarantees in this world

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was actually intending to get some advice on my profile, not being slagged off with comments like this, but thanks for bothering all the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi - I have been on the site for a couple of weeks but don't seem to be getting any meets. Lots of time wasters but especially no women or couples taking interest.

Any advice?"

Yeah leave silently please and close the door on your way out so as not to disturb others!. Cheers see ya

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I see - wrong side of the bed this morning?!

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"I was actually intending to get some advice on my profile, not being slagged off with comments like this, but thanks for bothering all the same."

Sadly some people think advice to newbies is trying to ridicule them, and then they wonder when people start threads saying the forums are not friendly to new people.

I will say.....welcome to the site and the forums

Hopefully you will stick around find the fun you are looking for, but you will need patience.

Good luck

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I was actually intending to get some advice on my profile, not being slagged off with comments like this, but thanks for bothering all the same."

see.... the problem is that you use lines like "desperate i am not" but complain when you have been here 1 week, already had a meet... and have done better than 99.9% of guys on this site.....

so again it comes down to perception... of both this site... and of swingers in general and that is why people asked you about that.... and you ignored it....

I could have gone down the "cards in a phone box" route... but didn't... but i do think the expectation between peception and reality is skewed.....

for a lot of people swinging is about good sex, not just lots of sex.... and people tend to be choosy because they have some understanding of what they want..... and that is the point that is missed a lot of the time......

as for advice on your profile... it simply comes down to this:

if you think it reflects the best "you" it can... keep it as it is.. move on happily with your life

if it doesn't... change it!!!

no point in asking for specifics because a million different people will look for a million different things.... and your profile then isn't you anymore...

i think people in a way are telling you stuff... but i am not sure if it going in......

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks very much xx

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

PS Harry, if you click on reply and quote it will let us all know who you are answering xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"PS Harry, if you click on reply and quote it will let us all know who you are answering xx"

Thanks - novice here!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was actually intending to get some advice on my profile, not being slagged off with comments like this, but thanks for bothering all the same.

see.... the problem is that you use lines like "desperate i am not" but complain when you have been here 1 week, already had a meet... and have done better than 99.9% of guys on this site.....

so again it comes down to perception... of both this site... and of swingers in general and that is why people asked you about that.... and you ignored it....

I could have gone down the "cards in a phone box" route... but didn't... but i do think the expectation between peception and reality is skewed.....

for a lot of people swinging is about good sex, not just lots of sex.... and people tend to be choosy because they have some understanding of what they want..... and that is the point that is missed a lot of the time......

as for advice on your profile... it simply comes down to this:

if you think it reflects the best "you" it can... keep it as it is.. move on happily with your life

if it doesn't... change it!!!

no point in asking for specifics because a million different people will look for a million different things.... and your profile then isn't you anymore...

i think people in a way are telling you stuff... but i am not sure if it going in...... "

Thanks for the advice - taken on board

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was actually intending to get some advice on my profile, not being slagged off with comments like this, but thanks for bothering all the same."

There are lots who will try and help its just better to ignore the ones who are negative and try to put you down. There is a lot of competition for meets on here and so single men will find it difficult. That is no reason to give up though. A lot come on with expectations to meet lots of people in a short time. If you think about it then its not going to come instantly. You need to build up slowly, gain peoples confidence and go from there and it will click in place eventually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and shock he has left the site already

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

gutted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't help but think that those who are complaining about not getting meets, would be better off paying a prossy to fullfill their needs!

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