FabSwingers.com forum: Do people get more curious about their bi side as they get older?

By * New Yorkie OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I use to be straight as an arrow, and now I enjoy orally bi fun as I have gotten older. Anyone else the same, both guys and girls???

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Everyone will be different but we are both straight with no interest in changing our way of being.

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By *pertureTV/TS
over a year ago

New Ferry, wirral in stockings and sussies

been bi as long as i have had an interest in sex, nothings changed

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

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By *ommyxyzMan
over a year ago

Crawley

Did lots of gay stuff as a teenager, then stopped for 30 years whilst married but now very happily bi, don’t know if that’s an answer or a resume!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dabbled in my teens so I think the curiousity was always there. Always admired cocks. Not crazy about men though.

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By *moothLeanBodMan
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

Was very young when had first experience (he was older) , then years of being straight, a bit more in 30s, lot more in 40s after separation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup

haha x

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

You could be right there OP.

I didn't dabble when I was younger and I recall refusing, but now I love to dabble.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I've certainly found that's true for me (Luke).

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By *onestjohn1962Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Yep same for me. It took until I was 50 before I realised what I was missing

Being bi is the best of both worlds x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More curious or less repressed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you are right OP. Perhaps it's because we are less testosterone charged and think with our heads rather than our balls LOL.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

It could be a case of caring less about what others might think? Or being more aware that life is too short to not explore yourself?

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By *itsAndTaffCouple
over a year ago

Grays, Essex

"More curious or less repressed? "

I think you’re right, we get less inhibited as we get older care less of others opinions

I dabbled when I was younger and always knew I wanted more but when all my friends were straight didn’t know how to tell friends meet people etc

Now it’s more spoken about, accepted, easier to meet people with apps etc

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By *laytimes18Couple
over a year ago

Poole

I was the same, straight as an arrow but as I got into my thirties and happily married. We started talking about being with the same sex and I’d said I would happily try! So I did and very much enjoyed it! It is weird though and I would like to know others thoughts, I don’t fancy guys at all but do enjoy cock!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have definately got more bi curious about other women as I have got older

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dabbled with girls before guys a long long time ago lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've definitely gotten more curious never even thought about it when I was younger

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

I dont think it's as people get older, I think it's that society has become more accepting so those niggling thoughts at the back of peoples minds can finally be acted upon to see if the reality matches the fantasy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was as stright as stright can be

But i have noticed a curiosity growing as i age, not that im tempted to try yet, but by the time im 40 who knows. Perhaps its an aceptence thing, with all sexuality being welcomed theres no stigma to try somthing different, or admit to ones self that its ok

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By *anni and RicCouple
over a year ago

York

Always been bi but happier about it now I'm growing up!!!

Ric x

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By *ananas57Couple
over a year ago

lake ariel

I'm thinking yes, when I was younger I turned down a few offers thinking all I needed was cock, now I wishing I didn't turn down those women

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I use to be straight as an arrow, and now I enjoy orally bi fun as I have gotten older. Anyone else the same, both guys and girls???"

Until playing mff I never thought about it. I don't consider myself bi but have enjoyed the experiences that I've had and would with the right person explore further.

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over a year ago

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By *oresexMan
over a year ago

South West coast

Two guys kissing, no thanks really don't even want to see that, but two guys sucking each other off, add to that a wife/Gf watching or joining in, then yes please, hottest type of meet.

Strange that, even has me puzzled.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that as you get older, you become moer intune with yourself anf are more at ease with saying yes to ideas you might have harboured for a number of years.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

nope!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Some people do understand their sexual orientation differently, or better, as they gain age and experience but not everyone will find bi interests, in all likelihood. It does appear that some peoples' orientations may change - but it could just be that their self-awareness/understanding is improved: whichever it is, is less important than that they have happy and satisfied lives, pursuing the choices that they make.

Very occasionally, it may just be that some people are eager to try something different out and then actually do it. Not specifically a desire for the same gender but a lust for difference, that's expressed in them trying something with the same gender, perhaps opportunistically.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve always had a Bi side, I tend to fancy the person and personality rather than the label

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I was not aware i had a bi side until i started swinging. Nobody was more shocked than me. Always say it wont happen again but it usually does in the heat of the moment. Guess im classed now as Fab straight.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I've always been able to look at a woman and know whether I thought they were attractive or not. It wasn't until I saw one absolutely stunning woman on my honeymoon I had fanny flutters and couldn't stop thinking about her that I thought maybe it's more than that. Suppress those feelings for years because it's not normal, find a website like this, realise it's ok and Bob's your uncle and Fannys your aunt!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes the urge to wank a cock or feel a tip enter me is growing lol. Think im generally just a greedy perv who wants to try everything lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd never ever thought about it until last year, then I did and decided to act on it. Only wish is that I had realised much earlier l

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think as you get older you worry less about what others think .Also you become a lot more in touch with who you are and what you want and would like to try.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I messed around with a friend when I was a teenager,but was nearly 25 yrs later when I tried cock again,now i enjoy it ,I just do wanking and sucking, I prefer pussy but now and again like to suck a nice cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was the same, straight as an arrow but as I got into my thirties and happily married. We started talking about being with the same sex and I’d said I would happily try! So I did and very much enjoyed it! It is weird though and I would like to know others thoughts, I don’t fancy guys at all but do enjoy cock!!

Same here, I dont find guys attractive but like sucking a nice cock."

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By *wingme22Man
over a year ago

Galway

Never thought or looked at cock until I became a swinger.

Maybe I was becoming more open but The thought of sucking a cock didnt repulse me so thought dont knock it until you try it. I enjoy cock now but not into men if that makes any sense.

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate

"Never thought or looked at cock until I became a swinger.

Maybe I was becoming more open but The thought of sucking a cock didnt repulse me so thought dont knock it until you try it. I enjoy cock now but not into men if that makes any sense."

Lots of guys like cocks but don’t fancy men; I like both but it doesn’t make me a bad person! I don’t think I could marry a guy as I’m too set in my ways but I could certainly get emotionally involved if the right one came along. I don’t think I would have said that 20 years ago

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By *100Man
over a year ago

Essex

I agree with you op I never would have dreamed about cock but since being on fab my bi side is definitely shining through

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can absolutely relate to this OP. I've always been very open and broadminded, but into my 40's and 50's I've had 2 4somes where me and the other guy have played, much to the enjoyment of the ladies!!

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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

"I think as you get older you worry less about what others think .Also you become a lot more in touch with who you are and what you want and would like to try."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I use to be straight as an arrow, and now I enjoy orally bi fun as I have gotten older. Anyone else the same, both guys and girls???"

I was always curious as far back as my late teens

Seemed to be less curious throughout my 20s for some reason but then started getting the feelings back in my 30s

I finally done something about it in my 40s and went from bicurious to bisexual

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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago

Shoreditch east London

Possibly as we get older we're not so judgemental on ourselves about being more curious and open to try new things. We kinda loose that worry of what other people might think and just say "fuck em all I dont care about what anybody else thinks".

I'm gay def not bi but curious about pussy. Hopefully one day I may act upon that impulse but it's not gonna change the fact I'm gay. Do I worry about people wanting to label me, no. Will it define my core sexuality, no. It just makes me open to more ideas and experiences. I'd like to say that's what makes life more interesting and a lil less boring for me. Doesn't mean to say everyone will feel or act the same but I guess that's what fundamentally makes us all different in our behaviour and the way we enjoy ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Not at all.

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By * New Yorkie OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Wow, I asked this question right before work and it took off. Just looked after work..

I havent read everyones post but I think we all have different reasons why we are str8/curious/bi/gay and thats what makes the world go around and its normal

It'll be great and fun to read everyones replies...

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By * New Yorkie OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I have to say I agree with you on this. Love cock, but not at all interested in the guy any other way.. Wish I started earlier..

Same here, I dont find guys attractive but like sucking a nice cock."

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By * New Yorkie OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"It could be a case of caring less about what others might think? Or being more aware that life is too short to not explore yourself? "

I think as I got older this is how I feel about my sexual urges.

Also, I am more confident and thus happy to accept people for who they are. I may or may not want to sleep with them but I can certanly be social and civil. I love to chat...

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By * New Yorkie OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Maybe a nice big bi party is needed? There are even numbers of women and men it looks like...

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By *vb1983TV/TS
over a year ago

portsmouth

I’d never even thought about it before until one day it actually just popped into my head, so off I went dressed in some sexy lingerie and sucked away. I haven’t stopped since and absolutely love the taste of cock. I still on the other hand love sex and oral with women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (mr) think being on here and seeing how many bi couples there are on here the more intrigued I have be come but not sure if ready to take that next step.

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By *ung_londonMan
over a year ago

London

It feels like the link between identity and sexual activity gets more relaxed for some people so things that were previously taboo become less of an issue? There do certainly seem to be guys who don’t fancy blokes but do like cock - if my inbox is anything to go by!

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By *anni and RicCouple
over a year ago

York

Any of you bi curious chaps coming to swingfields?

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By *ung_londonMan
over a year ago

London

"Any of you bi curious chaps coming to swingfields?

And/or VA bi-night...?

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By *istressdandsubtCouple
over a year ago

caterham

Yes for us , kinda happened after wife had used strapon for a while and wanted to see me suck a guy, same with her , now if in the moment cant stop her lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have definitely become much more bi orientated the older I get! I seem to get far naughtier generally and want to experience everything that life has to offer and that includes sex, so now way past the curious stage!!!

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By *illybare partyMan
over a year ago

norh east

Sexuality is fluid so I believe I have sports I have experimented but atm I could count myself as straight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had always considered myself 100% straight. Never touched a guy or even wanted to. That was until 2 years ago when the wife and I were having a threesome with one of her FBs. She wanted me to lick her pussy while he fucked her, something I had never done before, but sounded horny so I did. Then whilst in the throws of licking her, his cock hit my face as he pulled out and I licked it and then it was in my mouth. It was a very pleasurable experience and one that we have repeated several times now. So you never know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking back, I think I was always ‘curious’ but never had a desire to act on that. Then after I separated the chance presented itself so I tried and here we are.

The other thing I’d say is that as I grew older I became a lot more comfortable in my own skin so the old ‘hang ups’ weren't such a big thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it's a mortality thing as we get older kind think it's now or never I never had another man's penis in my mouth till my 40s enjoyed it when it happened went from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe it's a mortality thing as we get older kind think it's now or never I never had another man's penis in my mouth till my 40s enjoyed it when it happened went from there "

Yes quite agree, tried a few things in my early teens but put it down to youthful exploration, and left it at that, but then by chance met an old school friend of mine who has come out, and was quite open to him about my old curiosity, anyway one thing led to another and let's just say he introduced me into the bi lifestyle and I have never looked back, and I think it's much more acceptable now to admit this sort of thing.

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By * New Yorkie OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Out walking my dogs and you guys and girls have me excited. Glad to see I am not alone..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had always considered myself 100% straight. Never touched a guy or even wanted to. That was until 2 years ago when the wife and I were having a threesome with one of her FBs. She wanted me to lick her pussy while he fucked her, something I had never done before, but sounded horny so I did. Then whilst in the throws of licking her, his cock hit my face as he pulled out and I licked it and then it was in my mouth. It was a very pleasurable experience and one that we have repeated several times now. So you never know! "

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By * New Yorkie OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Love this and have on both ends of this scenario. Very hot for all involved.. I think in a 3sum setting its easier for the new guy to experiment as there is less pressure to make the jump.. Every step should make it comfortable as possible for all involved..

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich

I have always known I'm as gay as a Christmas tree and more camp than Butlins!!! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it just naturally happens in a 3/4 some then happy days but not on a one to one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you just get to know your own likes and dislikes as you get older and lose some of you inhibition. I class myself as bi but not because I fancy guys but more that I just like all forms of sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was 7, another boy of the same age discovered wanking for himself and turned me on to it, but his technique was bizarre: he held his cock in his left fist and rubbed the tip with the palm of his right. This produced an intense sensation, but soon became painful. We experimented further and soon tried sucking each other, which turned out to be the perfect solution. We had no idea about sex and its biological function and none of the feelings adults associated with "sex". We somehow knew it was something "naughty" and that adults would disapprove of it, and that kind of added to the excitement. That's how I've always understood bodily intimacy: like any other game, it's something anyone can do with anyone who wants to play. It didn't involve any other kind of contact: no kissing or other foreplay; it was straight down to cock-sucking. This was before we were old enough to have orgasms so it was just the pleasure of sucking and being sucked. The idea that kids are "innocent" and need to be kept away from "sex" is something I've never understood because it made my childhood much more exciting than it would otherwise have been.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with OP, always thought I was 100 percent straight, then in my thirties, I stumbled upon some bi first-time stories, got involved in the swinging world and became more open to same sex fun in mmf.

I have no attraction to men, but happy to suck, fuck lick a guy in a mmf.

Being bi, happened naturally and was not something that I repressed due to pressures and prejudices.

Happy swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only comment on 'my age group' and gender.. Most guys are curious to some degree and most will not admit to their 'failings'..

Regardless of the labelling factor, it is all about the possible pleasures and let's face it, it can be difficult to attain...

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Some probably do,

I am totally straight and happy with that so it doesn't apply to me

If you enjoy it,carry on op ,its all about having fun.

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