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By *aneyy OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds

Now don’t take this the wrong way, but I feel a lot of the single women on fab are here mainly to have their ego stroked. Have pictures constantly fabbed and feel good about the copious amount of messages they received( given a lot of those are not flattering messages but still lol.) I was curious to know if anyone else has noticed this sort of trend or if it’s just me? I know it won’t only be single ladies but I have noticed it a lot from single females. It just feels like they are using fab like an intimate insta rather than what it was intended? Just wanted to know peoples thoughts. Could be wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now don’t take this the wrong way, but I feel a lot of the single women on fab are here mainly to have their ego stroked. Have pictures constantly fabbed and feel good about the copious amount of messages they received( given a lot of those are not flattering messages but still lol.) I was curious to know if anyone else has noticed this sort of trend or if it’s just me? I know it won’t only be single ladies but I have noticed it a lot from single females. It just feels like they are using fab like an intimate insta rather than what it was intended? Just wanted to know peoples thoughts. Could be wrong."
yes I think you're the only observant man here it all went straight over my head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some women (and couples) do get carried away with the attention, and no doubt some want the ego boost, but on the whole most see it for what it is and are not fooled into taking it seriously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t enjoy the attention as I don’t actually believe any of it is sincere, but perhaps that’s the cynic in me!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's an observation that's been made.

The truth is, anyone who uses Fab for validation will probably be crushed, because the flattery is insincere and fleeting and the abuse can be brutal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only want attention from people I choose to interact with. I’m not fussed over Fabs and loads of messages from people i have no interest in.

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By *dores blackmenWoman
over a year ago

incognito mode ;-)

You also have pictures up,are they not intended to entice couples and woman to look at you,fab and message to discuss a meet

It works the same way for woman

Alot of woman on fab are down to earth and do meet,it can be about guys feeling rejected,maybe they havent answered your message,so they assume a woman to be a narcissistic,it's just assumptions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now don’t take this the wrong way, but I feel a lot of the single women on fab are here mainly to have their ego stroked. Have pictures constantly fabbed and feel good about the copious amount of messages they received( given a lot of those are not flattering messages but still lol.) I was curious to know if anyone else has noticed this sort of trend or if it’s just me? I know it won’t only be single ladies but I have noticed it a lot from single females. It just feels like they are using fab like an intimate insta rather than what it was intended? Just wanted to know peoples thoughts. Could be wrong.yes I think you're the only observant man here it all went straight over my head "

This OP is my sentiments

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Not me ..... not got a clue about fabbed pics ...or my ego being stroked as most men just repeat the same words to most fems ... I’m more interested in chatting and meeting and attending clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now don’t take this the wrong way, but I feel a lot of the single women on fab are here mainly to have their ego stroked. Have pictures constantly fabbed and feel good about the copious amount of messages they received( given a lot of those are not flattering messages but still lol.) I was curious to know if anyone else has noticed this sort of trend or if it’s just me? I know it won’t only be single ladies but I have noticed it a lot from single females. It just feels like they are using fab like an intimate insta rather than what it was intended? Just wanted to know peoples thoughts. Could be wrong.yes I think you're the only observant man here it all went straight over my head "

Only boost I get is the cadburys chocolate bar thanks OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t enjoy the attention as I don’t actually believe any of it is sincere, but perhaps that’s the cynic in me!

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Judging by your beautiful pictures, I'd say any attention you get is completely sincere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hurry up and fab my pics more or there's gonna be the most unbelievably epic, biblical level princess strop.

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By *hickennchipsWoman
over a year ago

up above the streets and houses


"Hurry up and fab my pics more or there's gonna be the most unbelievably epic, biblical level princess strop. "

Mine too

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Messages from guys I’m not interested in do nothing for my ego. Couldn’t care less if they like my photo, send me messages or interact with me at all tbh. I’m not interested in meeting them and that’s that.

Now if the guy I was really in to sent me a message, I would love that! Not to boost my ego, just because I’d love him to.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I only want attention from people I choose to interact with. I’m not fussed over Fabs and loads of messages from people i have no interest in. "

Spot on. Same here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Messages from guys I’m not interested in do nothing for my ego. Couldn’t care less if they like my photo, send me messages or interact with me at all tbh. I’m not interested in meeting them and that’s that.

Now if the guy I was really in to sent me a message, I would love that! Not to boost my ego, just because I’d love him to."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is one reason why I keep my pics hidden, the attention can be a thrill and you can easily get carried away x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now don’t take this the wrong way, but I feel a lot of the single women on fab are here mainly to have their ego stroked. Have pictures constantly fabbed and feel good about the copious amount of messages they received( given a lot of those are not flattering messages but still lol.) I was curious to know if anyone else has noticed this sort of trend or if it’s just me? I know it won’t only be single ladies but I have noticed it a lot from single females. It just feels like they are using fab like an intimate insta rather than what it was intended? Just wanted to know peoples thoughts. Could be wrong."

Narcissistic people are those who are nasty or controlling and call you names OP. Nothing to do with the ego being boosted

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"I don’t enjoy the attention as I don’t actually believe any of it is sincere, but perhaps that’s the cynic in me!

"

Absolutely! There are too many people who will say what they think you want to hear but it means nothing and I personally pay it little heed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I disagree, that would be narcissistic personally disorder. Everyone has traits of narcissism in them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now don’t take this the wrong way, but I feel a lot of the single women on fab are here mainly to have their ego stroked. Have pictures constantly fabbed and feel good about the copious amount of messages they received( given a lot of those are not flattering messages but still lol.) I was curious to know if anyone else has noticed this sort of trend or if it’s just me? I know it won’t only be single ladies but I have noticed it a lot from single females. It just feels like they are using fab like an intimate insta rather than what it was intended? Just wanted to know peoples thoughts. Could be wrong.

Narcissistic people are those who are nasty or controlling and call you names OP. Nothing to do with the ego being boosted "

I take that back Op. I lived with one never thought he was egotistical till just now. It's also a mental disorder found that out just now. I kicked him out last year was making my life a misery. Weight dropped off me once he had finally gone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t enjoy the attention as I don’t actually believe any of it is sincere, but perhaps that’s the cynic in me!

Absolutely! There are too many people who will say what they think you want to hear but it means nothing and I personally pay it little heed. "

Exactly. Give me a good conversation over a list of compliments any day!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is one reason why I keep my pics hidden, the attention can be a thrill and you can easily get carried away x"

I have most of my public pics (clothed ones) on Instagram or Facebook etc. It’s no different really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now don’t take this the wrong way, but I feel a lot of the single women on fab are here mainly to have their ego stroked. Have pictures constantly fabbed and feel good about the copious amount of messages they received( given a lot of those are not flattering messages but still lol.) I was curious to know if anyone else has noticed this sort of trend or if it’s just me? I know it won’t only be single ladies but I have noticed it a lot from single females. It just feels like they are using fab like an intimate insta rather than what it was intended? Just wanted to know peoples thoughts. Could be wrong.

Narcissistic people are those who are nasty or controlling and call you names OP. Nothing to do with the ego being boosted

I take that back Op. I lived with one never thought he was egotistical till just now. It's also a mental disorder found that out just now. I kicked him out last year was making my life a misery. Weight dropped off me once he had finally gone "

Good for you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is one reason why I keep my pics hidden, the attention can be a thrill and you can easily get carried away x

I have most of my public pics (clothed ones) on Instagram or Facebook etc. It’s no different really. "

Totally agree, I have many friends who live for insta.

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By *aneyy OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds

To entice for what fab was originally designed for. Now what I’m saying is women are using this as an ego boost. A way of making themselves feel better. Using it for the likes and fabs and the feeling rather than to actually swing or be involved. My pictures are up to entice yes. But not just for show. To engage and join in, to swing

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By *aneyy OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds

I’m sorry but it’s very different. Here you can post pics from fb or insta and get a completely different reaction to that of fb or insta. Here people are way more likely to like the pic or send a message because of the pic. The forums are tottally different I’m sorry but they are lol. Which is why I feel so many single females use fab like insta. The interaction is way higher and Inturn the ego boost way more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree OP, but I also think men do the same thing also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do get your point OP but I would also say people can enjoy an ego boost without being narcissists.... let's be fair who deep down doesn't enjoy a compliment .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t enjoy the attention as I don’t actually believe any of it is sincere, but perhaps that’s the cynic in me!

Absolutely! There are too many people who will say what they think you want to hear but it means nothing and I personally pay it little heed. "

This

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"Now don’t take this the wrong way, but I feel a lot of the single women on fab are here mainly to have their ego stroked.

Just wanted to know peoples thoughts. Could be wrong."

I don't have an ego.

I'm just here for the sex

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Idgaf about the Fabs and the stupid compliments. I just want the orgasms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now don’t take this the wrong way, but I feel a lot of the single women on fab are here mainly to have their ego stroked. Have pictures constantly fabbed and feel good about the copious amount of messages they received( given a lot of those are not flattering messages but still lol.) I was curious to know if anyone else has noticed this sort of trend or if it’s just me? I know it won’t only be single ladies but I have noticed it a lot from single females. It just feels like they are using fab like an intimate insta rather than what it was intended? Just wanted to know peoples thoughts. Could be wrong."

Nah...I fuck people also!!!...how rude to suggest I'm only here for the attention xx

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Everyone of us on here is after attention of some sort,be it meets, chat, fabs,forums, socials or whatever, including yourself OP.

But as someone else pointed out there's a huge difference between that and being narcistic. If you ever have the misfortune to meet a narcissist in real life you'd realise that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now don’t take this the wrong way, but I feel a lot of the single women on fab are here mainly to have their ego stroked. Have pictures constantly fabbed and feel good about the copious amount of messages they received( given a lot of those are not flattering messages but still lol.) I was curious to know if anyone else has noticed this sort of trend or if it’s just me? I know it won’t only be single ladies but I have noticed it a lot from single females. It just feels like they are using fab like an intimate insta rather than what it was intended? Just wanted to know peoples thoughts. Could be wrong.

Nah...I fuck people also!!!...how rude to suggest I'm only here for the attention xx"
lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some women (and couples) do get carried away with the attention, and no doubt some want the ego boost, but on the whole most see it for what it is and are not fooled into taking it seriously."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To entice for what fab was originally designed for. Now what I’m saying is women are using this as an ego boost. A way of making themselves feel better. Using it for the likes and fabs and the feeling rather than to actually swing or be involved. My pictures are up to entice yes. But not just for show. To engage and join in, to swing"

Obviously it’s nice to get compliments but I don’t use fab to get them. I get them outside of fab, not only here. I know my worth and don’t need a boost. It’s my opinion of myself that counts the most, not some horny guy with a cock in his hand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t enjoy the attention as I don’t actually believe any of it is sincere, but perhaps that’s the cynic in me!

Absolutely! There are too many people who will say what they think you want to hear but it means nothing and I personally pay it little heed.

Exactly. Give me a good conversation over a list of compliments any day!"

I second that !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t enjoy the attention as I don’t actually believe any of it is sincere, but perhaps that’s the cynic in me!

Absolutely! There are too many people who will say what they think you want to hear but it means nothing and I personally pay it little heed.

Exactly. Give me a good conversation over a list of compliments any day!

I second that !"
you don't get conversation here though, you're lucky if one in four messages get read even if you're pally with that person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm guessing the ones her just for sex or orgasms respond well to the faf messages then ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t enjoy the attention as I don’t actually believe any of it is sincere, but perhaps that’s the cynic in me!

Absolutely! There are too many people who will say what they think you want to hear but it means nothing and I personally pay it little heed.

Exactly. Give me a good conversation over a list of compliments any day!

I second that !you don't get conversation here though, you're lucky if one in four messages get read even if you're pally with that person "

I disagree, every person I’ve met I’ve had some great conversations with over here, however I don’t meet that often.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"Now don’t take this the wrong way, but I feel a lot of the single women on fab are here mainly to have their ego stroked. Have pictures constantly fabbed and feel good about the copious amount of messages they received( given a lot of those are not flattering messages but still lol.) I was curious to know if anyone else has noticed this sort of trend or if it’s just me? I know it won’t only be single ladies but I have noticed it a lot from single females. It just feels like they are using fab like an intimate insta rather than what it was intended? Just wanted to know peoples thoughts. Could be wrong."

I would be interested to know how you differentiate between narcissism and exhibitionist tendencies, because I don't believe you can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now don’t take this the wrong way, but I feel a lot of the single women on fab are here mainly to have their ego stroked. Have pictures constantly fabbed and feel good about the copious amount of messages they received( given a lot of those are not flattering messages but still lol.) I was curious to know if anyone else has noticed this sort of trend or if it’s just me? I know it won’t only be single ladies but I have noticed it a lot from single females. It just feels like they are using fab like an intimate insta rather than what it was intended? Just wanted to know peoples thoughts. Could be wrong.

I would be interested to know how you differentiate between narcissism and exhibitionist tendencies, because I don't believe you can. "

That would be a good thread

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By *aneyy OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Immediate turn off if a guy compliments me as they are not sincere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The reality is that many single people become wrapped up in the attention, compliments and mass of messages either because before they were on fab they received little attention or because they are using fab to replace something missing in there lives

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The reality is that many single people become wrapped up in the attention, compliments and mass of messages either because before they were on fab they received little attention or because they are using fab to replace something missing in there lives"

And halves of couples too.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"The reality is that many single people become wrapped up in the attention, compliments and mass of messages either because before they were on fab they received little attention or because they are using fab to replace something missing in there lives"

And couples don't do this too?! I can assure you there is nothing missing from my life just because I'm a single person and on fab. The attention doesn't bother me me either way personally. Bit of a generalisation I think.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"The reality is that many single people become wrapped up in the attention, compliments and mass of messages either because before they were on fab they received little attention or because they are using fab to replace something missing in there lives

And halves of couples too. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The reality is that many single people become wrapped up in the attention, compliments and mass of messages either because before they were on fab they received little attention or because they are using fab to replace something missing in there lives

And couples don't do this too?! I can assure you there is nothing missing from my life just because I'm a single person and on fab. The attention doesn't bother me me either way personally. Bit of a generalisation I think. "

You are indeed correct some couples do this as well, the thread was referring to singles and I responded to that, as for being a generalisation, mmm maybe, but I didn’t say all, I said many, perhaps we are both making generalisations me with singles, you with couples, as for your own circumstances I don’t know you or had any contact with you so have no opinion, my opinion is only based on experience and interaction x

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"The reality is that many single people become wrapped up in the attention, compliments and mass of messages either because before they were on fab they received little attention or because they are using fab to replace something missing in there lives

And couples don't do this too?! I can assure you there is nothing missing from my life just because I'm a single person and on fab. The attention doesn't bother me me either way personally. Bit of a generalisation I think.

You are indeed correct some couples do this as well, the thread was referring to singles and I responded to that, as for being a generalisation, mmm maybe, but I didn’t say all, I said many, perhaps we are both making generalisations me with singles, you with couples, as for your own circumstances I don’t know you or had any contact with you so have no opinion, my opinion is only based on experience and interaction x"

As is mine.

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By *aneyy OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"Immediate turn off if a guy compliments me as they are not sincere"

I’m not sure I agree with this. I’m

Sure there are many guys that compliment you in one way or another and are genuinely sincere. I know I’m generalising but I feel like the amount of women/ couples on here just for an ego boost has definitely risen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t enjoy the attention as I don’t actually believe any of it is sincere, but perhaps that’s the cynic in me!

Absolutely! There are too many people who will say what they think you want to hear but it means nothing and I personally pay it little heed.

Exactly. Give me a good conversation over a list of compliments any day!

I second that !you don't get conversation here though, you're lucky if one in four messages get read even if you're pally with that person

I disagree, every person I’ve met I’ve had some great conversations with over here, however I don’t meet that often."
lol so with the two people you've met then

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By *b_LIVI_ousWoman
over a year ago

Wigan


"Messages from guys I’m not interested in do nothing for my ego. Couldn’t care less if they like my photo, send me messages or interact with me at all tbh. I’m not interested in meeting them and that’s that.

Now if the guy I was really in to sent me a message, I would love that! Not to boost my ego, just because I’d love him to."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now don’t take this the wrong way, but I feel a lot of the single women on fab are here mainly to have their ego stroked. Have pictures constantly fabbed and feel good about the copious amount of messages they received( given a lot of those are not flattering messages but still lol.) I was curious to know if anyone else has noticed this sort of trend or if it’s just me? I know it won’t only be single ladies but I have noticed it a lot from single females. It just feels like they are using fab like an intimate insta rather than what it was intended? Just wanted to know peoples thoughts. Could be wrong."

Totally right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If im not sexually attracted to the person then no amount of attention they give will stroke my ego.

Saying that, the origins of joining here was never for my ego

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Even if that is remotely true (which I’m not sure it is if you read half of the grim messages that women receive!), what’s wrong with women feeling good about themselves for a change?

God knows women get put down enough and and faced daily with images of “perfect” bodies.

So if you do feel good about yourself, good for you!

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