FabSwingers.com forum: Sex without any connection.

By *ommyxyz OP Man
over a year ago

Crawley

Hay just been on a meet, a mumbled hello clothes off, “ you gonna fuck me” earlier I was chatting in Revenge with a guy about how people in saunas not talking! So it’s both sexes.

Can you have sex without interaction?

In case your interested I can’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't personally, I need to find something that I like about the other person for it to go ahead.

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

I have done a meet where we have met, not spoken fucked then left. That was pretty hot but I knew the guy & had met before. I couldn't do it with a random stranger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it soulless and joyless

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I think I probably could, but I haven't yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gotta be some banter before anything for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could.

But wouldn't. It's all about the connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No way. Without connection we are just animals.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"Hay just been on a meet, a mumbled hello clothes off, “ you gonna fuck me” earlier I was chatting in Revenge with a guy about how people in saunas not talking! So it’s both sexes.

Can you have sex without interaction?

In case your interested I can’t."
Yup. Been quite good too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has to be an attraction and a banter connection for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No way. Without connection we are just animals. "

Darn those animalistic impulses!

Has to be a connection/banter. Things in common, similar interests etc need chemistry.

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

personally i couldn't do it but each to there own

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Has to be a connection for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me, no connection no sex

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

So, what about gangbangs?

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

"So, what about gangbangs?"
not for me

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It depends what we mean by connection. I like to get along with people but I'm not interested in full on relationship connections.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there’s no connection, then there won’t be action

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Sex without chemistry or interaction, no. If I'd been speaking online to someone for a bit and we fucked in some sort of roleplay where we didn't talk, yes. But otherwise, it's not really for me. I like a good conversation with people and enjoy the socialising side a lot, for me that's almost as important as the sex.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Depend on what you mean by connection, it takes very little for me to get a hard-on, so can have sex without whatever you mean without connection.

Sure, I have in the past, if you look fit and healthy I'm sure I will in the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sex without chemistry or interaction, no. If I'd been speaking online to someone for a bit and we fucked in some sort of roleplay where we didn't talk, yes. But otherwise, it's not really for me. I like a good conversation with people and enjoy the socialising side a lot, for me that's almost as important as the sex."

Spot on!

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By *ommyxyz OP Man
over a year ago

Crawley

"So, what about gangbangs?"

Good point, not knocking them but never been for me, it’s really the smiling, saying hi, kissing. Perhaps it’s silly but it’s kind of making love even if it’s just actually having sex with a stranger. It’s making love to a stranger! Intimacy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, rather have a wank than no connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hay just been on a meet, a mumbled hello clothes off, “ you gonna fuck me” earlier I was chatting in Revenge with a guy about how people in saunas not talking! So it’s both sexes.

Can you have sex without interaction?

In case your interested I can’t."

Erm defo not for me but each to their own maybe that’s where I go wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't have sex without sexual attraction but sometimes words aren't required for that.

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By *ommyxyz OP Man
over a year ago

Crawley

"Hay just been on a meet, a mumbled hello clothes off, “ you gonna fuck me” earlier I was chatting in Revenge with a guy about how people in saunas not talking! So it’s both sexes.

Can you have sex without interaction?

In case your interested I can’t.

Erm defo not for me but each to their own maybe that’s where I go wrong

No your not wrong!

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

No whilst it starts with physical attraction we have to also be stimulated by their mind, personality call it whatever. If we don't have that then no matter how good they look we wouldn't have sex with them.

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

No can't do it.

Perhaps why I keep knocking them back.

Its proving trickier than we thought to find a good match.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had fuck and goes and have no problem with them, usually build up some kind of fun rapport while fucking even if it's a quickie though. So what can start out as no connection usually ends with atleast a fun shag!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Done but it is like no life in it.. Loved always when there is a connection and understanding..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I couldn’t wouldn’t be enjoyable at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

done it but its pretty dull ,no thanks

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By *mootholeTV/TS
over a year ago

london

I do lots of fuck and go meets,I like the whole stranger thing I never get bored, guys let me in and use me and I go some, don’t even talk other than what they want me to do, obviously some meets are more memorable than others the connection is just the sex bit for me and guys using me

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I did it. Really sexy I thought. Walked in through his unlocked door. He was lying on the floor. I was wearing a dress and no knickers. I sat on his face and he gave me oral till I came. I walked out of the house. Neither of us said a word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did it. Really sexy I thought. Walked in through his unlocked door. He was lying on the floor. I was wearing a dress and no knickers. I sat on his face and he gave me oral till I came. I walked out of the house. Neither of us said a word. "

he might have kept his door open from then on even in nights.. did you check that house anytime again? lols

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not something I would want to indulge in, unless as Meli said, it was in a role play scenario with someone i already knew.

Holly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, what about gangbangs?"

Recently was involved in one and I have to say it was ruddy awesome!!

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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago

wherever

If I already no and have met them before and time is limited I can do it. Otherwise no I wouldn’t enjoy it

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By *irth VaderMan
over a year ago

Busby

I’m pleased to say that my cock has the same integrity as I do. If there isn’t a connection then he hibernates. Not a hope in hell of him rising to the occasion if I’m not attracted to the lady.

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By *ustinCredible.Man
over a year ago

whitecross/sankey valley

Done the faceless meets the no talking meets and last minute meets. Quite a lot of the time I will meet short notice just because I've been asked and don't want to let a couple down ect lol

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

Not on a 1:1 meet. I need banter, loads of kissing and cuddling before fucking

On group sex meets / GBs yes absolutely. Sometimes I don't even know who's fucking me or cleaning me out, but then the whole atmosphere is so charged I'm having orgasm after orgasm

I've never done the "I'm blindfolded come fuck me" thing on my own (don't know if any women do that) but have in a group scenario but again, that's group sex not 1:1

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
over a year ago

Where ever I lay my hat

"Not on a 1:1 meet. I need banter, loads of kissing and cuddling before fucking

On group sex meets / GBs yes absolutely. Sometimes I don't even know who's fucking me or cleaning me out, but then the whole atmosphere is so charged I'm having orgasm after orgasm

I've never done the "I'm blindfolded come fuck me" thing on my own (don't know if any women do that) but have in a group scenario but again, that's group sex not 1:1"

This

1 to 1 there has to be a connection but in a group environment it is more just animal instinct and pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely need a connection before sex. However there is one exception, and that's if not a word is spoken, then I can do it then too, easily. I think it's got something to do with mystery. If I don't even know what their voice sounds like, that's kinky and intriguing to me.

My mental/sexual block happens when there's been a bit of interaction, but there's not a connection. That's why I really don't like one night stands.

Basically, I can have sex in an all-or-nothing scenario, but not an in-between one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All men, wouldn't care if it came to it, sex is sex. We all have needs. But without a connection you'll have sex and once you're done it will become awkward, you would want them to leave straight after. Having a connection makes it more comfortable and it means after you won't want them out the house and will actually want to speak and take care of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its perfectly possible yes but dont expect me to enjoy it much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope I couldn't do it. Would rather use a toy

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It's interesting that nearly everyone has said that enjoyable sex is only possible with physical attraction and mental connection but on another thread where a couple have stated what they require for such a connection, there are several posts implying that they're asking too much.

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By *ossdinCouple
over a year ago

CROYDON/GATWICK/BEXHILL

I rather like that idea, any women want to indulge?

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

I can, don't really need any connection and just need attraction and the drive to want sex.

Despite this approaching me only for sex is usually a put off. Bit of banter first,letme know i'm gonna enjoy it too and i'm happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could do it definitely, so long as I could suck her toes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Connection is key for me. I just don't get aroused with people who head straight to filth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No way. Without connection we are just animals. "
procreating to create life, the life cycle almost animalistic

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I never used to think so. But one night me and my partner were in a club having sex in one of the private rooms. The door was unlocked. A couple walked in and gestured was it ok, we welcomed them in. We had never seen this couple before. We didn't really talk (Don't think they spoke much English) it just all sort of happen and we were all playing together. It was hot and everyone enjoyed them self. Then when things came to a natural conclusion they simply said thank you, good bye and left. Maybe that was the exception that proved the rule? It definitely challenged our perception. Or many there was an unspoken instant connection? I don't know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never used to think so. But one night me and my partner were in a club having sex in one of the private rooms. The door was unlocked. A couple walked in and gestured was it ok, we welcomed them in. We had never seen this couple before. We didn't really talk (Don't think they spoke much English) it just all sort of happen and we were all playing together. It was hot and everyone enjoyed them self. Then when things came to a natural conclusion they simply said thank you, good bye and left. Maybe that was the exception that proved the rule? It definitely challenged our perception. Or many there was an unspoken instant connection? I don't know."
it was like being at Woodstock...... Heaven

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By *ommyxyz OP Man
over a year ago

Crawley

"It's interesting that nearly everyone has said that enjoyable sex is only possible with physical attraction and mental connection but on another thread where a couple have stated what they require for such a connection, there are several posts implying that they're asking too much."

Mmm dyou think maybe people say what they think sounds good?

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By *ommyxyz OP Man
over a year ago

Crawley

"All men, wouldn't care if it came to it, sex is sex. We all have needs. But without a connection you'll have sex and once you're done it will become awkward, you would want them to leave straight after. Having a connection makes it more comfortable and it means after you won't want them out the house and will actually want to speak and take care of them "

Sorry no, not all men.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Mmm dyou think maybe people say what they think sounds good?"

To a large extent yes. There is also a culture on fab that rewards low self esteem in women and derides anyone who displays what's perceived as a good opinion of themselves. This leads to the contradiction displayed in the two threads I mentioned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be awkward and unsatisfying I think... I've played out roles in similar scenarios but I knew the person... And tbf even those didn't really get my blood pumping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No way for us there has to be some sort of connection for even the slightest thing to happen.

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

That sounds fantastic . As long as you get the right house!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to make love to the ladies I engage with, without being in love with them. I find that the erotic bit. So for me it's a no I need a connection. Mr

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

That sounds fantastic . As long as you get the right house!

imagine the surprise of a guy in the wrong house laying on the floor relaxing after yoga

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By *offee and KinksCouple
over a year ago

Notts/Derby

For us there has to be a connection of some sort, with one exception.

If we’re playing by our glory hole rules, then Ms H doesn’t get to know who it is, but I’m always there by her side so I do.

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By *wesomepearWoman
over a year ago

Northamptonshire

"Connection is key for me. I just don't get aroused with people who head straight to filth. "

This for me too, I need the chat, flirt and tease!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had one meet where only two messages were swapped they turned up total meet was around 45 minutes was fun was a single man probably wouldn't do it with couple there definitely needs to be chemistry in that situation

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

That sounds fantastic . As long as you get the right house!

imagine the surprise of a guy in the wrong house laying on the floor relaxing after yoga"

I may try this tonight ... I’ll let you know how I get on ! I may be gone some time

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

That sounds fantastic . As long as you get the right house!

imagine the surprise of a guy in the wrong house laying on the floor relaxing after yoga

I may try this tonight ... I’ll let you know how I get on ! I may be gone some time

Take snacks

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"Hay just been on a meet, a mumbled hello clothes off, “ you gonna fuck me” earlier I was chatting in Revenge with a guy about how people in saunas not talking! So it’s both sexes.

Can you have sex without interaction?

In case your interested I can’t."

I most certainly can, and I get an extra kick out of it. We swing mainly in clubs where I have the choice of one or several guys at a time, and with the exception of one or two that have become friends, they are generally totally anonymous. For us it is what swinging is all about - we have all the connection we need with our vanilla friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That sounds dire!

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"That sounds dire! "

Why? We are here to fulfill our sexual fantasies, not to date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That sounds dire!

Why? We are here to fulfill our sexual fantasies, not to date."

All right - this sounds dire TO ME. Personally I don't have any sexual fantasies to fulfil, and am not here to date either. People are here for lots of different reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While sex when you really connect with someone is very intimate and intense, this is definitely a bucket list item. Strips away everything to pure sex - somehow powerfully erotic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell no!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of my favourite things is to facial women I have never met before in outdoor locations, ideally minimum to no conversation, just instruct them to kneel and hold their face back ready to accept my cum.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"That sounds dire! "
I've done it many many times and had fantastic sex. In fact one of my best experiences I was blindfolded throughout and it was so sexy.

I often have fun with guys I have no connection other than pure lust and wanting sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That sounds dire! I've done it many many times and had fantastic sex. In fact one of my best experiences I was blindfolded throughout and it was so sexy.

I often have fun with guys I have no connection other than pure lust and wanting sex "

Good for you, but not my thing at all. I am not into cold, soulless experiences

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"That sounds dire! I've done it many many times and had fantastic sex. In fact one of my best experiences I was blindfolded throughout and it was so sexy.

I often have fun with guys I have no connection other than pure lust and wanting sex

Good for you, but not my thing at all. I am not into cold, soulless experiences "

The experience is neither cold nor soulless. You are possibly missing the fact it can be very different for couples compared to single. Why would a woman in a very long term loving relationship want "a connection" with other men?

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"That sounds dire! I've done it many many times and had fantastic sex. In fact one of my best experiences I was blindfolded throughout and it was so sexy.

I often have fun with guys I have no connection other than pure lust and wanting sex

Good for you, but not my thing at all. I am not into cold, soulless experiences "
I've never found them to be either cold or soulless.. quite the oppposite

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By *ananas57Couple
over a year ago

lake ariel

I need to at least have a drink with the guy first

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

"That sounds dire! I've done it many many times and had fantastic sex. In fact one of my best experiences I was blindfolded throughout and it was so sexy.

I often have fun with guys I have no connection other than pure lust and wanting sex

Good for you, but not my thing at all. I am not into cold, soulless experiences

Why not??

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

For me no, I need that connection / spark or else it’s just cold and mechanical

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"That sounds dire! I've done it many many times and had fantastic sex. In fact one of my best experiences I was blindfolded throughout and it was so sexy.

I often have fun with guys I have no connection other than pure lust and wanting sex

Good for you, but not my thing at all. I am not into cold, soulless experiences

Why not?? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No way. Without connection we are just animals. "

Even most animals (larger mammals) at least usually face each other up a little and a bit of a sniff first!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That sounds dire! I've done it many many times and had fantastic sex. In fact one of my best experiences I was blindfolded throughout and it was so sexy.

I often have fun with guys I have no connection other than pure lust and wanting sex

Good for you, but not my thing at all. I am not into cold, soulless experiences

Why not??

Because for many couples their partner gives them all the connection they need. Women don't have an emotional connection with their vibrators, but they still get a hell if a lot of sexual pleasure from them."
this we don't need any to feel anything we have had meets where we have never kissed or even swapped first names were all fun in different ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. If the connections not there i wouldnt.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

There's not a hierarchy(although sometimes it appears that there is) according to who and how you meet. If the people you have sex with want the same as you it's got the potential to be good whether you have a deep or superficial connection

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By *ndy0001Man
over a year ago

leeds

Depends on the scenario.

I think so yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That sounds dire! I've done it many many times and had fantastic sex. In fact one of my best experiences I was blindfolded throughout and it was so sexy.

I often have fun with guys I have no connection other than pure lust and wanting sex

Good for you, but not my thing at all. I am not into cold, soulless experiences

Why not??

Absolutely right. Anyone on here with a long term partner (they like) either as a couple or as fab single has all the connection and emotional nurishmemt they need from their non fab life. All you need is pure sexual attraction on here to enjoy yourself.

If you are looking for more of a connection on here fair enough but not everyone needs it or wants it.

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By *_RiderMan
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I can and have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could, and have.

Wouldn't want to, and wouldn't again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hay just been on a meet, a mumbled hello clothes off, “ you gonna fuck me” earlier I was chatting in Revenge with a guy about how people in saunas not talking! So it’s both sexes.

Can you have sex without interaction?

In case your interested I can’t."
If you're in a club or even on the nudist beach and a sexual act is taking place that causes your penis to point upwards I'm sure sex without interaction could take place

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

I couldn’t literally not speak to the person but when I meet with a guy for a threesome it’s just sex, I’m not really into the whole let’s have a social first, we lead busy lives, we know what we are here for etc

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'd rather sort myself out tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Connection for one to one or going to a club together. No connection needed for heat of the moment, grab-a-passing Male to join in group sex in a club. Can’t really do the latter without the former though usually.

I can see how this would be very different for couples.

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