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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So a lil debate....and lets keep it friendly yea!

Guys on here who cheat....whose issue is it? Is it just the guys who cheating or should you who knowingly meets a married/attached man have some responsibilty? Or is it all on the guy cheating?

Ps im single and not playin away and i feel i take no responsibility for anyone elses choices in life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about woman? Isn’t the question the same regardless of whether male or female?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's his responsibility. Nothing to do with me, not my problem. He is 'at fault' or 'to blame'.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What about woman? Isn’t the question the same regardless of whether male or female?"

Ah ok yes it should, when ur right ur right

I was lookin from it with a gay view i guess but opolgies there x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just a choice. A choice to "cheat" (whatever you consider cheating to be). Couple's and singles then make their choice about whether they want to meet you based on the information you've given them.

Choice isn't complicated.

It raises questions, emotions and debate amongst everyone and everyone has an opinion but regardless of which side of the fence you sit on it still boils down to choice.

****lights blue touch paper and stands back****

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely it should apply to women too?...

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem

The thing that I have issue with most is those cheating but doing it bareback with their meets.

Then they go home to screw their significant other who is unaware of what they are up to. It isn't fair on them to be given std when they've been faithful.

I can understand sexless relationships and a person's needs. But you'd think that honesty with their significant other being open about seeing other people to have your needs met would be fine. If the one you love can't give you what you need surely they'd be happy for you to find it. Because they love you.

I've given up meeting cheaters because I don't want to be given short notice for a quickie. I enjoy taking my time to have sex not rushed because so and so only has an hour before other half gets home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So a lil debate....and lets keep it friendly yea!

Guys on here who cheat....whose issue is it? Is it just the guys who cheating or should you who knowingly meets a married/attached man have some responsibilty? Or is it all on the guy cheating?

Ps im single and not playin away and i feel i take no responsibility for anyone elses choices in life!"

No it's only the adulterers mistake and not the prostitutes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The thing that I have issue with most is those cheating but doing it bareback with their meets.

Then they go home to screw their significant other who is unaware of what they are up to. It isn't fair on them to be given std when they've been faithful.

I can understand sexless relationships and a person's needs. But you'd think that honesty with their significant other being open about seeing other people to have your needs met would be fine. If the one you love can't give you what you need surely they'd be happy for you to find it. Because they love you.

I've given up meeting cheaters because I don't want to be given short notice for a quickie. I enjoy taking my time to have sex not rushed because so and so only has an hour before other half gets home."

1000000% agree with the bareback part! It is dangerous and an unneccasery risk anyways let alone the risks of givin somethin to an unaware partner! Safe sex all the way!!

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"No it's only the adulterers mistake and not the prostitutes."

Well this will not go well for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So a lil debate....and lets keep it friendly yea!

Guys on here who cheat....whose issue is it? Is it just the guys who cheating or should you who knowingly meets a married/attached man have some responsibilty? Or is it all on the guy cheating?

Ps im single and not playin away and i feel i take no responsibility for anyone elses choices in life!

No it's only the adulterers mistake and not the prostitutes."

It's not a mistake if he's paying for a fuck. He can't say "oops £10 fell out of my wallet and my cock went up her minge". It wasn't an accident.

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only


"So a lil debate....and lets keep it friendly yea!

Guys on here who cheat....whose issue is it? Is it just the guys who cheating or should you who knowingly meets a married/attached man have some responsibilty? Or is it all on the guy cheating?

Ps im single and not playin away and i feel i take no responsibility for anyone elses choices in life!

No it's only the adulterers mistake and not the prostitutes."

So because a woman sleeps with an attached guy she is a prostitute

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east


"So a lil debate....and lets keep it friendly yea!

Guys on here who cheat....whose issue is it? Is it just the guys who cheating or should you who knowingly meets a married/attached man have some responsibilty? Or is it all on the guy cheating?

Ps im single and not playin away and i feel i take no responsibility for anyone elses choices in life!

No it's only the adulterers mistake and not the prostitutes."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It's not a mistake if he's paying for a fuck. He can't say "oops £10 fell out of my wallet and my cock went up her minge". It wasn't an accident. "

Can you forgive when I say "mistake"

I mean "fault/guilt"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So because a woman sleeps with an attached guy she is a prostitute "

I won't throw stones or anything...

I've done it with "open marriage"

But I'm not a homewrecker

The homewrecker is not morraly good person but it's the adulterers fault.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It's not a mistake if he's paying for a fuck. He can't say "oops £10 fell out of my wallet and my cock went up her minge". It wasn't an accident.

Can you forgive when I say "mistake"

I mean "fault/guilt"

"

It's the adulterer's fault

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

When something wrong is done it's usually a culmination of a sequence of events and circumstances. The person who does the bad thing is responsible but blame can usually be apportioned to more people than just the wrongdoer.

The question also arises of enablers

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"The thing that I have issue with most is those cheating but doing it bareback with their meets.

Then they go home to screw their significant other who is unaware of what they are up to. It isn't fair on them to be given std when they've been faithful.

I can understand sexless relationships and a person's needs. But you'd think that honesty with their significant other being open about seeing other people to have your needs met would be fine. If the one you love can't give you what you need surely they'd be happy for you to find it. Because they love you.

I've given up meeting cheaters because I don't want to be given short notice for a quickie. I enjoy taking my time to have sex not rushed because so and so only has an hour before other half gets home.

1000000% agree with the bareback part! It is dangerous and an unneccasery risk anyways let alone the risks of givin somethin to an unaware partner! Safe sex all the way!!"

There is no such thing as safe sex (other than perhaps between two exclusive long term partners) just safer sex. You can still catch std's such as syphilis and herpes, and probably a few others!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Takes two to tango. If you know the other party is cheating and still choose to meet then you are just as much to blame imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thing that I have issue with most is those cheating but doing it bareback with their meets.

Then they go home to screw their significant other who is unaware of what they are up to. It isn't fair on them to be given std when they've been faithful.

I can understand sexless relationships and a person's needs. But you'd think that honesty with their significant other being open about seeing other people to have your needs met would be fine. If the one you love can't give you what you need surely they'd be happy for you to find it. Because they love you.

I've given up meeting cheaters because I don't want to be given short notice for a quickie. I enjoy taking my time to have sex not rushed because so and so only has an hour before other half gets home."

I would never consider bareback only safe “sex” I’m just selfish in my desire for a certain physical attraction A Large Breasted Woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely this 'swinger scenario' is a licence to have sex with other like minded consenting adults and it is immaterial as to the status of those who partake... My comment is why the hypocrisy..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thing that I have issue with most is those cheating but doing it bareback with their meets.

Then they go home to screw their significant other who is unaware of what they are up to. It isn't fair on them to be given std when they've been faithful.

I can understand sexless relationships and a person's needs. But you'd think that honesty with their significant other being open about seeing other people to have your needs met would be fine. If the one you love can't give you what you need surely they'd be happy for you to find it. Because they love you.

I've given up meeting cheaters because I don't want to be given short notice for a quickie. I enjoy taking my time to have sex not rushed because so and so only has an hour before other half gets home.

1000000% agree with the bareback part! It is dangerous and an unneccasery risk anyways let alone the risks of givin somethin to an unaware partner! Safe sex all the way!!

There is no such thing as safe sex (other than perhaps between two exclusive long term partners) just safer sex. You can still catch std's such as syphilis and herpes, and probably a few others!!!"

It's worrying that some people think a condom keeps them safe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Takes two to tango. If you know the other party is cheating and still choose to meet then you are just as much to blame imo. "

Totally agree

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"The thing that I have issue with most is those cheating but doing it bareback with their meets.

Then they go home to screw their significant other who is unaware of what they are up to. It isn't fair on them to be given std when they've been faithful.

I can understand sexless relationships and a person's needs. But you'd think that honesty with their significant other being open about seeing other people to have your needs met would be fine. If the one you love can't give you what you need surely they'd be happy for you to find it. Because they love you.

I've given up meeting cheaters because I don't want to be given short notice for a quickie. I enjoy taking my time to have sex not rushed because so and so only has an hour before other half gets home.

1000000% agree with the bareback part! It is dangerous and an unneccasery risk anyways let alone the risks of givin somethin to an unaware partner! Safe sex all the way!!

There is no such thing as safe sex (other than perhaps between two exclusive long term partners) just safer sex. You can still catch std's such as syphilis and herpes, and probably a few others!!!

It's worrying that some people think a condom keeps them safe. "

Yes, very!

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem


"The thing that I have issue with most is those cheating but doing it bareback with their meets.

Then they go home to screw their significant other who is unaware of what they are up to. It isn't fair on them to be given std when they've been faithful.

I can understand sexless relationships and a person's needs. But you'd think that honesty with their significant other being open about seeing other people to have your needs met would be fine. If the one you love can't give you what you need surely they'd be happy for you to find it. Because they love you.

I've given up meeting cheaters because I don't want to be given short notice for a quickie. I enjoy taking my time to have sex not rushed because so and so only has an hour before other half gets home.

1000000% agree with the bareback part! It is dangerous and an unneccasery risk anyways let alone the risks of givin somethin to an unaware partner! Safe sex all the way!!

There is no such thing as safe sex (other than perhaps between two exclusive long term partners) just safer sex. You can still catch std's such as syphilis and herpes, and probably a few others!!!"

Is that your excuse to bareback?

It mitigates than chance of catching the infections.

I myself go for regular testing and I use condoms. I don't deny the chance of catching stds but reduces the risk to 90% in the least of not catching something.

If condoms didn't work then why do we have a low transmission rate of blood borne stds in this country.

Stop quoting the fact that condoms don't protect from everything as an excuse to go bare.

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem


"The thing that I have issue with most is those cheating but doing it bareback with their meets.

Then they go home to screw their significant other who is unaware of what they are up to. It isn't fair on them to be given std when they've been faithful.

I can understand sexless relationships and a person's needs. But you'd think that honesty with their significant other being open about seeing other people to have your needs met would be fine. If the one you love can't give you what you need surely they'd be happy for you to find it. Because they love you.

I've given up meeting cheaters because I don't want to be given short notice for a quickie. I enjoy taking my time to have sex not rushed because so and so only has an hour before other half gets home.

1000000% agree with the bareback part! It is dangerous and an unneccasery risk anyways let alone the risks of givin somethin to an unaware partner! Safe sex all the way!!

There is no such thing as safe sex (other than perhaps between two exclusive long term partners) just safer sex. You can still catch std's such as syphilis and herpes, and probably a few others!!!

It's worrying that some people think a condom keeps them safe. "

Keeps them SAFER than barebacking

No sex is safe unless you don't have any.

As proven by the fact you can't even trust your significant partners.

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem

Preventing syphilis

Syphilis can't always be prevented, but if you're sexually active you can reduce your risk by practising safer sex:

use a male condom or female condom during vaginal, oral and anal sex

use a dental dam (a square of plastic) during oral sex

avoid sharing sex toys – if you do share them, wash them and cover them with a condom before each use

These measures can also reduce your risk of catching other sexually transmitted infections (STIs).

Taken from nhs website for your convenience.

Bit of info for the irresponsible ones of fab who think barebacking is fine because "hey fuck it you could catch them anyway". I dare say the local areas increase of syphilis infections is down to the majority of barebackers. I say so because when asked when was your last screening most can't even say when which means they've never been to a clinic or so long ago they can't remember.

So rather than diagnosing these stds and curing the curable ones they just keep spreading it.

There's also website for those of you with things like herpes.

Positivesingles. At least you don't have to worry about disclosing your std there they have something in common with them than being here and spreading it to the uninfected.

If you bareback with more than your trusted partners it should be compulsory you be treated the same as any porn star and sex worker 2 to 4 weekly tests.

You can't rely on vaccines and pills to keep you safe. As much as condom users aren't completely safe. It's better to reduce the chance than not give a fuck about it. So yes the term safe sex isn't safe sex but SAFER sex.

At least you can be avoided for pointing out you engage in unsafe sex. Ones to avoid.

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By *issy and hotCouple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

I think if you gonna play away man or woman do it

Just dont get caught

And if you do own up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely this 'swinger scenario' is a licence to have sex with other like minded consenting adults and it is immaterial as to the status of those who partake... My comment is why the hypocrisy..?"

There is no hypocrisy.

Just dishonesty.

Mind, some people don't care about dishonesty until they are on the receiving end. .... .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No it's only the adulterers mistake and not the prostitutes.

Well this will not go well for you. "

This lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely this 'swinger scenario' is a licence to have sex with other like minded consenting adults and it is immaterial as to the status of those who partake... My comment is why the hypocrisy..?

There is no hypocrisy.

Just dishonesty.

Mind, some people don't care about dishonesty until they are on the receiving end. .... ."

These same people who don't care complain about fake profiles and photos. It's so much worse someone wasted your time with dishonest photos when you turned up than you destroying someone else's marriage

People are entitled to their own opinions but sometimes you have to wonder if they were ever taught to be responsible for their own actions

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By *issy and hotCouple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

My partner hot recently owned up to meeting a guy on her own in a to me hotel daytime , while i was at work . we had met him before as a couple .

But she wanted her own fun with him because she fancied him that much .

She blurted it out one day

Ive never been so turned on .

Thinking of her plotting n scheming n then hididing it until admitting it to me .

Go her want more go u u mrs hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Havent read the whole thread. But the responsibility is on the person cheating of course!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you state you're in a relationship then it's no one's fault you've made it clear (goes for males and females) we know what this site is about and we know why we are on it.

Sex is fun, flirting is fun and if you're not getting it at home you come on this site and try your luck. We all need to be happy, am I right?

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By *heEvilWithinWoman
over a year ago

Barnsley

Cheating is wrong and cowardly no matter how people want to put a spin on it. In response to your question if the person who is with the cheater knows they are doing it in secret I think they are equally to blame.

I personally don't agree with cheating. I think if you're unhappy, which if you're cheating you are, then you should have the balls to say to your partner why you are unhappy. Kids, financial etc bs reasons in my opinion aren't valid.

However people who are poly or swingers I am completely fine with.

I do not believe in monogamy. We are not designed to only have sex with one person our whole lives.

I do not think there is a place for jealous swingers either. Which there are a lot of. People swing for the wrong reasons too. People should just try be more open and honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unbelievable the replies here.

Sorry but "it's not my fault I told them I'm cheating" and "it's not my fault even if I know they are the ones cheating" is complete and utter BS.

You can't stand in court and say you have no blame in a robbery because you were only a getaway driver and weren't the one actually robbing the bank. You will also be prosecuted. Simple.

Stop kidding yourselves that you are doing anything but being completely selfish and self centered... and probably destroying little children's lives if you were found out

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near

We all have opinions on this touchy subject.

From the few posts I've read here's my opinion

It's no one's fault that either or both cheat.. We all have personal experience reasons, but whether it's due to

Stress

Work hours

Un interested

Issues

Female menapause

Mental health

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is going to have a different opinion on this topic... But it's good to see what everyone believes in

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near

From what I see on here, it's an equal ratio of cheaters to fake or weirdo profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I believe the cheater is culpable. If someone decides to meet someone who is married on here and are single themselves, they don't owe anything to someone they don't know. I don't think both are equally culpable at all. Who the married person cheats with is inconsequential. He took those vows. Not the single person. Though im sure there will be some who'll disagree

Holly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What was I saying yesterday about sinners and stones?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From what I see on here, it's an equal ratio of cheaters to fake or weirdo profiles "
and this is true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I think the onus is on both parties.

P

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By *aughtyBlokeKentMan
over a year ago

Kent/Gatwick area

What gets me is the profiles that say they're cheating yet claim to be "reliable, genuine, trustworthy, won't let you down" etc. Surely they don't treat an online stranger better than their partner at home???

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By *heislanderMan
over a year ago

cheshunt


"We all have opinions on this touchy subject.

From the few posts I've read here's my opinion

It's no one's fault that either or both cheat.. We all have personal experience reasons, but whether it's due to

Stress

Work hours

Un interested

Issues

Female menapause

Mental health

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is what is so messed up with this forum, not everything in life is an opinion some things are actually cold hard facts.

This is why I used the analogy of the getaway driver, they would also be prosecuted IN REAL LIFE. Why? Because they also have blame in the robbery. It's not an opinion, it's a fact, backed up by law.

As much as I hate to admit it, saying whether or not it is ok to cheat in a sexless marriage is an opinion, I strongly disagree with it but still an opinion. However a person who has sex with someone who they know are cheating is also at fault because they are fully aware of the situation. That is a fact

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem


"This is what is so messed up with this forum, not everything in life is an opinion some things are actually cold hard facts.

This is why I used the analogy of the getaway driver, they would also be prosecuted IN REAL LIFE. Why? Because they also have blame in the robbery. It's not an opinion, it's a fact, backed up by law.

As much as I hate to admit it, saying whether or not it is ok to cheat in a sexless marriage is an opinion, I strongly disagree with it but still an opinion. However a person who has sex with someone who they know are cheating is also at fault because they are fully aware of the situation. That is a fact"

It's a fact most women on fab avoid cheating men.

I've always avoided them. The sad fact is many "single" men swearing to be single aren't. Finding out weeks after you've been fucking they aren't single isn't great. Now I just don't bother. They lied what else would they lie about? Move on to new adventures.

I've always told them should a spouse contact me I'd not lie for anyone.

I admit when I've found out in the beginning I carried on seeing them but it isn't worth it. Treat you as the quick fuck they don't give a shit about your pleasures just their own. Nothing mutual about it. Basically the free whore. They want their cake and eat it with no regard for anyone else.

Whether it's their relation of convenience or one of love. It's understandable either way someone wanting their needs met. But has to be morally acceptable. Lies and bullshit aren't morally acceptable.

I don't believe human race is monogamous, it's becoming understood again but we're stuck believing as a society that social ideals enforced by people who control the masses be it religion or government that polygamy is wrong.

Love is love and sex is sex. Not mutually exclusive. Loving someone isn't the same as sexual pleasure.

In an ideal world we can be completely honest with everyone. More acceptance for being non-monogamous.

Fab is also full oh hypocrites. Saying they'd never let another guy fuck their woman. But here they are....

A person has a right to do with their body what ever and that means fuck who ever. But has to be informed consent.

Taking away a person's informed choice is wrong.

Lying to another saying you're single when you aren't then that person finds out. You feel violated because you had your informed consent taken from you.

You agreed to sex based on a fact they were single or it would be regular sex of what ever kind. But you're led into it unknowing and agreeing to something you didn't know. That takes away informed consent.

My advice to anyone cheating honesty is always best policy. Be it scorned significant others or scorned playmates. No one likes being lied to.

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"The thing that I have issue with most is those cheating but doing it bareback with their meets.

Then they go home to screw their significant other who is unaware of what they are up to. It isn't fair on them to be given std when they've been faithful.

I can understand sexless relationships and a person's needs. But you'd think that honesty with their significant other being open about seeing other people to have your needs met would be fine. If the one you love can't give you what you need surely they'd be happy for you to find it. Because they love you.

I've given up meeting cheaters because I don't want to be given short notice for a quickie. I enjoy taking my time to have sex not rushed because so and so only has an hour before other half gets home.

1000000% agree with the bareback part! It is dangerous and an unneccasery risk anyways let alone the risks of givin somethin to an unaware partner! Safe sex all the way!!

There is no such thing as safe sex (other than perhaps between two exclusive long term partners) just safer sex. You can still catch std's such as syphilis and herpes, and probably a few others!!!

Is that your excuse to bareback?

It mitigates than chance of catching the infections.

I myself go for regular testing and I use condoms. I don't deny the chance of catching stds but reduces the risk to 90% in the least of not catching something.

If condoms didn't work then why do we have a low transmission rate of blood borne stds in this country.

Stop quoting the fact that condoms don't protect from everything as an excuse to go bare. "

For a start, we don't bareback (with others) but if we did we wouldn't need an 'excuse' it would be a choice which we and everyone else is free to make.

Yes, of course it mitigates the chance of catching an infection, that's why I will only use the term SAFER SEX, as opposed to safe sex.

IMO testing will only confirm or deny symptoms - quarterly testing is, I guess a good thing for the very active, but if you're tested on the 1st and contract an infection on the 2nd, what about the other 89 days?

I'm not trying to spoil anyone's party, I really don't care who shags who or how many they shag - that's their business and really no concern of mine, but just be aware that it comes with risk, especially in the context of this thread.

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"This is what is so messed up with this forum, not everything in life is an opinion some things are actually cold hard facts.

This is why I used the analogy of the getaway driver, they would also be prosecuted IN REAL LIFE. Why? Because they also have blame in the robbery. It's not an opinion, it's a fact, backed up by law.

As much as I hate to admit it, saying whether or not it is ok to cheat in a sexless marriage is an opinion, I strongly disagree with it but still an opinion. However a person who has sex with someone who they know are cheating is also at fault because they are fully aware of the situation. That is a fact"

Spot on!

Very few people are honest with themselves (let alone with others) and even fewer accept full responsibility for themselves - that's why the surprised look when they're caught

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's just a choice. A choice to "cheat" (whatever you consider cheating to be). Couple's and singles then make their choice about whether they want to meet you based on the information you've given them.

Choice isn't complicated.

It raises questions, emotions and debate amongst everyone and everyone has an opinion but regardless of which side of the fence you sit on it still boils down to choice.

****lights blue touch paper and stands back****"

Let's see

No photo

No mention of playing away on profile

No mention in chat

He goes on cam

Wedding ring seen but still no mention of playing away from Oh the sexless marriage

Am gutted because he wasn't being straight nor honest. Although they have needs I don't support cheaters. We are all responsible for our actions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thing that I have issue with most is those cheating but doing it bareback with their meets.

Then they go home to screw their significant other who is unaware of what they are up to. It isn't fair on them to be given std when they've been faithful.

I can understand sexless relationships and a person's needs. But you'd think that honesty with their significant other being open about seeing other people to have your needs met would be fine. If the one you love can't give you what you need surely they'd be happy for you to find it. Because they love you.

I've given up meeting cheaters because I don't want to be given short notice for a quickie. I enjoy taking my time to have sex not rushed because so and so only has an hour before other half gets home.

1000000% agree with the bareback part! It is dangerous and an unneccasery risk anyways let alone the risks of givin somethin to an unaware partner! Safe sex all the way!!

There is no such thing as safe sex (other than perhaps between two exclusive long term partners) just safer sex. You can still catch std's such as syphilis and herpes, and probably a few others!!!

Is that your excuse to bareback?

It mitigates than chance of catching the infections.

I myself go for regular testing and I use condoms. I don't deny the chance of catching stds but reduces the risk to 90% in the least of not catching something.

If condoms didn't work then why do we have a low transmission rate of blood borne stds in this country.

Stop quoting the fact that condoms don't protect from everything as an excuse to go bare.

For a start, we don't bareback (with others) but if we did we wouldn't need an 'excuse' it would be a choice which we and everyone else is free to make.

Yes, of course it mitigates the chance of catching an infection, that's why I will only use the term SAFER SEX, as opposed to safe sex.

IMO testing will only confirm or deny symptoms - quarterly testing is, I guess a good thing for the very active, but if you're tested on the 1st and contract an infection on the 2nd, what about the other 89 days?

I'm not trying to spoil anyone's party, I really don't care who shags who or how many they shag - that's their business and really no concern of mine, but just be aware that it comes with risk, especially in the context of this thread.

"

Totally agree here poster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thing that I have issue with most is those cheating but doing it bareback with their meets.

Then they go home to screw their significant other who is unaware of what they are up to. It isn't fair on them to be given std when they've been faithful.

I can understand sexless relationships and a person's needs. But you'd think that honesty with their significant other being open about seeing other people to have your needs met would be fine. If the one you love can't give you what you need surely they'd be happy for you to find it. Because they love you.

I've given up meeting cheaters because I don't want to be given short notice for a quickie. I enjoy taking my time to have sex not rushed because so and so only has an hour before other half gets home.

1000000% agree with the bareback part! It is dangerous and an unneccasery risk anyways let alone the risks of givin somethin to an unaware partner! Safe sex all the way!!

There is no such thing as safe sex (other than perhaps between two exclusive long term partners) just safer sex. You can still catch std's such as syphilis and herpes, and probably a few others!!!

It's worrying that some people think a condom keeps them safe.

Keeps them SAFER than barebacking

No sex is safe unless you don't have any.

As proven by the fact you can't even trust your significant partners."

Some people think that using condoms mean they never need to get tested. So they don't bother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet married men, ever. the cheat and who he cheats with are both responsible if the other woman is in the know.

I've been cheated on and it's really shit to be honest. you always suspect something because their behaviour changes.

and every man uses the same excuses for it...

it's a sexless marriage

we are together for the kids

the list is endless.

there is no excuse for cheating

my ex, the total sweetheart, cheated while abroad with his mates, for his stag do. I found out when he emptied his suitcase and I could smell cheap perfume. I didn't say anything. I let him carry on a few days. I cancelled all of the wedding. and then when he was out one evening, I packed his stuff and left it on the doorstep. then messaged the woman and told her to expect him with his stuff.

lucky escape for me. I hear he's now got a drink problem.

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

It’s firstly the cheater that is ultimately responsible but the person that has sex with the cheater does also have some responsibility, if you are knowing the person is married or in a relationship you are a big part or the deceit

Women that have done this do know and must feel guilt and those that don’t are either a bit thick or have a huge ego or are looking to cause some pain to the unknown woman so must be quite mean and they usually get off with this and feel quite powerful , and you will also get some that can’t find anyone single so are acting desperately or a mix of the lot

Everything we do has consequences at the end of the day and I don’t want to do anything that’s going to seriously hurt anyone I don’t know, people always find out if they have a cheating partner it’s only a matter of time and why get caught up in that

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond


"The thing that I have issue with most is those cheating but doing it bareback with their meets.

Then they go home to screw their significant other who is unaware of what they are up to. It isn't fair on them to be given std when they've been faithful.

I can understand sexless relationships and a person's needs. But you'd think that honesty with their significant other being open about seeing other people to have your needs met would be fine. If the one you love can't give you what you need surely they'd be happy for you to find it. Because they love you.

I've given up meeting cheaters because I don't want to be given short notice for a quickie. I enjoy taking my time to have sex not rushed because so and so only has an hour before other half gets home.

1000000% agree with the bareback part! It is dangerous and an unneccasery risk anyways let alone the risks of givin somethin to an unaware partner! Safe sex all the way!!

There is no such thing as safe sex (other than perhaps between two exclusive long term partners) just safer sex. You can still catch std's such as syphilis and herpes, and probably a few others!!!

Is that your excuse to bareback?

It mitigates than chance of catching the infections.

I myself go for regular testing and I use condoms. I don't deny the chance of catching stds but reduces the risk to 90% in the least of not catching something.

If condoms didn't work then why do we have a low transmission rate of blood borne stds in this country.

Stop quoting the fact that condoms don't protect from everything as an excuse to go bare. "

Why would condoms protect against anything blood borne?

Silly me, I thought they protected against against pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases (though with a failure rate, to be sure)

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham


"So a lil debate....and lets keep it friendly yea!

Guys on here who cheat....whose issue is it? Is it just the guys who cheating or should you who knowingly meets a married/attached man have some responsibilty? Or is it all on the guy cheating?

Ps im single and not playin away and i feel i take no responsibility for anyone elses choices in life!

No it's only the adulterers mistake and not the prostitutes.

It's not a mistake if he's paying for a fuck. He can't say "oops £10 fell out of my wallet and my cock went up her minge". It wasn't an accident. "

£10, they are cheap up your way. The last prostitute I heard someone pay for was £40.

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By *r Rubba LoverMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"So a lil debate....and lets keep it friendly yea!

Guys on here who cheat....whose issue is it? Is it just the guys who cheating or should you who knowingly meets a married/attached man have some responsibilty? Or is it all on the guy cheating?

Ps im single and not playin away and i feel i take no responsibility for anyone elses choices in life!"

Felt the need to point out that you can still be married and yet at the same time, separated AND single....oooh technicalities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see how you can blame anyone other than the person cheating. Yes, it's shitty meeting with someone who has a partner who is left in the dark, but they don't owe that stranger anything. It's down to the partner to treat them with respect and be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just leave .dont be a slimeball

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just leave .dont be a slimeball"

There are loads and loads of slimeballs on here.

Would LOVE for their partner to do it back to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't see how you can blame anyone other than the person cheating. Yes, it's shitty meeting with someone who has a partner who is left in the dark, but they don't owe that stranger anything. It's down to the partner to treat them with respect and be honest. "

It's got nothing to do with owing that person anything. It's about morals + being a good person because you are still knowingly meeting with someone who is cheating on their partner + potentially destroying a child's life.

Going back to the point about fault, you are at fault as well as the person cheating. That is a fact, not an opinion. See my previous 2 comments and my analogy with the getaway driver.

The getaway driver is also convicted even though they are not the one doing the robbery because they are also at fault. Fact.

Being at fault means you are also to blame. A viewpoint that is fact, not opinion, back up by law.

Whether it is ok to cheat or be with a person who cheats is an opinion, but you still are at fault and thus have blame. Fact.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

For me, all parties should be honest, so that I can make an informed decision on whether I meet them. Lying and then me finding out, not a good idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just leave .dont be a slimeball

There are loads and loads of slimeballs on here.

Would LOVE for their partner to do it back to them"
there prob is it should be you either both agree to join here.or a genuine single guy like myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

The getaway driver is also convicted even though they are not the one doing the robbery because they are also at fault. Fact.

Being at fault means you are also to blame. A viewpoint that is fact, not opinion, back up by law.

Whether it is ok to cheat or be with a person who cheats is an opinion, but you still are at fault and thus have blame. Fact."

I agree with your points, the other woman is at fault for knowningly getting involved and they have no morals, that's a fact.

But in my eyes you can not blame anyone but your partner for the betrayal happening in the first place. I wish shit like this didn't happen, it would be lovely to live in a world like that but the homewrecker who could potentially destroy your children's lives isn't the woman who fucked your man. It's your man who betrayed you and his children so he could have a fuck.

I won't change my mind too no matter how many facts your throw at me. It's not a situation where it is just black and white.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

The getaway driver is also convicted even though they are not the one doing the robbery because they are also at fault. Fact.

Being at fault means you are also to blame. A viewpoint that is fact, not opinion, back up by law.

Whether it is ok to cheat or be with a person who cheats is an opinion, but you still are at fault and thus have blame. Fact.

I agree with your points, the other woman is at fault for knowningly getting involved and they have no morals, that's a fact.

But in my eyes you can not blame anyone but your partner for the betrayal happening in the first place. I wish shit like this didn't happen, it would be lovely to live in a world like that but the homewrecker who could potentially destroy your children's lives isn't the woman who fucked your man. It's your man who betrayed you and his children so he could have a fuck.

I won't change my mind too no matter how many facts your throw at me. It's not a situation where it is just black and white. "

It absolutely will be the fault of the guy who cheated on his family. All I am saying is the woman also has blame because she chose to have sex with him. Only if the woman did not know can she be completely blameless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn’t life be easy if it was like a Disney film, unfortunately it isn’t and people cheat all the time. I’m single but I’ve played and had regular things with married guys and will continue to do so, if it’s not me it’ll be someone else.

Lot of highly judgemental people on fab along with the fantasists when in all reality you’ve no idea who you are meeting, plenty of people on here with fake names, locations etc... that are playing away pretending to be single. I’ve a lot more respect for those that hold their hands up and say they are attached from the off.

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By *ummer breeze300Woman
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"This is what is so messed up with this forum, not everything in life is an opinion some things are actually cold hard facts.

This is why I used the analogy of the getaway driver, they would also be prosecuted IN REAL LIFE. Why? Because they also have blame in the robbery. It's not an opinion, it's a fact, backed up by law.

As much as I hate to admit it, saying whether or not it is ok to cheat in a sexless marriage is an opinion, I strongly disagree with it but still an opinion. However a person who has sex with someone who they know are cheating is also at fault because they are fully aware of the situation. That is a fact

It's a fact most women on fab avoid cheating men.

I've always avoided them. The sad fact is many "single" men swearing to be single aren't. Finding out weeks after you've been fucking they aren't single isn't great. Now I just don't bother. They lied what else would they lie about? Move on to new adventures.

I've always told them should a spouse contact me I'd not lie for anyone.

I admit when I've found out in the beginning I carried on seeing them but it isn't worth it. Treat you as the quick fuck they don't give a shit about your pleasures just their own. Nothing mutual about it. Basically the free whore. They want their cake and eat it with no regard for anyone else.

Whether it's their relation of convenience or one of love. It's understandable either way someone wanting their needs met. But has to be morally acceptable. Lies and bullshit aren't morally acceptable.

I don't believe human race is monogamous, it's becoming understood again but we're stuck believing as a society that social ideals enforced by people who control the masses be it religion or government that polygamy is wrong.

Love is love and sex is sex. Not mutually exclusive. Loving someone isn't the same as sexual pleasure.

In an ideal world we can be completely honest with everyone. More acceptance for being non-monogamous.

Fab is also full oh hypocrites. Saying they'd never let another guy fuck their woman. But here they are....

A person has a right to do with their body what ever and that means fuck who ever. But has to be informed consent.

Taking away a person's informed choice is wrong.

Lying to another saying you're single when you aren't then that person finds out. You feel violated because you had your informed consent taken from you.

You agreed to sex based on a fact they were single or it would be regular sex of what ever kind. But you're led into it unknowing and agreeing to something you didn't know. That takes away informed consent.

My advice to anyone cheating honesty is always best policy. Be it scorned significant others or scorned playmates. No one likes being lied to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't see how you can blame anyone other than the person cheating. Yes, it's shitty meeting with someone who has a partner who is left in the dark, but they don't owe that stranger anything. It's down to the partner to treat them with respect and be honest. "

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By *ikeandmollyCouple
over a year ago

swindon

I don’t know if anyone has posted some thing like this but this is how I feel about life, sex and love. Me and Mike are in love it’s more than love, he is me part of me feels wrong when he’s not just there next to me. But and it’s a big but I don’t own him as he don’t own me, if we where out and having fun in a club or somewhere like that and one of us went and had a bit of fun with a other then that’s fine same as if I did too, but that is us out playing not cheating and it’s just sex not a relationship with someone else which is what we see as cheering. Fucking and experiences are what make life rich and interesting. Hope you get the idea I Trying to get over lol

Molly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See nothing has changed! men are barstewards for cheating but for women it's okay!

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By *ood girl2010Couple
over a year ago

crewe


"So a lil debate....and lets keep it friendly yea!

Guys on here who cheat....whose issue is it? Is it just the guys who cheating or should you who knowingly meets a married/attached man have some responsibilty? Or is it all on the guy cheating?

Ps im single and not playin away and i feel i take no responsibility for anyone elses choices in life!"

men don't need to cheat when they get pusy at home why mess about when you got a women with you that will let you do what they want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wouldn’t life be easy if it was like a Disney film, unfortunately it isn’t and people cheat all the time. I’m single but I’ve played and had regular things with married guys and will continue to do so, if it’s not me it’ll be someone else.

Lot of highly judgemental people on fab along with the fantasists when in all reality you’ve no idea who you are meeting, plenty of people on here with fake names, locations etc... that are playing away pretending to be single. I’ve a lot more respect for those that hold their hands up and say they are attached from the off. "

Actually I do have more respect for them and in fact told many just that even though I won't play.

Judgemental because these people are cheating on their partners and children?

Well let's not point out the wrong doings of the murderers, rapists, racists and God knows what else then because if you do point out anything anyone does that is wrong and don't let people do whatever selfish things they want you will be judgmental

At this rate I think this site might need to be renamed from FabSwingers to SecretAffairs... Both still a sex site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See nothing has changed! men are barstewards for cheating but for women it's okay! "

No not at all. Someone pointed that out early on and most posts have tried putting "person" and "partner" etc so it applied to men and women alike

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only actions I can take responsibly for are my own. So If somebody wanted to cheat on their partner with me I would turn them down as I do not personally condone treating any partner that way.

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

Slightly different take on what's been said.

1. Agree, responsibility for any consequences to the marriage, kids etc fall on the man (or woman) who's cheating not the sex partner

2. Unlike the so called "many" who don't meet cheaters, I don't mind attached men and have enjoyed the sexual and mental interaction very much. It's just consenting adults having some fun I don't get moralistic and judgemental

3. Monogamy is unnatural IMHO and the attached men I've met (so far) have all been decent men just lacking passion and sex in their lives. Not sex addicted predators

4. Regarding bareback - once again, it's a choice. We all make choices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So a lil debate....and lets keep it friendly yea!

Guys on here who cheat....whose issue is it? Is it just the guys who cheating or should you who knowingly meets a married/attached man have some responsibilty? Or is it all on the guy cheating?

Ps im single and not playin away and i feel i take no responsibility for anyone elses choices in life!"
why are you asking out of interest?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So a lil debate....and lets keep it friendly yea!

Guys on here who cheat....whose issue is it? Is it just the guys who cheating or should you who knowingly meets a married/attached man have some responsibilty? Or is it all on the guy cheating?

Ps im single and not playin away and i feel i take no responsibility for anyone elses choices in life!

men don't need to cheat when they get pusy at home why mess about when you got a women with you that will let you do what they want"

That's not true. Even swingers cheat sometimes. They can be fucking anyone they want but still meet people secretly without their partner's knowledge and against their wishes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slightly different take on what's been said.

1. Agree, responsibility for any consequences to the marriage, kids etc fall on the man (or woman) who's cheating not the sex partner

2. Unlike the so called "many" who don't meet cheaters, I don't mind attached men and have enjoyed the sexual and mental interaction very much. It's just consenting adults having some fun I don't get moralistic and judgemental

3. Monogamy is unnatural IMHO and the attached men I've met (so far) have all been decent men just lacking passion and sex in their lives. Not sex addicted predators

4. Regarding bareback - once again, it's a choice. We all make choices."

1. Referring back to the getaway driver analogy, they would also be convicted even though they didn't actually do the robbery themselves because they have some responsibility. This is a fact, not an opinion, backed by law.

A murderer can believe it is ok to kill someone as much as they like, it doesn't change the fact that it is not.

2. The point is not everyone involved is a consenting adult. The partner being cheated on is not consenting. If they were, there would be no cheating taking place.

3. This is an opinion most swingers would share otherwise they wouldn't be doing it. Same applies to other forms like Poly, etc.

Funnily enough a lot of people cheating won't let their partners play. But that's cheating for you.

4. This is a choice. Not a very smart one if you kill yourself with aids but your choice nonetheless

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By *heoralexpertMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough/Helmsley NY

I know a guy who is cheating on his very highly attractive wife and also has a few kids with her too I'm so tempted to tell her but for the kids sake I feel like I can't however I also feel awful for her so what would you do in my situation I'm guessing I just have to keep it shhh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know a guy who is cheating on his very highly attractive wife and also has a few kids with her too I'm so tempted to tell her but for the kids sake I feel like I can't however I also feel awful for her so what would you do in my situation I'm guessing I just have to keep it shhh "

With all due respect, what's it to do with you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know a guy who is cheating on his very highly attractive wife and also has a few kids with her too I'm so tempted to tell her but for the kids sake I feel like I can't however I also feel awful for her so what would you do in my situation I'm guessing I just have to keep it shhh

With all due respect, what's it to do with you?"

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So a lil debate....and lets keep it friendly yea!

Guys on here who cheat....whose issue is it? Is it just the guys who cheating or should you who knowingly meets a married/attached man have some responsibilty? Or is it all on the guy cheating?

Ps im single and not playin away and i feel i take no responsibility for anyone elses choices in life!"

I wouldn't get involved/play with anyone who I knew was doing it behind their partner's back (male or female).

Not anything to do with their life choices or judging their decisions. All to do with looking after myself and my life. I just don't want any drama at my door and who knows what the cheated on person will think or do when/if they find out.

If people wanna cheat then that's all on them, but I won't play with an attached person for this reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So a lil debate....and lets keep it friendly yea!

Guys on here who cheat....whose issue is it? Is it just the guys who cheating or should you who knowingly meets a married/attached man have some responsibilty? Or is it all on the guy cheating?

Ps im single and not playin away and i feel i take no responsibility for anyone elses choices in life!

I wouldn't get involved/play with anyone who I knew was doing it behind their partner's back (male or female).

Not anything to do with their life choices or judging their decisions. All to do with looking after myself and my life. I just don't want any drama at my door and who knows what the cheated on person will think or do when/if they find out.

If people wanna cheat then that's all on them, but I won't play with an attached person for this reason. "

Incase they got a crazy mrs who wouldn't think twice about putting a pickaxe through your brain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know a guy who is cheating on his very highly attractive wife and also has a few kids with her too I'm so tempted to tell her but for the kids sake I feel like I can't however I also feel awful for her so what would you do in my situation I'm guessing I just have to keep it shhh "

It shouldn't make a difference if she is highly attractive or the ugliest woman that ever lived, they both wouldn't deserve to be treated like that surely?

I wouldn't say I agree outright with "what's it got to do with you" purely because it depends how close of a friend she is, family friendships etc. If I saw her multiple times a week standing in their kitchen while she made me coffee, was over for dinner, went out places often with their family often likes zoos or whatever, then I don't think I could look her in the eye and keep what he is doing to myself.

However that doesn't mean I want to tell her or it would be the same if we were not that close either. Really you don't want to get involved in something like that and no offence to you but if you only want to do it to shit stir then definitely just keep out because that is bad in itself.

I don't think anyone can really give you any good advice on what to do, no matter if they are against cheating or cheaters themselves, and especially from a forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know a guy who is cheating on his very highly attractive wife and also has a few kids with her too I'm so tempted to tell her but for the kids sake I feel like I can't however I also feel awful for her so what would you do in my situation I'm guessing I just have to keep it shhh "

A lot of cheaters are accomplished liars and master manipulators, my ex being one of them (although I consider cheating to be a d*unken fumble in a nightclub or one off whereas meeting someone regularly or exchanging lots of intimate or personal messages more affair territory but that's neither here nor there)

Back to my point. I knew without solid evidence I was being taken for a muppet, and he like many others turned it on me "how can you not trust me after all these years?" "How can you think I'd do that to you?" "You're breaking my heart even thinking I could consider it, let alone do such a thing"

P

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"So a lil debate....and lets keep it friendly yea!

Guys on here who cheat....whose issue is it? Is it just the guys who cheating or should you who knowingly meets a married/attached man have some responsibilty? Or is it all on the guy cheating?

Ps im single and not playin away and i feel i take no responsibility for anyone elses choices in life!"

I think those who have posted on this thread, have missed your main point OP; you are a gay male, and I'm guessing you're interested in people's views about married men playing away with gay men?

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By *heoralexpertMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough/Helmsley NY

I just think it's a bloody horrible thing to do

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

Man, woman, doesn't matter. If someone is cheating, we're not interested.

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By *heoralexpertMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough/Helmsley NY

Very well said x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think cheats are cowards, for whatever reasons its not acceptable to see the damage you are causing to the other persons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me, all parties should be honest, so that I can make an informed decision on whether I meet them. Lying and then me finding out, not a good idea"

So you would meet with an honest cheater? I much prefer an honest cheat than a lying one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Man, woman, doesn't matter. If someone is cheating, we're not interested. "

Sorry completely off topic, but are you an oasis fan by any chance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sinners = stones

A narcasist will never admit to being a liar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wouldn’t life be easy if it was like a Disney film, unfortunately it isn’t and people cheat all the time. I’m single but I’ve played and had regular things with married guys and will continue to do so, if it’s not me it’ll be someone else.

Lot of highly judgemental people on fab along with the fantasists when in all reality you’ve no idea who you are meeting, plenty of people on here with fake names, locations etc... that are playing away pretending to be single. I’ve a lot more respect for those that hold their hands up and say they are attached from the off.

Actually I do have more respect for them and in fact told many just that even though I won't play.

Judgemental because these people are cheating on their partners and children?

Well let's not point out the wrong doings of the murderers, rapists, racists and God knows what else then because if you do point out anything anyone does that is wrong and don't let people do whatever selfish things they want you will be judgmental

At this rate I think this site might need to be renamed from FabSwingers to SecretAffairs... Both still a sex site"

Who mentioned anything about murderers, rapists and racists?

Cheating will always happen and has done since the beginning of time and people do it for different reasons - it is not for us to judge why people do it, it isn’t illegal.

Yes there is a partner on the other side, they may or may not have children, but that is for their conscious to deal with, 90% of the time the other partner knows something is going on and just sits it out.

I don’t seek out married men. I meet and play in clubs. You can’t help but run into married guys there, some I’ve not seen again but some I’ve seen several times and away from the clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People, noone is judging noone, but cheating is wrong. I talk as someone who has cheated before, and not proud to have done it. Cheating is a way to express an unhappiness in a lifestyle you re living, that could be the relationship itself, most likely or the situation of your life it is at that right time. I cheated a few times, cause I wasnt happy with myself, and still I'm not ready for one cause I know I would go back to cheat, like I'm missing something that I cannot find within someone else. We cheat cause we arent happy. If you have sex and your partner is aware of it. Fine, they are aware and adults. But you re literally doing something wrong to someone else that has feelings, and it destroys people, for some quick excitement which will end up fading straight after. The fault is the person who cheats. That's why I m personally single and will only get into a relationship if I m ready to respect the person I am with! Which means if you want to fuck someone else, she needs to be aware of it and make her choices whether to agree, or not, so she can move on or enjoy that kinda of things. We are humans, and make mistakes, but we have a choice to take us where we want to be. Is up to you to make it, you cant blame it to someone else. Anyhow happy swinging xD lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wouldn’t life be easy if it was like a Disney film, unfortunately it isn’t and people cheat all the time. I’m single but I’ve played and had regular things with married guys and will continue to do so, if it’s not me it’ll be someone else.

Lot of highly judgemental people on fab along with the fantasists when in all reality you’ve no idea who you are meeting, plenty of people on here with fake names, locations etc... that are playing away pretending to be single. I’ve a lot more respect for those that hold their hands up and say they are attached from the off.

Actually I do have more respect for them and in fact told many just that even though I won't play.

Judgemental because these people are cheating on their partners and children?

Well let's not point out the wrong doings of the murderers, rapists, racists and God knows what else then because if you do point out anything anyone does that is wrong and don't let people do whatever selfish things they want you will be judgmental

At this rate I think this site might need to be renamed from FabSwingers to SecretAffairs... Both still a sex site

Who mentioned anything about murderers, rapists and racists?

Cheating will always happen and has done since the beginning of time and people do it for different reasons - it is not for us to judge why people do it, it isn’t illegal.

Yes there is a partner on the other side, they may or may not have children, but that is for their conscious to deal with, 90% of the time the other partner knows something is going on and just sits it out.

I don’t seek out married men. I meet and play in clubs. You can’t help but run into married guys there, some I’ve not seen again but some I’ve seen several times and away from the clubs. "

I’d never “blame” the other party who had cheated with my OH. Not their fault regardless if they knew they were attached or not.

Let’s be honest here. Sometimes “cheating” isn’t even due to a lack of love for the other half. It just happens - sometimes without any premeditation and sometimes with.

We dig deep on the subject when sometimes there’s nothing to find

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"Takes two to tango. If you know the other party is cheating and still choose to meet then you are just as much to blame imo. "

Absolutely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Takes two to tango. If you know the other party is cheating and still choose to meet then you are just as much to blame imo.

Absolutely"

Agree entirely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Who mentioned anything about murderers, rapists and racists? "

"... and God knows what else"

So I was very clearly using an extreme example to prove a point.

"... because if you do point out anything anyone does that is wrong and don't let people do whatever selfish things they want you will be judgmental"

In other words, regardless of what it is someone is doing wrong, whether that is illegal or not, if you try to point it out you are branded as judgemental.

Actually those doing the branding against people pointing out the fact they also have "some" (empathises on some) blame when they know they are being judgemental.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As annoying as it can be, it is not always the man who cheats. But seriously, if one partner repeatedly does not want sex or intimacy, or only has it reluctantly then what do you think will happen?

At the end of the day if someone is honest about it then why shouldn't they indulge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would never knowingly meet any man that is in a relationship we don't condone cheating and if we're talking to one who is cheating we will let his partner know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As annoying as it can be, it is not always the man who cheats. But seriously, if one partner repeatedly does not want sex or intimacy, or only has it reluctantly then what do you think will happen?

At the end of the day if someone is honest about it then why shouldn't they indulge."

Depends on if they are an honest person or not doesn't it?

We don't like dishonesty full stop. If they can lie about one thing they can lie about anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you know they are cheating then your a moron for meeting them. That goes for women who meet male cheats as well.

They should rename fabswingers to fabcheaters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you know they are cheating then your a moron for meeting them. That goes for women who meet male cheats as well.

They should rename fabswingers to fabcheaters."

At the minute, we would agree.

Every other single person who contacts us are cheats.

Do they not know the difference between being a swinger and being a cheat?

One of them involves honesty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As annoying as it can be, it is not always the man who cheats. But seriously, if one partner repeatedly does not want sex or intimacy, or only has it reluctantly then what do you think will happen?

At the end of the day if someone is honest about it then why shouldn't they indulge."

If that is the case then there is something much deeper wrong with the relationship and you two need to TALK openly and honestly about it. Not doing so makes you a coward, liar and a cheat, someone who quite honestly doesn't deserve sex.

One result of these talks could be that you find out how selfish you are being in the bedroom, or even that your partner would like an open relationship/swinging, which would then mean you are BOTH satisfied and nobody is cheating.

What I can tell you is that a lot of these people cheating insist it is ok for them to do, but get very shitty at the thought of ACTUALLY SWINGING where their partner can also have sex with other people!

This just goes to show its all lies and excuses and why someone made the comment earlier its more like FabCheaters than FabSwingers.

These people are not swingers (or poly etc) they just want to get their dick wet and don't care about anyone else whatsoever except themselves. From the way some talk (not just forums) I wouldn't be surprised if a large percentage of the cheaters are like it because they are actually sociopaths

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