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Advice on getting my gf to fuck other men for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey looking for some advice on getting my gf into going with other men , it something we spoke about but she not 100% , she loves fantasy about it and watching porn about it but won’t quite do it for real even tho encourage her to do it and tell her I love the idea , as far as I have got is her messaging men for me as I lick her out and it was fantastic, I just need to get her to go all the way , any advice would be great thanks

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By *ock6050Man
over a year ago

dalry

Why not take the the pressure off her to have sex. Maybe meet to watch porn together let her watch another guy wank. Let her know she can play if she wants . But she doesn't have to.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's completely up to her. You can't make her. Even if there were ways to make her that would be gross to try.

If she wants to, she will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice boyfriend you are

Holly

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

How would you feel if she was trying to get you to have sex with men for her?

Try approaching this from the point of view of what she wants. Find out if there's something she is 100% on and try that. Asking a woman to have sex with other men soley for your benefit isn't the way to go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fantasy is so far removed from reality.

We all like the idea of stuff.

Actually doing it is something completely different.

And could change your relationship for either the better, or the far worse.

I suggest you discuss it with her properly.

Once it's done. There's no going back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The headline is your problem I think. Why should she have to have sex with other men for you. She should be having sex for her too not just to please you especially with strange men.

If she came home and asked you to have sex with other men but you didn’t want to, would you do it just to satisfy her desires?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The headline is your problem I think. Why should she have to have sex with other men for you. She should be having sex for her too not just to please you especially with strange men.

If she came home and asked you to have sex with other men but you didn’t want to, would you do it just to satisfy her desires?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah I no I appreciate that but told her not just for me for her too and she is a really dirty girl and she had three some in previous relationship and said she loved it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say "wouldn't it be funny if you fucked another guy whilst I watched lol" Then act accordingly... she's disgusted? "lol just a joke, you know me, so random errrrr"

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By *itsAndTaffCouple
over a year ago

Grays, Essex

I’d say stop putting pressure on her & stop making it all about you & your wants & needs

My husband and I spoke about things for 2yrs before anything happened & even when it did I made it quiet clear I was doing it for me on my terms

He was into watching me with other guys I wanted the freedom to go with who I wanted when I wanted, I’d obviously tell him but there was no way he’d be watching,

If it’s something she’s genuinely into she’ll do it in her own time & on her own terms

But putting pressure on her is the worst thing you can do

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

What a disturbing thread title.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

If she wants to do it she will do it for herself not you. What is she, a performing seal or something?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Maybe put it in the wrong way on title it something we discussed but I said only if it what she wanted to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If this is something she wants to do she may need plenty of reassurance from you as it can feel like a rejection to her and it may feel like it's the wrong thing to do (cheating) she may even feel that if she does do it you will leave her... That fear is very real.

As long as you assure her and this is something she wants to do as part of your relationship then it can work.

Plenty of couples enjoy watching the other have sex with others... It's kinda part of being a swinger.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Yeah I no I appreciate that but told her not just for me for her too and she is a really dirty girl and she had three some in previous relationship and said she loved it "

Your entire post has been about what you want, not her. As far as I can see, she likes the fantasy but that's all it is.

Stop pressuring her, it's a form of mental abuse and it's wrong.

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By *eamgreen30Couple
over a year ago

stroud

How about you respect your girlfriend and stop pushing her into doing something that is clearly for your benefit.

I literally can’t believe you’ve put a post up asking for advice on how to pressure your girlfriend into fucking other blokes. Are you doing it so she’ll be open to you fucking other women? We find that’s usually the case

S

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"Hey looking for some advice on getting my gf into going with other men , it something we spoke about but she not 100% , she loves fantasy about it and watching porn about it but won’t quite do it for real even tho encourage her to do it and tell her I love the idea , as far as I have got is her messaging men for me as I lick her out and it was fantastic, I just need to get her to go all the way , any advice would be great thanks "

Your girlfriend will fuck other men for herself, not for you. Swinging is about sharing fantasies and each others enjoyment, not about one partner pressuring the other to do something they aren't yet comfortable to do. That's called bullying.

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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon tyne

I would say leave the ball in her court. If she wants to do it let her know you are open to talk about it and take it from there. We talked about it for 10 years before we decided to get into the lifestyle. I (gem) brought it up and we waited and talked about it until we knew we were both ready to take that leap. Sometimes things are best left as a fantasy. Sometimes it's worth acting on it. But it has to be a decision both of you make, not just you

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

Just take her to a club, just to watch, and if she gets turned on and horny tell her to go fill her boots

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

UK

How does she feel about your profile on here as a single guy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I no I appreciate that but told her not just for me for her too and she is a really dirty girl and she had three some in previous relationship and said she loved it "

See, this I think is what the whole idea hinges on. How I read this is you know she had a 3som in a previous relationship, and it bothers you, and you want to make it happen because you feel left out.

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

UK

I’m a hot wife (contemporary cuckoldstress but let’s not got caught up with labels as that’s not important for this). I have sex with other people and 99% of the time my husband does not.

I do this for our enjoyment. For the benefit of both of us. He gets off on me getting off and well, when I’m meeting it’s other people getting me off.

I never, not once, have slept with other men purely because my husband wanted me too.

It took years to get to the point where I believed this was possible within the confines of a loving and healthy relationship.

You are approaching this all wrong. Saying things like she’s a dirty girl and I know she’s had threesomes before... your attitude to the whole thing is wrong. I imagine she’d hit the roof if she found out about your profile.

One of the biggest hurdles we had to overcome was me being convinced this was an excuse for him to want to sleep with other women (couldn’t be further from the truth for us) or him wanting to cast me aside. If I’d found a single Male profile of his at that stage, I can almost certainly say it would have destroyed our relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The headline is your problem I think. Why should she have to have sex with other men for you. She should be having sex for her too not just to please you especially with strange men.

If she came home and asked you to have sex with other men but you didn’t want to, would you do it just to satisfy her desires?"

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By *ireupthequattroCouple
over a year ago

Stratford

First thing get a couples profile on here. Tell her you’ve been tryin to meet other people on here , see if she’s ok with that first ??

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By *unsexual MemelordWoman
over a year ago

Midlothian

The green arrow is always fun.

According to your other posts made in a short space of time, you're a single guy who still fucks his ex gf and gives strangers her pictures, wants to buy random dirty panties and go to local socials, and also wants the current gf (which you somehow have even as a single guy) to fuck other men since she used to have threesomes so is obviously up for it. If she exists, I feel for her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe switch from fantasy into reality get a girlfriend then suggest coming on to a site called fabswingers, then set up a couples profile which is photo verified and get out there and have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey looking for some advice on getting my gf into going with other men , it something we spoke about but she not 100% , she loves fantasy about it and watching porn about it but won’t quite do it for real even tho encourage her to do it and tell her I love the idea , as far as I have got is her messaging men for me as I lick her out and it was fantastic, I just need to get her to go all the way , any advice would be great thanks "

She might just want to keep it as a fantasy mate, I wouldn’t push her or try to talk her into it. It could end in tears.

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By *ikingCoolMan
over a year ago

carmarthen

If you don't mind a mate fucking her have one to watch

Porn with you but get her to

Agree ,we had a couple that are friends to watch porn with

Us it took a few times but by

The forth time we had sex in the same room after a while we swapped and she started living it,hope it works out

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By *ikingCoolMan
over a year ago

carmarthen

If you don't mind a mate fucking her have one to watch

Porn with you but get her to

Agree ,we had a couple that are friends to watch porn with

Us it took a few times but by

The forth time we had sex in the same room after a while we swapped and she started living it,hope it works out

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By *mudg3rMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Maybe start with a social or a no pressure club night. See how it goes. Another idea. Invite me over.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

The last two words of the title of your thread is your problem 'for me'. Not about her. Maybe respect what your partner wants or she may do what you want and replace you permanetly.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I have a real problem with the title of your post ...

‘Get’ and ‘for me’ - Jesus man are you living in the dark ages ?

Even if it was poorly worded that’s obv how you see it in your head

What if she wants you have sex with other men ? How will she ‘get’ you to do it ‘for her’ ?

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

This is something that turns us on massively, definitely me more than Jo, but the thought of Jo doing it ‘for me’ has the complete opposite effect on me! This is pretty much how I am with most fantasies, if it turns Jo on, it turns me on! If I think she is doing it for me it doesn’t work.

It seems a bit crazy to me that you want help to ‘make’ her do it ‘for you’!

D.

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

One word comes to mind out of all this:

SELF

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By *otwhenwetCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

I get she's done it before with her ex and now I want my go.

Sure she'd love to know that you've got a singles profile on here and as per the green arrow could be the subject of pervy chats just like your ex.

Seriously don't force it, her choice her timing her body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forced or manipulation of anyone isn't good, maybe you should let her decide.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Simple. If she doesn't want to, don't push her. What's more important to you - her wellbeing or your fantasies?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U can do it cut his fucking head off

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