FabSwingers.com forum: Understand not sympathy or judgment

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Following surgery for an ectopic pregnancy which nearly killed my wife, sex for her became painful and unpleasant. I felt terrible that my pleasure caused her pain so sex all but stopped. Over the last 2 years at her lowest moments she has told me that i should leave her and in her words “ find someone normal “. This I will never do I love my wife with all my being. So we came to an agreement I could use a site like this as long as she didn’t know who or when I was meeting. Most people on here are great but there are some on here who are not, who judge to quickly and can be scathing in their messages. All I ask is for understanding not judgement.

By *astyEricMan
over a year ago

Hull

Unfortunately for you most people are judgmental, it's in humen nature

By *andVCouple
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Following surgery for an ectopic pregnancy which nearly killed my wife, sex for her became painful and unpleasant. I felt terrible that my pleasure caused her pain so sex all but stopped. Over the last 2 years at her lowest moments she has told me that i should leave her and in her words “ find someone normal “. This I will never do I love my wife with all my being. So we came to an agreement I could use a site like this as long as she didn’t know who or when I was meeting. Most people on here are great but there are some on here who are not, who judge to quickly and can be scathing in their messages. All I ask is for understanding not judgement. "

See your an Everton fan so your alright in our book

you will get people on here that act holier than thou, but for the most part most are understanding and open minded, just block and ignore people who give you grief over the situation.

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Judgement is rife on fab and probably worse than in the outside world because for some reason people feel able to express their judgement openly where in real life they'd keep quiet. I suspect the anonymity of the Internet has a lot to do with it