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What happened to the art of subtle seduction

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Seriously where has it gone? Can’t people be flirty and sexy and subtle with cheeky undertones anymore ... leaving something to the imagination and making you crave more

My current experience is it has been replaced by bulldozing you in the face with smut ... which instead is a major turn off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is all a numbers game now. You can offer the same approach to 50 women and get rejected, but you only need one to say yes to get what you want.

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By *aiseaneyebrowMan
over a year ago

Fylde

I was talking about this exact topic last night as I was accused of being old fashioned.

There’s a place, I believe, for an articulate and seductive approach. Using language and suggestion to plant seeds. Seeds which grow and flourish in your imagination.

Sure there’s always a place for the more direct route but I got one enjoy the process of seduction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never known how to flirt, but I've never resorted to the "wanna fuck" approach.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It is all a numbers game now. You can offer the same approach to 50 women and get rejected, but you only need one to say yes to get what you want."

I had said yes ... to the more subtle start, we were going out for drinks and almost definitely home together after and then it got so much it turned me right off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seriously where has it gone? Can’t people be flirty and sexy and subtle with cheeky undertones anymore ... leaving something to the imagination and making you crave more

My current experience is it has been replaced by bulldozing you in the face with smut ... which instead is a major turn off "
I agree where has it all gone wrong, do you think it's the internet and the over saturation of sex and sexual innuendo or what else could it be?

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By *hunderstruckMan
over a year ago

Northampton

It’s the culture on here

I love to chat and get to know someone but you can’t do that on these sites

So men need to find alternative ways of getting a meet . Unfortunately it’ll often be a smutty message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any guy can write two lines of smut but not everyone can flirt

Yes it’s a numbers game but A mix of intelligence, sensuality and good banter has a place

oh and restraints and a little light BDSM!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is all a numbers game now. You can offer the same approach to 50 women and get rejected, but you only need one to say yes to get what you want.

I had said yes ... to the more subtle start, we were going out for drinks and almost definitely home together after and then it got so much it turned me right off "

Oh dear! Got a bit too eager did he?

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By *irkydirkyMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Seriously where has it gone? Can’t people be flirty and sexy and subtle with cheeky undertones anymore ... leaving something to the imagination and making you crave more

My current experience is it has been replaced by bulldozing you in the face with smut ... which instead is a major turn off "

On here? I think most gets lost amongst the gaping ass holes and the pulled pussy lips photos, but I very rarely message so can’t be sure..

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire


"Seriously where has it gone? Can’t people be flirty and sexy and subtle with cheeky undertones anymore ... leaving something to the imagination and making you crave more

My current experience is it has been replaced by bulldozing you in the face with smut ... which instead is a major turn off "

I think it just seems to be lost there are a few amongst us men who like to tease and seduce and depending on the lady I adjust to what they sem to enjoy most. I can send a FAF email just as quickly as one describing how we might slowly explore each other starting with subtle touches of hands as we walk in some beautiful gardens enjoying the lovely sunny weather before sitting by a river having a drink...

But equally there are some who do not enjoy that approach.

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago

lanarkshire


"Seriously where has it gone? Can’t people be flirty and sexy and subtle with cheeky undertones anymore ... leaving something to the imagination and making you crave more

My current experience is it has been replaced by bulldozing you in the face with smut ... which instead is a major turn off "

Totally agree

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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I won’t entertain the smut it just puts me off and makes me uncomfortable. We are all aroused by different things but some people do need to judge their audience. Being crude won’t work on me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I won’t entertain the smut it just puts me off and makes me uncomfortable. We are all aroused by different things but some people do need to judge their audience. Being crude won’t work on me."
or me

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Oh it’s definitely still out there, it’s just finding the right people

Pure crude smut gets you no where

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seriously where has it gone? Can’t people be flirty and sexy and subtle with cheeky undertones anymore ... leaving something to the imagination and making you crave more

My current experience is it has been replaced by bulldozing you in the face with smut ... which instead is a major turn off "
its gone nowhere you just have to look in the right places

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes worry I’m too subtle. It’s an art!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seriously where has it gone? Can’t people be flirty and sexy and subtle with cheeky undertones anymore ... leaving something to the imagination and making you crave more

My current experience is it has been replaced by bulldozing you in the face with smut ... which instead is a major turn off "

I like to think that I use my imagination and let it run wild but no one is hitting my buttons right now because like you say it is like bulldozing with smut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is all a numbers game now. You can offer the same approach to 50 women and get rejected, but you only need one to say yes to get what you want.

I had said yes ... to the more subtle start, we were going out for drinks and almost definitely home together after and then it got so much it turned me right off "

They get excited. I just call it off.

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