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By *ake it easy! OP   Man
over a year ago

Burton

I have been on fab for some time now and met some really nice people.

I want to involve my wife but she is more than a bit shy ... Any suggestions?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mmm does she really want too?

Try going to a club together. See how things go in there

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By *ommyxyzMan
over a year ago

Crawley

Do a couples profile.

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By *ake it easy! OP   Man
over a year ago

Burton

Never been myself ... Feels a bit awkward

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By *ake it easy! OP   Man
over a year ago

Burton


"Do a couples profile."
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Need to find the right situation to allow for seduction rather than wham-bam

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By *J coupleCouple
over a year ago

stone

Show her your profile and ask if she’d like to be part of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do a couples profile..

Need to find the right situation to allow for seduction rather than wham-bam"

You can do that through a couple's profile too ... wat better than a single man as very few will take it seriously!

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By *ake it easy! OP   Man
over a year ago

Burton

I asked her to play before ... it didnt go well.... said some bollocks about me not loving her any more .... quite the opposite, i feel our relationship is strong enough for me to watch her play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be careful what you wish for she might find she likes it and overtakes you. Forcing someone to do anything isn't what swinging is about but showing her your profile on here would be a first step, if your honest and brave enough. Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile says your wife is not overly interested in the physical side of the marriage, so you've set up a singles profile, and now you want advice on how to get her involved. I can see some issues here...

A. You're meeting women behind her back already, do you not think she might have a problem with that?

B. Has her disinterest in sex with you started since the last time you tried to get her involved, and she got upset saying you didn't love her any more, or as you put it "some bollocks" about not living her anymore.

C. Forcing anyone to do anything because it's what you want is wrong, and certainly the wrong thing to do if your aim is to save the marriage.

I think you need to think about what you want to do very carefully else it could blow up in your face. If she has never shown any interest then it's not for her, don't push her into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stand bàck and wait for the divorce papers to drop on the doormàt when she realises you have done all this anyway and she wasn't aware...

Ooops

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I asked her to play before ... it didnt go well.... said some bollocks about me not loving her any more .... quite the opposite, i feel our relationship is strong enough for me to watch her play"

You feel? It seems she really doesn't feel the same way and has no interest in it at all! Maybe not going behind her back on here, talking to her about how you feel and listening to her about how she feels then putting your own relationship first might be a better way to go than asking a bunch of strangers what they think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I asked her to play before ... it didnt go well.... said some bollocks about me not loving her any more .... quite the opposite, i feel our relationship is strong enough for me to watch her play

You feel? It seems she really doesn't feel the same way and has no interest in it at all! Maybe not going behind her back on here, talking to her about how you feel and listening to her about how she feels then putting your own relationship first might be a better way to go than asking a bunch of strangers what they think? "

Is say him saying what his wife feels about swinging is "some bollocks" about sums up how much he values what she has to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Her not wanting to get involved or “some bollocks” clearly isn’t the issue, I’d say the relationship has bigger issues to resolve before even thinking about being in here. Personally I’d say your relationship has to be solid has to be 100% to be anything to do with swinging as a couple if it’s not goodbye relationship, I’d say your probably best coming off here or atleast telling her you are on here sorting out your stuff together and then seeing if she wants anything to do with it if not it’s a no if she’s not into it then she’s just not into it,

Good luck

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Mine was shy until we first went swinger-clubbing, she took to it all like a duck to water!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I asked her to play before ... it didnt go well.... said some bollocks about me not loving her any more .... quite the opposite, i feel our relationship is strong enough for me to watch her play"

She doesn't feel your relationship is strong enough and she also feels you don't love her.

My advice in these situations is to work on your emotional communication with your partner, sexual communication will follow and chatting about fantasies etc becomes easier. This takes months maybe years and might never lead to swinging.

If not loving your wife is blocks, prove it to her

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Does she want to, or do you want her to?

Not every woman who says no is shy. Sometimes it's a complete lack of interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do a couples profile..

Need to find the right situation to allow for seduction rather than wham-bam"

Given that elsewhere in the thread you dismiss her feelings as 'some bollocks' and that she clearly won't go to a club or set up a couples profile on here, this post is really quite worrying. Do you understand what consent is?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Do a couples profile..

Need to find the right situation to allow for seduction rather than wham-bam

Given that elsewhere in the thread you dismiss her feelings as 'some bollocks' and that she clearly won't go to a club or set up a couples profile on here, this post is really quite worrying. Do you understand what consent is?"

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I asked her to play before ... it didnt go well.... said some bollocks about me not loving her any more .... quite the opposite, i feel our relationship is strong enough for me to watch her play"

If she feels this way you need to address that. As step one. Repair your relationship and the issues she sees with it. She's entitled to her feelings. You should listen to her.

If she's hypothetically open to the idea of swinging, that'll be like step 500 or so.

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