FabSwingers.com forum: Seeking a Different Kind of Meet

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I’ve been chatting to people on here and it’s hard to find what I’m after, thought I’d give this a go instead

So I’m looking for a nice lass (preferably in her 40s) that would happily let a guy book a hotel for the night for them. No pressure for me to stay but when they arrive there will be some new lingerie, a dress and some new heels for them to wear if they fancy a night out as well.

There’s no pressure to play although I would definitely hope they’d fancy it. Wonder if anyone is on here that might fancy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel so pressured by reading the words 'no pressure'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but it sounds like some women might feel pressured into play as you have bought them gifts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This could only really work with someone that knows you well enough to know you mean what you say and say what you mean.

I wouldn't ever consider this as an option even if I was meeting privately and I've been offered something similar by others. Kinda makes me feel cheap and under pressure to do what you ask and a little creepy as it's a request from a stranger. Might even question people that know me if this was on offer.

Good luck with your search but I can see why it's not going to be an easy find.

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By *ood girl2010Couple
over a year ago

crewe

"Sorry but it sounds like some women might feel pressured into play as you have bought them gifts. "

yes I can feel it to reading the message he has put on. im a sub and I ware what I want

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

That's a hard no from me. I don't even like being bought a drink.

Comes too close to offering money or gifts in exchange for sex, and despite "no pressure", I'd block someone who offered that.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Many women here like to go 50/50 on everything OP simply because it removes any sense of obligation or expectation from the equation - know you have said there would be no pressure, but by doing those things you subconsciously create pressure if that makes sense?

Similarly a lot of women don't like having what they wear (including lingerie) chosen for them and prefer to choose what they are comfortable with rather than a blokes idea of what he might think is comfortable.

There are of course those that would accept your offer and indeed some women/couples expect the man to pay for the hotel etc - personally I think expecting it is a bit much and wouldn't entertain the idea unless it was a longstanding thing and we were taking it in turns or similar.

What you're suggesting is a nice idea in theory, and plays right into your username, but as said above there are aspects of it that won't appeal to some for the reasons I've given.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I’ve been chatting to people on here and it’s hard to find what I’m after, thought I’d give this a go instead

There’s no pressure to play although I would definitely hope they’d fancy it. Wonder if anyone is on here that might fancy it "

sounds like you need a escort not a meet reading this

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

And yeah telling me what to wear is quite icky.

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By *hamCouple30Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Sounds like a recipe for good old Ki(d)nap and Ra(p)e x

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I'm sure you're genuine but many might see what you're offering as some kind of paid arrangement - even though it's not cash.

You might get lucky, but as your experience to date has proven, probably not for most.

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By *ancardiff7Man
over a year ago

Near Cowbridge

You might get away with this if you look like Richard Gere but otherwise you're fucked, or not as the case may be.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"You might get away with this if you look like Richard Gere but otherwise you're fucked, or not as the case may be. "

I'd block the hottest, most charismatic, richest man in the world if he tried this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would only want my Mr to do this for me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd block the hottest, most charismatic, richest man in the world if he tried this. "

Yep, same here. I'm my own woman - I wear the lingerie and the clothes that I like. Sugar daddy thing just doesn't do it, sorry.

Not even my OH would try and buy me lingerie. In fact, even when i'm browsing at love honey and ask for his opinion he doesn't want to give it - he prefers not to know and for me to surprise him!

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By *ancardiff7Man
over a year ago

Near Cowbridge

"You might get away with this if you look like Richard Gere but otherwise you're fucked, or not as the case may be.

I'd block the hottest, most charismatic, richest man in the world if he tried this. "

I think most would...it was a 'Pretty Woman' reference really...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You might get away with this if you look like Richard Gere but otherwise you're fucked, or not as the case may be.

I'd block the hottest, most charismatic, richest man in the world if he tried this. "

I get that you don’t like this idea, I’m not trying to do anything creepy or weird I’m simply putting a fantasy out there that I like the look of with the hopes that someone may say yes

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm afraid in this context it seems creepy and weird in itself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm afraid in this context it seems creepy and weird in itself. "

That is your perception and I’m not trying to dig at the fact you hold that opinion I’m simply saying that not all guys are the way you perceive and posting over and over about your lack of interest isn’t exactly constructive to someone just trying to use the site for something positive in their eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You might get away with this if you look like Richard Gere but otherwise you're fucked, or not as the case may be.

I'd block the hottest, most charismatic, richest man in the world if he tried this. "

yeah i agree.

i am fully independent and i can afford nice hotels, nice underwear why would i need to feel cheap

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You might get away with this if you look like Richard Gere but otherwise you're fucked, or not as the case may be.

I'd block the hottest, most charismatic, richest man in the world if he tried this.

yeah i agree.

i am fully independent and i can afford nice hotels, nice underwear why would i need to feel cheap "

I’m not trying to make women feel cheap, I’m simply trying to bring a touch of something old fashioned into a bedroom

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"You might get away with this if you look like Richard Gere but otherwise you're fucked, or not as the case may be.

I'd block the hottest, most charismatic, richest man in the world if he tried this. "

So the saying 'everyone has their price' is actually not true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You might get away with this if you look like Richard Gere but otherwise you're fucked, or not as the case may be.

I'd block the hottest, most charismatic, richest man in the world if he tried this.

yeah i agree.

i am fully independent and i can afford nice hotels, nice underwear why would i need to feel cheap

I’m not trying to make women feel cheap, I’m simply trying to bring a touch of something old fashioned into a bedroom "

What happens to the lingerie etc when the evening is over?

And the lady has said " no" to sex?

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"I’m not trying to make women feel cheap, I’m simply trying to bring a touch of something old fashioned into a bedroom "

I think that's where you're going wrong - times have changed, women are independant and see men trying to 'buy' them rather than appeal to them as creepy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You might get away with this if you look like Richard Gere but otherwise you're fucked, or not as the case may be.

I'd block the hottest, most charismatic, richest man in the world if he tried this.

yeah i agree.

i am fully independent and i can afford nice hotels, nice underwear why would i need to feel cheap

I’m not trying to make women feel cheap, I’m simply trying to bring a touch of something old fashioned into a bedroom "

well its not. you are a stranger that person is a stranger looking for nsa fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You might get away with this if you look like Richard Gere but otherwise you're fucked, or not as the case may be.

I'd block the hottest, most charismatic, richest man in the world if he tried this.

yeah i agree.

i am fully independent and i can afford nice hotels, nice underwear why would i need to feel cheap

I’m not trying to make women feel cheap, I’m simply trying to bring a touch of something old fashioned into a bedroom

What happens to the lingerie etc when the evening is over?

And the lady has said " no" to sex?"

and what happens if the said Lingerie isnt to the taste of the lady or god forbid doesnt fit?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I'm afraid in this context it seems creepy and weird in itself.

I'm sorry you feel that way, but personally I feel that my perspective has merit. That there are very good reasons why women won't want to do this and will find the idea distasteful.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You might get away with this if you look like Richard Gere but otherwise you're fucked, or not as the case may be.

I'd block the hottest, most charismatic, richest man in the world if he tried this.

yeah i agree.

i am fully independent and i can afford nice hotels, nice underwear why would i need to feel cheap

I’m not trying to make women feel cheap, I’m simply trying to bring a touch of something old fashioned into a bedroom

What happens to the lingerie etc when the evening is over?

And the lady has said " no" to sex?"

She can keep if she likes it, if she says no we simply go out separate ways and yeah I get that’s a far fetched idea but I have no plans to try and force anything

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

As a thought OP - if this is a fantasy scenario, why not discuss with someone you have already met, that knows you and perhaps with whom you've discussed and played out other fantasies - you may have more luck that way, rather than trying to find someone new, as this thread has shown

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By *hamCouple30Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

These 40 - 50 year old fat ladies are hard to please...

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By *ancardiff7Man
over a year ago

Near Cowbridge

"As a thought OP - if this is a fantasy scenario, why not discuss with someone you have already met, that knows you and perhaps with whom you've discussed and played out other fantasies - you may have more luck that way, rather than trying to find someone new, as this thread has shown

You can f-off with your common sense approach too!

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

This to me is a hatmless fantasy if both sides are buying in to it.

My concern would be letting someone else choose my clothes...that has the potential to be a big fail...wrong sizes, wrong style...I'd find that more uncomfortable than any other aspect of this scenario...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would be open to a game of monopoly

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By *eteforprincesssMan
over a year ago

up a monkeys butt!

I like this... I don't want multiple men or bsdm ect... just a good evening.. chat flirting banter... straight sex..

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Massive no from me.

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

Its ok ladies! I will take one for the team!

OP I am a size 22, I dont do well with man made fibres, my heel limit is 1.5 inches and im going to need a vat of Factor 50!

Im in!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just want to find a funny woman whos kind of attractive and that wants to do fun things(non sexual) and they wouldnt mind a penis in her mouth later on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I’ve been chatting to people on here and it’s hard to find what I’m after, thought I’d give this a go instead

There’s no pressure to play although I would definitely hope they’d fancy it. Wonder if anyone is on here that might fancy it "

My wife would be very interested in the new lingerie, dress and heels. Don't waste your money on a hotel room, though, just leave the package behind reception and she'll pick it up sometime.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"So I’ve been chatting to people on here and it’s hard to find what I’m after, thought I’d give this a go instead

There’s no pressure to play although I would definitely hope they’d fancy it. Wonder if anyone is on here that might fancy it

My wife would be very interested in the new lingerie, dress and heels. Don't waste your money on a hotel room, though, just leave the package behind reception and she'll pick it up sometime."

Dammit, why didn't I think of that?!!

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Glad I pay for my meals, and travel there and back under my own steam. Would feel beholden to have sex, lingerie or not!!!

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By *otwhenwetCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

Sounds like an episode of law and order in the making

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I’ve been chatting to people on here and it’s hard to find what I’m after, thought I’d give this a go instead

There’s no pressure to play although I would definitely hope they’d fancy it. Wonder if anyone is on here that might fancy it

My wife would be very interested in the new lingerie, dress and heels. Don't waste your money on a hotel room, though, just leave the package behind reception and she'll pick it up sometime.

Dammit, why didn't I think of that?!!

You're probably too principled and not blatantly opportunistic like us

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

Creepy, kinda like buying someone’s time and putting a lot of pressure on them for more

A different meet would be doing something out of the norm how about a helicopter ride ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Creepy, kinda like buying someone’s time and putting a lot of pressure on them for more

A different meet would be doing something out of the norm how about a helicopter ride ? "

Geez, you don't come cheap! How about a trip to the zoo or something,instead?

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

A dress, lingerie and shoes without being able to try them on first?

Only if the OP wears them himself.

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

Creepy, kinda like buying someone’s time and putting a lot of pressure on them for more

A different meet would be doing something out of the norm how about a helicopter ride ?

Geez, you don't come cheap! How about a trip to the zoo or something,instead?"

It’s about the sane price as a good hotel dinner and wine and all the fancy undies the op is willing to pay for

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We would be open to a game of monopoly

I love a bit of monopoly ?? I’m definitely more of a cards against humanity kinda guy

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

As a first meet no it's not for me. However if we had met a few times then yes I'd be fine with this. The main problem is most men want to run before they can walk... one step at a time buttercup. You cant build a house without the foundation.

I also need a pair of new shoes

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

It's notmy thing but i wouldn't feel creeped out about it. Kind of seems like you enjoy treating a woman who would enjoy a guy making choices for her via gifts. Seems more a relationship type of thing though.

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By *969BewitchedWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

If I had met someone several times and was already very comfortable with them then this would be a lovely idea but certainly not for a first meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's the problem with fantasies they never work fully in the real world as to what's in our heads we can fully control, in life no chance. Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you bought me shoes and a nice meal, I’d bang you bro. NO PRESSURE

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Could you throw in some socks?

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By *eteforprincesssMan
over a year ago

up a monkeys butt!

Ooo and a mullet wig!

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"Could you throw in some socks?

Make it two pairs.

No pressure....

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"I feel so pressured by reading the words 'no pressure'"
that's a shame as I'm sure you would look great in heels and a dress

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Op how about trying to set up regular meets with someone band trying that scenario after a few dates?

I understand that its your fantasy but there aren't many swooning maidens in the forum, however there are women who will like the idea. I think you might have to adjust your expectations and possibly liaise with the woman about size, taste etc. There's nothing worse than uncomfortable lingerie.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I like the idea as a concept but certainly not on a first date. If I’d known a guy for some time he knew what I liked and offered the same scenario why not. Husbands by their wives lingerie all the time, a full outfit I’d go with it for a night. Obviously I need shoes and a new bag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like the idea as a concept but certainly not on a first date. If I’d known a guy for some time he knew what I liked and offered the same scenario why not. Husbands by their wives lingerie all the time, a full outfit I’d go with it for a night. Obviously I need shoes and a new bag

Hehehe! Obviously! LOL xx

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

I'd like to go to Longleat

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I just want to find a funny woman whos kind of attractive and that wants to do fun things(non sexual) and they wouldnt mind a penis in her mouth later on"

How is that non sexual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I feel so pressured by reading the words 'no pressure'"

this OP

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I'd be too worried my fat arse wouldn't fit into whatever you'd chosen, it's just another thing to stress about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a woman on my local updates who says she wants a sugar daddy. Maybe you could try messaging her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just want to find a funny woman whos kind of attractive and that wants to do fun things(non sexual) and they wouldnt mind a penis in her mouth later on

How is that non sexual

LOL... This.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Hehehe! Obviously! LOL xx"

You know it sister

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd never do this for a first meet, but if I knew you a bit, then I'd consider this lovely and would be all for it.

I don't think you'd get many/any ladies to do this for a first meet cos we're all just very careful...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd like to go to Longleat

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Make sure you buy plenty of feed they are a greedy bunch!

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I get the kids occasional message suggesting similar.

I read them, as I read the original post, with my toes curled.

An unappealing scenario on so many levels.

V x

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

"I'd like to go to Longleat

Make sure you buy plenty of feed they are a greedy bunch!

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"I'd like to go to Longleat

Make sure you buy plenty of feed they are a greedy bunch!

I think I may have popped that comment on the wrong thread. Hah bloody nora not sure this was what the op was looking for

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd like to go to Longleat

Make sure you buy plenty of feed they are a greedy bunch!

I think I may have popped that comment on the wrong thread. Hah bloody nora not sure this was what the op was looking for

Sorry ?? not long been in from work. I quite like a good zoo! Never specified where the social would be but I mean I’ve no idea how the animals would react to Lingerie

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By * Busty HotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

"So I’ve been chatting to people on here and it’s hard to find what I’m after, thought I’d give this a go instead

There’s no pressure to play although I would definitely hope they’d fancy it. Wonder if anyone is on here that might fancy it "

Seems very creepy. ‘No pressure’ means exactly the opposite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a recipe for disaster to me.

Plus, I'd assume people can afford their own frilly knickers

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By *ruesome-twosomeCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Sounds to much like sleeping with the enemy to me

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

Just consenting adults and all that really ...innit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am uncomfortable when a man I know wants to buy me a drink, without me buying him one back, so this would seriously freak me out

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