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Do loads of verifications put people off ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Obviously no right or wrong answer it’s all down to personal preference but do you get put off by profiles with endless verifications ? Or the opposite does it stand out as a plus point ? Or does it purely not come into your thoughts ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends...

social meet vari's no.

Sexual meet vari's yes.

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By *nglishdoodMan
over a year ago

Morristown

A couple are fine to show some kind of confirmation the person is real, but they're pretty useless for anything else since they'll all be exclusively positive; especially men verifying women since they all want to be invited back.

I personally find them excruciating to read.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

If its a good mix of socials and sex, no. I actually bother to read them, many on here don't and subsequently jump to the wrong conclusions. They cant see past the numbers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If its a good mix of socials and sex, no. I actually bother to read them, many on here don't and subsequently jump to the wrong conclusions. They cant see past the numbers. "

They also cant see that the number of verifications people have, actually means fuck all

You have no real way of knowing how many sexual partners someone has had

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

It makes no difference whatsoever to me how many they've got or how little they've got

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Obviously no right or wrong answer it’s all down to personal preference but do you get put off by profiles with endless verifications ? Or the opposite does it stand out as a plus point ? Or does it purely not come into your thoughts ? "

No problem st all for me, I’m not looking for a wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No as the number of verification doesn't always correlate to the number of people that have played with that person.

I go to clubs and play there.. I don't ask anyone for a verification but do give them if I remember to ask them for their fab account

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes puts us off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't put me off but the lack of them does for most people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Obviously no right or wrong answer it’s all down to personal preference but do you get put off by profiles with endless verifications ? Or the opposite does it stand out as a plus point ? Or does it purely not come into your thoughts ? "
If they go to lots of socials and get veris from them that's fine but lots of descriptive sexual meets not good for me but remember some have been here 20 years so 200 meets over 20 years isn't bad really

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Too many 'meets' puts us off as we're not looking for a serial shagger

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate

Not really - people can hide them anyway or they meets loads of people but don’t ask for or put up the veris

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By *i winkersCouple
over a year ago

manchester

So we have lots of verifications and after talking to people in clubs we get feedback like it originally put them off etc. At the end of the day anyone can just make a new profile if they want to appear to have less verifications.

This is a swingers site and we travel and actually have sex with people shockingly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn’t bother me on my other account I had nearly 300 in over 2 years but some of them was social and some

Was another verification from a person who had already done one before if I met them more then once

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Sometimes. To each their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn’t matter to me.

I prefer a few veris as they can help show the person is not likely to be a time waster.

It also matters to me who the veris are from. I would be put off if all the veris were from ladies in their twenties for example. I’d wonder why they want to meet a granny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn’t matter to me.

I prefer a few veris as they can help show the person is not likely to be a time waster.

It also matters to me who the veris are from. I would be put off if all the veris were from ladies in their twenties for example. I’d wonder why they want to meet a granny

"
there is no way u look like a granny lol u look good x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn’t matter to me.

I prefer a few veris as they can help show the person is not likely to be a time waster.

It also matters to me who the veris are from. I would be put off if all the veris were from ladies in their twenties for example. I’d wonder why they want to meet a granny

there is no way u look like a granny lol u look good x"

Thank you! That’s appreciated x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not even a tad of judgement in some of the replies on here... It's a swingers site, supposedly! Where people are expected to meet other people.

Anyway, it doesn't bother me if someone has loads of veris or just one, as the veris only mean to me the person should be genuine. I make my decision whether or not to meet them by chatting with them, trying to see if we click.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not even a tad of judgement in some of the replies on here... It's a swingers site, supposedly! Where people are expected to meet other people.

Anyway, it doesn't bother me if someone has loads of veris or just one, as the veris only mean to me the person should be genuine. I make my decision whether or not to meet them by chatting with them, trying to see if we click."
I agree it’s like when I go to a club or naturist spa or party it don’t matter if they messaged me on here if we don’t click face to face then no fucking gonna happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If its a good mix of socials and sex, no. I actually bother to read them, many on here don't and subsequently jump to the wrong conclusions. They cant see past the numbers.

They also cant see that the number of verifications people have, actually means fuck all

You have no real way of knowing how many sexual partners someone has had"

I met a fb couple on here for a social way back. I was their first veri. He’d been shagging 3/4 women a week from dating sites and Tinder for years. Often bareback apparently.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I have heaps of veris, most of them sexual. I get tested regularly and don't take stupid risks. If anyone judges me for being successful and having fun, crack on.

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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago

bristol

It's not the amount of veris that I find troubling, it's the amount of details some people feel they have to put in, its almost territorial pissing in some aspects

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally it does for me.

I don't want what everyone else is having. I like to be a little different

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

The amount no ,

The content yes sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Obviously no right or wrong answer it’s all down to personal preference but do you get put off by profiles with endless verifications ? Or the opposite does it stand out as a plus point ? Or does it purely not come into your thoughts ? "

all veris do is tell who ever is reading the profile that they are genuine. I personally would not want to meet someone who has had shagged half of fab to be honest

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By *urvy Girl 79Woman
over a year ago

Near Bourne

Lots of verifications don't put me off. We are on here to find sexual experiences. If someone had lots of verifications then good on them for finding themselves lots of fun and experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a few varifications as we love to be sociable..

We attend club's every weekend because it's a huge part of our social life . It certainly doesn't mean we have slept with all our varis. That's why we display all ours so people can read them and make their own mind up.

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By *omesticated_VixenWoman
over a year ago

sw London


"It makes no difference whatsoever to me how many they've got or how little they've got"

Same feelings here as well x

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Depends...

social meet vari's no.

Sexual meet vari's yes."

This for me. Not that I've anything personally against anyone who has played with a lot of people, it just indicates that they're not compatible with me as I prefer having one or two regular meets whom I can depend on. Someone meeting prolifically won't have adequate time for me

Oddly, you often see 'looking for that elusive fwb' on prolific profiles.... I don't think they realise quite how contradictory/ironic that is. Always makes me think of those times when I mutter 'I wish I was thinner' as I stuff my face with cake

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Yes they do put a lot of people off

Mine are primarily social due to my club parties but people don't read them to find that out as a rule. I've had a lot of messages telling me I am not picky as I claim and that I am a slag/slut etc

Lovely!

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"I have heaps of veris, most of them sexual. I get tested regularly and don't take stupid risks. If anyone judges me for being successful and having fun, crack on. "

I don't think anyone has judged anyone, but everyone should have the right to make a judgement on what is right for THEM - it's a big difference.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

guess what so do little to none, so do old veri etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends...

social meet vari's no.

Sexual meet vari's yes."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve a fair few veris and yes most of them are sexual meets however it is by no means a clear indication of the number of people I have slept with and I assume most people are the same.

I take no notice of the number of veris unless they actually have none in which case I’d pass you by.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

Not bothered. The more they have, the more they will have from people I know. Also helps me see if I will stand out if all the other women who verified him/them were very crass in their verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So we have lots of verifications and after talking to people in clubs we get feedback like it originally put them off etc. At the end of the day anyone can just make a new profile if they want to appear to have less verifications.

This is a swingers site and we travel and actually have sex with people shockingly. "
omg you don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know the no veri profiles worry some, but we've all got to start somewhere.

Plus how do you know they haven't had meets but with people who also have no veris. Fab rules a non veri cannot give a verification, so non veris are stuck as can't veri each other.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Verifications on display mean absolutely nothing. Those who choose not to meet someone because they have lots of meet veris published are worthy of ridicule.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends...

social meet veri's no.

Sexual meet veri's yes."

This

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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

Cannot stand them especially those which contain any of the following:

“Treat this one right guys as she’s wonderful”

“A man never tells but suffice to say we had lots of fun”

“I’d like to keep her all to myself”

“Beautiful inside and out”

“Her pictures don’t do her justice”

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We are not put off by someone having lots of verifications. At least there's a pretty good chance that they'll turn up and are going to be who they say they are.

Nita

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By *esires of HertsCouple
over a year ago

Herts and London Borders

Dont care how many.

Just prefer they are recent ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes some people are put off by loads of verifications and that why we display all ours, it keeps the judgemental, wannabes and precious well away from us, after all why would we want to meet those types of people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No doesn’t bother me at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah the volume doesn’t matter as long as they’re all of a certain standard (yeah a bit judgey I know)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

Purely on the number of veri's? Nah doesn't make us judge one jot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wont meet anyone with loads of veris x

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

Nope. Doesn't put me off and doesn't seem to do me much harm with meets...

Some will judge but if people honestly think that the only sex people have is the ones on peoples verifications then they are very green

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By *ania2000Couple
over a year ago

liverpool

Yep botherd x

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By *eekaboobsWoman
over a year ago

North East

Doesn’t bother me, it is a swingers site after all and that’s what swingers do, they have sex.

I always look at veris, not to see how many meets someone has had, but to get an idea who they’ve met before. If they seem to meet anything that moves, then I don’t go there.

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By *ojos party boyMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"Dont care how many.

Just prefer they are recent ones "

This

Most recent veri 2 years ago?

No thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can put me off messaging someone if they have loads of veri's, but i think its probs due to my lack of veri's and feeling a little inexperienced perhaps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A couple are fine to show some kind of confirmation the person is real, but they're pretty useless for anything else since they'll all be exclusively positive; especially men verifying women since they all want to be invited back.

In total agreement with you

I personally find them excruciating to read. "

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By *ossauMan
over a year ago

Perth


"Not even a tad of judgement in some of the replies on here... It's a swingers site, supposedly! Where people are expected to meet other people.

Anyway, it doesn't bother me if someone has loads of veris or just one, as the veris only mean to me the person should be genuine. I make my decision whether or not to meet them by chatting with them, trying to see if we click."

Exactly! Numbers are not an indication of anything other than she/he/they have met and hopefully will again

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By *heIcebreakersCouple
over a year ago

Cramlington


"Obviously no right or wrong answer it’s all down to personal preference but do you get put off by profiles with endless verifications ? Or the opposite does it stand out as a plus point ? Or does it purely not come into your thoughts ? "

Surprisingly (Or perhaps not) many swingers are so conservative they judge ppl for the amount of Sex they have.

Frankly I want the kind of ppl who tut about the sex lives of others to be out off, it's like having a big sign saying "daily mail readers need not apply"

Ms Icebreaker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Obviously no right or wrong answer it’s all down to personal preference but do you get put off by profiles with endless verifications ? Or the opposite does it stand out as a plus point ? Or does it purely not come into your thoughts ?

Surprisingly (Or perhaps not) many swingers are so conservative they judge ppl for the amount of Sex they have.

Frankly I want the kind of ppl who tut about the sex lives of others to be out off, it's like having a big sign saying "daily mail readers need not apply"

Ms Icebreaker "

I’ve found this. The site is very judgemental about sexual partners. I myself have not met many people off the site but do have a lot of sex with multiple partners. I at least have 2 partners a week I’ve only met the day of sleeping with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand the obsession some people have about the amount of veri's someone has!

I have a fair few 90%of those are from clubs, parties or socials.

Veri's don't mean much really other than the person has turned up. Even if all of mine where sexual does it really matter?

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By *ornyhornytwoCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

Most our veris just from clubs. It's not about if you shagged them it's about verifying they are who they say they are and about how they represent themselves. If you go clubs you speak to a lot of people and get a few veris. If you however get the impression they shagged half the club it might be a put off x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most our veris just from clubs. It's not about if you shagged them it's about verifying they are who they say they are and about how they represent themselves. If you go clubs you speak to a lot of people and get a few veris. If you however get the impression they shagged half the club it might be a put off x"

See that's what I don't understand, why would that put you off?

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By *rs Classy SlutCouple
over a year ago

selby

It’s a good indication if whether someone is genuine which is always the biggest challenge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really .

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By *ev_1Couple
over a year ago

Bickliegh

Lots of verifs does not mean lots of shags !!!! If you attend parties you will get lots of verifs that you met there but must admit alot of peeps don't even read the verifs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The answer is yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on time scale, if its like 15 veris in 2 weeks yes, if its 15 veris in 5 years no.

Also if its 10 veris in 3 months but 8 are the same person no x

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

So much assumption that no fucking goes on anywhere or with anyone other than from this site.

A thread full of judgemental, delusional adults.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So much assumption that no fucking goes on anywhere or with anyone other than from this site.

A thread full of judgemental, delusional adults. "

Seems slightly naive to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So much assumption that no fucking goes on anywhere or with anyone other than from this site.

A thread full of judgemental, delusional adults. "
you're judging them to be delusional

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So much assumption that no fucking goes on anywhere or with anyone other than from this site.

A thread full of judgemental, delusional adults. "
and you're making an assumption they're adults

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"Obviously no right or wrong answer it’s all down to personal preference but do you get put off by profiles with endless verifications ? Or the opposite does it stand out as a plus point ? Or does it purely not come into your thoughts ?

No problem st all for me, I’m not looking for a wife."

Because you are already married !

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"So much assumption that no fucking goes on anywhere or with anyone other than from this site.

A thread full of judgemental, delusional adults. you're judging them to be delusional "

Yep, utterly delusional.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"So much assumption that no fucking goes on anywhere or with anyone other than from this site.

A thread full of judgemental, delusional adults. and you're making an assumption they're adults "

From some of the comments it seems maturity didn’t hit.

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

I've had women not want to meet because I had multiple veris from a single person. They worry they will be stepping on someone's toes and they will go all psycho bitch on them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So much assumption that no fucking goes on anywhere or with anyone other than from this site.

A thread full of judgemental, delusional adults.

Seems slightly naive to me "

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Well do what we like and people can make if it what they will. The ones who won’t want us, won’t want us - and that’s just fine!

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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Yes some people are put off by loads of verifications and that why we display all ours, it keeps the judgemental, wannabes and precious well away from us, after all why would we want to meet those types of people? "

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By *hatterbox 2Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

if its fun ones then yes it does us and also if they have met certain people

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By *museBouche31Woman
over a year ago

Reigate

Numbers of veris - no.

Content - yes.

I read verifications to get a feel of if they have previously met the type of people I might like to meet. Generally, people who can string a sentence together who have a positive attitude.

I am on a swinging site and enjoy my sexual exploits. I also am not looking to be disappointed by those who can't find their way around a body. And although verifications aren't always a good reference for being skilled, at least some verifications show that you're trying!!! ??

My favourite verifications that I've seen to date, that was given to a very sexy friend: 'Her sandwiches are very good xx'

What else do you need?? ????

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

I've never quite understood what the problem is... but then I'm the sort of girl that probably did fuck half the club on a good night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social-no

Lots of sexual ones-yes.

I’m not a fan of seeing sexual verifications. Some things should be kept between the people that indulged.

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Definitely not least you know there is a chance they will actually meet rather than just talk

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Not really put off by the number as can be like me and have lots of social club meet ones

I can be more put off by the content if I’m honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Smashed her backdoors in, spunked all over her face, wiped my cock on the tea-towel on the way out...Treat her wiv respect"

#OscarWilde

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester


"Lots of verifs does not mean lots of shags !!!! If you attend parties you will get lots of verifs that you met there but must admit alot of peeps don't even read the verifs x"

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By *exy BeckyCouple
over a year ago

Torrox

Really can't see what the problem is.

People have a life off Fab, they're free to meet and sleep with as many people as they want. Meets via Fab might only be a small percentage of the number of sexual encounters they've had.

On the other hand, we haven't had sex with all the people we have verified on here, or who have verified us.

It's like people saying they won't meet married guys. Yet when you go to a club, you don't ask if they're married...!

You only get a snapshot which doesn't tell half the story.

The only plus is that they are more likely to turn up...!!

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By *hiterosesCouple
over a year ago

Stafford

We certainly look for verifications, the volume is immaterial, but consistency is important. People with 10 from 3years ago look stranger than 3 from last 6 months. We generally trust our personal radar. But never entertain anyone with less than 3.....unless the female offers to call us and speak to Rose.

As for our profile, we’ve had people say we have too many for them (so we must be hardened Swingers), we see it as a review of 12 of the best years of our life.

As with everything it’s personal choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some women really don't like the idea of becoming another notch on some bloke's already heavily whittled bedpost, hence lots of veris puts them off. A lot of men, though, couldn't give a flying fig and might even be very attracted by a ton of veris. Blokes eh, tuh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""Smashed her backdoors in, spunked all over her face, wiped my cock on the tea-towel on the way out...Treat her wiv respect"

#OscarWilde"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't meet people with more than 4 fuck veri's on their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Obviously no right or wrong answer it’s all down to personal preference but do you get put off by profiles with endless verifications ? Or the opposite does it stand out as a plus point ? Or does it purely not come into your thoughts ? "

I don't like lots of verifications within a short amount of time, some profiles on here are verified almost daily from sexual meets!

but they make for some amusing reading at least

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"Obviously no right or wrong answer it’s all down to personal preference but do you get put off by profiles with endless verifications ? Or the opposite does it stand out as a plus point ? Or does it purely not come into your thoughts ?

I don't like lots of verifications within a short amount of time, some profiles on here are verified almost daily from sexual meets!

but they make for some amusing reading at least "
is if really a bad thing to get sex daily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not necessarily, as long as it is clean and safe, just saying what my personal preference is

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Very interesting reading just how different we all look at things, personally I change regarding my outlook on this subject I’m not saying that I stick this way of thinking because people can surprise you sometimes and not always in a bad way on here, if the profile is well put together and they carry themselves well in messages and we click that’s all I really go for as for me it’s about being intrigued by somebody, sometimes I can be put off by to many verifications sometimes I can be put off by profile with only ones from 3 years ago, really we shouldn’t prejudge others but I guess it’s human nature to do so, I can imagine ladies and couples are instantly dis engaged mentally by non starter messages. But back on the subject of verifications I don’t enjoy the ones with to much detail. Keep in classy in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would loads of verifications put someone off on a swingers site?

We are here to meet other sexually liberated singles and couples.

We aren't here to date

We aren't here to meet the love of our lives.

We are her for sex

Sex with other liberated adults.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verifications dont worry us too much we prefer to judge a person in the flesh and on the night. For us if the chemistry is there in a meeting then anything could happen. They certainly wouldn't put us off meeting someone..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why would loads of verifications put someone off on a swingers site?

We are here to meet other sexually liberated singles and couples.

We aren't here to date

We aren't here to meet the love of our lives.

We are her for sex

Sex with other liberated adults. "

Sounds like they do for some people

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

They can give insight into the people they are, well if they are consistent.

Lot of ours are social, some are a little more than that.

Think if they feel congruent makes a difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why would loads of verifications put someone off on a swingers site?

We are here to meet other sexually liberated singles and couples.

We aren't here to date

We aren't here to meet the love of our lives.

We are her for sex

Sex with other liberated adults. "

Because I'm not looking for that type of person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why would loads of verifications put someone off on a swingers site?

We are here to meet other sexually liberated singles and couples.

We aren't here to date

We aren't here to meet the love of our lives.

We are her for sex

Sex with other liberated adults.

Because I'm not looking for that type of person. "

Then why join a swingers site?

There are dating sites for dating

Whatdo you feel a swingers site offers a dating site doesn't?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why would loads of verifications put someone off on a swingers site?

We are here to meet other sexually liberated singles and couples.

We aren't here to date

We aren't here to meet the love of our lives.

We are her for sex

Sex with other liberated adults.

Because I'm not looking for that type of person.

Then why join a swingers site?

There are dating sites for dating

Whatdo you feel a swingers site offers a dating site doesn't? "

There's many different types of people on here. Not just as per your description.

I didn't say I'm looking to date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why would loads of verifications put someone off on a swingers site?

We are here to meet other sexually liberated singles and couples.

We aren't here to date

We aren't here to meet the love of our lives.

We are her for sex

Sex with other liberated adults.

Because I'm not looking for that type of person.

Then why join a swingers site?

There are dating sites for dating

Whatdo you feel a swingers site offers a dating site doesn't?

There's many different types of people on here. Not just as per your description.

I didn't say I'm looking to date."

NO you didn't, but this is still a swingers site, clues in the name, and swingers by the very nature of their lifestyle meet others ultimately for sex.

And those encounters on this site lead to others verifying each other as genuine, as opposed to profiles generated ya false site.

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By *ffanotdykeCouple
over a year ago

Telford

We have never asked for a verification In the thiry odd years we have been on the scene we have been asked numerous times "please leave us a verification". We have never responded to that sort of pressure.

If it was a memorable experience we would say so but would the enquirer want us to say "totally uneventful- wasted 2 hours of our lives which we can't get back"

Never in the twenty years we have been going to clubs have we ever seen anyone turn up clucthing their "CV".

Perhaps it would be a new trend for every guest to have their "score card" displayed on their locker door!!!!!

A possible food for thought.

G&A

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why would loads of verifications put someone off on a swingers site?

We are here to meet other sexually liberated singles and couples.

We aren't here to date

We aren't here to meet the love of our lives.

We are her for sex

Sex with other liberated adults.

Because I'm not looking for that type of person.

Then why join a swingers site?

There are dating sites for dating

Whatdo you feel a swingers site offers a dating site doesn't?

There's many different types of people on here. Not just as per your description.

I didn't say I'm looking to date.

NO you didn't, but this is still a swingers site, clues in the name, and swingers by the very nature of their lifestyle meet others ultimately for sex.

And those encounters on this site lead to others verifying each other as genuine, as opposed to profiles generated ya false site. "

So if I decide I don’t want to meet somebody because I feel like they have to many verifications that’s wrong of me and I should join a dating site ? Really does show just how different peoples minds work on here, I’m not saying that’s the case I’m just interested in debating the point a little

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have never asked for a verification In the thiry odd years we have been on the scene we have been asked numerous times "please leave us a verification". We have never responded to that sort of pressure.

If it was a memorable experience we would say so but would the enquirer want us to say "totally uneventful- wasted 2 hours of our lives which we can't get back"

Never in the twenty years we have been going to clubs have we ever seen anyone turn up clucthing their "CV".

Perhaps it would be a new trend for every guest to have their "score card" displayed on their locker door!!!!!

A possible food for thought.

G&A"

Very relevant thank you

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Everyone is free to use this site as they wish

For personally yes it does put me off if they are to frequent meets, ie every 2-4 days someone different, but also sometimes it’s as simply as who they have meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why would loads of verifications put someone off on a swingers site?

We are here to meet other sexually liberated singles and couples.

We aren't here to date

We aren't here to meet the love of our lives.

We are her for sex

Sex with other liberated adults.

Because I'm not looking for that type of person.

Then why join a swingers site?

There are dating sites for dating

Whatdo you feel a swingers site offers a dating site doesn't?

There's many different types of people on here. Not just as per your description.

I didn't say I'm looking to date.

NO you didn't, but this is still a swingers site, clues in the name, and swingers by the very nature of their lifestyle meet others ultimately for sex.

And those encounters on this site lead to others verifying each other as genuine, as opposed to profiles generated ya false site. "

I still won't meet people with more than 4 fuck veri's on their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why would loads of verifications put someone off on a swingers site?

We are here to meet other sexually liberated singles and couples.

We aren't here to date

We aren't here to meet the love of our lives.

We are her for sex

Sex with other liberated adults.

Because I'm not looking for that type of person. "

If I was part of a couple and looking for a guy or couple to join us then it wouldn’t bother me but as a single my outlook is very different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why would loads of verifications put someone off on a swingers site?

We are here to meet other sexually liberated singles and couples.

We aren't here to date

We aren't here to meet the love of our lives.

We are her for sex

Sex with other liberated adults.

Because I'm not looking for that type of person.

Then why join a swingers site?

There are dating sites for dating

Whatdo you feel a swingers site offers a dating site doesn't? "

How do I find a filthy, kinky, swinger for a relationship. I’m doing ok on here so far, just finding the right match is harder. Lots of guys wanting the same thing. I don’t want a monogamous relationship. What gets my back up is comments like the one you made. You do what suits you best and I will do what suits me. What I do doesn’t interfere with your experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why would loads of verifications put someone off on a swingers site?

We are here to meet other sexually liberated singles and couples.

We aren't here to date

We aren't here to meet the love of our lives.

We are her for sex

Sex with other liberated adults.

Because I'm not looking for that type of person.

Then why join a swingers site?

There are dating sites for dating

Whatdo you feel a swingers site offers a dating site doesn't?

There's many different types of people on here. Not just as per your description.

I didn't say I'm looking to date.

NO you didn't, but this is still a swingers site, clues in the name, and swingers by the very nature of their lifestyle meet others ultimately for sex.

And those encounters on this site lead to others verifying each other as genuine, as opposed to profiles generated ya false site.

So if I decide I don’t want to meet somebody because I feel like they have to many verifications that’s wrong of me and I should join a dating site ? Really does show just how different peoples minds work on here, I’m not saying that’s the case I’m just interested in debating the point a little "

No I'm not saying that.

I'm debating,or probably more,wondering,why someone having numerous verifications would be off putting.

This isn't a go at yourself personally.

We won't meet anyone that isn't verified,and yes I know some folk find that strange.

Like yourself,I'm just debating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why would loads of verifications put someone off on a swingers site?

We are here to meet other sexually liberated singles and couples.

We aren't here to date

We aren't here to meet the love of our lives.

We are her for sex

Sex with other liberated adults.

Because I'm not looking for that type of person.

Then why join a swingers site?

There are dating sites for dating

Whatdo you feel a swingers site offers a dating site doesn't?

How do I find a filthy, kinky, swinger for a relationship. I’m doing ok on here so far, just finding the right match is harder. Lots of guys wanting the same thing. I don’t want a monogamous relationship. What gets my back up is comments like the one you made. You do what suits you best and I will do what suits me. What I do doesn’t interfere with your experience. "

Absolutely,what you do has no bearing whatsoever on our swinging life,I just find it odd,that some will join a swinging site,like fab,where adults wish to meet others for sex,and other social activities relating to swinging,yet be put off by the fact a couple or single has had multiple encounters through the site.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"I've had women not want to meet because I had multiple veris from a single person. They worry they will be stepping on someone's toes and they will go all psycho bitch on them. "

I've had similar experiences with men... Yet on 2 occasions its been the other meets who have gotten jealous and gone psycho... My main squeeze is the most chilled guy in the world!

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Nope!

It's the way they play that's a deciding factor for us. Hanging your arse out of a vehicle for all to have a go bareback won't be the people we meet but those into safe sex group fun we're more likely regardless of veri numbers. Above all we take care of our own sexual health concerns, veris are no indication for whether someone is safer than another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope!

It's the way they play that's a deciding factor for us. Hanging your arse out of a vehicle for all to have a go bareback won't be the people we meet but those into safe sex group fun we're more likely regardless of veri numbers. Above all we take care of our own sexual health concerns, veris are no indication for whether someone is safer than another."

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gotta love some of these who say loads of veris on others profiles puts them off or they wouldn't meet them because of having many meets, but they themselves are hiding their meet summary and veris..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope!

It's the way they play that's a deciding factor for us. Hanging your arse out of a vehicle for all to have a go bareback won't be the people we meet but those into safe sex group fun we're more likely regardless of veri numbers. Above all we take care of our own sexual health concerns, veris are no indication for whether someone is safer than another."

What they said

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"I have heaps of veris, most of them sexual. I get tested regularly and don't take stupid risks. If anyone judges me for being successful and having fun, crack on. "

Well said that girl!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gotta love some of these who say loads of veris on others profiles puts them off or they wouldn't meet them because of having many meets, but they themselves are hiding their meet summary and veris.. "

That's exactly my point. I meet discreet people. I don't care if they have met 200 people. If they have no veri's on their profile they are discreet and understand privacy.

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By *heIcebreakersCouple
over a year ago

Cramlington


"Why would loads of verifications put someone off on a swingers site?

We are here to meet other sexually liberated singles and couples.

We aren't here to date

We aren't here to meet the love of our lives.

We are her for sex

Sex with other liberated adults. "
I'm not going to disagree with you, but you're missing the point that there are huge contradictions built into the 'swinging' population's mindsets.

The idea that 'swingers' are respectable, and that some people who do the same things as swingers go beyond acceptable norms is pretty fundamental to the way some swingers think. It's a kind of internalized slutphobia, as if people who're scared of being outed as swingers think they'll be OK if they're not as slutty as the really slutty ones with loads of veris.

Of course it might be a matter of personal taste as well, but it's far more complicated than it might at first seem.

Mr Icebreaker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gotta love some of these who say loads of veris on others profiles puts them off or they wouldn't meet them because of having many meets, but they themselves are hiding their meet summary and veris.. "

I have lots of verifications but mostly from social events. I don’t ask for meet ones as I find them cringeworthy. Plus I have met about 6 guys in the last few months but only a couple were more then a kiss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gotta love some of these who say loads of veris on others profiles puts them off or they wouldn't meet them because of having many meets, but they themselves are hiding their meet summary and veris..

That's exactly my point. I meet discreet people. I don't care if they have met 200 people. If they have no veri's on their profile they are discreet and understand privacy.

"

Same here. I think what I get put off is the ones that show off their veris like a prize. I will meet guys that have met loads of people, as long as they are discreet about their sexual meets. I love a guy that knows how to enjoy himself but after meeting a guy last year that I got close to and was obsessed by his verifications, it put me off. He was gutted when I left as my veri went too. It’s like that is the most important thing to some guys.

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By *attooedBBWWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Quality verifications are more important to me than whether someone has too many or not

Hell, if I had the time now to meet lots of sexy people multiple times then I would but I don’t so I live a different life on fab these days.

If someone had 100+ veris but on first browse of their profiles a lot had bareback pictures I’d avoid like the plague

However if someone had 100+ veris and they were all nicely thought out and not full of text speak then I’d not be put off at all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Veri'd as real.. so that will do.

Im not trip advisor....nor looking to be... i found veris annoying as other friends seen what i been up too then get why not re met me.. hassles not needed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gotta love some of these who say loads of veris on others profiles puts them off or they wouldn't meet them because of having many meets, but they themselves are hiding their meet summary and veris..

That's exactly my point. I meet discreet people. I don't care if they have met 200 people. If they have no veri's on their profile they are discreet and understand privacy.

Same here. I think what I get put off is the ones that show off their veris like a prize. I will meet guys that have met loads of people, as long as they are discreet about their sexual meets. I love a guy that knows how to enjoy himself but after meeting a guy last year that I got close to and was obsessed by his verifications, it put me off. He was gutted when I left as my veri went too. It’s like that is the most important thing to some guys. "

Yep, it is the most important thing to some people. I also know others who like to show lots of veri's to show they are open and free with their sex meets. I'm just not the same so we're not compatible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And the message is..... There's just no pleasing everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gotta love some of these who say loads of veris on others profiles puts them off or they wouldn't meet them because of having many meets, but they themselves are hiding their meet summary and veris..

That's exactly my point. I meet discreet people. I don't care if they have met 200 people. If they have no veri's on their profile they are discreet and understand privacy.

Same here. I think what I get put off is the ones that show off their veris like a prize. I will meet guys that have met loads of people, as long as they are discreet about their sexual meets. I love a guy that knows how to enjoy himself but after meeting a guy last year that I got close to and was obsessed by his verifications, it put me off. He was gutted when I left as my veri went too. It’s like that is the most important thing to some guys.

Yep, it is the most important thing to some people. I also know others who like to show lots of veri's to show they are open and free with their sex meets. I'm just not the same so we're not compatible. "

I’m very open about what I’m into and all my friends and family know I’m on here. I just don’t want people knowing what I get up to. Not strangers anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

TBH we are quiet happy to show all our veris, it harks back to our days club hosting and is a running joke with fab friends that we have so many and are seen as such sluts. We are always happy to give a veri as a thank you note and if someone chooses to display it, that’s up to them.

2nd point. We have been in talks with a couple for a while looking to arrange a meet it’s been difficult as our diaries haven’t aligned, however there latest verification is from a couple who insist on bareback, so we’ve now blocked and would never meet them, so in our eyes verifications are very useful.

We would avoid people who hide there verifications for this reason alone

We never give or receive sexually graphic veris or more than intimate what occurred in a meet, we don’t meet anyone so crass that would verify in this way xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So we have lots of verifications and after talking to people in clubs we get feedback like it originally put them off etc. At the end of the day anyone can just make a new profile if they want to appear to have less verifications.

This is a swingers site and we travel and actually have sex with people shockingly. "

You have sex with people? Really? No joke you might be so rare you should be stuffed for posterity

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By *ojos party boyMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

In the swinging world where threesomes, Foursomes and moresomes are what alot of people have sought after.

Yet if you are above a certain limit of veris your are judged unfairly?

Sure.... trust the couple that hasn't had a verified meet in 5 years (&more than likely split up) rather than the people who are actually living the lifestyle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some women really don't like the idea of becoming another notch on some bloke's already heavily whittled bedpost, hence lots of veris puts them off. A lot of men, though, couldn't give a flying fig and might even be very attracted by a ton of veris. Blokes eh, tuh! "

I used to think a bit like this, then I met a few highly verified men and realised that the reason they are popular is because they are good at what they do, know how to show you a good time and make you feel special. Now if I see a male profile with a huge number of *good quality veris* I’m more likely to take notice. I can be fairly confident of good sex and good company without any psychological drama or overly deep engagement. And sometimes that is just what I need. Like a good reliable restaurant. You know you’re going to enjoy what you’re getting.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"Some women really don't like the idea of becoming another notch on some bloke's already heavily whittled bedpost, hence lots of veris puts them off. A lot of men, though, couldn't give a flying fig and might even be very attracted by a ton of veris. Blokes eh, tuh!

I used to think a bit like this, then I met a few highly verified men and realised that the reason they are popular is because they are good at what they do, know how to show you a good time and make you feel special. Now if I see a male profile with a huge number of *good quality veris* I’m more likely to take notice. I can be fairly confident of good sex and good company without any psychological drama or overly deep engagement. And sometimes that is just what I need. Like a good reliable restaurant. You know you’re going to enjoy what you’re getting."

This! Can show someone who genuinely enjoys the lifestyle. You know there won't be any emotional drama and they are likely to be reliable.

We don't have a problem with displaying some detail about what went on - gives people an idea of what we're about sexually. No point someone who is fairly vanilla when it comes to sex getting in touch, for example..not what we're about. We see it as a wee taster of us.

Mrs TMN x

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"Some women really don't like the idea of becoming another notch on some bloke's already heavily whittled bedpost, hence lots of veris puts them off. A lot of men, though, couldn't give a flying fig and might even be very attracted by a ton of veris. Blokes eh, tuh!

I used to think a bit like this, then I met a few highly verified men and realised that the reason they are popular is because they are good at what they do, know how to show you a good time and make you feel special. Now if I see a male profile with a huge number of *good quality veris* I’m more likely to take notice. I can be fairly confident of good sex and good company without any psychological drama or overly deep engagement. And sometimes that is just what I need. Like a good reliable restaurant. You know you’re going to enjoy what you’re getting."

Well said, Tiger, hit the nail squarely on the head for us. When we meet we want to know our time is going to be a good one, exactly the type of veris and meets we go for and the 'solid' veris we often talk about. They are professional in their approach, get what we're looking for and glad we're what they're looking for also. Sometimes we've left a meet and thought WOW, how polished was he/they, not one awkward moment, experienced with couples and totally get it. These are the meets we look for and yes, they're often well verified and for good reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some women really don't like the idea of becoming another notch on some bloke's already heavily whittled bedpost, hence lots of veris puts them off. A lot of men, though, couldn't give a flying fig and might even be very attracted by a ton of veris. Blokes eh, tuh!

I used to think a bit like this, then I met a few highly verified men and realised that the reason they are popular is because they are good at what they do, know how to show you a good time and make you feel special. Now if I see a male profile with a huge number of *good quality veris* I’m more likely to take notice. I can be fairly confident of good sex and good company without any psychological drama or overly deep engagement. And sometimes that is just what I need. Like a good reliable restaurant. You know you’re going to enjoy what you’re getting.

Well said, Tiger, hit the nail squarely on the head for us. When we meet we want to know our time is going to be a good one, exactly the type of veris and meets we go for and the 'solid' veris we often talk about. They are professional in their approach, get what we're looking for and glad we're what they're looking for also. Sometimes we've left a meet and thought WOW, how polished was he/they, not one awkward moment, experienced with couples and totally get it. These are the meets we look for and yes, they're often well verified and for good reason."

What do you mean, 'professional in their approach'?

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"So we have lots of verifications and after talking to people in clubs we get feedback like it originally put them off etc. At the end of the day anyone can just make a new profile if they want to appear to have less verifications.

This is a swingers site and we travel and actually have sex with people shockingly.

You have sex with people? Really? No joke you might be so rare you should be stuffed for posterity"

....and mounted!

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"Some women really don't like the idea of becoming another notch on some bloke's already heavily whittled bedpost, hence lots of veris puts them off. A lot of men, though, couldn't give a flying fig and might even be very attracted by a ton of veris. Blokes eh, tuh!

I used to think a bit like this, then I met a few highly verified men and realised that the reason they are popular is because they are good at what they do, know how to show you a good time and make you feel special. Now if I see a male profile with a huge number of *good quality veris* I’m more likely to take notice. I can be fairly confident of good sex and good company without any psychological drama or overly deep engagement. And sometimes that is just what I need. Like a good reliable restaurant. You know you’re going to enjoy what you’re getting.

Well said, Tiger, hit the nail squarely on the head for us. When we meet we want to know our time is going to be a good one, exactly the type of veris and meets we go for and the 'solid' veris we often talk about. They are professional in their approach, get what we're looking for and glad we're what they're looking for also. Sometimes we've left a meet and thought WOW, how polished was he/they, not one awkward moment, experienced with couples and totally get it. These are the meets we look for and yes, they're often well verified and for good reason.

What do you mean, 'professional in their approach'? "

I know, a bit of an odd term to use.

Two meets in particular come to mind, a single guy and a two guy meet who almost always meet together. Both meets you could tell they were very experienced, not a word wrong, polite, clearly thought about us both and not just Mrs N. The way they played, they clearly listened to the brief and absolutely stuck to it. Being skilled both socially and in play gave off the 'professional approach' feeling to the meets which isn't always there or to the extent of those two meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some women really don't like the idea of becoming another notch on some bloke's already heavily whittled bedpost, hence lots of veris puts them off. A lot of men, though, couldn't give a flying fig and might even be very attracted by a ton of veris. Blokes eh, tuh!

I used to think a bit like this, then I met a few highly verified men and realised that the reason they are popular is because they are good at what they do, know how to show you a good time and make you feel special. Now if I see a male profile with a huge number of *good quality veris* I’m more likely to take notice. I can be fairly confident of good sex and good company without any psychological drama or overly deep engagement. And sometimes that is just what I need. Like a good reliable restaurant. You know you’re going to enjoy what you’re getting.

Well said, Tiger, hit the nail squarely on the head for us. When we meet we want to know our time is going to be a good one, exactly the type of veris and meets we go for and the 'solid' veris we often talk about. They are professional in their approach, get what we're looking for and glad we're what they're looking for also. Sometimes we've left a meet and thought WOW, how polished was he/they, not one awkward moment, experienced with couples and totally get it. These are the meets we look for and yes, they're often well verified and for good reason.

What do you mean, 'professional in their approach'?

I know, a bit of an odd term to use.

Two meets in particular come to mind, a single guy and a two guy meet who almost always meet together. Both meets you could tell they were very experienced, not a word wrong, polite, clearly thought about us both and not just Mrs N. The way they played, they clearly listened to the brief and absolutely stuck to it. Being skilled both socially and in play gave off the 'professional approach' feeling to the meets which isn't always there or to the extent of those two meets."

That makes sense.

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By *ntraditionalwomanWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"So we have lots of verifications and after talking to people in clubs we get feedback like it originally put them off etc. At the end of the day anyone can just make a new profile if they want to appear to have less verifications.

This is a swingers site and we travel and actually have sex with people shockingly. "

Well said. I have had comments too about to many verifications. I have alot of great friends on fab like your self who ive meet in clubs.

Having verification is being honest. People could go on tinder etc and you would never know many people you have meet.

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By *aughtyDuo159Couple
over a year ago

Pontefract

sins you choos witch ones to show and not show dont realy mean much had a few on old profile but I dont realy even read them on others I read there profil will say more than there verys

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