FabSwingers.com forum: Who should provide the condoms?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am amazed at how many men rely on us to provide the condoms. Is this normal? Rob.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those that are considerate and responsible will carry and provide their own, IMHO.

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By *all-Eddies QosCouple
over a year ago

wirral

bring your own. no excuses then

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I always have my little bag of condoms with me (be it 2 or 20), so I don't even see it as a discussion point at the time.

If however 2 (or more) people get into debating "You should have some, no you should bring yours" then I personally feel both parties should cut their losses, get out and move on with their lives.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am glad to see that we are not the only ones to think that way. It has been very surprising how many men don't bring their own.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

people so bring there own... protect yourself if nothing else...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always have my own ..... my health and well being is my concern, I don't rely on anyone else for that.

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

I always have some just in case the 'gentleman' has 'forgotten' to bring some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most guys I meet seem to rely on me having condoms with me, which is really annoying.

Only one guy on this site ever asked me which ones I prefer and offered to bring them.

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By *all-Eddies QosCouple
over a year ago

wirral

"I always have my little bag of condoms with me (be it 2 or 20), so I don't even see it as a discussion point at the time.

If however 2 (or more) people get into debating "You should have some, no you should bring yours" then I personally feel both parties should cut their losses, get out and move on with their lives."

+1...think it shows lack of commitment to safe sex

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I totally agree that we should all carry them and protect ourselves, but I can't understand why, after stating on our profile "safe sex only", and we have messaged them that there is no penetration without one, that they should still arrive at the meet without one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i still have my great great grandfathers passed down to me, its never burst yet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a sock does that count?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a sock does that count?"

socks cant count....be realistic please!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have a sock does that count?[That all depends on colour and possible flavour!"

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Must be the ppl u are meeting, the men we meet always have their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Male or female, if you're strict on safe sex then surely you'd have some condoms about just in case.

Interesting thread.

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

harrow

Certainly keep some just in case the man hasn't brought his.

I'm somewhat shocked the question has come up. Who in his right mind wouldn't think he should bring his own condoms?

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

Don't really care who 'should' - we carry our own so we know they're in date and not meddled with.

You can get them for free from any family planning clinic so it's not really an issue

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By *eaboMan
over a year ago

marden

i think the man should provide the condoms, anyone who is responsible will have some with him anyway. unless of course they are worried about their wife finding them.

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By *ayman2002Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Not having condoms shows a lack of understanding or even lack of respect for who you are meeting in my opinion.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I always have my own since I react badly to some.

But I do sometimes wonder if some playmates hope I'd agree to bb if there were none to hand...

The ones who pull some out onto the nightstand before we start get brownie points - not only did they remember them, they want them handy are make it plain without words that it's safe play or no play!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i can only use none latex condoms there for i provide my own as they are qutie a bit more expensive then normal condoms so i think its wrong to expect other to provide them when its me who has the problem with with condoms

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By *utty tartWoman
over a year ago

the house of sin

"i can only use none latex condoms there for i provide my own as they are qutie a bit more expensive then normal condoms so i think its wrong to expect other to provide them when its me who has the problem with with condoms "

family plannin clinic provide latex free ones if u ask for them, we carry both latex free and normal uns but i think if i were a single n swingin on my own even tho i wud expext a guy to remember to bring sum, id still take my own too they r free ffs guyys go the fp clinic n get sum no glove no love . simple as..... n the guys that dont want wifey to see them, the garage on route will sell them .......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always have some just in case the 'gentleman' has 'forgotten' to bring some"

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By *stwoforfun2Couple
over a year ago

South Suffolk Area

"Not having condoms shows a lack of understanding or even lack of respect for who you are meeting in my opinion."

Absolutely 100% with Jay on this. Well said sir

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you everyone for your opinions. Good to see that most on here agree.

Btw, most of those we have met off here and whose verifications we are showing are "gentlemen".

This has been our first time of participating in a forum [there has to be a first time for everything], so sorry for not getting it quite right earlier on!! Hope we'll be back for more. Rob

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have my own but most guys ive met bring with them. i always have some incase though. plus i always use on my strap on for hygeine purposes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always have my own ..... my health and well being is my concern, I don't rely on anyone else for that. "

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By *z ThongzWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

always carry my own , would never rely on someone else to provide them , that way i know i am safe and protected .

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By *iceguydaveMan
over a year ago

Monmouth

It's common sense and good manners to have them with you, surely - as someone above said, if I'm meeting at a hotel I make sure there are condoms there right next to the bed, ready to go.

If they prefer to use their own that's no problem, and sometimes you get an interesting experience you weren't expecting (had some 'tingly' ones turn up at a recent meet!).

Only once did I meet a couple at a pub and suddenly realise after the 'Yes we're all keen, let's go for it' conversation, that I'd come out empty-handed. Popped to the loo (thank God I had some change!) and bingo, problem averted. I didn't tell them, of course, as I'd have felt embarrassed to have seemed so ill-prepared! When I got to theirs, they had some ready on the side - but I still felt like I'd done the necessary.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Always have our own.

Would say that 95% of the couples & single guys we have met have always brought some with them.

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By *ercedes62Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

"Not having condoms shows a lack of understanding or even lack of respect for who you are meeting in my opinion."

Totally agree.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I get a handbag full free when I go for a check-up..... but sometimes greedy bastards with big handbags have cleared the freebies or they only have flavoured ones left... so I also buy my own... and because I know I'll need them I buy packs of 10 or 12 when they are on 3 for 2.

The vast majority of people I meet carry their own.... most people I know who have been around for a while have a little play bag with condoms, lube, breath freashener and so on.

So if a guy turns up without any or phones on the way to ask "do I need to buy condoms" (and then turn up with a fresh in the wrapper 3 pack)... I can't help but raise an eyebrow and wonder why they don't already have a stash?

Is it because they don't normally use them?

Is it because they can't keep them at home?

Or are they just a selfish dickhead tourist?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if they don't bring condoms, show them the fecking door....

it reflects what they think of you......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always take them with us and use our own.. that way we know they havent been mistreated or not stored properly,, reduces the risk of splitting.... i dont care if they bring their own or not.. i have hundreds from the sexual health clinic.. i get some every time i go lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeh true ,this hapens all the time to me a guy calls he wants sex ,and then is supriesed when i have no condoms ,

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By *heekychezzaWoman
over a year ago

warrington

I always have them with me. A couple of years ago, when I was playing solely as a single and sometimes had meets at home, I always used to put several condoms on each of the bedside cabinets (saves scrabbling around for them and disrupting the play), then one time after the guy had gone and I went to tidy up the bedroom, I found he'd taken all the unused condoms with him and just let the coupleo used ones in an ashtray....feckin' cheek or what

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those who turn up with nothing, especially single men says it all.

They can't accommodate, they don't want to meet in a public place first, they bring nothing with them, wine/beer condoms, they want it all given/provided.

They expect to be able to come straight round, 2 minute fumble, 3 minute sex and then go, WTF

Just having a cock is not enough, you need to show consideration and due courtesy and remember what it's about.

Love to all xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The vast majority of people I meet carry their own.... most people I know who have been around for a while have a little play bag with condoms, lube, breath freashener and so on.

Is it because they don't normally use them?

Is it because they can't keep them at home?

Or are they just a selfish dickhead tourist?"

i know ive got a stash in my wallet like near enough all the time even if i dont have anything arranged

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

"i still have my great great grandfathers passed down to me, its never burst yet!"

These sheep bladders are so reliable!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you turn up with your own you know your covered, i dont think its anyones job to provide the condoms, looking after your own sexual health is your own responsibility, why would you leave that to someone else?

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By *obblybitsCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

I think everyone should have them, if the hope is to have sex then you should all have some.

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By *adcowWoman
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

What really bugs me is when they try and arrange a meet with you and say " I've run out of the ones I use- and haven't found any others big enough to fit can we not just do without?"

Considering your average condom can be blown up big enough to fit over a human head I'm sure one of the kingsize ones I keep for the comfort of the larger guys would fit.

If you prefer using your own brands and tend to look for meets does it not make sense to keep a stock of those yourself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What really bugs me is when they try and arrange a meet with you and say " I've run out of the ones I use- and haven't found any others big enough to fit can we not just do without?"

Considering your average condom can be blown up big enough to fit over a human head I'm sure one of the kingsize ones I keep for the comfort of the larger guys would fit.

If you prefer using your own brands and tend to look for meets does it not make sense to keep a stock of those yourself?"

obvious chancers just hoping you go, ok fuck it just dont cum in me or something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

or they married or something and dont have a need to stock condoms!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am amazed at how many men rely on us to provide the condoms. Is this normal? Rob."

No I always provide my own then I know they are not out of date and are a reliable brand and quality made.

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By *arkstaffsMan
over a year ago

Rugeley

I always provide my own condoms. I don't think its fair to expect the person you are meeting to provide them.

Slightly off subject, I have been very surprised at a couple of meets who expected bareback sex, which they certainly didn't get from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always insist on using our own condoms, although we have never had a meet with anyone who haven't bought their own supply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"always carry my own , would never rely on someone else to provide them , that way i know i am safe and protected ."

my sentiments exactly

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

"I am amazed at how many men rely on us to provide the condoms. Is this normal? Rob."

Everyone's responsibility to provide! Simples!!! eek!

look after your own health first and foremost!

Don't rely on others to do it for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The bloke always no excuse

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By *reenmbMan
over a year ago

Gwent

Totally agree that we should look after ourselves and always take condoms but always ask if couple\ lady is ok with that or would prefer their own....

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By *hyandtwistedCouple
over a year ago

loughborough

We have just purchased a load on non-latex as no one really has those, so we would provide, but if they and issue then I expect everyone to have some not just us.

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By *ptimusDMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

It is far better to have it and not need it, than to need it and not have it!

So, it's quite simple.., CARRY YOUR OWN CONDOMS!

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By *ellraisersCouple
over a year ago

Near Glasgow

The vast majority of people I meet carry their own.... most people I know who have been around for a while have a little play bag with condoms, lube, breath freashener and so on.

Is it because they don't normally use them?

Is it because they can't keep them at home?

Or are they just a selfish dickhead tourist?"

Thought it was just me that kept a wee bag with toothpaste, toothbrush, condoms, lube and mouthwash lol. Even have wipes and tissues in my bigger bag.

Always handy to have and I started carrying it when I was single as the number of single guys who didn't carry anything at times was astoundng.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i allways carry them meself out if respect ! n its coz its a fook aboot if your playmate insists lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always have my own ..... my health and well being is my concern, I don't rely on anyone else for that. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always provide my own and dispose of them too! I'm a clean tidy guy! What more can I say

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

For this reason and that a lady I regularly go the Chams with is also intolerant to latex is why I threw all of my ordinary condoms away and bought latex-free ones.

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

And talking of Chams, another lady friend and myself had to provide a guy with a condom because he had "run out" earlier in the evening

If it was down to me I would have sent him down to the bar to get one but my lady friend was rather desperate to "get on with it" so I gave him one of mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The cock!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"It is far better to have it and not need it, than to need it and not have it!

So, it's quite simple.., CARRY YOUR OWN CONDOMS!"

no offence.... but it does help if you practice what you preach in your own photos.....

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By *adja_lazloCouple
over a year ago

Solihull

we provide them, just as a safety, make sure they in date and useable for one lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We meet loads of single guys and are always suprised even still at how many don't have condoms, or say they're outside in the car especially when the meet has been pre planned. Not sure if this is their way of trying bareback (no chance by the way). Now we always bring some with us so there's no excuse, bit pathetic in this day and age though in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have always provide my own and responsibility is on everyone concerned to have some with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always take my own as struggle to fit in standard and don't expect anyone to pop out a 'selection box'! Size isn't always an advantage as it's been a long hard slog finding comfortable ones that don't feel like i'm being choked! Now have a fantastic cheap online source - any guys in similar circumstances PM and i'll let you know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I Agree I always turn up to a meet with my own! Safety first and all that!!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I take my own, as I'd hate to spend half an hour travelling only for them to expect bareback.

I need some variety in condoms, though, the other month the guy was that big the condom was cutting off the circulation to his willy

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