FabSwingers.com forum: Cant accomodate/Can accomodate

By *heekygeordieguy OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Viewed some profiles on here where peeps accuse others of being fake if they cant accomodate, however when you look at meets, a lot of people cant accomodate and expect to come to yours.....Am i picking this up right to think that if you can accomodate you are genuine...Bizzare to say the least.!!!

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

We do have a bit on our profile about single males and the accomodation issue, but thats because, mostly, its what we have found from experience.

We also know lots of friends (singles and cpls) who cant, or wont accomodate and we dont either, for various reasons.

We take each potential meet on its merits, and if accomodation is an issue we can always get a hotel room!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think the assumption of many is that if you can't accom then you are ....

genuine(ly married)

not always the case of course, but a conclusion that many reach

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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Although I agree that most people think that 'can't accom' means 'attached', it shouldn't. I can't accom but I'm not attached, and I have met several men who have a very good reason for not accommodating.

It's not my business, especially if I am not going to play with them, what their reason is for not accommodating. However it would make meeting them difficult as neither can I! I tend to filter that sort of profile out on the advanced search.

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By *z ThongzWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

I also have cant accomodate on my profile but i am genuinely single , but i have reasons why i cant, we should all learn not to be so judgemental about it , what works for u and what ur reasons are and what ur standards are arent the same for everyone . Accomodate or not doesnt mean geunine or not .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Viewed some profiles on here where peeps accuse others of being fake if they cant accomodate, however when you look at meets, a lot of people cant accomodate and expect to come to yours.....Am i picking this up right to think that if you can accomodate you are genuine...Bizzare to say the least.!!!

It doesn't make seance if you think about it. If someone is fake they are not going to meet anyone anyway so will put what they like on their profile. Not accommodating could mean they dont want you at their home though and it could be because there is an unsuspecting family their or its as dirty as hell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i guess most people assume if your a single guy, you should have your own place, and if you do why wouldnt you be able to accomodate if you had a meet?

to be fair the logic stands up, backed up with no photo on public display it makes the case even stronger!

people arnt saying guys like that are not genuine cos your fake, they are saying they arnt genuine as they believe people like that to be playing behind a partners back!

to be fair to the women and couples saying we dont accom and were real, its not something as a woman that will ever stop you getting meets, they any amounts of guys who dont care if your attached, and people understand if couples cant play at home probs coz of kids.

but single guys they plenty of them about, and if these are some couples/womens warning signs of someone being attached and they dont want to play with the attached then i guess its a pretty safe system to tar you all with the same brush as they plenty of guys who can accomodate and do show their face and have verifications that mean they dont have to compromise and sleep with someone without a photo or own place!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I COULD accommodate, but I DON'T.

that's my personal choice and just because of that it doesn't mean I have a hubby and kids at home.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

It’s difficult to say we should not prejudge people on one factor alone…. especially as the whole selection process is about hedging bets and making sensible choices based on gut instinct, as we cannot be factually sure of many things.

My experience tells me most (though not all) grown men who can’t accommodate either have a partner of some sort, or don’t want to shit on their own doorstep.

Neither appeal.

Women are lucky as people are more inclined to assume it's safety or childcare reasons...... or just not care coz she's got tits.

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By *itty .Woman
over a year ago

Brighton

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By *itty .Woman
over a year ago

Brighton

I have,

DO NOT on my profile

but if you read some of my veri's, I've had people here.

It depends on who is in the house as I have a house mate !

Plus I don't want guys to think I should, if it says, I can !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This why there are clubs, or if your very organised, get the £10 room deals off travelodge

I also suspect that many see someone who can't accommodate but is happy to come to yours is a taker and not a giver or sharer...

Love to all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i think the assumption of many is that if you can't accom then you are ....

genuine(ly married)

not always the case of course, but a conclusion that many reach "

This!!! FTM

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I also suspect that many see someone who can't accommodate but is happy to come to yours is a taker and not a giver or sharer...

No I don't see it as that... more about the potentially underlying attitude regarding the people they are trying to fuck.

I have lost count of the number of guys who have very honestly said "Oh god I don't want swingers in my house"... to which a reply of "and I don't want dickheads in mine" seems fair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't but that's our choice. When looking at profiles we don't rule out any based on accomedation as we happy to go to hotel. Have found allot of single guys seem happy to have us go to theirs and seem more relaxed in their home. Though there is def something exciting about hotel meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think you can put everyone into the same pot here. Especially because I know I'm not in it. My reasons not to accommodate are valid ones - to me anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people dont put women and couples in the same pot though lol, if you want them you cant struggle coz of meets because you cant accom

its a thing with guys, people know guys use the site to cheat, and its a if it walks like a duck, talks like a duck then its probally a duck mentality which to be fair in most cases is right.

alot of you women saying this also have face pics etc up, this is another thing that goes against the attached assumptions! but like i said it wont hold women back, only men!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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Hotels are good for me anyway - I don't have to clean my house!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hotels are good for me anyway - I don't have to clean my house!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone reasons not to accommodate is something personal. Some people have kids, spouses that maybe don't know they do it and other reasons that are unknown. As a couple we can accommodate but the potential meet may not want to come due to us having a cat they could be allergic and may not want to come. So everyone has to be happy nothing worse than going to someone place and you don't feel comfortable there

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"I don't think you can put everyone into the same pot here. Especially because I know I'm not in it. My reasons not to accommodate are valid ones - to me anyway. "

Factually no everyone isn't in the same pot....... but when it comes to making choices and you've noticed some common telltale signs shared amongst the reject pile... well as a poster above says, if it walks like a duck and sounds like a duck, throw your stale bread at it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hotels are good for me anyway - I don't have to clean my house!

you can come back to mine, but this time u must clean my house before u get any lol !

just my new bored housewife kink ive got, you do housework for a few hours till ur bored then i unbore you haha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if it walks like a duck, and it talks like a duck then it needs more time to cook!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Factually no everyone isn't in the same pot....... but when it comes to making choices and you've noticed some common telltale signs shared amongst the reject pile... well as a poster above says, if it walks like a duck and sounds like a duck, throw your stale bread at it."

I walk like a duck, but that's because I just walk funny. Don't throw stale bread at me ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hotels are good for me anyway - I don't have to clean my house!

Are you a messy 'fucker' then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I walk like a duck, but that's because I just walk funny. Don't throw stale bread at me ok

you have to look like a duck as well too so your safe (hopefully lol!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hotels are good for me anyway - I don't have to clean my house!

Are you a messy 'fucker' then?

she's been known to get a little wet from time to time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you have to look like a duck as well too so your safe (hopefully lol!)"

keep on hoping

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"or just not care coz she's got tits."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm beginning to think from what I've read on these forums that to some, members who may secretly be attached are becoming an obsession.

If I contacted someone who assumed I was attached from the start, I'd block them simply because someone as intolerant as that wouldn't be for me.

I'm not attached as it happens but there are loads of reasons why a single person wouldn't want to accommodate. Sharing a rented house, living with other members of the family, or merely worried about their security can all be valid reasons. I'm a big guy but I never forget that someone only has to pull a knife and size and strength is meaningless.

Then there's the possibility of the neighbours seeing a french maid and leather clad dom wandering up the garden path

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

I could accommodate if I chose..Just dont want strangers in my home. If I got to know someone well different matter but they too must have a home they would share with me.. Two way street really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could accommodate if I chose..Just dont want strangers in my home. If I got to know someone well different matter but they too must have a home they would share with me.. Two way street really. "

Am in house share right now with a female. She happens to have givenb birth to me and brought me up lol.

Back at mi mams these last few months since I split from ex Mrs. Hence the reason I GENUINELY cant accom lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have "don't accommoate" on my profile although I am single.....

it is there for my safety....how safe is inviting someone I don't know to my home on the first time of meeting?

once we have met a few times then I would obviously reconsider.....but it has to be a two way situation regarding accommodation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have do not on my profile but I have had selected meets here. Depends on who the guy is. My house, up to me if I want to accommodate or not.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I can't accomodate. My wife knows what I do (she has her own fun) and even helps with make up, but it's not fair on her having people round. It would be easier if I did accomodate, because I do miss out on meets due to this.

Regarding other people, if they can or can't accomodate I view it as their business, afterall, I'm in no position to point a finger at them.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"Hotels are good for me anyway - I don't have to clean my house!

Are you a messy 'fucker' then?

I value my mattress. Hotel mattresses can look after themselves.

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By *omealone17Man
over a year ago

CREWE

"I could accommodate if I chose..Just dont want strangers in my home. If I got to know someone well different matter but they too must have a home they would share with me.. Two way street really. "

Very valid point I am willing to accomadate but would wish to meet in nuetral venue the pub across the road to ensure I felt safe introduceing person into my home. Also nice to be able to share the accomadation especially if more than a single meet

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I'm another of the don't accommodate single fems. And like many of the previous posters it's for safety reasons.

As for the walks like a duck, quacks like a duck brigade - they're the ones who don't want to meet for a coffee, who ask if I'm married or any kids, then say "we should have coffee at yours then" despite being told its not going th happen! Then they have a strip and the toys come out the pram...

And yet when I mention that it's all.on my profile for them to read.before they mail me.they vanish!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

seems to be the conclusion some folk come to . i can accomm but live with two guys both of whom know about swinging so its not an issue . However what if they objected ? or had kids or were religious ? i wouldnt be able to so in some eyes would make me married i guess .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit, its the first thing i look at on a profile, simply because i cant accom myself, and i cant be forking out for hotels all the time, however i have met guys who cant, so do take people on their own merits.

Its fairly easy to spot a married guy anyway...the words professional, discrete, and nsa are usually in their profile...i read that to be "i travel with my job, i dont want anyone to know who the heck you are, and dont fucking call me EVER!!" lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hotels are good for me anyway - I don't have to clean my house!

Are you a messy 'fucker' then?

I value my mattress. Hotel mattresses can look after themselves.

do hotel beds move accross the room too lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i can understand not meeting at his or hers,i can usaly acc ,but what i hate is what i call is n.a.m.p.s,,,not at my place sorry, the amount of guys who come to my place for what ever usaly oral or sex ,and say they would never accomadate, my life would be over if my wife found out ,but they expect me to take the risk for there sexual fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a couple a few times who where happy to accommodate until someone they met started calling at their front door uninvited at different times of the day and night, hoping to get his rocks off, irrespective of their kids being there etc.

I appreciate every person who accommodates and respects their privacy and hospitality.

And yes I'm married, but if it wasn't for us married guys (and some women too) making up so many of the numbers this would be a much less interesting site with a lot less revenue and varied interests

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i can understand not meeting at his or hers,i can usaly acc ,but what i hate is what i call is n.a.m.p.s,,,not at my place sorry, the amount of guys who come to my place for what ever usaly oral or sex ,and say they would never accomadate, my life would be over if my wife found out ,but they expect me to take the risk for there sexual fun"

your taking the risk either way lol

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

And yes I'm married, but if it wasn't for us married guys (and some women too) making up so many of the numbers this would be a much less interesting site with a lot less revenue and varied interests

Oh how we laughed..................

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Hotels are good for me anyway - I don't have to clean my house!

Are you a messy 'fucker' then?

I value my mattress. Hotel mattresses can look after themselves.

do hotel beds move accross the room too lol"

They do when I'm on them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And yes I'm married, but if it wasn't for us married guys (and some women too) making up so many of the numbers this would be a much less interesting site with a lot less revenue and varied interests

Oh how we laughed..................

all it really does is clog up my block list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also suspect that many see someone who can't accommodate but is happy to come to yours is a taker and not a giver or sharer...

No I don't see it as that... more about the potentially underlying attitude regarding the people they are trying to fuck.

I have lost count of the number of guys who have very honestly said "Oh god I don't want swingers in my house"... to which a reply of "and I don't want dickheads in mine" seems fair.

This.

I no longer meet men that can't accommodate, and I don't care what their excuses are as one man made it plain he wouldn't invite people of a swingers site into his home...after he was drying himself with an Egyptian cotton towel after stepping out of the power shower in my house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And yes I'm married, but if it wasn't for us married guys (and some women too) making up so many of the numbers this would be a much less interesting site with a lot less revenue and varied interests

Oh how we laughed..................

I peed my panties at that corker too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hotels are good for me anyway - I don't have to clean my house!

Are you a messy 'fucker' then?

I value my mattress. Hotel mattresses can look after themselves.

do hotel beds move accross the room too lol

They do when I'm on them.

Indeed they do...

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Hotels are good for me anyway - I don't have to clean my house!

Are you a messy 'fucker' then?

I value my mattress. Hotel mattresses can look after themselves.

do hotel beds move accross the room too lol

They do when I'm on them.

Indeed they do...

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By *ildernezCouple
over a year ago

Ellesmere port

We just have the nosiest neighbours in the world..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's an odd one, if you put that you accommodate people seem to automatically invite them selves round and if you put that you travel they expect you to travel for miles to help them with there fantasy's. There should be a mind your own business option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here's a thought: Don't assume!

A married man can accomodate if his partner works nights. She might be a nurse.

If people can't accomodate, they can't accomodate. If they can, they can.

I'm sure if you really want to meet them, you'll make arrangements.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of ppl who can't accomodate miss out on a lot of meets for financial reasons. I really font want to meet a hot sexy guy in the back of a van just cos we both are short of cash.

Personally im thinking of starting a club, throw in a few quid and rent a flat for a month....everyone gets to play

Just need to find anough ppl in my area who think its a good idea

What do u think?

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By *idlifecrisis40Man
over a year ago

Manchester (North)

"As a couple we can accommodate but the potential meet may not want to come due to us having a cat they could be allergic and may not want to come."

It's so nice to see a cat owner who recognises that problem! If someone can accommodate but not travel and they have cats then that would be a deal breaker for me. Even with anti-histamines I have maybe 15 minutes before I have to flee a house with a cat in it, get home, strip off and scrub myself vigorously in the shower.

I'm a single guy, I prefer to travel because it makes it more of an adventure, but happy to accommodate too. Since joining this site the standard of tidyness and cleaning in my house has risen considerably.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a lot of ppl who can't accomodate miss out on a lot of meets for financial reasons. I really font want to meet a hot sexy guy in the back of a van just cos we both are short of cash.

Personally im thinking of starting a club, throw in a few quid and rent a flat for a month....everyone gets to play

Just need to find anough ppl in my area who think its a good idea

What do u think?

You might be on to something here! Lol

In times of austerity, a lot of men and women are living in a house-share, lodging with a family or gone back to their parents in order to sort out their finances.

It's sad that people are assuming the worst and don't understand when someone is struggling.

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By *ighorn2006Man
over a year ago

Ceredigion / N France

Seems a bit harsh to think that just because you can't accommodate you're a fake !!

What about those genuine couples etc that can only travel or use hotels ? Are they fake ?

I'm cautious about who I have in my home, not because I'm a fake but it's where I live. My friends, family and neighbours know nothing of my sex life, so I would never just let anyone round my home.

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