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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

There's been a few of these types of threads of late, really disappointing to see one group being picked on here. We are all here for our own reasons, live and let live. If you don't want messages from any particular demographics, put your bloody filters on. Anyone else in agreement here?

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By *lwenWoman
over a year ago

De12 area

Yes I'm in full agreement there..

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Yes I'm in full agreement there.. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's ok, they just mad cuz they can't get some

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By *heorgasmaddictMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Yep. Profiles complaining that they're being messaged by single guys - erm, isn't that what blocks and filters are for??

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

Well bloody said.

Filters are there for a reason. If you don't use them , don't complain as you've no one else to blame but yourself

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Yep. Profiles complaining that they're being messaged by single guys - erm, isn't that what blocks and filters are for?? "

This is my point exactly. Don't start complaining when guys message because of no filters. They only have themselves to blame imo.

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

My god, there is hope, thank you kind people

We are just normal us guys, some are fucktards and some are lovely, and every flavour in between, much like single ladies and couples I find.

Thank you again

HG

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dead right, and if someone is a tit to you... block and move on. We arent all weirdos and disrespectful xx

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

We don't mind messages from guys, so long as they have read the profile.

However, the pool of genuine "single" guys on here is very small, and we tend to get a lot of attached guys contacting us.

I'm not a fan of the "poor me" hard-done by threads started by married/attached guys though, and sometimes comment on them, but then, if they didn't want comments, maybe they shouldn't start forum threads?

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By *lyreelMan
over a year ago

King's lynn

Exactly, I am so with the OP. I can think of many demographics in here that I could have a rant about if I chose too.

Some weirdos in this site, real fkn weirdos, verging on the not right in the head, but surely common sense and the block button deals with 99% of them?

It’s easy to blame single guys though!

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

I can understand the frustration, I can. unfortunately starting a thread about it will likely not alter the guys or other gender(s) who ignore the profile text.. for a couple of reasons

1) they're unlikely to read the thread.

2) if they message after reading the text a thread ain't gonna change their behaviour.

Complaining and hoping others will change is in my opinion folly...to do the dame things over and over again and expect a different result is insanity (einstein)

Take control apply filters and blocks and you'll havd less stress and angst.. although deep down I sometimes think they like the attention.

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I also think that by starting threads and posting status updates about single guys they are drawing even more attention to themselves, thus creating more of a problem for themselves, which reflects in an increased number of messages lol. This type of person clearly has no common sense. I believe the phrase is (according to Forrest Gump) "stupid is as stupid does".

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I posted about unwanted abuse from a single guy. I'm not about to block the entire pool of single men but I did ask for advice and will do again in the future if I feel the need to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s been going on for a while and it’s quite often the same women and couples that start these threads but aren’t prepared to do anything to stop it.

I also wonder if how these people portray themselves on the forum attracts the negative comments they receive.

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I posted about unwanted abuse from a single guy. I'm not about to block the entire pool of single men but I did ask for advice and will do again in the future if I feel the need to. "

That's not bashing them, or tarring them all with the same brush, you were commenting on one.

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"It’s been going on for a while and it’s quite often the same women and couples that start these threads but aren’t prepared to do anything to stop it.

I also wonder if how these people portray themselves on the forum attracts the negative comments they receive. "

I think they do, as posted above to include status updates as well. Having said that, those threads and statuses act as a great filter for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad there are woman on here who are down to earth and not stuck up because they get attention from the masses of lads on here, single men are literally doomed on here if it weren't for ladies like you

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By *c1989Woman
over a year ago

Manchester


"I posted about unwanted abuse from a single guy. I'm not about to block the entire pool of single men but I did ask for advice and will do again in the future if I feel the need to. "

Isnt the advice pretty much always the same though?

Report. Block. Move on. Dont take it to heart its them not you. Etc.

I do understand it's good to vent sometimes but I've made a few good friends on fab I can vent to directly. Which I rarely do because I follow the above. Report. Block. move on. And giggle about it because life is too short for much else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said OP.

You offer the complainers solutions and they ignore you/accuse you of condoning the bad behaviour of then very small MINORITY.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's been a few of these types of threads of late, really disappointing to see one group being picked on here. We are all here for our own reasons, live and let live. If you don't want messages from any particular demographics, put your bloody filters on. Anyone else in agreement here? "
I agree was thinking this myself earlier, doesn't exactly inspire the nice respectful, polite guys here

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"

Well said OP.

You offer the complainers solutions and they ignore you/accuse you of condoning the bad behaviour of then very small MINORITY."

I know, it beggars belief lol.

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By *ood girl2010Couple
over a year ago

crewe


"There's been a few of these types of threads of late, really disappointing to see one group being picked on here. We are all here for our own reasons, live and let live. If you don't want messages from any particular demographics, put your bloody filters on. Anyone else in agreement here? "

yes me had 2 of them today they leave comment and you cant reply because they have blocked you so you say it on here for everyone else to see and its not nice people think your the bad one

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Wish ppl would just stop moaning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wish ppl would just stop moaning "

Surely that depends on the type of moaning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wish ppl would just stop moaning "

You’re moaning about people moaning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's been a few of these types of threads of late, really disappointing to see one group being picked on here. We are all here for our own reasons, live and let live. If you don't want messages from any particular demographics, put your bloody filters on. Anyone else in agreement here?

yes me had 2 of them today they leave comment and you cant reply because they have blocked you so you say it on here for everyone else to see and its not nice people think your the bad one"
Hey no news is good news, why publicise the bad is this a British thing?

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By *ood girl2010Couple
over a year ago

crewe


"There's been a few of these types of threads of late, really disappointing to see one group being picked on here. We are all here for our own reasons, live and let live. If you don't want messages from any particular demographics, put your bloody filters on. Anyone else in agreement here?

yes me had 2 of them today they leave comment and you cant reply because they have blocked you so you say it on here for everyone else to see and its not nice people think your the bad oneHey no news is good news, why publicise the bad is this a British thing?"

yes only you british do it im Canadian by the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fuck them all with sea salt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's been a few of these types of threads of late, really disappointing to see one group being picked on here. We are all here for our own reasons, live and let live. If you don't want messages from any particular demographics, put your bloody filters on. Anyone else in agreement here?

yes me had 2 of them today they leave comment and you cant reply because they have blocked you so you say it on here for everyone else to see and its not nice people think your the bad oneHey no news is good news, why publicise the bad is this a British thing?

yes only you british do it im Canadian by the way"
lol hey you're probably Scottish by descent

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By *ood girl2010Couple
over a year ago

crewe


"There's been a few of these types of threads of late, really disappointing to see one group being picked on here. We are all here for our own reasons, live and let live. If you don't want messages from any particular demographics, put your bloody filters on. Anyone else in agreement here?

yes me had 2 of them today they leave comment and you cant reply because they have blocked you so you say it on here for everyone else to see and its not nice people think your the bad oneHey no news is good news, why publicise the bad is this a British thing?

yes only you british do it im Canadian by the waylol hey you're probably Scottish by descent "

yes prob am and im dating a welsh man to

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

There are some lovely Men about, the skill is finding them and keeping in contact...

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By *ood girl2010Couple
over a year ago

crewe


"There are some lovely Men about, the skill is finding them and keeping in contact..."

found mine by mistake to

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....


"There are some lovely Men about, the skill is finding them and keeping in contact...

found mine by mistake to"

Clever girl xx or was it fate?

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"There's been a few of these types of threads of late, really disappointing to see one group being picked on here. We are all here for our own reasons, live and let live. If you don't want messages from any particular demographics, put your bloody filters on. Anyone else in agreement here? "

Nobody should be bashed but the most bashing, objectification and nastiness is usually directed towards women.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

There are some lovely guys on here ... some I’ve met I love guys just block the nasty ones not difficult

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By *oneyBear100Couple
over a year ago

Gatwick area

Too right, not point in bashing them. If you enter the arena know the rules before you start, learn how blocks and filters work.

The only ones we tend to abuse are the single guys masquerading as couples and they are fair game!

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"There's been a few of these types of threads of late, really disappointing to see one group being picked on here. We are all here for our own reasons, live and let live. If you don't want messages from any particular demographics, put your bloody filters on. Anyone else in agreement here?

Nobody should be bashed but the most bashing, objectification and nastiness is usually directed towards women."

Yes I do see that on a lot of status updates too

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING


"Yep. Profiles complaining that they're being messaged by single guys - erm, isn't that what blocks and filters are for??

This is my point exactly. Don't start complaining when guys message because of no filters. They only have themselves to blame imo. "
I think maybe there's also a bit of..^how wonderful I am, getting so many messages.^..boring, boring.

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By *ood girl2010Couple
over a year ago

crewe


"There are some lovely Men about, the skill is finding them and keeping in contact...

found mine by mistake to

Clever girl xx or was it fate? "

well he smoked at the time but had to meet for a drink so we did I said meet at my mothers for a chat and drink only we went out his eyes were wow and I had to see more so the drink ended up been 2 days. he is my dom but he treats me like a real lady that's what I like o and he does not smoke now

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"My god, there is hope, thank you kind people

We are just normal us guys, some are fucktards and some are lovely, and every flavour in between, much like single ladies and couples I find.

Thank you again

HG

X"

surprisingly there are a good few of us think like this, its easy to use filters if you dont want messages from certain types and name calling in forums is totally unnecessary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some lovely Men about, the skill is finding them and keeping in contact..."
yes I'm glad you recognise that nuzzy favel

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"My god, there is hope, thank you kind people

We are just normal us guys, some are fucktards and some are lovely, and every flavour in between, much like single ladies and couples I find.

Thank you again

HG

X

surprisingly there are a good few of us think like this, its easy to use filters if you dont want messages from certain types and name calling in forums is totally unnecessary "

No I didn't think calling people twats, arseholes, or anything else derogatory is respectful either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's been a few of these types of threads of late, really disappointing to see one group being picked on here. We are all here for our own reasons, live and let live. If you don't want messages from any particular demographics, put your bloody filters on. Anyone else in agreement here?

yes me had 2 of them today they leave comment and you cant reply because they have blocked you so you say it on here for everyone else to see and its not nice people think your the bad oneHey no news is good news, why publicise the bad is this a British thing?

yes only you british do it im Canadian by the waylol hey you're probably Scottish by descent

yes prob am and im dating a welsh man to"
really........ Theirs a welcome in the hillside init

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By *ood girl2010Couple
over a year ago

crewe


"There's been a few of these types of threads of late, really disappointing to see one group being picked on here. We are all here for our own reasons, live and let live. If you don't want messages from any particular demographics, put your bloody filters on. Anyone else in agreement here?

yes me had 2 of them today they leave comment and you cant reply because they have blocked you so you say it on here for everyone else to see and its not nice people think your the bad oneHey no news is good news, why publicise the bad is this a British thing?

yes only you british do it im Canadian by the waylol hey you're probably Scottish by descent

yes prob am and im dating a welsh man toreally........ Theirs a welcome in the hillside init "

yes and before you say it no he does not shag sheep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's been a few of these types of threads of late, really disappointing to see one group being picked on here. We are all here for our own reasons, live and let live. If you don't want messages from any particular demographics, put your bloody filters on. Anyone else in agreement here?

yes me had 2 of them today they leave comment and you cant reply because they have blocked you so you say it on here for everyone else to see and its not nice people think your the bad oneHey no news is good news, why publicise the bad is this a British thing?

yes only you british do it im Canadian by the waylol hey you're probably Scottish by descent

yes prob am and im dating a welsh man toreally........ Theirs a welcome in the hillside init

yes and before you say it no he does not shag sheep"
baaaaaa

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By *ood girl2010Couple
over a year ago

crewe


"There's been a few of these types of threads of late, really disappointing to see one group being picked on here. We are all here for our own reasons, live and let live. If you don't want messages from any particular demographics, put your bloody filters on. Anyone else in agreement here?

yes me had 2 of them today they leave comment and you cant reply because they have blocked you so you say it on here for everyone else to see and its not nice people think your the bad oneHey no news is good news, why publicise the bad is this a British thing?

yes only you british do it im Canadian by the waylol hey you're probably Scottish by descent

yes prob am and im dating a welsh man toreally........ Theirs a welcome in the hillside init

yes and before you say it no he does not shag sheepbaaaaaa "

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

So I've been seeing a guy for 8 years. No communications in between, but a message this morning, 'I need to empty my balls'.

Really?!

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....


"There are some lovely Men about, the skill is finding them and keeping in contact...yes I'm glad you recognise that nuzzy favel "

That’s ok gnocchi cooker...

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"There's been a few of these types of threads of late, really disappointing to see one group being picked on here. We are all here for our own reasons, live and let live. If you don't want messages from any particular demographics, put your bloody filters on. Anyone else in agreement here?

yes me had 2 of them today they leave comment and you cant reply because they have blocked you so you say it on here for everyone else to see and its not nice people think your the bad oneHey no news is good news, why publicise the bad is this a British thing?

yes only you british do it im Canadian by the waylol hey you're probably Scottish by descent

yes prob am and im dating a welsh man toreally........ Theirs a welcome in the hillside init

yes and before you say it no he does not shag sheepbaaaaaa "

or maaaaarrrrryyyyyyyy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as they're not abusive if rejected, then yes, men are ace!

My filters are now on though!

There are some mard arses around of both sexes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's been a few of these types of threads of late, really disappointing to see one group being picked on here. We are all here for our own reasons, live and let live. If you don't want messages from any particular demographics, put your bloody filters on. Anyone else in agreement here?

yes me had 2 of them today they leave comment and you cant reply because they have blocked you so you say it on here for everyone else to see and its not nice people think your the bad oneHey no news is good news, why publicise the bad is this a British thing?

yes only you british do it im Canadian by the waylol hey you're probably Scottish by descent

yes prob am and im dating a welsh man toreally........ Theirs a welcome in the hillside init

yes and before you say it no he does not shag sheepbaaaaaa

or maaaaarrrrryyyyyyyy lol"
or ello ow r ewe init lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I've been seeing a guy for 8 years. No communications in between, but a message this morning, 'I need to empty my balls'.

Really?!"

Surely after 8 years you must know his communication style

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

I concur

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you do don't want messages from single guys, block them! Unless of course you secretly enjoy the attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I've been seeing a guy for 8 years. No communications in between, but a message this morning, 'I need to empty my balls'.

Really?!

Surely after 8 years you must know his communication style "
lol some people just can't be read

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"If you do don't want messages from single guys, block them! Unless of course you secretly enjoy the attention "

I'd like messages from single guys and single guys that don't treat me like a free sex worker. They are in the vast majority. Vast.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep. Profiles complaining that they're being messaged by single guys - erm, isn't that what blocks and filters are for?? "

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Surprisingly I get very little abuse from single males when I say no thanks .....

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By *ood girl2010Couple
over a year ago

crewe


"Yep. Profiles complaining that they're being messaged by single guys - erm, isn't that what blocks and filters are for??

"

not complaining about the messages its what they put on this thread about you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is single men bashing threads every day

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By *ood girl2010Couple
over a year ago

crewe

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London


"There's been a few of these types of threads of late, really disappointing to see one group being picked on here. We are all here for our own reasons, live and let live. If you don't want messages from any particular demographics, put your bloody filters on. Anyone else in agreement here? "

Yes FULL Agreement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you op

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"If you do don't want messages from single guys, block them! Unless of course you secretly enjoy the attention "

you may have hit a valid point!

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"There is single men bashing threads every day"

...and there are many more objectifying women and abusing women. ‘Do women...’ ‘who hates fake tits’ ‘hairy women are disgusting’ derogatory comments about the size of women, what they look like, how they behave, why they behave.

Only yesterday a woman of 19 who stood up for herself to the horrible comments said about her by two strange men was vilified because she did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone who bashes others are just as bad if not worse than the person they are bashing and it speaks volumes about them.

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By *ood girl2010Couple
over a year ago

crewe


"There is single men bashing threads every day

...and there are many more objectifying women and abusing women. ‘Do women...’ ‘who hates fake tits’ ‘hairy women are disgusting’ derogatory comments about the size of women, what they look like, how they behave, why they behave.

Only yesterday a woman of 19 who stood up for herself to the horrible comments said about her by two strange men was vilified because she did.

good on her

"

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London


"There is single men bashing threads every day"

Really? I don't see it.

I do see threads about men sending terrible or inappropriate messages. I rarely see threads just having a pop at men for no reason.

I think an awful lot of guys have really thin skins and overreact to the slightest bit of criticism.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is single men bashing threads every day

...and there are many more objectifying women and abusing women. ‘Do women...’ ‘who hates fake tits’ ‘hairy women are disgusting’ derogatory comments about the size of women, what they look like, how they behave, why they behave.

Only yesterday a woman of 19 who stood up for herself to the horrible comments said about her by two strange men was vilified because she did.

"

Vilified?? I saw that thread and that's hardly the description I would use. Some disagreed with it, but that's what a forum is for. Nobody was nasty about it

Holly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See, we are looking for single men.

Bisexual ones.

But the amount of messages we get from straight guys half way across the country is amazing. Its as if they didnt read anything in the profile. Even the title above the photo that drew them in in the first place.

Its not guys. Its inconsiderate illiterate guys who are spamming anyone and everyone in the hopes of getting their dick wet.

There isnt a filter that disallows messages from dickheads.

If only there were!

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By *iking 777Man
over a year ago

wick


"There's been a few of these types of threads of late, really disappointing to see one group being picked on here. We are all here for our own reasons, live and let live. If you don't want messages from any particular demographics, put your bloody filters on. Anyone else in agreement here? "

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"There is single men bashing threads every day

...and there are many more objectifying women and abusing women. ‘Do women...’ ‘who hates fake tits’ ‘hairy women are disgusting’ derogatory comments about the size of women, what they look like, how they behave, why they behave.

Only yesterday a woman of 19 who stood up for herself to the horrible comments said about her by two strange men was vilified because she did.

Vilified?? I saw that thread and that's hardly the description I would use. Some disagreed with it, but that's what a forum is for. Nobody was nasty about it

Holly"

There was one particular person who thought her behaviour was terrible and didn’t mention the vile comments from the men at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thread with that poor young girl wasnt entirely one sided.

Most people said she did the right thing but didnt like the language.

Others said good on ya girl.

Dont think anyone villifed her, just the language she used.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"The thread with that poor young girl wasnt entirely one sided.

Most people said she did the right thing but didnt like the language.

Others said good on ya girl.

Dont think anyone villifed her, just the language she used.

"

The language she used? A grown, sexually active woman was defending herself and somehow it’s wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thread with that poor young girl wasnt entirely one sided.

Most people said she did the right thing but didnt like the language.

Others said good on ya girl.

Dont think anyone villifed her, just the language she used.

The language she used? A grown, sexually active woman was defending herself and somehow it’s wrong.

"

Some people thought the wording was wrong, yes. It's people's opinions. There's nothing wrong with people having differing opinions. Most posts will have people disagreeing with each other at some point.

Holly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thread with that poor young girl wasnt entirely one sided.

Most people said she did the right thing but didnt like the language.

Others said good on ya girl.

Dont think anyone villifed her, just the language she used.

The language she used? A grown, sexually active woman was defending herself and somehow it’s wrong.

Some people thought the wording was wrong, yes. It's people's opinions. There's nothing wrong with people having differing opinions. Most posts will have people disagreeing with each other at some point.

Holly"
yes, you're wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thread with that poor young girl wasnt entirely one sided.

Most people said she did the right thing but didnt like the language.

Others said good on ya girl.

Dont think anyone villifed her, just the language she used.

The language she used? A grown, sexually active woman was defending herself and somehow it’s wrong.

Some people thought the wording was wrong, yes. It's people's opinions. There's nothing wrong with people having differing opinions. Most posts will have people disagreeing with each other at some point.

Hollyyes, you're wrong "

Wouldnt be the first time. I'm wrong a lot

Holly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thread with that poor young girl wasnt entirely one sided.

Most people said she did the right thing but didnt like the language.

Others said good on ya girl.

Dont think anyone villifed her, just the language she used.

The language she used? A grown, sexually active woman was defending herself and somehow it’s wrong.

Some people thought the wording was wrong, yes. It's people's opinions. There's nothing wrong with people having differing opinions. Most posts will have people disagreeing with each other at some point.

Hollyyes, you're wrong

Wouldnt be the first time. I'm wrong a lot

Holly"
No you're not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is single men bashing threads every day

...and there are many more objectifying women and abusing women. ‘Do women...’ ‘who hates fake tits’ ‘hairy women are disgusting’ derogatory comments about the size of women, what they look like, how they behave, why they behave.

Only yesterday a woman of 19 who stood up for herself to the horrible comments said about her by two strange men was vilified because she did.

"

The latter half of your post was not true. People vilified that post due to the crude response the young lady gave in front of her mother. It’s never a good idea to fight the perverse with perversity.

I’d rather my daughter have both men a boot to the balls than use such language in front of me.

The rest of your comments are used against men also. I’ve never in my life before joining here felt the need to have zero pubic hair/a black cock etc.

All people suck, regardless of their gender. It’s sexist to call out an ENTIRE gender due to the negative behaviour of the few.

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House


" If you don't want messages from any particular demographics, put your bloody filters on. Anyone else in agreement here? "

You're both right and wrong. Filters are not specific enough for that premise to work. We like to meet single guys, specifically single BLACK guys but we're often inundated with messages from single white guys. I'm not sure how much clearer, on our profile, we can be without screaming white guys fuck off. But that would be rude wouldn't it , a lot more rude than guys who don't read profiles and presume black means white as well, maybe

So applying message filters wouldn't work for us. Conversely, if you specifically didn't want to meet black guys, you have no option of which to prevent them messaging you. Same for any preference here in fabs tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's been a few of these types of threads of late, really disappointing to see one group being picked on here. We are all here for our own reasons, live and let live. If you don't want messages from any particular demographics, put your bloody filters on. Anyone else in agreement here? "

Well said!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's been a few of these types of threads of late, really disappointing to see one group being picked on here. We are all here for our own reasons, live and let live. If you don't want messages from any particular demographics, put your bloody filters on. Anyone else in agreement here? "

unfortunately it's always been the way and like every group there's the great ones and the bad ones. too many focus on the bad ones however

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By *atonMan
over a year ago

barnet

Agree ..its a bit like going skiing and complaining its snowing. The most vitriolic and spiteful on here are undoubtedly some women whose sense of entitlement is frankly unreal ..sometimes I think I'm dealing with Helen of troy ..pan to pics and it's the gargoyle above the stage at the palladium.I am no pretty boy myself however I do think I have a sense if proportion . I can only assume that the attention women get on here pigate a bloated sense of self importance. Also reading these threads that demonize single guys are populated not only by women and couples but also by the manginas and white knights ...odious signal virtuers simping in the hope of getting laid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah we don't mind we often meet single men the rude ones get ignored the polite interesting ones get sex

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By *ame-room-no-swapCouple
over a year ago

Taunton


"There's been a few of these types of threads of late, really disappointing to see one group being picked on here. We are all here for our own reasons, live and let live. If you don't want messages from any particular demographics, put your bloody filters on. Anyone else in agreement here? "

I'm always surprised when people put on their profiles "single men don't message us". As you say, maybe they don't know to use filters.

Maybe they want to see which single men have been viewing them, as the filter blocks this as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" If you don't want messages from any particular demographics, put your bloody filters on. Anyone else in agreement here?

You're both right and wrong. Filters are not specific enough for that premise to work. We like to meet single guys, specifically single BLACK guys but we're often inundated with messages from single white guys. I'm not sure how much clearer, on our profile, we can be without screaming white guys fuck off. But that would be rude wouldn't it , a lot more rude than guys who don't read profiles and presume black means white as well, maybe

So applying message filters wouldn't work for us. Conversely, if you specifically didn't want to meet black guys, you have no option of which to prevent them messaging you. Same for any preference here in fabs tbh.

"

Why not block single men. The website isn’t loaded with black men so, it’s hardly difficult to message the 4 that are actually on here....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree that we should not bash anyone on here at all. It's not just single guys. There are many threads that have ago and gender size age ethnicity etc.

I think you have to keep in mind that blocking single guys is not the answer sometimes.

It's not that people are getting messages of single guys it's what messages they receive.

We are open to meeting the right type of single guy. So why would we stop them messaging us.

For us it's the vile messages you sometimes receive off a small percentage of single guys that's the issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Agree ..its a bit like going skiing and complaining its snowing. The most vitriolic and spiteful on here are undoubtedly some women whose sense of entitlement is frankly unreal ..sometimes I think I'm dealing with Helen of troy ..pan to pics and it's the gargoyle above the stage at the palladium.I am no pretty boy myself however I do think I have a sense if proportion . I can only assume that the attention women get on here pigate a bloated sense of self importance. Also reading these threads that demonize single guys are populated not only by women and couples but also by the manginas and white knights ...odious signal virtuers simping in the hope of getting laid"

Come on here to support the idea that men bashing is wrong. Then use it to female bash. Bravo you

Holly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's been a few of these types of threads of late, really disappointing to see one group being picked on here. We are all here for our own reasons, live and let live. If you don't want messages from any particular demographics, put your bloody filters on. Anyone else in agreement here?

I'm always surprised when people put on their profiles "single men don't message us". As you say, maybe they don't know to use filters.

Maybe they want to see which single men have been viewing them, as the filter blocks this as well."

Good points, especially the 'looked at profile' issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Agree ..its a bit like going skiing and complaining its snowing. The most vitriolic and spiteful on here are undoubtedly some women whose sense of entitlement is frankly unreal ..sometimes I think I'm dealing with Helen of troy ..pan to pics and it's the gargoyle above the stage at the palladium.I am no pretty boy myself however I do think I have a sense if proportion . I can only assume that the attention women get on here pigate a bloated sense of self importance. Also reading these threads that demonize single guys are populated not only by women and couples but also by the manginas and white knights ...odious signal virtuers simping in the hope of getting laid

Come on here to support the idea that men bashing is wrong. Then use it to female bash. Bravo you

Holly"

These threads never end well.

The man haters, white women that hate merely white men sharpen their spears. All whilst, the misogynists and horn dogs do the same.

Why can’t we focus on those that are good, opposed to always focusing on the negative. Stop allowing your yin and yang to be dyed entirely black....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s very easy to get arrogant on here and have a low tolerance threshold. We’ve been guilty of it in the past and probably (almost certainly) have had profile text that’s far from friendly and in many ways a poor reflection of who we are. We love single men and hope that the guys we don’t reply to understand that they’re not for us and the time is wrong. Bravo single guys. We salute you! You have to jump through hoops just to get a response from couples and a lot of us simply ‘Aren’t all that’. Sits back and waits for the ‘Speak for yourself’ comment. Cracked open a beer because I know it’s coming.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Fully agree - no one needs to be singled out for veiled abuse, whether a single person or whole group of them. Single men really help make the site work, as many of us want to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See, we are looking for single men.

Bisexual ones.

But the amount of messages we get from straight guys half way across the country is amazing. Its as if they didnt read anything in the profile. Even the title above the photo that drew them in in the first place.

Its not guys. Its inconsiderate illiterate guys who are spamming anyone and everyone in the hopes of getting their dick wet.

There isnt a filter that disallows messages from dickheads.

If only there were!"

So true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree that we should not bash anyone on here at all. It's not just single guys. There are many threads that have ago and gender size age ethnicity etc.

I think you have to keep in mind that blocking single guys is not the answer sometimes.

It's not that people are getting messages of single guys it's what messages they receive.

We are open to meeting the right type of single guy. So why would we stop them messaging us.

For us it's the vile messages you sometimes receive off a small percentage of single guys that's the issue

"

Again so true!

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By *rl322Man
over a year ago

wr11

Here here well said

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I love single guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP

totally agree, single guys always get a bashing, if you don’t want messages put your filters on, many won’t and still complain, perhaps they measure there own self worth by how many messages they get!

Just as many couples and single ladies misbehave or are rude/annoying in clubs it’s just a blind eye is turned!

Many single guys get roasted about there profiles and the cock shots, personally the endless stream of close up boob shots is tiring!

Just redressing the balance.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thread with that poor young girl wasnt entirely one sided.

Most people said she did the right thing but didnt like the language.

Others said good on ya girl.

Dont think anyone villifed her, just the language she used.

The language she used? A grown, sexually active woman was defending herself and somehow it’s wrong.

"

No, im with you. She did the right thing fighting fire with fire. Subtle comments would have flown straight on over their heads!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I've been seeing a guy for 8 years. No communications in between, but a message this morning, 'I need to empty my balls'.

Really?!"

I would reply with a picture of a tissue

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

I think anyone that sends any other person a moody message because of being rejected should be band ,man,woman or couples .there is no need for it on a site like this. Men do get a bad rep on here due to the small minority that are just idiots

We have our filters down as we like to chat in the forum's and wot not but have found the lads/men we have talked to have been very polite, still may not have the profile but polite all the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fucking hate men, scum the lot of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i find women and couple to be far more troublesome on here and always have done the jealousy and bitchiness is unreal ...as said the few men that do try to ruin it for other men just block if nasty report block .... right i need a fuck come on guys i love cock pics too lets drain some balls

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"So I've been seeing a guy for 8 years. No communications in between, but a message this morning, 'I need to empty my balls'.

Really?!

I would reply with a picture of a tissue "

Oh that's pure genius..

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I like single guys. Block button and filters can stop the few that spoil it. More nice than not on here I've found x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do, occasionally, look for single guys.

In all honesty, we have only had a handful of troublesome guys...we just block them.

Unfortunately, it is that very small minority, that can, and probably have, ‘forced’ couples and single ladies to leave the site, and swinging.

When we tell a guy ‘Sorry, but no thanks’, we usually get a message thanking us for replying, and good luck. Some don’t send another message, that’s fine.

All in all, we say, that around 97% of guys who have approached us, have been respectful, charming and understanding.

Rant over....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand the bashing of single guys but at the same time let’s be real. If someone slides into your inbox constantly without readying your profile that’s annoying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As long as they're not abusive if rejected, then yes, men are ace!

My filters are now on though!

There are some mard arses around of both sexes! "

Yes, totally agree. I've got my filters on so no messages, no abuse, no hassle. I think the problem lies with the people that do want to meet single guys here.... They can't use filters as they want the messages in their inbox, but then they'll get inundated. i was chatting to a lovely lady last night who said she gets over 200 messages a day from blokes asking her for a fuck... As a first message! Charming, eh?

PS: I'm sure not all the blokes on here are like that..

x Niki

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's been a few of these types of threads of late, really disappointing to see one group being picked on here. We are all here for our own reasons, live and let live. If you don't want messages from any particular demographics, put your bloody filters on. Anyone else in agreement here? "

I actually aad to block a 21 year old girl earlier due to horrendous rudeness. Nothing ti do with my profile, just a nasty person.

I think it goes both ways..

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By *rladytoyMan
over a year ago

bournemouth

Ah dont be so sensitive . Fuck em...if they need to put you down its because they need to build themseleves up. Poor buggers i feel for them and there insecurities

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As long as they're not abusive if rejected, then yes, men are ace!

My filters are now on though!

There are some mard arses around of both sexes!

Yes, totally agree. I've got my filters on so no messages, no abuse, no hassle. I think the problem lies with the people that do want to meet single guys here.... They can't use filters as they want the messages in their inbox, but then they'll get inundated. i was chatting to a lovely lady last night who said she gets over 200 messages a day from blokes asking her for a fuck... As a first message! Charming, eh?

PS: I'm sure not all the blokes on here are like that..

x Niki"

The filtering was a nice break for a few days. Lol back to normal now

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"As long as they're not abusive if rejected, then yes, men are ace!

My filters are now on though!

There are some mard arses around of both sexes!

Yes, totally agree. I've got my filters on so no messages, no abuse, no hassle. I think the problem lies with the people that do want to meet single guys here.... They can't use filters as they want the messages in their inbox, but then they'll get inundated. i was chatting to a lovely lady last night who said she gets over 200 messages a day from blokes asking her for a fuck... As a first message! Charming, eh?

PS: I'm sure not all the blokes on here are like that..

x Niki

The filtering was a nice break for a few days. Lol back to normal now "

I've gone blank for a bit, nice and quiet, no filters needed.

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