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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ladies, what do you look for in a first message...it seems that ladies get bombarded on here so what can us guys do to stand out?

I've tried long messages, short ones, serious ones, funny ones...i know its different strokes for different folks but i'm just looking for inspiration

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Personal messages based on my profile text.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can write all kinds of messages to all kinds of people - bottom line is the cut of your jib.

If you send 10 well thought out messages, 7 or 8 out of 10 will either be immediately deleted, or never read. Of the other 3, you might get 1 reply that is either a decent conversation, or a no thanks.

This is what you're working with. Remember, people have to fancy you back.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Personal messages based on my profile text. "

Yes, reading profiles is a must. I have read a few and then decided against messaging and also read some that have made that person more attractive to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies, what do you look for in a first message...it seems that ladies get bombarded on here so what can us guys do to stand out?

I've tried long messages, short ones, serious ones, funny ones...i know its different strokes for different folks but i'm just looking for inspiration "

Polite and no text speak. Also if it's longer than one sentence - to have full stops in between the sentences. Otherwise I run out of breath reading it and give up without finishing.

Mrs

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Personal messages based on my profile text.

Yes, reading profiles is a must. I have read a few and then decided against messaging and also read some that have made that person more attractive to me "

Puts you above 80% or more of my correspondents... Although I probably answer around 1-2%.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I look at the profile and pictures. No message would make me interested in a man I wasn't attracted to. If he looks nice then a brief introduction will elicit a response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personal messages based on my profile text. "

This

Things like "I need you sat on my face" and "I want you on your knees" are a definite no.

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name


"Personal messages based on my profile text. "

Exactly this

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

Don’t try and be funny, you don’t know my sense of humour and I might have had a shit day. Your message might just piss me off.

Make it interesting, relevant to me. Remember ME. I want to know you’re interested in ME. Make sure you’ve read my profile and taken note of what’s in there, acted appropriately, coz this is about ME.

Don’t speak or write like a teenage boy who’s desperate for his 1st shag, texting his mates.

Have information on your profile that makes you sound interesting and some pictures that show something of you other than your cock.

Oh and be someone I’m interested in. Coz it’s all about ME

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies, what do you look for in a first message...it seems that ladies get bombarded on here so what can us guys do to stand out?

I've tried long messages, short ones, serious ones, funny ones...i know its different strokes for different folks but i'm just looking for inspiration "
with women it's all about the pics....... So in summing up luck is the answer

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


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Make it interesting, relevant to me. Remember ME. I want to know you’re interested in ME. Make sure you’ve read my profile and taken note of what’s in there, acted appropriately, coz this is about ME.

"

Omg yes. The number of messages I get where it's polite, personal, etc... but all about why I'm wonderful.

Why would I be interested in you? What do you have to offer me? I know I have great verifications, people enjoy my pictures, I write well, etc. I don't know why I should reply to you. So... I don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies, what do you look for in a first message...it seems that ladies get bombarded on here so what can us guys do to stand out?

I've tried long messages, short ones, serious ones, funny ones...i know its different strokes for different folks but i'm just looking for inspiration "

Most people look at your profile fisrt. If the profile is shit you are not getting a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personal messages based on my profile text. "

With a clear recent pic to perv on!

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