FabSwingers.com forum: The attention status

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's come to the time where I need to renew my membership, I love the people and site but I don't have much luck. Now is it worth sticking to it and renewing my membership or do I take my loss?

Does anyone on here like Indian guys like me?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyone

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By *otlipsandSirCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

"It's come to the time where I need to renew my membership, I love the people and site but I don't have much luck. Now is it worth sticking to it and renewing my membership or do I take my loss?

Does anyone on here like Indian guys like me? "

Needy is so unattractive

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's come to the time where I need to renew my membership, I love the people and site but I don't have much luck. Now is it worth sticking to it and renewing my membership or do I take my loss?

Does anyone on here like Indian guys like me?

Needy is so unattractive

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I know, and I know a lot of people become needy on here, I'm probably having a "I need a love day" but don't we all

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By *otlipsandSirCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

"It's come to the time where I need to renew my membership, I love the people and site but I don't have much luck. Now is it worth sticking to it and renewing my membership or do I take my loss?

Does anyone on here like Indian guys like me?

Needy is so unattractive

I know, and I know a lot of people become needy on here, I'm probably having a "I need a love day" but don't we all "

Wrong site for that !

Try mum's net lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends, do you miss the money. You can still be here and not pay and just see how things roll.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's come to the time where I need to renew my membership, I love the people and site but I don't have much luck. Now is it worth sticking to it and renewing my membership or do I take my loss?

Does anyone on here like Indian guys like me?

Needy is so unattractive

I know, and I know a lot of people become needy on here, I'm probably having a "I need a love day" but don't we all

Wrong site for that !

Try mum's net lol

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cold

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

You've got to be in it to win it!

Stay on.

As to your last question some people like Indian guys and some don't.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Depends, do you miss the money. You can still be here and not pay and just see how things roll. "
money isn't the issue, it's not like it's expensive. But like I feel like I'm not attractive to anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends, do you miss the money. You can still be here and not pay and just see how things roll. money isn't the issue, it's not like it's expensive. But like I feel like I'm not attractive to anyone "

We're all attractive to someone fear not.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Men often say this. It's nothing to do with you being unattractive because you're not. It's more to do with a combination of your age and the number of men on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Depends, do you miss the money. You can still be here and not pay and just see how things roll. money isn't the issue, it's not like it's expensive. But like I feel like I'm not attractive to anyone

We're all attractive to someone fear not. "
I know the ratio is terrible, but I'm sure I'm better looking than a guy with his cock out and a weight issue as their only picture on here

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

I doubt it’s your ethnicity that is the sticking point. You’re a good looker and clearly intelligent, so it must be something else. I would suggest reviewing your profile and opening messages as they are your first selling opportunity. Do they sell you so well that a woman might prefer you to another guy? If you can’t say yes to that, you’ve found the problem. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I doubt it’s your ethnicity that is the sticking point. You’re a good looker and clearly intelligent, so it must be something else. I would suggest reviewing your profile and opening messages as they are your first selling opportunity. Do they sell you so well that a woman might prefer you to another guy? If you can’t say yes to that, you’ve found the problem. Good luck

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so the "hi I'm Sol, I'm Indian, I make a mean curry, and depending on the day of the week I'm cuddly" doesn't make me stand out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends, do you miss the money. You can still be here and not pay and just see how things roll. money isn't the issue, it's not like it's expensive. But like I feel like I'm not attractive to anyone

We're all attractive to someone fear not. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well my membership has ended at midnight, so I'm on minimal, I know no one really knows me but would any of you lot think it's worth join, do I spark an interest to someone on here

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Well my membership has ended at midnight, so I'm on minimal, I know no one really knows me but would any of you lot think it's worth join, do I spark an interest to someone on here"

Being a site supporter has little or no influence on the interest you will attract although some do use filters to prevent non supporters from contacting them

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Asking folk if u shud stay is just silly! Ur an adult man stay or leave, im not being mean but u must decide!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Asking folk if u shud stay is just silly! Ur an adult man stay or leave, im not being mean but u must decide! "
I know, I don't know what's wrong with me tonight I think I'm just needy tonight and knowing my membership has ended is like ahhh daym. I know I need to grow a pair and man up, but I'm just like "Someone LOVE me" today

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By *.LBCouple
over a year ago

South

The Attention Seeker ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The Attention Seeker ? "
yeah...

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By *otlipsandSirCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

"It's come to the time where I need to renew my membership, I love the people and site but I don't have much luck. Now is it worth sticking to it and renewing my membership or do I take my loss?

Does anyone on here like Indian guys like me?

Needy is so unattractive

I know, and I know a lot of people become needy on here, I'm probably having a "I need a love day" but don't we all

Wrong site for that !

Try mum's net lol

cold

Accurate !

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

I'd say you're quite attractive and usually I'm attracted to men older than myself and you're slightly younger.

You're profile seems fine. However, we're always very sceptical of single guys who cant accommodate. Because mostly round here that means they're playing away!! Which just isn't our thing.

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"Asking folk if u shud stay is just silly! Ur an adult man stay or leave, im not being mean but u must decide! I know, I don't know what's wrong with me tonight I think I'm just needy tonight and knowing my membership has ended is like ahhh daym. I know I need to grow a pair and man up, but I'm just like "Someone LOVE me" today "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your not paying to get meets your paying for a few extra benefits with the site to help you find a meet ...the actaul getting a meet is all down to you so knowing people do meet maybe look at ''you'' and see what your doing wrong pisses me off when folk think paying for a membership means insant shag ..

who fancy's a fuck ?? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

actual*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends, do you miss the money. You can still be here and not pay and just see how things roll. money isn't the issue, it's not like it's expensive. But like I feel like I'm not attractive to anyone

We're all attractive to someone fear not. I know the ratio is terrible, but I'm sure I'm better looking than a guy with his cock out and a weight issue as their only picture on here "

Wow so someone with a weight issue comment was not needed but I will let the one pass.

It's not about just about looks. People are on here for many different things. They have there wants needs and some people will match that some will not.

Things that will put us off from talking to someone are

Needy posts and statuses

Putting people down because of how they look

Arrogance

Lack of confidence

Passive aggressive statuses

Also if people do t read our profile and message us when they are not what we are looking for

There are other things but that's the main ones on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"your not paying to get meets your paying for a few extra benefits with the site to help you find a meet ...the actaul getting a meet is all down to you so knowing people do meet maybe look at ''you'' and see what your doing wrong pisses me off when folk think paying for a membership means insant shag ..

who fancy's a fuck ?? lol"
nooo I know this isn't a instant shag site I wouldn't want that it's just like I'm getting nowhere because girls are just fed up of guys

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

Am I attracted to Indian guys?

No, I’m not attracted to anyone purely based on the colour of their skin!

First glance at your pictures I think you are good looking! And in good shape. So definitely a visual attraction there.

It’s just a brutal world on here for single guys. Maybe get yourself to a club to give yourself an opportunity to chat and get to know people instead! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's come to the time where I need to renew my membership, I love the people and site but I don't have much luck. Now is it worth sticking to it and renewing my membership or do I take my loss?

Does anyone on here like Indian guys like me? "

Can I ask why the fixation on the fact you're Asian? You mention it a lot in your comments here. The first paragraph of your profile you state it and then again in the second paragraph. Why? Your profile pic clearly shows your ethnicity why hammer it home twice in the opening text of your profile?

Your profile is your chance to sell yourself. Tell people about you, who you are, where you are, what you are looking for. Tell people the sort of person you're looking for.

Get a few more pics, don't pose in front of a mirror, any candid pics a friend has taken you didnt know they'd took, one where you're relaxed are sometimes the most natural ones.

And move away from broadcasting that you're Asian. I've never seen a profile that starts like yours whether the person is white, black, Chinese, or Asian. Your profile is your first and only chance to make an impression.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, as has been stated, you can't accommodate, to most this automatically means you're married or living with someone. There are other possible reasons, you live with parents, you're in shared accommodation, you just don't want people knowing where you live. You're a 29 year old single guy how can't accommodate, that can send up a warning flare.

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

TO the OP:

1. As pointed out before - for many girls if you can't accommodate you're assumed to be attached and cheating. While I personally don't mind that most on this site have a thing against attached men. On the other hand if you can't accommodate because you're a single dad or something, say it because that's definitely attractive

2. Most of us are attracted to the mind and sex follows. Yes this is a sex site but it's the mind that attracts most of us. You'll find blokes much older and much less fit than you having meet after meet because they engage with their mind. So consider going to socials or clubs where you can meet people and get known.

3. Asian IS definitely an issue but since there are so many people on Fab even with those white girls who don't like Asians, you still have loads (like myself) who do like Asians and others of colour. Again, it's the mind you have to engage

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's come to the time where I need to renew my membership, I love the people and site but I don't have much luck. Now is it worth sticking to it and renewing my membership or do I take my loss?

Does anyone on here like Indian guys like me?

Your profile is your chance to sell yourself. Tell people about you, who you are, where you are, what you are looking for. Tell people the sort of person you're looking for.

Get a few more pics, don't pose in front of a mirror, any candid pics a friend has taken you didnt know they'd took, one where you're relaxed are sometimes the most natural ones.

The OP has not asked for profile advice, so why are you picking hid profile to pieces??? Forum rules.....try reading them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's come to the time where I need to renew my membership, I love the people and site but I don't have much luck. Now is it worth sticking to it and renewing my membership or do I take my loss?

Does anyone on here like Indian guys like me?

Your profile is your chance to sell yourself. Tell people about you, who you are, where you are, what you are looking for. Tell people the sort of person you're looking for.

Get a few more pics, don't pose in front of a mirror, any candid pics a friend has taken you didnt know they'd took, one where you're relaxed are sometimes the most natural ones.

The OP has not asked for profile advice, so why are you picking hid profile to pieces??? Forum rules.....try reading them x"

Wasn't aware I was picking his profile to pieces, the intention was to offer advice. If it has come across as picking then I apologise.

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By *aisy SteinerWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

Things that will put us off from talking to someone are

Needy posts and statuses

Putting people down because of how they look

Arrogance

Lack of confidence

Passive aggressive statuses

Also if people do t read our profile and message us when they are not what we are looking for

There are other things but that's the main ones on here"

This, 100 times this!

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By *averockrockMan
over a year ago

swindon

My experience is that you don’t need a paid membership to meet someone through the site. I guess it will give you better features which will help but ultimately is all about you and how you portray yourself and luck!

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