FabSwingers.com forum: Lying about your age

By *illy Gunn OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I have seen quite a few profiles where people have either lied about their age or have had a really tough paper round. I think honesty works best, age is just a number and its how you think and feel that counts.

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By *rviennaCouple
over a year ago

Kent

Agree, under the impression lots of people lie, we haven’t. Both of us look quite young for our age but seem to get attention from much older looking people.

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By *arge Hardon ColliderMan
over a year ago

Not far away

I've not lied about my age sinse I was 17 to get served alchohol.

...So not for about 13 years

I agree that it is silly to lie about age and use false or old pics, as if you're intending to meet, it's not going to get off to a great start if they're expecting Zack Efron and Zack Dingle turns up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So how can you tell they are lying about their age? People age facially at different rates x

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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I agree I know a few people who admitted to me to have lied about their age, I feel it's very disingenuous. One of them I only found out after I went for a social with him ages ago and he looked so much older than I had expected. I was put off by the fact he lied, not the fact that he looked older

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

My age is ever so slightly out for anonymity purposes (by under a month).

But yes, people definitely do age at different rates.

Other people lie to get around filters. I've even had messages, like Man (40), "I'm actually 22 but not many women let 22 year olds message...". Block.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I agree I know a few people who admitted to me to have lied about their age, I feel it's very disingenuous. One of them I only found out after I went for a social with him ages ago and he looked so much older than I had expected. I was put off by the fact he lied, not the fact that he looked older"

This too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So how can you tell they are lying about their age? People age facially at different rates x"

I've got up to 55 on my looking for range, I don't really mind how old as long as they look within my age range (same as if someone who is 50 but look 60 will be a no from me!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lie about so much on line because it's easy!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I've met people socially who have lied about age marital status etc. Totally agree, I was more pissed off that they had lied. Certainly it put me off meeting them again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m pretty open about most things so would definitely not lie about my age.

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By *r NeilMan
over a year ago

Lancs Mancs

Why limit yaself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have seen this a lot.

We look young for our ages.

But when people who claim to be our age contact us we just think why lie ?

We would never lie about our age all it would do is piss people off who agree to meet us and we look a lot older than what we state.

It just makes no sense to lie about it.

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By *arkmanMan
over a year ago

hounslow

I know I could get away with lying about my age as people always get it wrong, but I don’t see the point. I’m very comfortable with it and if it puts me out of reach for some, it’s unfortunate, but life goes on!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh the old fab age trick - mines right age, don’t look it apparently and certainly don’t feel it but so many blokes have a fab age compared to their real age - we’ve had a good laugh in the past, chatting with a group of people I was the youngest in real life but the oldest on fab!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

age is just a number some people might lie because they think other people won't look or meet them at all. myself i don't care what age you are as long we both click and enjoy ourselves it also goes for looks and size nobody is perfect in life i think everyone should be given a chance all that has to happen is talk you might surprise yourself and have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one ever believes me anyway.

Even though I tell them the truth.

Mentally I'm still in my twenties. Or younger. (I am a man, after all).

Physically I'm ready to be put out to pasture

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So how can you tell they are lying about their age? People age facially at different rates x

I've got up to 55 on my looking for range, I don't really mind how old as long as they look within my age range (same as if someone who is 50 but look 60 will be a no from me!)"

Phew I sneak into your age range 55 xx

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"age is just a number some people might lie because they think other people won't look or meet them at all. myself i don't care what age you are as long we both click and enjoy ourselves it also goes for looks and size nobody is perfect in life i think everyone should be given a chance all that has to happen is talk you might surprise yourself and have fun "

If I gave everyone a chance I wouldn't be able to live the rest of my life.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If age is just a number why does it matter if people lie about it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If age is just a number why does it matter if people lie about it? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never lied about my age. Although now that I’m nearly 30 I may consider it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a guy recently who said he was 39 on his profile but admitted to 46 when I met him. He looked younger to be fair but I was put off that he had lied about it.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

"If age is just a number why does it matter if people lie about it? "

It's the intent, that somebody isn't honest, what else would they not be honest about,a partner?

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By *tace 309TV/TS
over a year ago

durham

Age is just a number. I can't see why people lie about their age. I've met many on here who try to knock years off their age. I never lie about mine. I may not look or act my age but hey so what I'm just me. Take it or leave it

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By *ournemouthbusinessguyMan
over a year ago

Bournemouth

What she said!!

I dont think I'm that fussy on age. More what the other person does for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let em lie.

Most people make minds up based on the photos.

If they look like they need ID to buy beer, no go.

If they look like they remember the fire of london, pass.

All the lie does is get past the filter. Doesnt get past the polite 'no thanks'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some don't just knock a few years off some knock 10 or 20 years off easy had one guy admit he was 68 not 48 he used an old pic ..erm no chance

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By *ossauMan
over a year ago

Perth

No point living about age or anything else here, my opinion, other than my nom de plume.

Age is irrelevant to me, legalities aside, it's the person themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m 50, I see no point in lying. I’ve met people though who’ve knocked a good 10-15 years off their age. It’s done to get round filters a lot of the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must admit, I did trim a few years off when I first joined many years ago.

But you'll always get found out in the end. So now I'm the age I really am.........and it sucks!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"If age is just a number why does it matter if people lie about it?

It's the intent, that somebody isn't honest, what else would they not be honest about,a partner?"

I don't like people to lie to me, however if age genuinely was just a number we wouldn't have ages on profile because it would be irrelevant. It's usually possible to tell those who've been inventive with their date of birth anyway. Shoes are a huge give away in a man along with necks and hands in both sexes. These are the criteria I go by rather than the age they put on their profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have seen quite a few profiles where people have either lied about their age or have had a really tough paper round. I think honesty works best, age is just a number and its how you think and feel that counts."
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My age on here is correct, I do tell people I'm 23 out in the world. I'm surprised so may believe it must need glasses Haha

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By *aisy SteinerWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

The only thing I get miffed about that's age related is when I miss out on someone's age range by 1 year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My age on here is correct, I do tell people I'm 23 out in the world. I'm surprised so may believe it must need glasses Haha "

I’d believe you

But then again I’m really old

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By *inky SpiceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"If age is just a number why does it matter if people lie about it? "

Absolutely this!

This is the internet people, I don't give out any real facts about myself, age, name, address, nothing! Someone might steal my identity and go on to become a high class, sexy criminal! It's just not worth the risk!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is not really important. But my age is true 41.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We don't give our genuine date of birth so we're lying about that. The year's right though

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Anyway we're so old that we'd forget what age we were supposed to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyway we're so old that we'd forget what age we were supposed to be"

Looking bloody good for it though!! X

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Anyway we're so old that we'd forget what age we were supposed to be

Looking bloody good for it though!! X"

Thank you kind sir

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Surely looks are more important than age , there is plenty of good looking older people and some not so good ,and the same goes for younger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair... you can understand the lies... it's hard enough getting someone to look at your profile... but if you are not in certain age bracket you get missed... so it will happen when folk get to 30... or 35... or 40 and so on...

But what's the use folk are not daft just be honest

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By *rK MrsJCouple
over a year ago

Kidderminster

Our age's are totally correct, can't see a reason to shave a few years off. Know a couple on here she's taken 12 years off and he's taken a few more than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My age on here is correct, I do tell people I'm 23 out in the world. I'm surprised so may believe it must need glasses Haha

I’d believe you

But then again I’m really old "
25 maybe not 23 that's pushing it lol

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"Our age's are totally correct, can't see a reason to shave a few years off. Know a couple on here she's taken 12 years off and he's taken a few more than that. "

Omg no way !! 12 years lol ... do they look 12 years younger ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Our age's are totally correct, can't see a reason to shave a few years off. Know a couple on here she's taken 12 years off and he's taken a few more than that.

Omg no way !! 12 years lol ... do they look 12 years younger ? "

I’d never hide it like that, my photos really wouldn’t back it up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And plus.. that’s why we have Botox and fillers x lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And plus.. that’s why we have Botox and fillers x lol

Not gone there yet. I must be the oldest one in my company that hasn’t.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

I can see why lying about your age may seem like a way of getting around filters.

When we meet in clubs we never ask for an age verification. Either we like the look of you and visa versa or we don't.

If you got around fabs age filters and made a connection that worked out, would they really reconsider if they discovered you were 52 rather than 48?

Clearly the bigger the gap the harder it is going to be to maintain the age illusion.

But not the worse thing to be tried on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My paper round was horrific, but my age is correct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a fab age. It’s well within the margin of what people would guess if they met me. It’s a bit of vanity, but also people do set filters at round numbers: 30, 40, 50. I know many on here, equally split between the sexes, who are knocking a decade or so off. Sickeningly I think in the main they can get away with it. They look good for their ages. And every new profile they come back a couple of years younger. Fab has the secret of internal youth. Or sex is the secret to staying young.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our ages are true ages...do know one guy who knocks more than 10 years off his true age...even though he is gym fit still looks older than his fab age..

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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago

lanarkshire

Both our ages are true on here..though we did have someone block us before as they thought I (fem) was lying about my age and thought I looked younger than I said lol

Even after chatting about having a teenager..god only knows what age she thought I started having kids at

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By *oneyjule65Couple
over a year ago

Halifax

We don't lie about our age...yet some people have told us it's fab that has their age wrong..

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

We've been on here for so long that we can't change our ages without starting a new profile.

Can't be bothered as we tend to meet in clubs, but I can see why people do it.

We met a couple in a club and they thought we were in our 20's (or where just fantastic at flattery).

We had a great night, but if that was a fab meet rather than a club meet and the filters were set for 35 we'd have never have had a chance to meet them.

So I can see why people do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So how can you tell they are lying about their age? People age facially at different rates x

I've got up to 55 on my looking for range, I don't really mind how old as long as they look within my age range (same as if someone who is 50 but look 60 will be a no from me!)"

I've met a 68 year old who is have thought was mid 50s, and my ex brother in law is 15 years younger than me but because he's an alcoholic chain smoker he looks 10 years older.

You can't tell someone's age by thier picture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've been on here for so long that we can't change our ages without starting a new profile.

Can't be bothered as we tend to meet in clubs, but I can see why people do it.

We met a couple in a club and they thought we were in our 20's (or where just fantastic at flattery).

We had a great night, but if that was a fab meet rather than a club meet and the filters were set for 35 we'd have never have had a chance to meet them.

So I can see why people do it. "
your age changes automatically when your birthday comes around on here though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’d reckon about 75% of people we’ve met for socials have lied about their age.

We met a couple 5 years ago. They said they were 45 but looked older. Now 5 years later their age is still 45 on their profile.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

"We've been on here for so long that we can't change our ages without starting a new profile.

Can't be bothered as we tend to meet in clubs, but I can see why people do it.

We met a couple in a club and they thought we were in our 20's (or where just fantastic at flattery).

We had a great night, but if that was a fab meet rather than a club meet and the filters were set for 35 we'd have never have had a chance to meet them.

So I can see why people do it. your age changes automatically when your birthday comes around on here though "

OK I meant we can't change our DOB without starting a new profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We’d reckon about 75% of people we’ve met for socials have lied about their age.

We met a couple 5 years ago. They said they were 45 but looked older. Now 5 years later their age is still 45 on their profile.

How? Not sure how it works with couples profiles but with singles you enter DOB and on your birthday your age changes. Not sure how 5 years down the line thier age is the same, I know fab allows you to change DOB but I thought you could only do it once.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've been on here for so long that we can't change our ages without starting a new profile.

Can't be bothered as we tend to meet in clubs, but I can see why people do it.

We met a couple in a club and they thought we were in our 20's (or where just fantastic at flattery).

We had a great night, but if that was a fab meet rather than a club meet and the filters were set for 35 we'd have never have had a chance to meet them.

So I can see why people do it. your age changes automatically when your birthday comes around on here though

OK I meant we can't change our DOB without starting a new profile "

I think you can change it but just the once

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"We’d reckon about 75% of people we’ve met for socials have lied about their age.

We met a couple 5 years ago. They said they were 45 but looked older. Now 5 years later their age is still 45 on their profile.

Ours changed itself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We’d reckon about 75% of people we’ve met for socials have lied about their age.

We met a couple 5 years ago. They said they were 45 but looked older. Now 5 years later their age is still 45 on their profile.

Think they trashed their old profile and recreated. We couldn’t remember their username but all pics were the same.

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

I never lie about my age

in fact, I'm quite proud to make it to 70 years after all the things I got up to when I was younger

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

No need for a woman to lie about her age. The vast majority of men on a site like this won't care if a female is young enough to be his daughter or old enough to be his grandmother, a shag is a shag.

Women have the power here so many men feel the need to lie about their age to fit in with the female's ideal. Some of us can get away with it cos we don't need to use old photos and look damn good for 73

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve realised most people 40+ lie about their age. It’s strange how many people are between 38-42 and 48-52. Below that I don’t think many people lie.

The worst I encountered was a couples profile stating they were both 46. But they also had profiles as individuals, where they both said they were 28.

When I questioned them they said it was an accident? Freaks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve realised most people 40+ lie about their age. It’s strange how many people are between 38-42 and 48-52. Below that I don’t think many people lie.

Pfft. So sue me. I’m actually bi and really single. I think these facts are more important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve realised most people 40+ lie about their age. It’s strange how many people are between 38-42 and 48-52. Below that I don’t think many people lie.

Pfft. So sue me. I’m actually bi and really single. I think these facts are more important."

What do you mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If age is just a number why does it matter if people lie about it?

It's the intent, that somebody isn't honest, what else would they not be honest about,a partner?"

Bingo!

Keyword - "intent"

So many things around this topic. Here is my short version:

Some people don't age at all... people leave and come back younger... looking to get around filters... some profiles taking off 10+ years... the age lie could lead onto other things like height... if you start off on a lie when interacting with someone it has the potential to ruin things before they even get started...

Having said that some people take chances and hope for the best. They get through all the communication leading to the meet and depending on the other person it either flops with a reality check or they actually continue... seen these things go both ways many times. So the "chancers" continue to try...

I prefer to keep things real from the beginning therefore my profile is accurate.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

It never crossed my mind to lie abiut my age when i joined. Im proud of my age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It never crossed my mind to lie abiut my age when i joined. Im proud of my age."
yeah with a body like yours I wouldn't be either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why lie, I think everyone has some that will me their need in one way or another.

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