FabSwingers.com forum: Rejection

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Every single one of us will encounter rejection at some point or another....

After all, not a single one of us meets everyones preferences.

But does it "hurt" to different degree's for different people? I guess it relates to everyones level of confidence???

How do you feel after being rejected?

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By *straeus and AthenaCouple
over a year ago

Canterbury

Doesn't bother us to be honest. We do things to enhance our relationship, and if people don't want to be a part of that, that's perfectly fine! Were not to everyone's taste, and that's ok, we still have each other

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Our most recent rejection was from a guy we had agreed to meet who after two socials just went quiet. We were bemused more than anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't bother us.. not everyone will fancy you and visa versa.. it's life, no drama.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

After being on here some time it doesn’t matter any more. There are so many variables it’s not always me personally that is rejected just circumstances to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like most are saying not to bothered, meets are a bonus on here.

Clubs seem to be a good start to meet than toiling with endless messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was only thinking about this earlier. In real life I have suffered the worst kinds of rejection there is and its massively effected the way I handle rejection on here, which is not well. It's the ghosting that gets me...fucking brutal.

(I have had a lot of vodka)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not too fussed, I'm not for everyone and vice versa. Nature of the beast on here, meets are a bonus.

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By *ork10Man
over a year ago

York

I’m used to it

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By *issy and hotCouple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

My wife rejects me sexually because im a Tranny

But i have no problem with this still in love

But sexually she wants a mans man and i totally get that .

Just wish we could find a regular guy for her fun who doesnt mind a tranny in the background .

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By *entleman55Man
over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r

Happened to me today, friends for ages, lots of chat on here and via text....an hour before meeting.......blocked on here and on phone !! No reason, no sorry changed my mind, I wouldn’t mind but we got on brilliantly.....now that hurts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rejection doesn't bother me,I don't take it personally and it doesn't have any negative effect on me.I just forget about it and move on

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By *inky SpiceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I wouldn't know, what's rejection?...just kidding! How do I handle it? In a word, badly! I usually hide my profile, disappear for a while and get on with less seedy things in life.

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

"Every single one of us will encounter rejection at some point or another....

After all, not a single one of us meets everyones preferences.

But does it "hurt" to different degree's for different people? I guess it relates to everyones level of confidence???

How do you feel after being rejected? "

It depends really.....sometimes rejection comes slowly and gradually, as in, somebody no longer replies to your texts, or doesn’t send a text to say ‘hello’ on their own volition....it is disappointing and if you want to establish some sort of platonic friendship as well as the sex, it can be even sad. But you learn to move on.

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By *duk70Man
over a year ago

langley

It’s daily.... oh well

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By *entleman55Man
over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r

"I wouldn't know, what's rejection?...just kidding! How do I handle it? In a word, badly! I usually hide my profile, disappear for a while and get on with less seedy things in life."

That’s good x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's a rejection from someone I care about, that hurts. Anyone else and it can get shrugged off very easily

Holly

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By *entleman55Man
over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r

"If it's a rejection from someone I care about, that hurts. Anyone else and it can get shrugged off very easily

Holly"

That’s my hurt !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every single one of us will encounter rejection at some point or another....

After all, not a single one of us meets everyones preferences.

But does it "hurt" to different degree's for different people? I guess it relates to everyones level of confidence???

How do you feel after being rejected? "

Bothers me 5% maximum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it's a rejection from someone I care about, that hurts. Anyone else and it can get shrugged off very easily

Holly

That’s my hurt !! "

I just saw your earlier comment. I'm sorry lovely. That is very callous of them. It's not much, but sending virtual hugs. I've been there and it can be extremely hurtful and confusing

Holly

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

We get rejected or ignored on here a lot recently. Tbh it's started to knock my (K) self confidence a bit!

Hey ho it could be worse!

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By *entleman55Man
over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r

"If it's a rejection from someone I care about, that hurts. Anyone else and it can get shrugged off very easily

Holly

That’s my hurt !!

I just saw your earlier comment. I'm sorry lovely. That is very callous of them. It's not much, but sending virtual hugs. I've been there and it can be extremely hurtful and confusing

Thank

Holly"

Thank you holly, I’ve been here long enough to realise I’ve been taken for an idiot xx

(((((Hugs)))))

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By *osie xWoman
over a year ago

wolverhampton

I used to get hurt by it but getting used to the fickle nature of some fabbers and just let it go over me now.

The annoying part is when they pop up a month later like nothing’s happened and wonder why you blank them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every single one of us will encounter rejection at some point or another....

After all, not a single one of us meets everyones preferences.

But does it "hurt" to different degree's for different people? I guess it relates to everyones level of confidence???

How do you feel after being rejected? "
sad

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

At least I got to rejection stage as that's more than receiving nothing.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not in the slightest. It is not the rejection that annoys me, it is the ghosting, when you don't know the reasons.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

We’re all individuals so it will affect us all differently. If it’s someone I’m interested in on Fab then no it doesn’t bother me. If it’s a friend then yes it would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We’re all individuals so it will affect us all differently. If it’s someone I’m interested in on Fab then no it doesn’t bother me. If it’s a friend then yes it would. "
don't reject me then hold me close to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who cares tbh, you’re not going to be everyone’s cup of tea, so take it on the chin, brush it off, onwards and upwards or whatever other corny phrase you wanna use

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By *andm300Man
over a year ago

guildford

External validation strategies stuck. Love yourself ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not an issue for us fab is a fun addition not the main course. Mr

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Interesting perspectives

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every single one of us will encounter rejection at some point or another....

After all, not a single one of us meets everyones preferences.

But does it "hurt" to different degree's for different people? I guess it relates to everyones level of confidence???

How do you feel after being rejected? "

With people doesn’t bother me, in life events depends what it was

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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I have no problem with it though some really take the hump even to the point on preaching how people should reject them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know I'm not everyone's type. But I don't send out messages first so I don't experience rejection on here. If I did and was rejected, I would just move on. No need to concentrate on it.

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By *actileGent69Man
over a year ago

East Cheshire

As a couple we arent usually rejected but it does happen once every blue moon.

Our worst rejection was by the male half of a couple in their home. He was weird and lost all interest whereas the ladies fell in love very quickly and were all over each other in a flash. It was amazing to watch. He immediately put a stop to it, led his partner into another room and made her cry !?!?. Needless to say my partner was quite upset too. Some weird folk on here...

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By *thena123Woman
over a year ago

Swansea

It used to yes, yes ago....im now older and wiser and I look at it this way.. I'm not everyone's cup of tea, but I'm me, I don't put on a front for anyone, if someone doesn't like me for who I am then that's not my problem, it's theirs...im happy with who I am and the people who know me know I'm a good,kind caring person... Each to their own.xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get rejected and I reject, could be a whole load of reasons. I am not arrogant enough to think I can get everyone I want as we all have different tastes and goals. It can of course be disappointing if they are your type but just dust it off and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My life is rejection. ...not only on here but in normal life...

I've tried to form relationships with ladies of 10 occasions this year. .nothing works....it's all rejection, failure and disappointment. Obviously it's all my fault. I'm very giving,generous, attentive and accommodating. All they do is take,take,take.....just really pisses me off....

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By *ingleman2020Man
over a year ago

Just got to be respectful and honest. If you do both of those you would hope people are adults and don’t get offended, everyone has a type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just got to be respectful and honest. If you do both of those you would hope people are adults and don’t get offended, everyone has a type. "

This. A straight ‘Not my type thanks’ is so much better than a long drawn out ‘soft let down’ which implies you can’t handle them saying no. It’s an implied lack of respect for my emotional maturity which is insulting.

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By *cloversCouple
over a year ago

Hull

We had a social meet this week - great night but they said we weren't for them.

We'd done the exact same to a couple a week before

No problems - as my husband says - Live by the sword die by the sword. Doesn't really bother us - we'd rather people be honest and we have to much respect for ourselves and others to be anything else. That's why we insist on social meets first

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"I get rejected and I reject, could be a whole load of reasons. I am not arrogant enough to think I can get everyone I want as we all have different tastes and goals. It can of course be disappointing if they are your type but just dust it off and move on

Agree totally with this, luckily I'm at an age where it doesn't hurt as much, when I've been rejected

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By *nglishdoodMan
over a year ago

Morristown

I very rarely approach anyone on here, so when I do, I suppose I'm more disappointed than if I sent lots of messages.

Deleting sent messages after 24 hours made it all more bearable.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Move on. There's plenty more fish and I don't see the point getting hung up over someone who wouldn't be as excited to meet me as I would them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every single one of us will encounter rejection at some point or another....

After all, not a single one of us meets everyones preferences.

But does it "hurt" to different degree's for different people? I guess it relates to everyones level of confidence???

How do you feel after being rejected? "
i dont recall being rejected but if it were someone i hadnt met it would have no affect at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got used to rejection early on lol single men need thick skin here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No such thing as rejection in life it just wasn't meant to be for what ever reason, if you start thinking your being rejected you will fall in to negativity and that's deffiently not an atractive trait, better off staying positive and some one will want you for you.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I don't think about it to be honest. If someone says "thanks but no thanks" I know I'm not going to be everyone's cup of tea which is fine x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you've been married for 40 years you get very well used to having a woman refuse to fuck you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you cant handle reejection then you should not be swinging ... this lifestyle is about choice not free for all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

rejection **

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I harden myself to rejection, it does get me feeling low sometimes as I don't have anyone unlike couples, they are lucky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every single one of us will encounter rejection at some point or another....

After all, not a single one of us meets everyones preferences.

But does it "hurt" to different degree's for different people? I guess it relates to everyones level of confidence???

How do you feel after being rejected? "

I think it only really hurts when the person (or people) seem like a really good match and you start to picture all the fun you could have, only to be told 'no thank you'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think about it to be honest. If someone says "thanks but no thanks" I know I'm not going to be everyone's cup of tea which is fine x"
i dont drink tea

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By *rancis6Couple
over a year ago

sale

well said we are the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rejection is a part of life. I think the problem comes from (men in particular) people thinking swinging is about have sex with loads of people. Some people do have little morals and will sleep with almost anyone. But the vast majority want a form of connection at least before play. Even the prettiest suffer some rejection on here. We recently had a gorgeous lady approach us but we turned her away as she was a smoker. It’s a case of suck it up.

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By *egin551Couple
over a year ago

south west !

Some couples only what me (Mrs) to play with them, even though they first ask if we both will play.

We promptly send face pictures and most come back stating my husband is not their ‘cup of tea’ after nearly 4 years of rejection, I know it hurts him.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I don't think about it to be honest. If someone says "thanks but no thanks" I know I'm not going to be everyone's cup of tea which is fine xi dont drink tea

Welcome to the club x

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Not offended by rejection, we're not for everyone, it really is a case of, NEXT!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's preferences, you get rejected one day and you reject someone the next, so it's a mutually agreed play, we have to go by the preferences..

Not much whine about. Just move on

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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon tyne

I think it depends. If it's just being rejected on here after a first message/social or whatever it doesn't bother me. But if we've been seeing someone regularly for a long time, and we all feel like friends and we just get ghosted it stings a bit. More the fact we thought we were friends and they couldn't just tell us they didn't want to continue with what we were doing, rather than that they rejected us.

Gem

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