FabSwingers.com forum: Taking control

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I’ve been chatting to this really fit guy who isn’t on here and we’ve arranged to meet. He has said he likes the woman to take control and use and abuse him as they desire. I prefer when the guy takes control but will to try give this a go. Research suggests planning a scene so you know what you will be doing. Any ideas or tips would be greatly appreciated

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See what kind of stuff he's in to, that's the best way. Try and imagine what you'd want someone to do if the roles were reversed as well

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can have a lot of fun with this, both for yourself and for him.

A friend recommends watching porn of the nature of your meet, so if he wants you to take control, watch some where the lady doms the guy, obviuously be carefull what you watch otherwise your man is going to get very surprised by your full on Domme routine.

I find simople control is the most effective, control thagt can be implemented in day to day things, for instance you could have it so that he can only sit once you have, have fun with ties and remove his control, do it to him in public too, make sure that others know you are the one leading and he is following.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You can have a lot of fun with this, both for yourself and for him.

Thanks you some good tips there. I don’t mind the taking the lead and taking away his control but don’t think it’s in my nature to be mean like a lot of fem dom porn is like.