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By *istressdandsubt OP   Couple
over a year ago

caterham

I see alot of singles who say they would like to have a serious relationship, now if you are on dating sites and met someone new would you want to stop swinging or would you hope they would want to do it to , and if so how would you approach it

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By *YC SausageMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I see alot of singles who say they would like to have a serious relationship, now if you are on dating sites and met someone new would you want to stop swinging or would you hope they would want to do it to , and if so how would you approach it "

If I found the right person, I’d quit FAB in a heartbeat.

The question is what would you do if you met someone on tinder, that you later discovered was on FAB? Cause that happened to me quite recently!

Messaged her on here, she read but didn’t reply. Then a month later, matched on Tinder and have had 2 dates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would happily settle into a monogamous relationship, I’m currently single and as such I’m free to do as I please , I have never been in a relationship with a swinging partner , I would discuss with her opinions on swinging however I would be happy in a monogamous relationship.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I could only be in a relationship with somebody who accepts me as I am, I am poly and a part of my life style is the club scene although I am much more social than play. Therefore I couldn't contemplate dating somebody who wasn't aware or didn't accept how how I choose to try to live my best life.

Before I would accept an offer of a date I would explain this to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see alot of singles who say they would like to have a serious relationship, now if you are on dating sites and met someone new would you want to stop swinging or would you hope they would want to do it to , and if so how would you approach it "

I usually tell them quite quickly what I’m into. I’ve met more guys that are into this scene on dating sites then I have on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab would be instant history if I met the right lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see alot of singles who say they would like to have a serious relationship, now if you are on dating sites and met someone new would you want to stop swinging or would you hope they would want to do it to , and if so how would you approach it "

“By the way I swing”

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think a lot of singles view swinging as a stop gap and would never swing with a partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I could only be in a relationship with somebody who accepts me as I am, I am poly and a part of my life style is the club scene although I am much more social than play. Therefore I couldn't contemplate dating somebody who wasn't aware or didn't accept how how I choose to try to live my best life.

Before I would accept an offer of a date I would explain this to them."

That pretty much sums me up too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would carry on swinging if my new partner was into doing it but until I get a new partner I’m staying here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see alot of singles who say they would like to have a serious relationship, now if you are on dating sites and met someone new would you want to stop swinging or would you hope they would want to do it to , and if so how would you approach it "

fab is not a dating site

nor is it a site to fob people off

and tell porky pies to

but it happens

Nah I would need trust built first and foremost

Some here think we are hanging on hooks

some here are time wasters

Nah

I have heard of people even getting married from here or shacking up.

Swinging is what having several sexual fuck partners.

I have been stalked on here

Nah

dating site this is not

swinging from one partner to the next is

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By *r FirecrackerMan
over a year ago

London

I am not designed for a monogamous relationship, that’s just the way I am. They would have to accept me for who I am and fingers crossed join in on the fun!!! I have had some dates that we’re getting serious and when I laid my cards on the table and said this is me...........denied lol

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

I met someone through a dating site quite recently and I told her I was on fab and answered any questions she asked about my sexual history. We are friends but nothing more serious than that.

Why did I tell her? I would like to say I was being honest and that was the main driver: informed choice for all and in part that was the truth. The clearer truth is that I view this lifestyle as part of my life now after 10+ years and I couldn’t form a long term relationship with someone that did not have the same interest.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I’ve thought about this quite a lot lately.

I’d not want to hide a big part of my history from a serious partner, but on the other hand I think a lot of vanilla people wouldn’t get the scene at all. Would think it was seedy, especially a lot of vanilla guys (sorry guys, I know that’s a generalisation but I suspect many blokes would feel weird about their mrs having been on the swinging scene if they’d not been part of it). So in that respect it would be easier to meet someone from the scene.

Plus, even if I was with someone who I didn’t swing with, I’d like to know it was there as an option to return to if we wanted - so again, I think this would be easier with someone from the scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i found the right person i would leave fab.

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By *r FirecrackerMan
over a year ago

London


"I’ve thought about this quite a lot lately.

I’d not want to hide a big part of my history from a serious partner, but on the other hand I think a lot of vanilla people wouldn’t get the scene at all. Would think it was seedy, especially a lot of vanilla guys (sorry guys, I know that’s a generalisation but I suspect many blokes would feel weird about their mrs having been on the swinging scene if they’d not been part of it). So in that respect it would be easier to meet someone from the scene.

Plus, even if I was with someone who I didn’t swing with, I’d like to know it was there as an option to return to if we wanted - so again, I think this would be easier with someone from the scene. "

Fancy a date? Ha ha

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I (Luke) never made a secret of my swinging past when I first met Hannah before there was any possibility of anything happening between us so she was already used to the idea when things got serious.

I have said on a number of occasions I would happily drop it all and it would be just me and her if that is the way she wanted things. So far she has always said no and she is interested in exploring the opportunities presented by swinging.

The offer remains open to her. She's all I need. Anything else is simply a bonus.

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By *ap AdgeMan
over a year ago

Wirral

I have had two nice relationships on here wonderful and we did go swinging together clubs only and my other lifestyle is going on Nudist beaches or Holidays. I see nothing wrong if you meet a partner and still Decide to go swinging together I think guys get to uptight if their Lady is very sexual.

Infant one comment a guy Saud to me in a club I wouldn't let my missus do that

When Susan was enjoying herself with two guys. Little did he know afterwards. We had the best sex afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are interested in a relationship why not try dating sites this site is for free spirited people that like what swinging is about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I could only be in a relationship with somebody who accepts me as I am, I am poly and a part of my life style is the club scene although I am much more social than play. Therefore I couldn't contemplate dating somebody who wasn't aware or didn't accept how how I choose to try to live my best life.

Before I would accept an offer of a date I would explain this to them."
poly essentially means have cake and eat it to lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see alot of singles who say they would like to have a serious relationship, now if you are on dating sites and met someone new would you want to stop swinging or would you hope they would want to do it to , and if so how would you approach it "

I am not a swinger. I only look for flr and go on forums.

You can find domme women on normal dateing sights also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look on dating sites for people who might be swingers as i would like a swinging relationship! Its not that easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you are interested in a relationship why not try dating sites this site is for free spirited people that like what swinging is about "

Really? Says who? I like swinging, with a partner. How do I find that partner? It’s not much fun as a single in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have had two nice relationships on here wonderful and we did go swinging together clubs only and my other lifestyle is going on Nudist beaches or Holidays. I see nothing wrong if you meet a partner and still Decide to go swinging together I think guys get to uptight if their Lady is very sexual.

Infant one comment a guy Saud to me in a club I wouldn't let my missus do that

When Susan was enjoying herself with two guys. Little did he know afterwards. We had the best sex afterwards "

That’s what I miss, that sex you have together after a night of swinging fun.

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By *YC SausageMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"If you are interested in a relationship why not try dating sites this site is for free spirited people that like what swinging is about

Really? Says who? I like swinging, with a partner. How do I find that partner? It’s not much fun as a single in my opinion. "

I liked swinging with a partner. Except she got all the attention lol

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

I gave up on dating sites a long while ago. I don't think I'll ever quit fab so if I was to ever meet someone it would have to be through here or we wouldn't really be compatible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im here because I'm single, no other reason. I'm looking to start dating again soon so hopefully i won't be here much longer

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem


"If you are interested in a relationship why not try dating sites this site is for free spirited people that like what swinging is about "

Ironically dating sites are full of people who want hookups no matter what they say.

Expect a fuck on the 1st date and jump to the next person.

You mention swinging they are like oh couldn't do that and look how many on here use dating sites to hook up and say they get more action on the dating sites than they do on fab! Did they even think to make a conscious effort to check what the other person is actually looking for?

Dating sites aren't dating any more it's fuck n run sites.

There's nothing wrong using fab to find a significant other. Like minded people into swinging what better place?

Maybe they should have a dating section on the forums and maybe even a dating chatroom. Or make new site like fab guys for fab dating. Make it the biggest swingers dating site in the UK. But why waste all that when you can give us the interest option of dating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id like to date again and find the right man for me,if he came along then id not be here as its only filling in time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you are interested in a relationship why not try dating sites this site is for free spirited people that like what swinging is about

Ironically dating sites are full of people who want hookups no matter what they say.

Expect a fuck on the 1st date and jump to the next person.

You mention swinging they are like oh couldn't do that and look how many on here use dating sites to hook up and say they get more action on the dating sites than they do on fab! Did they even think to make a conscious effort to check what the other person is actually looking for?

Dating sites aren't dating any more it's fuck n run sites.

There's nothing wrong using fab to find a significant other. Like minded people into swinging what better place?

Maybe they should have a dating section on the forums and maybe even a dating chatroom. Or make new site like fab guys for fab dating. Make it the biggest swingers dating site in the UK. But why waste all that when you can give us the interest option of dating."

Well said.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"If you are interested in a relationship why not try dating sites this site is for free spirited people that like what swinging is about "

What’s wrong with two of those free spirited people deciding to get together? I’m not actively seeking that but if I met the right person, why not?

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"I gave up on dating sites a long while ago. I don't think I'll ever quit fab so if I was to ever meet someone it would have to be through here or we wouldn't really be compatible "

Exactly how I feel ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I absolutely enjoy the fact that my Mrs is allowed to play whenever and with whoever she wants, I think I wouldn't be able to ever date someone who is majorly vanilla, on the other hand, we get wed in 8 months so hopefully I'll never have to lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave up on dating sites last year, they have become much more polarised these days either guys looking for hook ups or those who want their tea on the table at 6pm sex only on your birthday sort of thing, I would rather seek who I’m looking for here, where I can be honest about who I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been on dating websites and I think alot of men from here are on them. They are probably married or with someone.

I have been on this site for nearly a year, so still new to this lifestyle.

I would like a male for fwb, if that grew into a relationship I think it would be perfect for me and hopefully them.

I wouldn't give up this lifestyle, they either accept or it's a no. It doesn't mean I want others to play with as I love the social side of this life along with being watched playing.

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I was using dating sites before i found fab. Dating sites i tend to find was playing a lot of message tennis rather than actual dates....

No different than fab to be fair tho least people are most honest and upfront with what they want with fab.

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By *razoMan
over a year ago

Kent

I think being up front and honest is paramount. When we hide something from someone we are hiding from ourselves. There is nothing wrong about being open minded about your life style . It is just not for everyone. By being honest we will have a better chance to attract the right people. Got to be who you are and let the chips fall where they may.

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem


"I think being up front and honest is paramount. When we hide something from someone we are hiding from ourselves. There is nothing wrong about being open minded about your life style . It is just not for everyone. By being honest we will have a better chance to attract the right people. Got to be who you are and let the chips fall where they may. "

Being honest on a dating site men think oh she's open to a one night stand . Even though my dating profile says otherwise.

I've even been asked for my prices!? They got blocked quick.

Soon as you say youre a swinger men expect you spread your legs for them. Same here and any dating website.

Swinger doesn't mean you'll fuck everyone, but people don't get that on here or dating sites. I gave up with the dating sites. Because all they see when your honest is a free whore for the night. No intention of dating.

Only place to find the right people if your a swinger is a swingers site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see alot of singles who say they would like to have a serious relationship, now if you are on dating sites and met someone new would you want to stop swinging or would you hope they would want to do it to , and if so how would you approach it "

Yes id stop swinging

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"I’ve thought about this quite a lot lately.

I’d not want to hide a big part of my history from a serious partner, but on the other hand I think a lot of vanilla people wouldn’t get the scene at all. Would think it was seedy, especially a lot of vanilla guys (sorry guys, I know that’s a generalisation but I suspect many blokes would feel weird about their mrs having been on the swinging scene if they’d not been part of it). So in that respect it would be easier to meet someone from the scene.

Plus, even if I was with someone who I didn’t swing with, I’d like to know it was there as an option to return to if we wanted - so again, I think this would be easier with someone from the scene. "

I agree with you. I believe once you enter this addictive world it is difficult to let it go, therefore would probably only work as a relationship within this environment. If you disclosed in a vanilla relationship it may potentially create trust issues

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By *irtySekretsCouple
over a year ago

Filthy Desires Upon Trent

Myself and Ess met on Tinder.

We fancied each other and were both looking for a Long Term Relationship.

Imagine our delight that after 2 weeks, we both found out we had both Swung before and loved it but stopped because our previous partners went funny about it.

Being in love and later finding out we both love to fuck other people has made ours a special relationship.

So much so that we are getting married next year.

Xxxx

Pretty good really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve thought about this quite a lot lately.

I’d not want to hide a big part of my history from a serious partner, but on the other hand I think a lot of vanilla people wouldn’t get the scene at all. Would think it was seedy, especially a lot of vanilla guys (sorry guys, I know that’s a generalisation but I suspect many blokes would feel weird about their mrs having been on the swinging scene if they’d not been part of it). So in that respect it would be easier to meet someone from the scene.

Plus, even if I was with someone who I didn’t swing with, I’d like to know it was there as an option to return to if we wanted - so again, I think this would be easier with someone from the scene.

I agree with you. I believe once you enter this addictive world it is difficult to let it go, therefore would probably only work as a relationship within this environment. If you disclosed in a vanilla relationship it may potentially create trust issues "

And being in a new relationship on here could cause potential issues too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a swinger but I'm on fab to enjoy NSA sex with single men. Also I'm not on any dating sites but if I met someone worth being in a relationship with then I would come off fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite right x

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By *osie xWoman
over a year ago

wolverhampton

I think it depends on the two people involved.

I’d be happy to swing as a couple or stay exclusive but have a feeling that after a while we’d end up back here as things settle.

I tried a dating site once and got more hook up offers than on here, at least you know what the score is here and no one can say later ‘I met you on fab but thought you were a virgin’

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By *istressdandsubt OP   Couple
over a year ago

caterham

Have to say interesting answers ,it would appear 50 50 split between those who would stop and those who would want to carry on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being realistic I think if you are a true swinger once your into the lifestyle you could never go back to a vanilla relationship I know I couldn’t x

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

My last relationship, got to the third date and decided to let my freak flags fly, regarding my past, including that I enjoy swinging.

She responded with her experiences in non traditional relationships.

We never did include anyone else, but it was an option.

I might give up fab for the right person, but the right person would probably want to swing as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My last relationship, got to the third date and decided to let my freak flags fly, regarding my past, including that I enjoy swinging.

She responded with her experiences in non traditional relationships.

We never did include anyone else, but it was an option.

I might give up fab for the right person, but the right person would probably want to swing as well."
is your name Phil by any chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met someone on here and turned to be a total head duck that was 2013. I swore never again

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"My last relationship, got to the third date and decided to let my freak flags fly, regarding my past, including that I enjoy swinging.

She responded with her experiences in non traditional relationships.

We never did include anyone else, but it was an option.

I might give up fab for the right person, but the right person would probably want to swing as well.is your name Phil by any chance "

No, it's a T.S. Eliot reference, not the pornstar. Check out my profile for more of an explanation.

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

I’m a tiny bit sceptical of guy profiles (I think the female profiles tend to be a lot more believable) that state “not here for a quick shag” blah blah

Just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I met someone on here and turned to be a total head duck that was 2013. I swore never again "

I understand you had a bad experience but not all guys are like that. That’s like dating someone and they broke your heart and you never date ever again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am single, Charlie is my FWB but I love him and would give up swinging for a relationship with him if he wanted. He's more important to me than swinging.

XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've met a couple of couples on fab who met on fab then became a relationship and still swing. You never know when Mr or Mrs right comes along. Mr

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I met my partner on FAB. I've tried normal dating sites. The trouble is most people are not swingers or open to it. I think acceptance and loving someone for who they are including sexually is very important. As is openness and comunincation. So you have a chicken and egg sort of thing going on in normal dating. At what point do you bring it up. To late in your risk causing hurt and wasted time and emotional investment. To early and you can come across (at least as a guy) as just another dude who wants to get his leg over and has no interest in a serious relationship.

But then I think deep down despite being relationship wise monogomus, sexually I've always been open to swinging and group sex. So once I was bit by the bug I was not going back. I know it's not the same for others. I've know a few women on here who have met someone away from FAB and come of fab and out of the lifestyle. There are a fair few on here that this is just a means to a end or a bit of an adventure while they wait to meet someone for a serious relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't swing. I wouldn't date anyone off here anyway.

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