FabSwingers.com forum: Twat single guys.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What is it with some single guys on here.

Can't they read profiles??

Any sensible respectful single guy will see NO SINGLE GUYS in a profile and move on to a couple who are actually looking for single guys.

Funny really, they send a face photo thinking that they are in, then they get all mouthy and rude, then block you before you can reply.

It is just SO tempting to be just as rude and disrespectful with their face photos.

Are we being picky, or is it wrong to expect mutual respect??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i get it all the time with the no facial hair message on my profile ...so every day i get guys sending me messages and guess what they have facial hair some do it just to be twats some do it because they think they are above what you want and as you said most do it because they cant be bothered to read ..i just block every time now at least they dont come back ..until the new profile that is ...

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich

Try being a tv then, I get flooded with messages from "straight" guys, that's just messed up.

Also get LOADS of "Will you come to my house now for a fuck" !! Really!! Like I'm sitting around in a dress all day just waiting for the privilege of a fuck with a stranger in a random house.

Sorry, rant over xx xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with some single guys on here.

Can't they read profiles??

Any sensible respectful single guy will see NO SINGLE GUYS in a profile and move on to a couple who are actually looking for single guys.

Funny really, they send a face photo thinking that they are in, then they get all mouthy and rude, then block you before you can reply.

It is just SO tempting to be just as rude and disrespectful with their face photos.

Are we being picky, or is it wrong to expect mutual respect??"
who knows I'm never rude but in the past I've had some pretty rude replies to my well thought out polite messages, so I suppose it's down to that message and that reply how some react

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By *amsiMan
over a year ago

Hanworth

I agree, as a guy i read the profile see "no single guys" and move on, no point in getting shitty as it's a personal preference which I understand.

Although it does annoy me when it's not part of there "looking for" section, you then read a very long profile and at the bottom is "no single guys"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree, as a guy i read the profile see "no single guys" and move on, no point in getting shitty as it's a personal preference which I understand.

Although it does annoy me when it's not part of there "looking for" section, you then read a very long profile and at the bottom is "no single guys""

think what they are saying is they will seek there own guys when its like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most men wont read any profiles before messaging. They get turned on by the photos and that's it .. straight to messaging.

Its annoying having to repeat what you put on your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *loria JamesTV/TS
over a year ago

Durham

I get guys telling me I'm gorgeous, then after a polite no thank you I get the " your just a block in a dress" message.

Funny how they have no veris x

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

We're not currently meeting (while P recovers from her very recent hysterectomy) and the first line of our profile states that, yet we still get asked to meet every day. I could understand it if they didn't read the profile (rookie mistake) and just chanced it, but some messages come with face, cock pic and 'secret code word' attached (as asked for) so have clearly read our profile but have just ignored the most important part of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with some single guys on here.

Can't they read profiles??

Any sensible respectful single guy will see NO SINGLE GUYS in a profile and move on to a couple who are actually looking for single guys.

Funny really, they send a face photo thinking that they are in, then they get all mouthy and rude, then block you before you can reply.

It is just SO tempting to be just as rude and disrespectful with their face photos.

Are we being picky, or is it wrong to expect mutual respect??"

So why not simply block men from messaging you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Better off blocking single guys IMO, but ...

You shouldn't ::have:: to block them.

Humans. Who would have them?

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By *eviationMan
over a year ago

Brynamman

Its what "BLOCK" was created for lol

Look on the bright side they fancy a bit of you lol

Even if you dont them

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's important never to sink yourself to the levels of others, as it's a vicious circle. Once you degrade yourself, it's then even easier to go lower. We'd potentially also be breaking the Fab site rules. Always report inappopriate behaviour from others though.

The sheer number of people that aren't respectful, considerate or potentially that bright is huge and they can always open accounts on many web sites: so we're always going to be vulnerable. There are plenty of them on fab and the only way to potentially reduce the number of people that are disrespectful etc, is to block all users of a specific type from contacting you, unless you initiate contact: you can then select anyone that you may want to message, rather than the opposite, where they contact you/us, whatever we state, such as 'no single men' etc.

You might also improve things if you blocked new or unverified users, if you found those to be better, overall.

I think the general fact that the internet is awash with people who have limited or no regard for others' feelings etc, will mean that this is always going to be an issue. If fab charged all users, it would likely be much the same.

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By *ruesome-twosomeCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Ours is the very first words of our profile but we still get it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with some single guys on here.

Can't they read profiles??

Any sensible respectful single guy will see NO SINGLE GUYS in a profile and move on to a couple who are actually looking for single guys.

Funny really, they send a face photo thinking that they are in, then they get all mouthy and rude, then block you before you can reply.

It is just SO tempting to be just as rude and disrespectful with their face photos.

Are we being picky, or is it wrong to expect mutual respect??"

Block single men then, end of problem.Next.

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By *aisy SteinerWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

"We're not currently meeting (while P recovers from her very recent hysterectomy) and the first line of our profile states that, yet we still get asked to meet every day. I could understand it if they didn't read the profile (rookie mistake) and just chanced it, but some messages come with face, cock pic and 'secret code word' attached (as asked for) so have clearly read our profile but have just ignored the most important part of it

Yeah I get this, keyword n face pic, ignoring everything else.

I call it "a boy look". Lol

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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago

lanarkshire

We very quickly learned to block single males...it’s not what we are looking for in anyway but yet they still would message us, Usually along the line of trying to change my mind (female)

To much hassle but I suppose it was a learning curve on here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they dont read it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ours is the very first words of our profile but we still get it lol"

Again, simply block men from messsging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have just had a load of abuse from a single guy, as we declined him politely I might add them it was “you are banned from club f” “I’m getting you I.p address banned from fab” blah blah blah wtf... A polite no thanks means that, so are like predators or they get a kick out of it who knows.. Are they that desperate? That they have to message after message.. Or the guys that forget the have sent you the same copy and paste message 2 days ago.. and we have only been on here a week lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is annoying...my block button gets exercised regularly

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"What is it with some single guys on here.

Can't they read profiles??

Any sensible respectful single guy will see NO SINGLE GUYS in a profile and move on to a couple who are actually looking for single guys.

Funny really, they send a face photo thinking that they are in, then they get all mouthy and rude, then block you before you can reply.

It is just SO tempting to be just as rude and disrespectful with their face photos.

Are we being picky, or is it wrong to expect mutual respect??"

That why I don't message anyone anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We changed our message filters after a string of abusive messages...most of them referring to Vamp in an extremely derogatory way.

Now, life is much more peaceful.

We just meet the ones on our friends list, so much easier.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

And todays have a pop at the single bloke goes to.

Two choices op..

Hope the internet changes to your way of working. Good luck with that..

Change your filters to stop the messages from those you're not seeking.. simples..

Awaits the reason "we shouldn't have to we state it".. that may be ..i don't want ppi phone calls etc..they should respect that I'm on various preference lists saying so..they still do so I take control and I block their numbers ..simples

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

It's not just single guys who don't read profiles plenty of women and couples don't either. Single guys tend to get the rough end of the stick on here a lot of times. Ye some are abusive gits but a hell of a lot more aren't. If you get abuse just block them. If you don't want messages off them block them on your filters.

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By *esires of HertsCouple
over a year ago

Herts and London Borders

"It's not just single guys who don't read profiles plenty of women and couples don't either. Single guys tend to get the rough end of the stick on here a lot of times. Ye some are abusive gits but a hell of a lot more aren't. If you get abuse just block them. If you don't want messages off them block them on your filters. "
..yes a blanket block to single guys and contact the ones you like

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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago

lanarkshire

Agree also

had a few males of couples do the same or females when they are with a fb...suppose sometimes people will chance it and see, but a polite response when refused should always be the case

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Agree also

had a few males of couples do the same or females when they are with a fb...suppose sometimes people will chance it and see, but a polite response when refused should always be the case

Yes but sadly you will always get people who have to have a strop. I had a woman give me a pile of abuse the other day because I pointed out I was straight when she was chatting to me and started asking if I had even given oral to a woman. It's there on my profile I'm straight. All I did was block her and move on. There's no point in getting upset about it just ignore and move on. I learnt that pretty quickly on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What is it with some single guys on here.

Can't they read profiles??

Any sensible respectful single guy will see NO SINGLE GUYS in a profile and move on to a couple who are actually looking for single guys.

Funny really, they send a face photo thinking that they are in, then they get all mouthy and rude, then block you before you can reply.

It is just SO tempting to be just as rude and disrespectful with their face photos.

Are we being picky, or is it wrong to expect mutual respect??

So why not simply block men from messaging you?

Should this be needed?

Why not just respect profiles? Or are we dealing with people who can't read??

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"It's not just single guys who don't read profiles plenty of women and couples don't either. Single guys tend to get the rough end of the stick on here a lot of times. Ye some are abusive gits but a hell of a lot more aren't. If you get abuse just block them. If you don't want messages off them block them on your filters. ..yes a blanket block to single guys and contact the ones you like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most don't get past the pictures to read what you do or don't want... Some do and still chance their arm anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most men wont read any profiles before messaging. They get turned on by the photos and that's it .. straight to messaging.

Its annoying having to repeat what you put on your profile. "

I’m glad you said most

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read the profile before looking at the photos, no good looking at someone your never going to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most men wont read any profiles before messaging. They get turned on by the photos and that's it .. straight to messaging.

Its annoying having to repeat what you put on your profile.

I’m glad you said most

I didn't really wanna say most but on here... I would say it is pretty much true lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always read the profile before looking at the photos, no good looking at someone your never going to meet."

And it really is as simple as that

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Block them from messaging, OP. No further problems or drama. Simple. Daily threads about this, if people use the tools fab provides, message filters for example, then there wouldnt be an issue. If people don't or won't use them, then don't moan about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had over 100 messages in the past few hours and there nearly all off guys....It also seems they read the same dictionary and can only say stuff like....fuck now....or your the most beautiful girl on here....or suck my click....or meet me now and so on....Get a grip and capture my mind with a thoughtful message not that laime seedy desperate crap

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Block them from messaging, OP. No further problems or drama. Simple. Daily threads about this, if people use the tools fab provides, message filters for example, then there wouldnt be an issue. If people don't or won't use them, then don't moan about it. "

True.

We always believe in mutual respect, however we have gathered that we are dealing with disrespectful people who have reading issues so that might be the only way!!

Being honest though, surely there wouldn't be an issue if people read and respected profiles??

That was the point of this post you see. We know those filters are there, however the point still stands that filters or not people should still respect profiles.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"What is it with some single guys on here.

Can't they read profiles??

Any sensible respectful single guy will see NO SINGLE GUYS in a profile and move on to a couple who are actually looking for single guys.

Funny really, they send a face photo thinking that they are in, then they get all mouthy and rude, then block you before you can reply.

It is just SO tempting to be just as rude and disrespectful with their face photos.

Are we being picky, or is it wrong to expect mutual respect??

So why not simply block men from messaging you?

Should this be needed?

Why not just respect profiles? Or are we dealing with people who can't read??"

I said this up there ^^^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree, as a guy i read the profile see "no single guys" and move on, no point in getting shitty as it's a personal preference which I understand.

Although it does annoy me when it's not part of there "looking for" section, you then read a very long profile and at the bottom is "no single guys""

I don't think there is any harm in trying.

I've met someone that was "not looking for single guys". Some do it just so they can lessen the barrage of messages

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

We aren't against single men as time goes on we're getting closer to blocking them.

Our profile states no married men get they still wink and message us

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I agree, as a guy i read the profile see "no single guys" and move on, no point in getting shitty as it's a personal preference which I understand.

Although it does annoy me when it's not part of there "looking for" section, you then read a very long profile and at the bottom is "no single guys"

I don't think there is any harm in trying.

I've met someone that was "not looking for single guys". Some do it just so they can lessen the barrage of messages "

You see it as no harm in trying, we see it as rudely ignoring profiles.

Why not just respect it?

We just don't get it.

As a straight guy, do you like constantly being asked to suck cock??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with some single guys on here.

Can't they read profiles??

Any sensible respectful single guy will see NO SINGLE GUYS in a profile and move on to a couple who are actually looking for single guys.

Funny really, they send a face photo thinking that they are in, then they get all mouthy and rude, then block you before you can reply.

It is just SO tempting to be just as rude and disrespectful with their face photos.

Are we being picky, or is it wrong to expect mutual respect??

So why not simply block men from messaging you?

Should this be needed?

Why not just respect profiles? Or are we dealing with people who can't read??

I said this up there ^^^^

If they did that then they couldn't throw their toys out of the pram. Fab gives you the tools. Use them and stop bickering.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree, as a guy i read the profile see "no single guys" and move on, no point in getting shitty as it's a personal preference which I understand.

Although it does annoy me when it's not part of there "looking for" section, you then read a very long profile and at the bottom is "no single guys"

I don't think there is any harm in trying.

I've met someone that was "not looking for single guys". Some do it just so they can lessen the barrage of messages

You see it as no harm in trying, we see it as rudely ignoring profiles.

Why not just respect it?

We just don't get it.

As a straight guy, do you like constantly being asked to suck cock??"

As I said - I see no harm in a single message. I've had meets from "no single guys" profiles

I get asked to have my suck cocked all the time by guys, but it doesn't particularly bother me. I either delete it or respond "Not my thing, sorry"

If it really did bother me, I'd just block single men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shame really. As there are some nice, polite, non pushy guys on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot really do struggle to read a small profile

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By *omvampmMan
over a year ago

gillingham

"What is it with some single guys on here.

Can't they read profiles??

Any sensible respectful single guy will see NO SINGLE GUYS in a profile and move on to a couple who are actually looking for single guys.

Funny really, they send a face photo thinking that they are in, then they get all mouthy and rude, then block you before you can reply.

It is just SO tempting to be just as rude and disrespectful with their face photos.

Are we being picky, or is it wrong to expect mutual respect??"

Not wrong at all you shudnt have to expect respect it should be assured sadly it seems thin on ground and as a result more couples or single ladies are saying no single guys to be fair I can't blame them x

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By *ravelling TogMan
over a year ago

sleaford

I'd like to think I'm polite in every message I send and, although this account is new I'm not to the scene, when I see No Single Men on a profile I don't even bother clicking on send a message.

Everyone is here for something and it's not always what you have that people want. That's what makes us human and individuals.

I'm happy with that, respect that and promote that.

Unfortunately it seems there are still a lot of single males who see "swinging site" and think "plenty of sex to be had here".

They should just stick to PoF and Tinder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I make sure I read the profile and If I don't fit the criteria then I don't message as it is just a waste of time, and your only be kidding yourself. I then send polite messages to those I do and see if anything happens, if not I don't take offence and just keep plodding lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are maturing well

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By *hampagne_Supernova_91Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Annoys me because it's a small minority of single guys being disrespectful bellends that ruins it for the rest of us that were raised with better manners...

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

Ruins it fir all us genuine guys etc etc..........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Annoys me because it's a small minority of single guys being disrespectful bellends that ruins it for the rest of us that were raised with better manners..."

When I was a single female on here, contrary to these men ruining it for people like You, it actually works in your favour and makes you stand out more

Holly

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By *hampagne_Supernova_91Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Annoys me because it's a small minority of single guys being disrespectful bellends that ruins it for the rest of us that were raised with better manners...

When I was a single female on here, contrary to these men ruining it for people like You, it actually works in your favour and makes you stand out more

Holly"

That's actually a fair point! Hadn't thought of that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If its clear from the message they haven't read my profile....I simply delete message!

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

About the only two things I can't or won't do is accommodate or, Kik, WhatsApp etc. Both clearly stated on my profile.

Every other message is either :can we meet at yours? Or, Do you have Kik? Arrrgghh!

I never understand it but usually I reply with a polite "unfortunately not". I'm too soft.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Annoys me because it's a small minority of single guys being disrespectful bellends that ruins it for the rest of us that were raised with better manners..."

We agree with you totally.

There are decent single guys about but it is really hard for you. The twat ones make it even harder!!

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Got a message the other day on my single profile, wasn’t worth reading so ignored it, next one of same guy was arrogant fat cunt.

Had this to much single guys get fucked of from the off will save so much dissatisfaction in the long run.

Auto block kicked in had a nice reply, to help the cock drop along, lined up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with some single guys on here.

Can't they read profiles??

Any sensible respectful single guy will see NO SINGLE GUYS in a profile and move on to a couple who are actually looking for single guys.

Funny really, they send a face photo thinking that they are in, then they get all mouthy and rude, then block you before you can reply.

It is just SO tempting to be just as rude and disrespectful with their face photos.

Are we being picky, or is it wrong to expect mutual respect??"

Just block single men. Job done, that’s what it’s there for.

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

"It's important never to sink yourself to the levels of others, as it's a vicious circle. Once you degrade yourself, it's then even easier to go lower. We'd potentially also be breaking the Fab site rules. Always report inappopriate behaviour from others though.

You might also improve things if you blocked new or unverified users, if you found those to be better, overall.

Wise words indeed.

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By *ommenhimCouple
over a year ago

wigan

"I agree, as a guy i read the profile see "no single guys" and move on, no point in getting shitty as it's a personal preference which I understand.

Although it does annoy me when it's not part of there "looking for" section, you then read a very long profile and at the bottom is "no single guys""

In response to people messaging who were submissive we added “no subs thankyou” .... when those subs who think they are different message and receive sarcasm bluntness ignorance etc they take umbrage! It’s the first line ... the first!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a guy, I tire of threads filled by people whinging about single guys

I, nor any other guy with two eyes in his head and a modicum of sense, cannot control the actions of others in our demographic

They are not a reflection of me, yet I feel because I am here on my own I am lumped together with the rest of the 'undesirables'

Whilst the actions of some single males are distasteful, is it also not the case that the actions of other swingers is also just as distasteful

The elitism and trumpeting on here at times can be just as unsavoury

Here's a tip. If you get a message from someone you aren't interested in, simply delete it, blocking the sender in the process if that is your wish

Whilst we are harping on about 'respect' this method seems far more respectful of the guys that don't message you than a broad sweep of the brush at all single males

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"As a guy, I tire of threads filled by people whinging about single guys

I, nor any other guy with two eyes in his head and a modicum of sense, cannot control the actions of others in our demographic

They are not a reflection of me, yet I feel because I am here on my own I am lumped together with the rest of the 'undesirables'

Whilst the actions of some single males are distasteful, is it also not the case that the actions of other swingers is also just as distasteful

The elitism and trumpeting on here at times can be just as unsavoury

Here's a tip. If you get a message from someone you aren't interested in, simply delete it, blocking the sender in the process if that is your wish

Whilst we are harping on about 'respect' this method seems far more respectful of the guys that don't message you than a broad sweep of the brush at all single males"

That was like a script from Dawson’s Creek.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a guy, I tire of threads filled by people whinging about single guys

I, nor any other guy with two eyes in his head and a modicum of sense, cannot control the actions of others in our demographic

They are not a reflection of me, yet I feel because I am here on my own I am lumped together with the rest of the 'undesirables'

Whilst the actions of some single males are distasteful, is it also not the case that the actions of other swingers is also just as distasteful

The elitism and trumpeting on here at times can be just as unsavoury

Here's a tip. If you get a message from someone you aren't interested in, simply delete it, blocking the sender in the process if that is your wish

Whilst we are harping on about 'respect' this method seems far more respectful of the guys that don't message you than a broad sweep of the brush at all single males

That was like a script from Dawson’s Creek."

Never seen it

I'll take your word

If it really is though, I missed my vocation

Instead of sitting here contributing to the forums every day, I could have been out there earning millions, writing stories to keep American twenty somethings happy

I'm miffed now

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As a guy, I tire of threads filled by people whinging about single guys

I, nor any other guy with two eyes in his head and a modicum of sense, cannot control the actions of others in our demographic

They are not a reflection of me, yet I feel because I am here on my own I am lumped together with the rest of the 'undesirables'

Whilst the actions of some single males are distasteful, is it also not the case that the actions of other swingers is also just as distasteful

The elitism and trumpeting on here at times can be just as unsavoury

Here's a tip. If you get a message from someone you aren't interested in, simply delete it, blocking the sender in the process if that is your wish

Whilst we are harping on about 'respect' this method seems far more respectful of the guys that don't message you than a broad sweep of the brush at all single males"

Where did anyone say ALL single guys.

We certainly didn't.

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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago

lanarkshire

Agree also

had a few males of couples do the same or females when they are with a fb...suppose sometimes people will chance it and see, but a polite response when refused should always be the case

Obv just wasn’t giving a shit about the actual conversation lol Def it use to annoy me, but doesn’t now...just get on with it...there’s always someone that will read your profile properly and surprise you with a friendly message.

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"As a guy, I tire of threads filled by people whinging about single guys

I, nor any other guy with two eyes in his head and a modicum of sense, cannot control the actions of others in our demographic

They are not a reflection of me, yet I feel because I am here on my own I am lumped together with the rest of the 'undesirables'

Whilst the actions of some single males are distasteful, is it also not the case that the actions of other swingers is also just as distasteful

The elitism and trumpeting on here at times can be just as unsavoury

Here's a tip. If you get a message from someone you aren't interested in, simply delete it, blocking the sender in the process if that is your wish

Whilst we are harping on about 'respect' this method seems far more respectful of the guys that don't message you than a broad sweep of the brush at all single males

That was like a script from Dawson’s Creek.

Never seen it

I'll take your word

If it really is though, I missed my vocation

Instead of sitting here contributing to the forums every day, I could have been out there earning millions, writing stories to keep American twenty somethings happy

I'm miffed now

Haha you’ve missed out big time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep it simple! Don’t message anyone and you can’t be accused of anything

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Agree also

had a few males of couples do the same or females when they are with a fb...suppose sometimes people will chance it and see, but a polite response when refused should always be the case

Exactly and getting the nice decent messages make it all worthwhile and you forget about the others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a guy, I tire of threads filled by people whinging about single guys

I, nor any other guy with two eyes in his head and a modicum of sense, cannot control the actions of others in our demographic

They are not a reflection of me, yet I feel because I am here on my own I am lumped together with the rest of the 'undesirables'

Whilst the actions of some single males are distasteful, is it also not the case that the actions of other swingers is also just as distasteful

The elitism and trumpeting on here at times can be just as unsavoury

Here's a tip. If you get a message from someone you aren't interested in, simply delete it, blocking the sender in the process if that is your wish

Whilst we are harping on about 'respect' this method seems far more respectful of the guys that don't message you than a broad sweep of the brush at all single males

Where did anyone say ALL single guys.

We certainly didn't."

OK, fair point

I'll take some of the tone out of my statement

However, the general principles of my comments still stand

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As a guy, I tire of threads filled by people whinging about single guys

I, nor any other guy with two eyes in his head and a modicum of sense, cannot control the actions of others in our demographic

They are not a reflection of me, yet I feel because I am here on my own I am lumped together with the rest of the 'undesirables'

Whilst the actions of some single males are distasteful, is it also not the case that the actions of other swingers is also just as distasteful

The elitism and trumpeting on here at times can be just as unsavoury

Here's a tip. If you get a message from someone you aren't interested in, simply delete it, blocking the sender in the process if that is your wish

Whilst we are harping on about 'respect' this method seems far more respectful of the guys that don't message you than a broad sweep of the brush at all single males

Where did anyone say ALL single guys.

We certainly didn't.

OK, fair point

I'll take some of the tone out of my statement

However, the general principles of my comments still stand

Of course yourcomments should still stand, the Forum is designed for open discussion.

But please note that a lot of people have experienced exactly the same as us.

Let's face it, these guys behave like this because it is the internet, they would never do it face to face.

We also know that there are decent guys out there, of course there are!!

Enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many of them *do* read profiles. 203 on my looked at me list today but only about 30 messages. So 170 read my profile and thought ewww nooooo.

All the men who have mailed me this week have been lovely. Only 1 was rude.

It's been interesting. Nice men do exist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate that women and couples get so much hassle from single guys as it gives genuine single guys a bad name and in turn makes it almost impossible for a decent single guy to get any interest at all. For the record I always read through any profiles and if they say no single guys then that's fine. I always make sure any messages are respectful. It's very rare that even get an answer from anyone sadly I'm guessing this is down to the single guys that hastle women on here. But I do feel us genuine respectful guys get a hard time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a guy, I tire of threads filled by people whinging about single guys

I, nor any other guy with two eyes in his head and a modicum of sense, cannot control the actions of others in our demographic

They are not a reflection of me, yet I feel because I am here on my own I am lumped together with the rest of the 'undesirables'

Whilst the actions of some single males are distasteful, is it also not the case that the actions of other swingers is also just as distasteful

The elitism and trumpeting on here at times can be just as unsavoury

Here's a tip. If you get a message from someone you aren't interested in, simply delete it, blocking the sender in the process if that is your wish

Whilst we are harping on about 'respect' this method seems far more respectful of the guys that don't message you than a broad sweep of the brush at all single males

Where did anyone say ALL single guys.

We certainly didn't.

OK, fair point

I'll take some of the tone out of my statement

However, the general principles of my comments still stand

Of course yourcomments should still stand, the Forum is designed for open discussion.

But please note that a lot of people have experienced exactly the same as us.

Let's face it, these guys behave like this because it is the internet, they would never do it face to face.

We also know that there are decent guys out there, of course there are!!

Enjoy."

I think your thread title is somewhat alarmist

'Twat single guys' came across as inclusive as opposed to aimed at the few that have bugged you

'Twat single guys' followed up by the word 'respect' seems somehow contradictory

Maybe your thread title came from the same angle of annoyance as my reaction to it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate that women and couples get so much hassle from single guys as it gives genuine single guys a bad name and in turn makes it almost impossible for a decent single guy to get any interest at all. For the record I always read through any profiles and if they say no single guys then that's fine. I always make sure any messages are respectful. It's very rare that even get an answer from anyone sadly I'm guessing this is down to the single guys that hastle women on here. But I do feel us genuine respectful guys get a hard time "

These guys are not a reflection of you

If you aren't getting as many responses to your messages as you'd like, most of that will be down to you, your profile, your messages and potentially your mis-reading of profiles

As much as I don't like single guys being lumped together by other demographics, I also don't like guys blaming other guys for their own failings

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

It’s seems to be a fact the vast majority of single guys send stupid messages, so yes anyone with savvy good luck getting through

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Be proactive, use your filters to block singles guys if you dont want them to contact you.

The solution is in your hands.

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

Fab gives you filters to use. If your contempt for single men is that bad then block them. I don't see why you need to make a post about them when you have the tools to use and refuse to use them !

It's like me only wanting to meet men up to 45yrs old yet leaving my filters off for anyone to contact me and then throwing my toys out the pram

In an ideal world people would read profiles but they don't. Simple.

Anyway single men , some of us love you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you used your filters to stop this pesky blokes yet?

Yes, problem solved.

No, stop complaining about them when you've been given a solution, yet fail to action it.

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

You should block all men then; and remove your block when/if you change your mind. Simples x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Many of them *do* read profiles. 203 on my looked at me list today but only about 30 messages. So 170 read my profile and thought ewww nooooo.

All the men who have mailed me this week have been lovely. Only 1 was rude.

It's been interesting. Nice men do exist.

"
I just read your profile it's hilarious I love it

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire

Lots of characters on the site. The most annoying ones are the onew that cannot take no for an answer.

So I've just stopped them messaging me and I'm enjoying the site a lot more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop making out its single guys you also get single women and couples who are idiots as well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Stop making out its single guys you also get single women and couples who are idiots as well."

You probably do, but we haven't experienced them.

We have simply experienced arsehole guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop making out its single guys you also get single women and couples who are idiots as well.

You probably do, but we haven't experienced them.

We have simply experienced arsehole guys.

Have you blocked them from messaging yet?

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

"Stop making out its single guys you also get single women and couples who are idiots as well.

You probably do, but we haven't experienced them.

We have simply experienced arsehole guys.

The just guys being twats and our block list runs in hundreds

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"Stop making out its single guys you also get single women and couples who are idiots as well.

You probably do, but we haven't experienced them.

We have simply experienced arsehole guys.

We've experienced them too but some very good guys also, we only meet men, would honestly say 70% of messages from men are crap and not for us. Couple percentage is way higher and they must get the fab warning message that they're not what we're looking for. Single guys are not all bad.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Stop making out its single guys you also get single women and couples who are idiots as well.

You probably do, but we haven't experienced them.

We have simply experienced arsehole guys.

Have you blocked them from messaging yet?"

So are you confirming the fact that they can't read and have no respect??

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

"Have you used your filters to stop this pesky blokes yet?

Yes, problem solved.

No, stop complaining about them when you've been given a solution, yet fail to action it. "

Well said

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you used your filters to stop this pesky blokes yet?

Yes, problem solved.

No, stop complaining about them when you've been given a solution, yet fail to action it. "

Why does it bother you so much??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop making out its single guys you also get single women and couples who are idiots as well.

You probably do, but we haven't experienced them.

We have simply experienced arsehole guys.

Have you blocked them from messaging yet?

So are you confirming the fact that they can't read and have no respect??"

I'm confirming or denying nothing.

I'm silly saying that your inbox won't get messages from 'twat single blokes' if you filter them out.

Complaining about them but doing nothing to sop it just seems pointless to me.

For the record, I don't filter anyone because I don't really care if I get a message from someone who hasn't read my profile. I've far more important issues in my life than that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Stop making out its single guys you also get single women and couples who are idiots as well.

You probably do, but we haven't experienced them.

We have simply experienced arsehole guys.

Have you blocked them from messaging yet?

So are you confirming the fact that they can't read and have no respect??

I'm confirming or denying nothing.

I'm silly saying that your inbox won't get messages from 'twat single blokes' if you filter them out.

Complaining about them but doing nothing to sop it just seems pointless to me.

For the record, I don't filter anyone because I don't really care if I get a message from someone who hasn't read my profile. I've far more important issues in my life than that. "

Thanks for your quality input!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop making out its single guys you also get single women and couples who are idiots as well."

this is very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with some single guys on here.

Can't they read profiles??

Any sensible respectful single guy will see NO SINGLE GUYS in a profile and move on to a couple who are actually looking for single guys.

Funny really, they send a face photo thinking that they are in, then they get all mouthy and rude, then block you before you can reply.

It is just SO tempting to be just as rude and disrespectful with their face photos.

Are we being picky, or is it wrong to expect mutual respect??"

Some just try it on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop making out its single guys you also get single women and couples who are idiots as well.

You probably do, but we haven't experienced them.

We have simply experienced arsehole guys.

Have you blocked them from messaging yet?

So are you confirming the fact that they can't read and have no respect??

I'm confirming or denying nothing.

I'm silly saying that your inbox won't get messages from 'twat single blokes' if you filter them out.

Complaining about them but doing nothing to sop it just seems pointless to me.

For the record, I don't filter anyone because I don't really care if I get a message from someone who hasn't read my profile. I've far more important issues in my life than that.

Thanks for your quality input!!"

You're very welcome.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"Stop making out its single guys you also get single women and couples who are idiots as well."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't want single guys to message you just set your preferences to NOT LOOKING FOR SINGLE GUYS and stop whinging.

Simples !

It's not bloody rocket science.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gosh, it looks like you’re maturing well....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you don't want single guys to message you just set your preferences to NOT LOOKING FOR SINGLE GUYS and stop whinging.

Simples !

It's not bloody rocket science."

Thanks for your valuable advice.

Another intelligent guy!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block and move on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Block and move on

You are right.

We do, however there is still no need for the ignorant chaps to ignore profiles is it?

Such a shame that hiding behind keyboards makes some people behave so badly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you don't want single guys to message you just set your preferences to NOT LOOKING FOR SINGLE GUYS and stop whinging.

Simples !

It's not bloody rocket science."
mate I just looked at your profile. You look like you're loving your best life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Block and move on

You are right.

We do, however there is still no need for the ignorant chaps to ignore profiles is it?

Such a shame that hiding behind keyboards makes some people behave so badly."
yes but not everyone is an arse hole just most of the people on fab

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Block and move on

You are right.

We do, however there is still no need for the ignorant chaps to ignore profiles is it?

Such a shame that hiding behind keyboards makes some people behave so badly. yes but not everyone is an arse hole just most of the people on fab

Again you are right.

We have never said that all single guys are like this, but sadly there are quite a few.

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By *ommyxyzMan
over a year ago

Crawley

Hi I’m a single guy. Bi so that probably helps, but I read profiles and never message if the warning says not to. I fab pictures and sometimes wink a profile out of my league. I comment on here and generally I get enough nice meets to make fab a really great site to be on.

So couples and women, don’t give up on single men profiles and single men don’t be tossers!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hi I’m a single guy. Bi so that probably helps, but I read profiles and never message if the warning says not to. I fab pictures and sometimes wink a profile out of my league. I comment on here and generally I get enough nice meets to make fab a really great site to be on.

So couples and women, don’t give up on single men profiles and single men don’t be tossers!"

Thanks for labouring our point again.

You are right to point out that not all single men are tossers, and we would never ever label everyone just because of the bad ones.

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By *_91Man
over a year ago

huds

I’ve not necessarily had any bad experiences as single guy (or a newbie!) but it definitely does feel like there is a slight stigma attached to being a single guy on here. It’s nice to see people in the thread acknowledging that we’re not all the same

from some of the stories I’ve heard I’m not surprised some people have second thoughts!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It could be worse. They could be politely asking you to put some clothes on!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

True.

We always believe in mutual respect, however we have gathered that we are dealing with disrespectful people who have reading issues so that might be the only way!!

Being honest though, surely there wouldn't be an issue if people read and respected profiles??

That was the point of this post you see. We know those filters are there, however the point still stands that filters or not people should still respect profiles."

Unfortunately, it's a given that they won't respect profiles, let alone even read them in the first place. Best to use filters tbh.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

I started a thread a while back called junk mail.. its op was something like..

Its often said in response to unanswered messages on threads that folk don't reply to junk mail, now in the real world I can seal my letterbox however it does or would cause me a great inconvenience.. on fab I can seal my inbox and prevent the majority of junk mail I'd rather not receive.

O.p. You choose not to seal your mailbox on fab so just like in the real world you'll get junk mail..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I started a thread a while back called junk mail.. its op was something like..

O.p. You choose not to seal your mailbox on fab so just like in the real world you'll get junk mail..

Got you.

Again, single guys cannot read simple English.

Why is it so many people are trying to make out it is ok to be have rudely and disrespectfully?

This thread is not about the filters is it? Surely we all know that.

We will however set the filters. It seems rudeness cannot be stopped.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is it so many people are trying to make out it is ok to be have rudely and disrespectfully?

Nobody is doing that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I started a thread a while back called junk mail.. its op was something like..

O.p. You choose not to seal your mailbox on fab so just like in the real world you'll get junk mail..

Got you.

Again, single guys cannot read simple English.

Why is it so many people are trying to make out it is ok to be have rudely and disrespectfully?

This thread is not about the filters is it? Surely we all know that.

We will however set the filters. It seems rudeness cannot be stopped."

Finally!!!! Rudeness can be stopped and by seeing your filter you've done just that.

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

"I started a thread a while back called junk mail.. its op was something like..

O.p. You choose not to seal your mailbox on fab so just like in the real world you'll get junk mail..

Got you.

Again, single guys cannot read simple English.

Why is it so many people are trying to make out it is ok to be have rudely and disrespectfully?

This thread is not about the filters is it? Surely we all know that.

We will however set the filters. It seems rudeness cannot be stopped."

"...It seems rudeness cannot be stopped...."

It will stop when you learn how to use filters.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I started a thread a while back called junk mail.. its op was something like..

O.p. You choose not to seal your mailbox on fab so just like in the real world you'll get junk mail..

Got you.

Again, single guys cannot read simple English.

Why is it so many people are trying to make out it is ok to be have rudely and disrespectfully?

This thread is not about the filters is it? Surely we all know that.

We will however set the filters. It seems rudeness cannot be stopped.

"...It seems rudeness cannot be stopped...."

It will stop when you learn how to use filters."

We shouldn't need to use the filters.

Are you someone else who thinks rudeness on here is acceptable??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I started a thread a while back called junk mail.. its op was something like..

O.p. You choose not to seal your mailbox on fab so just like in the real world you'll get junk mail..

Got you.

Again, single guys cannot read simple English.

Why is it so many people are trying to make out it is ok to be have rudely and disrespectfully?

This thread is not about the filters is it? Surely we all know that.

We will however set the filters. It seems rudeness cannot be stopped."

Nobody is saying that it is an acceptable thing for someone to send rude messages. All they are saying is, if you are getting so miffed about it, there are ways to filter them out from messaging you. You arent interested in meeting them anyway, based on what you put in your OP. Trolls are everywhere. Not just on fab. You cant control what other people do or what they write, but you can control who can message you

Holly

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I started a thread a while back called junk mail.. its op was something like..

O.p. You choose not to seal your mailbox on fab so just like in the real world you'll get junk mail..

Got you.

Again, single guys cannot read simple English.

Why is it so many people are trying to make out it is ok to be have rudely and disrespectfully?

This thread is not about the filters is it? Surely we all know that.

We will however set the filters. It seems rudeness cannot be stopped.

Holly"

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I started a thread a while back called junk mail.. its op was something like..

O.p. You choose not to seal your mailbox on fab so just like in the real world you'll get junk mail..

Got you.

Again, single guys cannot read simple English.

Why is it so many people are trying to make out it is ok to be have rudely and disrespectfully?

This thread is not about the filters is it? Surely we all know that.

We will however set the filters. It seems rudeness cannot be stopped.

Holly

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"I started a thread a while back called junk mail.. its op was something like..

O.p. You choose not to seal your mailbox on fab so just like in the real world you'll get junk mail..

Got you.

Again, single guys cannot read simple English.

Why is it so many people are trying to make out it is ok to be have rudely and disrespectfully?

This thread is not about the filters is it? Surely we all know that.

We will however set the filters. It seems rudeness cannot be stopped."

Folk of all genders can be rude and disrespectful. Its not gender specific. Your experience may be with single guys, I can say similar about others, then I set filters and now I can't.

I said it up there ^^^ i receive phone calls from ppi etc although my number is on various preference list s to not receive them... i could hope they'd change .. or I can be ptroCtive and block their numbers i chose the latter.

So you can hope the guys change their behaviour or you can be proactive

Einstein said to do the same thinvs over and over again and expect a different result iz insanity.

Makes zero difference to me what you choose to do

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

If people aren't prepared to use the tools fab gives them, then dont complain and resort to calling others twats etc. Best to filter out the people that you don't want to meet or hear from and allow only the people you are interested in meeting to message you. If everyone read and respected profiles then fab wouldn't be offering the various filters for people to use on the site. People can choose whether they have a pleasant, unpleasant or annoying experience on here. Very simple to do if you want it to be a nice one. This just comes across as another single man bashing thread tbh.

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

"I started a thread a while back called junk mail.. its op was something like..

O.p. You choose not to seal your mailbox on fab so just like in the real world you'll get junk mail..

Got you.

Again, single guys cannot read simple English.

Why is it so many people are trying to make out it is ok to be have rudely and disrespectfully?

This thread is not about the filters is it? Surely we all know that.

We will however set the filters. It seems rudeness cannot be stopped.

"...It seems rudeness cannot be stopped...."

It will stop when you learn how to use filters.

We shouldn't need to use the filters.

Are you someone else who thinks rudeness on here is acceptable??

"...We shouldn't need to use the filters..."

Well don't use them then, and see if that solves your problem.

No doubt you will be back here in a few weeks whinging & moaning about the same thing again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I started a thread a while back called junk mail.. its op was something like..

O.p. You choose not to seal your mailbox on fab so just like in the real world you'll get junk mail..

Got you.

Again, single guys cannot read simple English.

Why is it so many people are trying to make out it is ok to be have rudely and disrespectfully?

This thread is not about the filters is it? Surely we all know that.

We will however set the filters. It seems rudeness cannot be stopped.

Holly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats right. We are all twats. We should all be banished!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Thats right. We are all twats. We should all be banished!"

Nooo. Some of us are looking for single guys lol.

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

New this would get the popcorn flowing, come on guys stop messaging with your hard on, getting you feckin no where

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"New this would get the popcorn flowing, come on guys stop messaging with your hard on, getting you feckin no where "

It's not just single guys, couples and single women ignore profiles too.

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By *ensual mMan
over a year ago

conwy

I personally read all profiles and if theres just 1 thing that i dont conform to i keep scrolling out of respect . I cant see the point being pushy or lying to people because theyre not stupid they will find out eventually. I added that i wont top men on my profile but still get mostly men messaging me. Its all down to respect you either have it or you dont

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I started a thread a while back called junk mail.. its op was something like..

O.p. You choose not to seal your mailbox on fab so just like in the real world you'll get junk mail..

Got you.

Again, single guys cannot read simple English.

Why is it so many people are trying to make out it is ok to be have rudely and disrespectfully?

This thread is not about the filters is it? Surely we all know that.

We will however set the filters. It seems rudeness cannot be stopped.

"...It seems rudeness cannot be stopped...."

It will stop when you learn how to use filters.

We shouldn't need to use the filters.

Are you someone else who thinks rudeness on here is acceptable??

"...We shouldn't need to use the filters..."

Well don't use them then, and see if that solves your problem.

No doubt you will be back here in a few weeks whinging & moaning about the same thing again."

Congratulations.

You sound like a typical single guy.

Shame for the decent ones.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I personally read all profiles and if theres just 1 thing that i dont conform to i keep scrolling out of respect . I cant see the point being pushy or lying to people because theyre not stupid they will find out eventually. I added that i wont top men on my profile but still get mostly men messaging me. Its all down to respect you either have it or you dont "

The question that springs to mind, is why doesn't everyone else behave in the same way?

It is the only decent way, isn't it??

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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

"Try being a tv then, I get flooded with messages from "straight" guys, that's just messed up.

Also get LOADS of "Will you come to my house now for a fuck" !! Really!! Like I'm sitting around in a dress all day just waiting for the privilege of a fuck with a stranger in a random house.

Sorry, rant over xx xx "

Welcome to the world of being a woman.

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By *euschMan
over a year ago

peterborough

I have messaged couples and single women who request no single men, but only to send a compliment, not expect them to wanna invite me into their bed

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have messaged couples and single women who request no single men, but only to send a compliment, not expect them to wanna invite me into their bed"

We have had plenty of that in the past. We always reply in the same polite way we are approached, and those type of guys always leave it just as that-a polite hello both ways.

We would say just as much as the next person that there are decent guys out there.

It is just a shame that the arsehole ones mean that decent ones are blocked from even saying allow because of the behaviour of some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just block single guys. That feature is there for a reason and makes the “no single men” wording more prominent too (as well as blocking them).

But I guess you won’t do that because you like *some* of the messages you get from single guys

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

The question that springs to mind, is why doesn't everyone else behave in the same way?

It is the only decent way, isn't it??"

Sadly Fab merely reflects society as it is becoming, courtesy and politeness are a thing of the past i am afraid, and to be fair to single men they are not ALL twats we have met some great guys! and on the other hand we have had some very rude couples and single women message us, but we put our big boy and girl pants on and delete and block if we feel we need to

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just block single guys. That feature is there for a reason and makes the “no single men” wording more prominent too (as well as blocking them).

But I guess you won’t do that because you like *some* of the messages you get from single guys "

Why shouldn't we like the messages that we get from decent single guys.

"Some" single guys believe it or not, just like to pass a compliment and say hello, and we say thanks and hello back.

Do we have your permission to continue?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

The arrogance of some of the posts on this thread beggars belief. Heads and brick walls spring to mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly its parr for the course on here

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By *lwenWoman
over a year ago

De12 area

If you don't want single guys messaging you then use your filters to stop them.. It's a very simple fix.. And then you won't be on here complaining about them..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The arrogance of some of the posts on this thread beggars belief. Heads and brick walls spring to mind.

We agree totally!!

So many people trying to tell us what to do...

We never asked for advice on use of the site, we simply commented on our experiences.

Why do people not simply comment about what we asked rather than what we didn't.

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

"If you don't want single guys messaging you then use your filters to stop them.. It's a very simple fix.. And then you won't be on here complaining about them..

Because then they wouldn't get messages they enjoy from some single guys.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you don't want single guys messaging you then use your filters to stop them.. It's a very simple fix.. And then you won't be on here complaining about them..

Thanks very much!!

Maybe we should have put our last comments up a little quicker!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you don't want single guys messaging you then use your filters to stop them.. It's a very simple fix.. And then you won't be on here complaining about them..

Because then they wouldn't get messages they enjoy from some single guys. "

Very true!!

There ARE actually some decent ones out there.

We know, we have spoken to some.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"The arrogance of some of the posts on this thread beggars belief. Heads and brick walls spring to mind.

We agree totally!!

So many people trying to tell us what to do...

We never asked for advice on use of the site, we simply commented on our experiences.

Why do people not simply comment about what we asked rather than what we didn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always try to show that I've read the profile somehow, picking out something the lady or couple have put in their bio. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesnt. It gets on my nerves when people say "weirdos on here" or "dont they read the profile"... how about give us normal and respectful fellas a chance, instead the small group of idiots ruin it for everyone. Sorry for ranting lol xx

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"What is it with some single guys on here.

Can't they read profiles??

Any sensible respectful single guy will see NO SINGLE GUYS in a profile and move on to a couple who are actually looking for single guys.

Funny really, they send a face photo thinking that they are in, then they get all mouthy and rude, then block you before you can reply.

It is just SO tempting to be just as rude and disrespectful with their face photos.

Are we being picky, or is it wrong to expect mutual respect??"

Nope, you're absolutely entitled to respect, as are all initially. If they don't read it and heed it they're pretty much setting themselves up. They're creating their own frustration when it could have been avoided. No bloke worth his salt would message without reading the profile properly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I always try to show that I've read the profile somehow, picking out something the lady or couple have put in their bio. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesnt. It gets on my nerves when people say "weirdos on here" or "dont they read the profile"... how about give us normal and respectful fellas a chance, instead the small group of idiots ruin it for everyone. Sorry for ranting lol xx"

Sadly we are not speaking about a small group of idiots.

You may well be a decent guy, and you cannot imagine why others would behave in any other way but decently.

However the sad thing is there are lots of guys who aren't decent at all.

Comes back to mutual respect, doesn't it?

As you have seen, we are happy to say that we have also spoken to decent guys on here and it has been great to hear from them and know that they actually exist.

Enjoy.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Hear hear mate! The good guys do tend to win in the end, but it can be a frustrating process for us sometimes too it's true.

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

"If you don't want single guys messaging you then use your filters to stop them.. It's a very simple fix.. And then you won't be on here complaining about them..

Because then they wouldn't get messages they enjoy from some single guys.

Very true!!

There ARE actually some decent ones out there.

We know, we have spoken to some."

Yes but those decent ones still didn't read your profile because they still messaged

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you don't want single guys messaging you then use your filters to stop them.. It's a very simple fix.. And then you won't be on here complaining about them..

Because then they wouldn't get messages they enjoy from some single guys.

Very true!!

There ARE actually some decent ones out there.

We know, we have spoken to some.

Yes but those decent ones still didn't read your profile because they still messaged

Maybe you should have a good read of our profile.

We simply say that we won't be meeting them!!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I thought my block button had stopped working till I saw this thread lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you don't want single guys messaging you then use your filters to stop them.. It's a very simple fix.. And then you won't be on here complaining about them..

Because then they wouldn't get messages they enjoy from some single guys.

Very true!!

There ARE actually some decent ones out there.

We know, we have spoken to some.

Yes but those decent ones still didn't read your profile because they still messaged

"
It's good to talk......... Never a truer saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have emailed couples who state they don't want to meet single men purely to compliment them, with no hidden agenda as believe in being nice and still get stroppy replies. Teach me to be nice

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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

"I have emailed couples who state they don't want to meet single men purely to compliment them, with no hidden agenda as believe in being nice and still get stroppy replies. Teach me to be nice"

Many men claim to be messaging with no hidden agenda.

99% of those men have a hidden agenda.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have emailed couples who state they don't want to meet single men purely to compliment them, with no hidden agenda as believe in being nice and still get stroppy replies. Teach me to be nice

Many men claim to be messaging with no hidden agenda.

99% of those men have a hidden agenda."

And there lies the difficulty, that is purely an assumption and generalisation. Why not take the compliment at face value until proven different. Some of us are just nice

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"If you don't want single guys messaging you then use your filters to stop them.. It's a very simple fix.. And then you won't be on here complaining about them..

Because then they wouldn't get messages they enjoy from some single guys.

Very true!!

There ARE actually some decent ones out there.

We know, we have spoken to some.

Yes but those decent ones still didn't read your profile because they still messaged

Maybe you should have a good read of our profile.

We simply say that we won't be meeting them!!"

Jeez.. is this still going on.. so you only want messages from guys paying you compliments or saying hello ..not asking for a meet.. perhaps you might elaborate in your text then.

you were given a solution as well by bussy..up there ^^^^ block the ones who don't send you the messages and or compliments you'd like ..

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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

"I have emailed couples who state they don't want to meet single men purely to compliment them, with no hidden agenda as believe in being nice and still get stroppy replies. Teach me to be nice

Many men claim to be messaging with no hidden agenda.

99% of those men have a hidden agenda.

And there lies the difficulty, that is purely an assumption and generalisation. Why not take the compliment at face value until proven different. Some of us are just nice"

So you reply to say thank you.

Then you’ve started a conversation.

You keep replying to the guy to be polite (he swears, of course, that he has no agenda). Suddenly you’re thirty messages in, and he’s sending you abuse because he thinks you’re a time waster for leading him on.

Men message me *daily* with compliments claiming they have “no agenda.” They mostly do have an agenda. But I can’t tell the difference between guys like you and guys like them.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I So you reply to say thank you.

Then you’ve started a conversation.

Men message me *daily* with compliments claiming they have “no agenda.” They mostly do have an agenda. But I can’t tell the difference between guys like you and guys like them."

Yes!! Exactly this!!!

Then they message you daily, asking about work, what you’ve been up to, trying to get to know you. I was only being polite. Then they refer to themselves as “friends”.

I tell them clearly that they are wasting their time messaging me but it doesn’t go in. Don’t want to block them all, they aren’t being abusive but they are wasting their time so what to do?? Who knows.

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

Maturing.well! — can I please ask, do you include men who may politely ask you if you would be interested in meeting them, in the “twat” category or simply those who are rude to you, when you say ‘no’ to them? It’s an honest question on my part by the way.

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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

"Maturing.well! — can I please ask, do you include men who may politely ask you if you would be interested in meeting them, in the “twat” category or simply those who are rude to you, when you say ‘no’ to them? It’s an honest question on my part by the way."

Considering that their profile quite clearly says they aren’t interested in meeting guys... in my opinion any guy that messages them to ask to meet (no matter how politely) is a right fucking twat.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

in a grumpy mood, so bare with me.

Was listening to one of Matthew Hussey videos about what to put on a profile. He said by putting i.e. no bottie, no nsa, no hook-ups, no casual relationship wanted, you think you are deterring the wrong guys. Matthew said, the wrong guys are already messaging you.

BUT what you are doing is putting off the RIGHT guys for you, because you're coming over as negative.

It made me think, so I've had to change my dating profile, and I've ditched anyone going down the line of casual sex relationship.

Learnt a lesson!

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Bootie not bottie!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be good if the site made the block filters moire intelligent so you could select lots of options that your not looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"in a grumpy mood, so bare with me.

BUT what you are doing is putting off the RIGHT guys for you, because you're coming over as negative.

It made me think, so I've had to change my dating profile, and I've ditched anyone going down the line of casual sex relationship.

Learnt a lesson!"

Has it made a difference?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Considering that their profile quite clearly says they aren’t interested in meeting guys... in my opinion any guy that messages them to ask to meet (no matter how politely) is a right fucking twat."

Well said.

Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes we do in all honesty.

Our preferences and choices are clearly on our profile, so why would anyone need to ask?

Would anyone do anything they don't want to do just because they were asked nicely??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you don't want single guys messaging you then use your filters to stop them.. It's a very simple fix.. And then you won't be on here complaining about them..

Because then they wouldn't get messages they enjoy from some single guys.

Very true!!

There ARE actually some decent ones out there.

We know, we have spoken to some.

Yes but those decent ones still didn't read your profile because they still messaged

Maybe you should have a good read of our profile.

We simply say that we won't be meeting them!!

Jeez.. is this still going on.. so you only want messages from guys paying you compliments or saying hello ..not asking for a meet.. perhaps you might elaborate in your text then.

you were given a solution as well by bussy..up there ^^^^ block the ones who don't send you the messages and or compliments you'd like ..

Yes it is still going on.

May we politely suggest that if you don't like it then don't comment?

We all have freedom of choice.

You choose to comment we choose to comment as well.

Simple really.

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

Yes we do in all honesty.

Our preferences and choices are clearly on our profile, so why would anyone need to ask?

Would anyone do anything they don't want to do just because they were asked nicely??"

I am assuming then that you don’t really browse single men’s profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The vast MAJORITY of single men here fuckin rock. Love to you all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fact!

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