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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you think this is racist? When women put this , Only asking , don't shoot me

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside


"Do you think this is racist? When women put this , Only asking , don't shoot me "

no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think this is racist? When women put this , Only asking , don't shoot me "

No everyone has a preference, no different to the " athletic body, no bbw, dad bod, extra wobbly bits" if saying "black only" is racist everyone would be crying because your not what other people want

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Its purely a preference! My preference is no black/ asian men! My son is mixed race so its not me being ' rascist' at the moment my attraction are not above! I have noticed a few posts regarding this from men " how dare females only want black men" its insane! ..i choose who i fancy x

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Is only wanting to meet women sexist? No it's personal choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its purely a preference! My preference is no black/ asian men! My son is mixed race so its not me being ' rascist' at the moment my attraction are not above! I have noticed a few posts regarding this from men " how dare females only want black men" its insane! ..i choose who i fancy x"

Is your preference purely aesthetic??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could easily argue(me being a black guy or mixed race),means that I'm typecast to be a certain something, other than a fully functioning human being with thoughts and desires that are not denoted by my colour.

but as wesley snipes says..

"always bet on black"

*serious answer is that it isn't racist..and I'll assume you think it is because you are white and think the profiles u wanna shag have this as their preference.

In fairness to you OP, there are many women/couples who have the black only view and yes sometimes it's all about taboo,cuckholding etc

I have 4 generations of black/mixedrace/white mixing in my family, none of it was about taboos etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I could easily argue(me being a black guy or mixed race),means that I'm typecast to be a certain something, other than a fully functioning human being with thoughts and desires that are not denoted by my colour.

but as wesley snipes says..

"always bet on black"

*serious answer is that it isn't racist..and I'll assume you think it is because you are white and think the profiles u wanna shag have this as their preference.

In fairness to you OP, there are many women/couples who have the black only view and yes sometimes it's all about taboo,cuckholding etc

I have 4 generations of black/mixedrace/white mixing in my family, none of it was about taboos etc "

My view is, we like what we like.

Regardless of colour, size, shape or gender.

For me it's all about personality and a mutual attraction. I have to be physically attracted to someone before I could "shag" them.. I'd not get any pleasure from being lay there wishing they would finish Haha

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

No but apparently to put white guys only is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its just preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I could easily argue(me being a black guy or mixed race),means that I'm typecast to be a certain something, other than a fully functioning human being with thoughts and desires that are not denoted by my colour.

but as wesley snipes says..

"always bet on black"

*serious answer is that it isn't racist..and I'll assume you think it is because you are white and think the profiles u wanna shag have this as their preference.

In fairness to you OP, there are many women/couples who have the black only view and yes sometimes it's all about taboo,cuckholding etc

I have 4 generations of black/mixedrace/white mixing in my family, none of it was about taboos etc

My view is, we like what we like.

Regardless of colour, size, shape or gender.

For me it's all about personality and a mutual attraction. I have to be physically attracted to someone before I could "shag" them.. I'd not get any pleasure from being lay there wishing they would finish Haha "

rules out blindfolded sex grrrrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its just preference. "

Unfortunately some people use ‘preference’ to hide their prejudices and racism

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, i just avoid these women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not attracted to black people, doesn't make me racist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No but apparently to put white guys only is. "

well there are black women who only want white men too..I cant say its racist.

One of the biggest problems really is; we typecast people into a narrative that suits a bias, normally that bias is self suited.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"Do you think this is racist? When women put this , Only asking , don't shoot me "
. No it’s not racist just preference

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"No but apparently to put white guys only is. "

To be fair that inference might be taken because the majority of members expressing a racial preference are white, seeking blacks. There may or may not be racist connotations to the preference but less so than when a member expresses a preference for their own race, if that makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I could easily argue(me being a black guy or mixed race),means that I'm typecast to be a certain something, other than a fully functioning human being with thoughts and desires that are not denoted by my colour.

but as wesley snipes says..

"always bet on black"

*serious answer is that it isn't racist..and I'll assume you think it is because you are white and think the profiles u wanna shag have this as their preference.

In fairness to you OP, there are many women/couples who have the black only view and yes sometimes it's all about taboo,cuckholding etc

I have 4 generations of black/mixedrace/white mixing in my family, none of it was about taboos etc

My view is, we like what we like.

Regardless of colour, size, shape or gender.

For me it's all about personality and a mutual attraction. I have to be physically attracted to someone before I could "shag" them.. I'd not get any pleasure from being lay there wishing they would finish Haha

rules out blindfolded sex grrrrrr "

I've done female glory hole...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No but apparently to put white guys only is.

To be fair that inference might be taken because the majority of members expressing a racial preference are white, seeking blacks. There may or may not be racist connotations to the preference but less so than when a member expresses a preference for their own race, if that makes sense."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I could easily argue(me being a black guy or mixed race),means that I'm typecast to be a certain something, other than a fully functioning human being with thoughts and desires that are not denoted by my colour.

but as wesley snipes says..

"always bet on black"

*serious answer is that it isn't racist..and I'll assume you think it is because you are white and think the profiles u wanna shag have this as their preference.

In fairness to you OP, there are many women/couples who have the black only view and yes sometimes it's all about taboo,cuckholding etc

I have 4 generations of black/mixedrace/white mixing in my family, none of it was about taboos etc

My view is, we like what we like.

Regardless of colour, size, shape or gender.

For me it's all about personality and a mutual attraction. I have to be physically attracted to someone before I could "shag" them.. I'd not get any pleasure from being lay there wishing they would finish Haha

rules out blindfolded sex grrrrrr

I've done female glory hole... "

I'm thinking thats black holes...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here we go again.....

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"No but apparently to put white guys only is.

well there are black women who only want white men too..I cant say its racist.

One of the biggest problems really is; we typecast people into a narrative that suits a bias, normally that bias is self suited."
I don't think it is but when I did I've stated for a greedy girl event that the ladies going only wanted white guys.. And omg ..

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"Here we go again....."

It's like a daily thing on here. Maybe it needs to be added into the FAQ. Daily, is frequent, and it's certainly a question asked.

No OP its not racist. It's preference.

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By *irkydirkyMan
over a year ago

bolton


"Do you think this is racist? When women put this , Only asking , don't shoot me "

Seriously, not this again.. Really think about what you’re asking...

NO ITS NOT, ITS NOT EVEN CLOSE...

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By *oul BrothaMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy far far away

I really do wonder about the average intellect of fab members.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"I really do wonder about the average intellect of fab members. "

It's pretty damn low my friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a preference surely not a supremacist statement of course it’s fine

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

Yes definitely like people who are ageists heightism erm any ism in fact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No but apparently to put white guys only is.

well there are black women who only want white men too..I cant say its racist.

One of the biggest problems really is; we typecast people into a narrative that suits a bias, normally that bias is self suited. I don't think it is but when I did I've stated for a greedy girl event that the ladies going only wanted white guys.. And omg .. "

that sounds natural cali as you have stated what people you wish to shag and therefore gathered like minded others.

we did converse on the samne subject matter more than 3 years ago, you know you have bias.

Most people don't like being excluded-simple fact, it doesn't give them the right to shout racist/sexist etc

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By *TkitkatWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Specifying white only black only women only men only isn't a problem. Nor is bbw only, blondes only, none smokers only.

In the context of this site it's pure preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No,just boils down to preferences

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Its purely a preference! My preference is no black/ asian men! My son is mixed race so its not me being ' rascist' at the moment my attraction are not above! I have noticed a few posts regarding this from men " how dare females only want black men" its insane! ..i choose who i fancy x Not at all, if i meet a man & there is mental chemistry with humour & compassion etc then i will find attraction in him!

Is your preference purely aesthetic??"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think this is racist? When women put this , Only asking , don't shoot me "

No. It's just a preference hun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think this is racist? When women put this , Only asking , don't shoot me

No everyone has a preference, no different to the " athletic body, no bbw, dad bod, extra wobbly bits" if saying "black only" is racist everyone would be crying because your not what other people want "

I now think he ment the use of the word black. It could be worded better mind you but not initially racist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No but apparently to put white guys only is.

To be fair that inference might be taken because the majority of members expressing a racial preference are white, seeking blacks. There may or may not be racist connotations to the preference but less so than when a member expresses a preference for their own race, if that makes sense."

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

Black guys only?

Yes please, where do I queue?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"No but apparently to put white guys only is.

To be fair that inference might be taken because the majority of members expressing a racial preference are white, seeking blacks. There may or may not be racist connotations to the preference but less so than when a member expresses a preference for their own race, if that makes sense.

"

I can't vbe bothered scrolling back to see who said that but yes, spot on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Black guys only?

Yes please, where do I queue? "

Can you show me where said queue is please lol.

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By *dores blackmenWoman
over a year ago

incognito mode ;-)

No it's a preference,I've never needed to say it on my profile even when it was showing

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House


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Can you show me where said queue is please lol. "

Oh we can take you to some parties where it's just wall to wall hunks. Though not BMFC, we totally hate that party night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think this is racist? When women put this , Only asking , don't shoot me

Seriously, not this again.. Really think about what you’re asking...

NO ITS NOT, ITS NOT EVEN CLOSE... "

I realy do think that people start these stupid threads just for attention. It's the same thing week in and week out. NO IT IS NOT RACIST

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

~Mia

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"Do you think this is racist? When women put this , Only asking , don't shoot me "

No, it is not.

Does this answer your question?

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


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Can you show me where said queue is please lol.

Oh we can take you to some parties where it's just wall to wall hunks. Though not BMFC, we totally hate that party night. "

You can hate it but it is the most long-standing of many.

And yes, I know some of the others but if you let me know some of the lesser-known ones, it will be appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think this is racist? When women put this , Only asking , don't shoot me "

Very think line between racism and preference. you have just stepped on landmine

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"No, i just avoid these women. "

Thank you on behalf of all of us!

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"Do you think this is racist? When women put this , Only asking , don't shoot me

Very think line between racism and preference. you have just stepped on landmine"

Very thick, actually. How can you tell someone to meet someone they are not attracted to?

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"Its just preference.

Unfortunately some people use ‘preference’ to hide their prejudices and racism "

There we go again. Let us do nothing but meet everyone who asks.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"Its purely a preference! My preference is no black/ asian men! My son is mixed race so its not me being ' rascist' at the moment my attraction are not above! I have noticed a few posts regarding this from men " how dare females only want black men" its insane! ..i choose who i fancy x

Is your preference purely aesthetic??"

Partly. Also habit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think it’s racist at all, I appreciate people have a preference. You can’t be everyone’s flavour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think this is racist? When women put this , Only asking , don't shoot me "

NO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not racist just a sexual preference nothing more, just the same as preferring bald pussy! You like what you like

I just block profiles that state BBC

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not racier. I meet a black guy regularly who’s preference is to meet with white women or cross dressers, never felt like it was racism either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see black people brown people white people mix race people I just see people horny horny people .. preference to me is the finer details like don't like beards or gosh you sound like a idiot lol not skin color

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"No, i just avoid these women. "

Same here; block, block, blockity block!

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.


"Do you think this is racist? When women put this , Only asking , don't shoot me "

One of my close friends only likes tall men, we all have different preferences. We are attracted to what we are attracted to. We are here to have amazing sexual experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By *oredinglasgow101Man
over a year ago

glasgow

It’s a preference

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester


"Do you think this is racist? When women put this , Only asking , don't shoot me "

OP, how did reading that on someones profile make you feel?

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I think our sovereign sexual desires need no excuse or apology. It's our bodies our rules.

As to our preferences shaped by wider exposure and life experiance including our preferences on race, most likely racist to a degree. So maybe that can lead us to sexual preferences that have a basis in very deep seated internalised racism and/or ways we see people even if we not see our self (or are) racist per se. But we shouldn't give people a hard time for their sexual preferences that are deep seated from a very young and very much part of our fabric. Like so many other of our sexual preferences are influenced from a very young age and truly are part of the individual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think this is racist? When women put this , Only asking , don't shoot me "

No

Next question?

Only under 38... Ageist? No

Over 6ft.... Heightist? No

Size 8 and under or only BBW, well hung only or gaping fanny.... Body shaming? No

Since when has having a preference become offensive?

Only on fab I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think our sovereign sexual desires need no excuse or apology. It's our bodies our rules.

As to our preferences shaped by wider exposure and life experiance including our preferences on race, most likely racist to a degree. So maybe that can lead us to sexual preferences that have a basis in very deep seated internalised racism and/or ways we see people even if we not see our self (or are) racist per se. But we shouldn't give people a hard time for their sexual preferences that are deep seated from a very young and very much part of our fabric. Like so many other of our sexual preferences are influenced from a very young age and truly are part of the individual. "

Question. Is it right that you speculate and formulate a defensive argument about the possibility that someone's preferences are or could be termed racist? If so is that in itself not one of the worst forms of degradation or maligning of someones character without cause or warrant?

It's the one thing that puts me off meeting forumites.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"No, i just avoid these women.

Same here; block, block, blockity block! "

In case they see the error of their ways and try to get in touch?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesnt really matter what anyone says about anything. Fault can always be found by someone looking for it.

I prefer black men. Is it because they all have massive cocks which is what most white guys think the reason is? No because they dont.

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By *imandHerNottsCouple
over a year ago

North Notts


"Do you think this is racist? When women put this , Only asking , don't shoot me "

Not at all simply a preference x

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"I think our sovereign sexual desires need no excuse or apology. It's our bodies our rules.

As to our preferences shaped by wider exposure and life experiance including our preferences on race, most likely racist to a degree. So maybe that can lead us to sexual preferences that have a basis in very deep seated internalised racism and/or ways we see people even if we not see our self (or are) racist per se. But we shouldn't give people a hard time for their sexual preferences that are deep seated from a very young and very much part of our fabric. Like so many other of our sexual preferences are influenced from a very young age and truly are part of the individual.

Question. Is it right that you speculate and formulate a defensive argument about the possibility that someone's preferences are or could be termed racist? If so is that in itself not one of the worst forms of degradation or maligning of someones character without cause or warrant?

It's the one thing that puts me off meeting forumites."

Ok, hopefully I've understood your question. Are you talking on a point of terminology and/or labbling? Now clearly my commentary is not based on an individual, more a generalised veiw of what's going on, as the nature of the original question was general. I believe that a fair amount attraction is societal and evelutionary based rather than purely by chance. And this has a lot to do with why we are attracted to people of different heights/status'/shades of skin colour etc. So I think that sometimes our preferences and fetishes based on race are based on influences and naratives we are exposed to from birth. Now it terms of terminology technically if these preferences are discriminatory based on race surely they technically racist? Personally I'm not comfortable with calling it racism per se, because the connotations of the word I dont think the reflect the nature of what maybe going on here in terms of sexual preference. I can understand why the term racist maybe be problematic. I used it more in technicality due to not really having other vocabulary for it. So yes I get that seeing things in this way is very uncomfortable but may non the less valid in terms of the origins of preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having a preference is not racist.

Discriminating on the colour of skin is.

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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago

deptford London

another one of these

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Let’s take a seat and observe. Who fancies sharing some popcorn?

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Someone else put on one of these that having a skin colour preference doesn't make me racist, in same way being streight and not wanting to sleep with someone of the same sex doesn't make me anti gay. A very good and valid point I think.

But I also think to ignore the effects that socialisation has on our racial preferences (if we have them) is disingenuous. I think often it has more deep seated context than just I prefer these kinds of looks over those kinds of looks.

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By *imandHerNottsCouple
over a year ago

North Notts


"Let’s take a seat and observe. Who fancies sharing some popcorn? "

Funnily enough when we think of you 2 and sharing popcorn doesn’t even enter our minds

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Someone else put on one of these that having a skin colour preference doesn't make me racist, in same way being streight and not wanting to sleep with someone of the same sex doesn't make me anti gay. A very good and valid point I think.

But I also think to ignore the effects that socialisation has on our racial preferences (if we have them) is disingenuous. I think often it has more deep seated context than just I prefer these kinds of looks over those kinds of looks. "

I almost fully agree with this but also understand why the knee jerk response is "it's a preference". Superficially that is the correct answer whether the 'preference' is motivated by negative or positive reasons, but given this is a site for swingers a full discourse is likely to be unwelcome but having said that racists are entitled to express a racial preference and are likely to do so but not everyone who does is a racist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Political correctness needs to stay out of the bedroom, seriously, let people go to bed with who the hell they like. It is a different matter in other areas of life, but sex and partners is a no go zone.

I get sick to death of being called a nazi and racist and threatened on other sites and apps over my preferences (thankfully not tolerated on Fab). Feel strongly about this, keep it out the bedroom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think our sovereign sexual desires need no excuse or apology. It's our bodies our rules.

As to our preferences shaped by wider exposure and life experiance including our preferences on race, most likely racist to a degree. So maybe that can lead us to sexual preferences that have a basis in very deep seated internalised racism and/or ways we see people even if we not see our self (or are) racist per se. But we shouldn't give people a hard time for their sexual preferences that are deep seated from a very young and very much part of our fabric. Like so many other of our sexual preferences are influenced from a very young age and truly are part of the individual.

Question. Is it right that you speculate and formulate a defensive argument about the possibility that someone's preferences are or could be termed racist? If so is that in itself not one of the worst forms of degradation or maligning of someones character without cause or warrant?

It's the one thing that puts me off meeting forumites.

Ok, hopefully I've understood your question. Are you talking on a point of terminology and/or labbling? Now clearly my commentary is not based on an individual, more a generalised veiw of what's going on, as the nature of the original question was general. I believe that a fair amount attraction is societal and evelutionary based rather than purely by chance. And this has a lot to do with why we are attracted to people of different heights/status'/shades of skin colour etc. So I think that sometimes our preferences and fetishes based on race are based on influences and naratives we are exposed to from birth. Now it terms of terminology technically if these preferences are discriminatory based on race surely they technically racist? Personally I'm not comfortable with calling it racism per se, because the connotations of the word I dont think the reflect the nature of what maybe going on here in terms of sexual preference. I can understand why the term racist maybe be problematic. I used it more in technicality due to not really having other vocabulary for it. So yes I get that seeing things in this way is very uncomfortable but may non the less valid in terms of the origins of preference. "

Personally you may have some valid points but I think most of it is just polemics and as such anything can be argued by twisting something with speculations on what is truth or not about someone s thinking. I'd say most of this has little to do with meets here and even if it did, it would only annoy those whom it eliminates. Those it eliminates one isn't going to meet and so makes no odds.

It's meant to be fun and one can remove the fun like a needle in a balloon to pursue this subject. I'd say it has more place in a lecture theatre than on fab.

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By *arakiss12TV/TS
over a year ago

Bedford

Essentially we are all equal, our appearances may vary but that's what gives the world a less boring standing.

If you go to a buffet meal you usually go for what tickles your taste buds, are sausage rolls feelings hurt if the cocktail sausages get picked? No, they keep on being their sausage roll self because there's always someone who loves a sausage roll. Always be true to yourself and accept you can't be everyone's sausage roll.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure if it’s racist but it is weird

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By *uffnmuffCouple
over a year ago

London


"Essentially we are all equal, our appearances may vary but that's what gives the world a less boring standing.

If you go to a buffet meal you usually go for what tickles your taste buds, are sausage rolls feelings hurt if the cocktail sausages get picked? No, they keep on being their sausage roll self because there's always someone who loves a sausage roll. Always be true to yourself and accept you can't be everyone's sausage roll. "
well said

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By *pertureTV/TS
over a year ago

New Ferry, wirral in stockings and sussies

its a personal choice, are brunettes offended when someone prefers blonds, my preference has always been for decent people, and I doubt arseholes get offended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is only racist if they don't swallow their white cum

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"I think our sovereign sexual desires need no excuse or apology. It's our bodies our rules.

As to our preferences shaped by wider exposure and life experiance including our preferences on race, most likely racist to a degree. So maybe that can lead us to sexual preferences that have a basis in very deep seated internalised racism and/or ways we see people even if we not see our self (or are) racist per se. But we shouldn't give people a hard time for their sexual preferences that are deep seated from a very young and very much part of our fabric. Like so many other of our sexual preferences are influenced from a very young age and truly are part of the individual.

Question. Is it right that you speculate and formulate a defensive argument about the possibility that someone's preferences are or could be termed racist? If so is that in itself not one of the worst forms of degradation or maligning of someones character without cause or warrant?

It's the one thing that puts me off meeting forumites.

Ok, hopefully I've understood your question. Are you talking on a point of terminology and/or labbling? Now clearly my commentary is not based on an individual, more a generalised veiw of what's going on, as the nature of the original question was general. I believe that a fair amount attraction is societal and evelutionary based rather than purely by chance. And this has a lot to do with why we are attracted to people of different heights/status'/shades of skin colour etc. So I think that sometimes our preferences and fetishes based on race are based on influences and naratives we are exposed to from birth. Now it terms of terminology technically if these preferences are discriminatory based on race surely they technically racist? Personally I'm not comfortable with calling it racism per se, because the connotations of the word I dont think the reflect the nature of what maybe going on here in terms of sexual preference. I can understand why the term racist maybe be problematic. I used it more in technicality due to not really having other vocabulary for it. So yes I get that seeing things in this way is very uncomfortable but may non the less valid in terms of the origins of preference.

Personally you may have some valid points but I think most of it is just polemics and as such anything can be argued by twisting something with speculations on what is truth or not about someone s thinking. I'd say most of this has little to do with meets here and even if it did, it would only annoy those whom it eliminates. Those it eliminates one isn't going to meet and so makes no odds.

It's meant to be fun and one can remove the fun like a needle in a balloon to pursue this subject. I'd say it has more place in a lecture theatre than on fab."

I get the feeling you think what I'm saying I a twisted manipulation. I not here to say that our sexual preferences towards race make us horrible racists and terrible people. Or say its the same for every individual. No one should feel bad for their sexual preferences. But if you look into the numerous data on dating with regards to race there are significant trends going on than suggest it's not random preference. I suggest these trends are heavily influenced by the culture and society we live in. But I also think for many that is a hard thing for them to swallow. But a bitter pill as it is to take, its there, we are all products. As for the importance of the origins of our attraction in terms of fab, I don't think it is that important, nothing we should have to fix as an individual, its just part of who we are. So no one should feel bad. But it's false to ignore the origins of it. Im not a fan on removing or censoring something because its uncofortable or inconvinient. FAB is ment to be fun, this is just a forum thread, if it's killing anyone's buzz they can simply not take part and stick to the fun stuff.

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By *awpleasureMan
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

No it's not.

It's a sexual preference that's all.

I personally scroll past those profiles.

But I know from chatting to couples that there are still Asian and white men messaging them with

I'm not black but.....

Now that's wrong!!

Also Asian guys claiming to be black when clearly Asian.

Only fooling yourselves lads.

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"I think our sovereign sexual desires need no excuse or apology. It's our bodies our rules.

As to our preferences shaped by wider exposure and life experiance including our preferences on race, most likely racist to a degree. So maybe that can lead us to sexual preferences that have a basis in very deep seated internalised racism and/or ways we see people even if we not see our self (or are) racist per se. But we shouldn't give people a hard time for their sexual preferences that are deep seated from a very young and very much part of our fabric. Like so many other of our sexual preferences are influenced from a very young age and truly are part of the individual.

Question. Is it right that you speculate and formulate a defensive argument about the possibility that someone's preferences are or could be termed racist? If so is that in itself not one of the worst forms of degradation or maligning of someones character without cause or warrant?

It's the one thing that puts me off meeting forumites.

Ok, hopefully I've understood your question. Are you talking on a point of terminology and/or labbling? Now clearly my commentary is not based on an individual, more a generalised veiw of what's going on, as the nature of the original question was general. I believe that a fair amount attraction is societal and evelutionary based rather than purely by chance. And this has a lot to do with why we are attracted to people of different heights/status'/shades of skin colour etc. So I think that sometimes our preferences and fetishes based on race are based on influences and naratives we are exposed to from birth. Now it terms of terminology technically if these preferences are discriminatory based on race surely they technically racist? Personally I'm not comfortable with calling it racism per se, because the connotations of the word I dont think the reflect the nature of what maybe going on here in terms of sexual preference. I can understand why the term racist maybe be problematic. I used it more in technicality due to not really having other vocabulary for it. So yes I get that seeing things in this way is very uncomfortable but may non the less valid in terms of the origins of preference.

Personally you may have some valid points but I think most of it is just polemics and as such anything can be argued by twisting something with speculations on what is truth or not about someone s thinking. I'd say most of this has little to do with meets here and even if it did, it would only annoy those whom it eliminates. Those it eliminates one isn't going to meet and so makes no odds.

It's meant to be fun and one can remove the fun like a needle in a balloon to pursue this subject. I'd say it has more place in a lecture theatre than on fab.

I get the feeling you think what I'm saying I a twisted manipulation. I not here to say that our sexual preferences towards race make us horrible racists and terrible people. Or say its the same for every individual. No one should feel bad for their sexual preferences. But if you look into the numerous data on dating with regards to race there are significant trends going on than suggest it's not random preference. I suggest these trends are heavily influenced by the culture and society we live in. But I also think for many that is a hard thing for them to swallow. But a bitter pill as it is to take, its there, we are all products. As for the importance of the origins of our attraction in terms of fab, I don't think it is that important, nothing we should have to fix as an individual, its just part of who we are. So no one should feel bad. But it's false to ignore the origins of it. Im not a fan on removing or censoring something because its uncofortable or inconvinient. FAB is ment to be fun, this is just a forum thread, if it's killing anyone's buzz they can simply not take part and stick to the fun stuff. "

Speaking as someone who prefers black men and been raised in Iceland where the culture is very different to here.

My preference has nothing to do with social conditioning and the suggestion that it is is quite frankly insulting to my intelligence.

I will happily talk to anyone but my knickers don't get moved for everyone.

Including black men. Just because my preference is black doesn't mean I'll fuck any black gentleman. Each one is different to the last, looks, body shape, personality traits, morals and so forth. If anything the assumption that just because I prefer black men would mean I must like them all is in itself very small minded.

When I go to clubs, bmfc/tpp/dark desires... There might be one or two guys that catch my eye over the 40-50 that attend. Sometimes none. Just because I have a preference it doesn't mean that entire race has a shot with myself or any other female or couple who has a preference to black men big or small.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I think our sovereign sexual desires need no excuse or apology. It's our bodies our rules.

As to our preferences shaped by wider exposure and life experiance including our preferences on race, most likely racist to a degree. So maybe that can lead us to sexual preferences that have a basis in very deep seated internalised racism and/or ways we see people even if we not see our self (or are) racist per se. But we shouldn't give people a hard time for their sexual preferences that are deep seated from a very young and very much part of our fabric. Like so many other of our sexual preferences are influenced from a very young age and truly are part of the individual.

Question. Is it right that you speculate and formulate a defensive argument about the possibility that someone's preferences are or could be termed racist? If so is that in itself not one of the worst forms of degradation or maligning of someones character without cause or warrant?

It's the one thing that puts me off meeting forumites.

Ok, hopefully I've understood your question. Are you talking on a point of terminology and/or labbling? Now clearly my commentary is not based on an individual, more a generalised veiw of what's going on, as the nature of the original question was general. I believe that a fair amount attraction is societal and evelutionary based rather than purely by chance. And this has a lot to do with why we are attracted to people of different heights/status'/shades of skin colour etc. So I think that sometimes our preferences and fetishes based on race are based on influences and naratives we are exposed to from birth. Now it terms of terminology technically if these preferences are discriminatory based on race surely they technically racist? Personally I'm not comfortable with calling it racism per se, because the connotations of the word I dont think the reflect the nature of what maybe going on here in terms of sexual preference. I can understand why the term racist maybe be problematic. I used it more in technicality due to not really having other vocabulary for it. So yes I get that seeing things in this way is very uncomfortable but may non the less valid in terms of the origins of preference.

Personally you may have some valid points but I think most of it is just polemics and as such anything can be argued by twisting something with speculations on what is truth or not about someone s thinking. I'd say most of this has little to do with meets here and even if it did, it would only annoy those whom it eliminates. Those it eliminates one isn't going to meet and so makes no odds.

It's meant to be fun and one can remove the fun like a needle in a balloon to pursue this subject. I'd say it has more place in a lecture theatre than on fab.

I get the feeling you think what I'm saying I a twisted manipulation. I not here to say that our sexual preferences towards race make us horrible racists and terrible people. Or say its the same for every individual. No one should feel bad for their sexual preferences. But if you look into the numerous data on dating with regards to race there are significant trends going on than suggest it's not random preference. I suggest these trends are heavily influenced by the culture and society we live in. But I also think for many that is a hard thing for them to swallow. But a bitter pill as it is to take, its there, we are all products. As for the importance of the origins of our attraction in terms of fab, I don't think it is that important, nothing we should have to fix as an individual, its just part of who we are. So no one should feel bad. But it's false to ignore the origins of it. Im not a fan on removing or censoring something because its uncofortable or inconvinient. FAB is ment to be fun, this is just a forum thread, if it's killing anyone's buzz they can simply not take part and stick to the fun stuff.

Speaking as someone who prefers black men and been raised in Iceland where the culture is very different to here.

My preference has nothing to do with social conditioning and the suggestion that it is is quite frankly insulting to my intelligence.

I will happily talk to anyone but my knickers don't get moved for everyone.

Including black men. Just because my preference is black doesn't mean I'll fuck any black gentleman. Each one is different to the last, looks, body shape, personality traits, morals and so forth. If anything the assumption that just because I prefer black men would mean I must like them all is in itself very small minded.

When I go to clubs, bmfc/tpp/dark desires... There might be one or two guys that catch my eye over the 40-50 that attend. Sometimes none. Just because I have a preference it doesn't mean that entire race has a shot with myself or any other female or couple who has a preference to black men big or small."

Great post, highlighting a mistake many black men make (myself included in my distant past!).

I've enjoyed this thread although to couch a preference as 'racist' is in itself misplaced since everyone is entitled to a preference and racists expressing theirs is simply their version of their 'preference'!

Blackwood

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester


"Do you think this is racist? When women put this , Only asking , don't shoot me "

No just maths 88% white 12 inch black

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"No, i just avoid these women.

Same here; block, block, blockity block!

In case they see the error of their ways and try to get in touch? "

No, I don't match what they're looking for, so I don't need their profiles clogging up my searches

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By *TJxComboMan
over a year ago

birmingham

People are just to sensitive now, you need to realise that your not everyone's cup of tea and just accept it. If you don't fit someone's preference move on it's that simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, i just avoid these women.

Same here; block, block, blockity block!

In case they see the error of their ways and try to get in touch?

No, I don't match what they're looking for, so I don't need their profiles clogging up my searches "

Feel free to block me if you are not in my preference or me you. Doesn't bother me at all.

If you guys saw my blocked list... It's HUGE lol

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"I think our sovereign sexual desires need no excuse or apology. It's our bodies our rules.

As to our preferences shaped by wider exposure and life experiance including our preferences on race, most likely racist to a degree. So maybe that can lead us to sexual preferences that have a basis in very deep seated internalised racism and/or ways we see people even if we not see our self (or are) racist per se. But we shouldn't give people a hard time for their sexual preferences that are deep seated from a very young and very much part of our fabric. Like so many other of our sexual preferences are influenced from a very young age and truly are part of the individual.

Question. Is it right that you speculate and formulate a defensive argument about the possibility that someone's preferences are or could be termed racist? If so is that in itself not one of the worst forms of degradation or maligning of someones character without cause or warrant?

It's the one thing that puts me off meeting forumites.

Ok, hopefully I've understood your question. Are you talking on a point of terminology and/or labbling? Now clearly my commentary is not based on an individual, more a generalised veiw of what's going on, as the nature of the original question was general. I believe that a fair amount attraction is societal and evelutionary based rather than purely by chance. And this has a lot to do with why we are attracted to people of different heights/status'/shades of skin colour etc. So I think that sometimes our preferences and fetishes based on race are based on influences and naratives we are exposed to from birth. Now it terms of terminology technically if these preferences are discriminatory based on race surely they technically racist? Personally I'm not comfortable with calling it racism per se, because the connotations of the word I dont think the reflect the nature of what maybe going on here in terms of sexual preference. I can understand why the term racist maybe be problematic. I used it more in technicality due to not really having other vocabulary for it. So yes I get that seeing things in this way is very uncomfortable but may non the less valid in terms of the origins of preference.

Personally you may have some valid points but I think most of it is just polemics and as such anything can be argued by twisting something with speculations on what is truth or not about someone s thinking. I'd say most of this has little to do with meets here and even if it did, it would only annoy those whom it eliminates. Those it eliminates one isn't going to meet and so makes no odds.

It's meant to be fun and one can remove the fun like a needle in a balloon to pursue this subject. I'd say it has more place in a lecture theatre than on fab.

I get the feeling you think what I'm saying I a twisted manipulation. I not here to say that our sexual preferences towards race make us horrible racists and terrible people. Or say its the same for every individual. No one should feel bad for their sexual preferences. But if you look into the numerous data on dating with regards to race there are significant trends going on than suggest it's not random preference. I suggest these trends are heavily influenced by the culture and society we live in. But I also think for many that is a hard thing for them to swallow. But a bitter pill as it is to take, its there, we are all products. As for the importance of the origins of our attraction in terms of fab, I don't think it is that important, nothing we should have to fix as an individual, its just part of who we are. So no one should feel bad. But it's false to ignore the origins of it. Im not a fan on removing or censoring something because its uncofortable or inconvinient. FAB is ment to be fun, this is just a forum thread, if it's killing anyone's buzz they can simply not take part and stick to the fun stuff.

Speaking as someone who prefers black men and been raised in Iceland where the culture is very different to here.

My preference has nothing to do with social conditioning and the suggestion that it is is quite frankly insulting to my intelligence.

I will happily talk to anyone but my knickers don't get moved for everyone.

Including black men. Just because my preference is black doesn't mean I'll fuck any black gentleman. Each one is different to the last, looks, body shape, personality traits, morals and so forth. If anything the assumption that just because I prefer black men would mean I must like them all is in itself very small minded.

When I go to clubs, bmfc/tpp/dark desires... There might be one or two guys that catch my eye over the 40-50 that attend. Sometimes none. Just because I have a preference it doesn't mean that entire race has a shot with myself or any other female or couple who has a preference to black men big or small."

That's perfectly understandable how you feel as an individual and a fair argument as an individual in your circumstances. Plus you seem to assume many assumptions that have not been said. Remember this is not aimed at your self, the discussion is general, its not a case of a specific individual or circumstance. Of course we cant draw assumptions on every individual, but I think there is enough thinking on the matter that suggests what I'm saying is a reasonable and meritable line of enquiry that has weight. So I stand by what I say about attraction and race in general. Studies seem to support the idea, especially when it comes to race being clear from the start in terms of attraction. But yes I can perfectly understand if I've hit a nerve, its a bit of a hot potato and as you've said in your case it has nothing to with social factors, you won't be the only one.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"Do you think this is racist? When women put this , Only asking , don't shoot me "

Racist? No.

Reductionist? Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lack of 'black' women on (fab).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think our sovereign sexual desires need no excuse or apology. It's our bodies our rules.

As to our preferences shaped by wider exposure and life experiance including our preferences on race, most likely racist to a degree. So maybe that can lead us to sexual preferences that have a basis in very deep seated internalised racism and/or ways we see people even if we not see our self (or are) racist per se. But we shouldn't give people a hard time for their sexual preferences that are deep seated from a very young and very much part of our fabric. Like so many other of our sexual preferences are influenced from a very young age and truly are part of the individual.

Question. Is it right that you speculate and formulate a defensive argument about the possibility that someone's preferences are or could be termed racist? If so is that in itself not one of the worst forms of degradation or maligning of someones character without cause or warrant?

It's the one thing that puts me off meeting forumites.

Ok, hopefully I've understood your question. Are you talking on a point of terminology and/or labbling? Now clearly my commentary is not based on an individual, more a generalised veiw of what's going on, as the nature of the original question was general. I believe that a fair amount attraction is societal and evelutionary based rather than purely by chance. And this has a lot to do with why we are attracted to people of different heights/status'/shades of skin colour etc. So I think that sometimes our preferences and fetishes based on race are based on influences and naratives we are exposed to from birth. Now it terms of terminology technically if these preferences are discriminatory based on race surely they technically racist? Personally I'm not comfortable with calling it racism per se, because the connotations of the word I dont think the reflect the nature of what maybe going on here in terms of sexual preference. I can understand why the term racist maybe be problematic. I used it more in technicality due to not really having other vocabulary for it. So yes I get that seeing things in this way is very uncomfortable but may non the less valid in terms of the origins of preference.

Personally you may have some valid points but I think most of it is just polemics and as such anything can be argued by twisting something with speculations on what is truth or not about someone s thinking. I'd say most of this has little to do with meets here and even if it did, it would only annoy those whom it eliminates. Those it eliminates one isn't going to meet and so makes no odds.

It's meant to be fun and one can remove the fun like a needle in a balloon to pursue this subject. I'd say it has more place in a lecture theatre than on fab.

I get the feeling you think what I'm saying I a twisted manipulation. I not here to say that our sexual preferences towards race make us horrible racists and terrible people. Or say its the same for every individual. No one should feel bad for their sexual preferences. But if you look into the numerous data on dating with regards to race there are significant trends going on than suggest it's not random preference. I suggest these trends are heavily influenced by the culture and society we live in. But I also think for many that is a hard thing for them to swallow. But a bitter pill as it is to take, its there, we are all products. As for the importance of the origins of our attraction in terms of fab, I don't think it is that important, nothing we should have to fix as an individual, its just part of who we are. So no one should feel bad. But it's false to ignore the origins of it. Im not a fan on removing or censoring something because its uncofortable or inconvinient. FAB is ment to be fun, this is just a forum thread, if it's killing anyone's buzz they can simply not take part and stick to the fun stuff.

Speaking as someone who prefers black men and been raised in Iceland where the culture is very different to here.

My preference has nothing to do with social conditioning and the suggestion that it is is quite frankly insulting to my intelligence.

I will happily talk to anyone but my knickers don't get moved for everyone.

Including black men. Just because my preference is black doesn't mean I'll fuck any black gentleman. Each one is different to the last, looks, body shape, personality traits, morals and so forth. If anything the assumption that just because I prefer black men would mean I must like them all is in itself very small minded.

When I go to clubs, bmfc/tpp/dark desires... There might be one or two guys that catch my eye over the 40-50 that attend. Sometimes none. Just because I have a preference it doesn't mean that entire race has a shot with myself or any other female or couple who has a preference to black men big or small.

That's perfectly understandable how you feel as an individual and a fair argument as an individual in your circumstances. Plus you seem to assume many assumptions that have not been said. Remember this is not aimed at your self, the discussion is general, its not a case of a specific individual or circumstance. Of course we cant draw assumptions on every individual, but I think there is enough thinking on the matter that suggests what I'm saying is a reasonable and meritable line of enquiry that has weight. So I stand by what I say about attraction and race in general. Studies seem to support the idea, especially when it comes to race being clear from the start in terms of attraction. But yes I can perfectly understand if I've hit a nerve, its a bit of a hot potato and as you've said in your case it has nothing to with social factors, you won't be the only one."

Studies have also shown that 100% of eski's from Iceland on fabswingers who prefers black gentlemen are tired of this topic coming up on a daily basis. Why does it bother so many people that there are those of us who have a sexual preference... My question is...

what's wrong with people who literally have no sexual preference at all and will happily have sexual encounters with literally anyone and enjoy it regardless of race/size/age/personality ???

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"I think our sovereign sexual desires need no excuse or apology. It's our bodies our rules.

As to our preferences shaped by wider exposure and life experiance including our preferences on race, most likely racist to a degree. So maybe that can lead us to sexual preferences that have a basis in very deep seated internalised racism and/or ways we see people even if we not see our self (or are) racist per se. But we shouldn't give people a hard time for their sexual preferences that are deep seated from a very young and very much part of our fabric. Like so many other of our sexual preferences are influenced from a very young age and truly are part of the individual.

Question. Is it right that you speculate and formulate a defensive argument about the possibility that someone's preferences are or could be termed racist? If so is that in itself not one of the worst forms of degradation or maligning of someones character without cause or warrant?

It's the one thing that puts me off meeting forumites.

Ok, hopefully I've understood your question. Are you talking on a point of terminology and/or labbling? Now clearly my commentary is not based on an individual, more a generalised veiw of what's going on, as the nature of the original question was general. I believe that a fair amount attraction is societal and evelutionary based rather than purely by chance. And this has a lot to do with why we are attracted to people of different heights/status'/shades of skin colour etc. So I think that sometimes our preferences and fetishes based on race are based on influences and naratives we are exposed to from birth. Now it terms of terminology technically if these preferences are discriminatory based on race surely they technically racist? Personally I'm not comfortable with calling it racism per se, because the connotations of the word I dont think the reflect the nature of what maybe going on here in terms of sexual preference. I can understand why the term racist maybe be problematic. I used it more in technicality due to not really having other vocabulary for it. So yes I get that seeing things in this way is very uncomfortable but may non the less valid in terms of the origins of preference.

Personally you may have some valid points but I think most of it is just polemics and as such anything can be argued by twisting something with speculations on what is truth or not about someone s thinking. I'd say most of this has little to do with meets here and even if it did, it would only annoy those whom it eliminates. Those it eliminates one isn't going to meet and so makes no odds.

It's meant to be fun and one can remove the fun like a needle in a balloon to pursue this subject. I'd say it has more place in a lecture theatre than on fab.

I get the feeling you think what I'm saying I a twisted manipulation. I not here to say that our sexual preferences towards race make us horrible racists and terrible people. Or say its the same for every individual. No one should feel bad for their sexual preferences. But if you look into the numerous data on dating with regards to race there are significant trends going on than suggest it's not random preference. I suggest these trends are heavily influenced by the culture and society we live in. But I also think for many that is a hard thing for them to swallow. But a bitter pill as it is to take, its there, we are all products. As for the importance of the origins of our attraction in terms of fab, I don't think it is that important, nothing we should have to fix as an individual, its just part of who we are. So no one should feel bad. But it's false to ignore the origins of it. Im not a fan on removing or censoring something because its uncofortable or inconvinient. FAB is ment to be fun, this is just a forum thread, if it's killing anyone's buzz they can simply not take part and stick to the fun stuff.

Speaking as someone who prefers black men and been raised in Iceland where the culture is very different to here.

My preference has nothing to do with social conditioning and the suggestion that it is is quite frankly insulting to my intelligence.

I will happily talk to anyone but my knickers don't get moved for everyone.

Including black men. Just because my preference is black doesn't mean I'll fuck any black gentleman. Each one is different to the last, looks, body shape, personality traits, morals and so forth. If anything the assumption that just because I prefer black men would mean I must like them all is in itself very small minded.

When I go to clubs, bmfc/tpp/dark desires... There might be one or two guys that catch my eye over the 40-50 that attend. Sometimes none. Just because I have a preference it doesn't mean that entire race has a shot with myself or any other female or couple who has a preference to black men big or small.

That's perfectly understandable how you feel as an individual and a fair argument as an individual in your circumstances. Plus you seem to assume many assumptions that have not been said. Remember this is not aimed at your self, the discussion is general, its not a case of a specific individual or circumstance. Of course we cant draw assumptions on every individual, but I think there is enough thinking on the matter that suggests what I'm saying is a reasonable and meritable line of enquiry that has weight. So I stand by what I say about attraction and race in general. Studies seem to support the idea, especially when it comes to race being clear from the start in terms of attraction. But yes I can perfectly understand if I've hit a nerve, its a bit of a hot potato and as you've said in your case it has nothing to with social factors, you won't be the only one.

Studies have also shown that 100% of eski's from Iceland on fabswingers who prefers black gentlemen are tired of this topic coming up on a daily basis. Why does it bother so many people that there are those of us who have a sexual preference... My question is...

what's wrong with people who literally have no sexual preference at all and will happily have sexual encounters with literally anyone and enjoy it regardless of race/size/age/personality ???"

I don't think there is an issuse with people having no preference, its probably a non issuse. Never seen a thread about it. I don't think there is a issuse with prefrence per se. I think people's preference is sanctum and doesn't need explanation to no body. I see people's right to their prefrence and the investigation into the reasons behind prefrence as seperate things. I'm not attacking people having a prefrence, just musing over some of the reasons why and trends on a general societal basis.

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Never understood why women who say black only or go to BMFC etc are sometimes married to white men!!!

Surely if you like black men so much these women would be in long term relationships with black men and this is where it bothers me, many don’t want a relationship with them due to racist views of them as long term partners or family or peer pressure, many ladies just see them as an object to be used, kinda harks back to slavery in my mixed race eyes...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is only racist if they don't swallow their white cum "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think this is racist? When women put this , Only asking , don't shoot me "

No but I dont agree on women who go mad at you for mailing them, i like to read profiles before i message but I've mailed a women who had black only and got loads of shit from her.

Glad to say the block button defo works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think our sovereign sexual desires need no excuse or apology. It's our bodies our rules.

As to our preferences shaped by wider exposure and life experiance including our preferences on race, most likely racist to a degree. So maybe that can lead us to sexual preferences that have a basis in very deep seated internalised racism and/or ways we see people even if we not see our self (or are) racist per se. But we shouldn't give people a hard time for their sexual preferences that are deep seated from a very young and very much part of our fabric. Like so many other of our sexual preferences are influenced from a very young age and truly are part of the individual.

Question. Is it right that you speculate and formulate a defensive argument about the possibility that someone's preferences are or could be termed racist? If so is that in itself not one of the worst forms of degradation or maligning of someones character without cause or warrant?

It's the one thing that puts me off meeting forumites.

Ok, hopefully I've understood your question. Are you talking on a point of terminology and/or labbling? Now clearly my commentary is not based on an individual, more a generalised veiw of what's going on, as the nature of the original question was general. I believe that a fair amount attraction is societal and evelutionary based rather than purely by chance. And this has a lot to do with why we are attracted to people of different heights/status'/shades of skin colour etc. So I think that sometimes our preferences and fetishes based on race are based on influences and naratives we are exposed to from birth. Now it terms of terminology technically if these preferences are discriminatory based on race surely they technically racist? Personally I'm not comfortable with calling it racism per se, because the connotations of the word I dont think the reflect the nature of what maybe going on here in terms of sexual preference. I can understand why the term racist maybe be problematic. I used it more in technicality due to not really having other vocabulary for it. So yes I get that seeing things in this way is very uncomfortable but may non the less valid in terms of the origins of preference.

Personally you may have some valid points but I think most of it is just polemics and as such anything can be argued by twisting something with speculations on what is truth or not about someone s thinking. I'd say most of this has little to do with meets here and even if it did, it would only annoy those whom it eliminates. Those it eliminates one isn't going to meet and so makes no odds.

It's meant to be fun and one can remove the fun like a needle in a balloon to pursue this subject. I'd say it has more place in a lecture theatre than on fab.

I get the feeling you think what I'm saying I a twisted manipulation. I not here to say that our sexual preferences towards race make us horrible racists and terrible people. Or say its the same for every individual. No one should feel bad for their sexual preferences. But if you look into the numerous data on dating with regards to race there are significant trends going on than suggest it's not random preference. I suggest these trends are heavily influenced by the culture and society we live in. But I also think for many that is a hard thing for them to swallow. But a bitter pill as it is to take, its there, we are all products. As for the importance of the origins of our attraction in terms of fab, I don't think it is that important, nothing we should have to fix as an individual, its just part of who we are. So no one should feel bad. But it's false to ignore the origins of it. Im not a fan on removing or censoring something because its uncofortable or inconvinient. FAB is ment to be fun, this is just a forum thread, if it's killing anyone's buzz they can simply not take part and stick to the fun stuff.

Speaking as someone who prefers black men and been raised in Iceland where the culture is very different to here.

My preference has nothing to do with social conditioning and the suggestion that it is is quite frankly insulting to my intelligence.

I will happily talk to anyone but my knickers don't get moved for everyone.

Including black men. Just because my preference is black doesn't mean I'll fuck any black gentleman. Each one is different to the last, looks, body shape, personality traits, morals and so forth. If anything the assumption that just because I prefer black men would mean I must like them all is in itself very small minded.

When I go to clubs, bmfc/tpp/dark desires... There might be one or two guys that catch my eye over the 40-50 that attend. Sometimes none. Just because I have a preference it doesn't mean that entire race has a shot with myself or any other female or couple who has a preference to black men big or small.

That's perfectly understandable how you feel as an individual and a fair argument as an individual in your circumstances. Plus you seem to assume many assumptions that have not been said. Remember this is not aimed at your self, the discussion is general, its not a case of a specific individual or circumstance. Of course we cant draw assumptions on every individual, but I think there is enough thinking on the matter that suggests what I'm saying is a reasonable and meritable line of enquiry that has weight. So I stand by what I say about attraction and race in general. Studies seem to support the idea, especially when it comes to race being clear from the start in terms of attraction. But yes I can perfectly understand if I've hit a nerve, its a bit of a hot potato and as you've said in your case it has nothing to with social factors, you won't be the only one.

Studies have also shown that 100% of eski's from Iceland on fabswingers who prefers black gentlemen are tired of this topic coming up on a daily basis. Why does it bother so many people that there are those of us who have a sexual preference... My question is...

what's wrong with people who literally have no sexual preference at all and will happily have sexual encounters with literally anyone and enjoy it regardless of race/size/age/personality ???

I don't think there is an issuse with people having no preference, its probably a non issuse. Never seen a thread about it. I don't think there is a issuse with prefrence per se. I think people's preference is sanctum and doesn't need explanation to no body. I see people's right to their prefrence and the investigation into the reasons behind prefrence as seperate things. I'm not attacking people having a prefrence, just musing over some of the reasons why and trends on a general societal basis. "

I get that, and that your looking at this on a higher level than an individual basis which is probably the first thing you learn in psychology, well did when I studied it. Hence your responses are based on society as a whole rather than individual preference, but with something like sexual preference it really does come down to the individual rather than society as a whole. Yes there is some basis to your argument, for instance if I went to China for instance, I'd find some who would be attracted to me but majority may not. Doesn't make them racists, just means they aren't attracted towards an Icelandic born curvy chick with thick thighs and a big ass with no mandarin or Cantonese speaking capabilities. I'd struggle I'm sure. However in a multi cultural society where in London we are a mixed bag got sure, our preference is still done on an individual basis.

We perhaps should start a thread about why people on here have no preference at all, trust me there have been plenty of guys who have stated as such to me when trying to argue the point of my own preference in my inbox.

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By *TJxComboMan
over a year ago

birmingham


"Do you think this is racist? When women put this , Only asking , don't shoot me

No but I dont agree on women who go mad at you for mailing them, i like to read profiles before i message but I've mailed a women who had black only and got loads of shit from her.

Glad to say the block button defo works "

They're probably annoyed that you messaged them.The fact you do actually read profiles and still message them, your setting yourself up to be honest.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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"Never understood why women who say black only or go to BMFC etc are sometimes married to white men!!!

Surely if you like black men so much these women would be in long term relationships with black men and this is where it bothers me, many don’t want a relationship with them due to racist views of them as long term partners or family or peer pressure, many ladies just see them as an object to be used, kinda harks back to slavery in my mixed race eyes..."

A lot of couples see single Men/Women black or white as object to be used, Its a swingers site and people are acting out their fantasies, Sleeping with black men is just one of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think this is racist? When women put this , Only asking , don't shoot me

No but I dont agree on women who go mad at you for mailing them, i like to read profiles before i message but I've mailed a women who had black only and got loads of shit from her.

Glad to say the block button defo works

They're probably annoyed that you messaged them.The fact you do actually read profiles and still message them, your setting yourself up to be honest. "

I get that but I wasnt nasty in any way I just said she was a good looking girl and it was a shame that she wasnt into white lads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never understood why women who say black only or go to BMFC etc are sometimes married to white men!!!

Surely if you like black men so much these women would be in long term relationships with black men and this is where it bothers me, many don’t want a relationship with them due to racist views of them as long term partners or family or peer pressure, many ladies just see them as an object to be used, kinda harks back to slavery in my mixed race eyes...

A lot of couples see single Men/Women black or white as object to be used, Its a swingers site and people are acting out their fantasies, Sleeping with black men is just one of them"

That wasn’t the point I was making.... but to put into context if my wife wanted young 6ft 2” guys only and nothing else I’d ask her why she didn’t marry a young 6ft 2 guy!

For us swinging is about variety not fucking one type of person only, if we wanted that we’d have married it.

Secondly you haven’t grasped the point of using one race for sexual gratification, when in fact the people been gratified would not engage in long term relationships with that race due to perception about that race or non acceptance by family, friends, peers etc

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By *ristolwife4blkWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I only meet black guys but it's my preference. I get called racist all the time on here and it gets quite boring. I have had abusive messages since being on here over 9 years on and off.

It's no different to someone that likes BBW women, slim women, brunettes,blondes etc there are plenty of women that state they don't meet black guys but it doesn't make them racist. Everyone is here for different reasons and fetishes if it's not your thing then move on to the next person. We are all here for fun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only meet black guys but it's my preference. I get called racist all the time on here and it gets quite boring. I have had abusive messages since being on here over 9 years on and off.

It's no different to someone that likes BBW women, slim women, brunettes,blondes etc there are plenty of women that state they don't meet black guys but it doesn't make them racist. Everyone is here for different reasons and fetishes if it's not your thing then move on to the next person. We are all here for fun x "

Just wondering if you’ve been in a long term relationship with a black man? Or married to a black man thus making my point mute in your case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you was to put woman only it wouldnt make you homaphobic, its just your preference

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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"Never understood why women who say black only or go to BMFC etc are sometimes married to white men!!!

Surely if you like black men so much these women would be in long term relationships with black men and this is where it bothers me, many don’t want a relationship with them due to racist views of them as long term partners or family or peer pressure, many ladies just see them as an object to be used, kinda harks back to slavery in my mixed race eyes...

A lot of couples see single Men/Women black or white as object to be used, Its a swingers site and people are acting out their fantasies, Sleeping with black men is just one of them

That wasn’t the point I was making.... but to put into context if my wife wanted young 6ft 2” guys only and nothing else I’d ask her why she didn’t marry a young 6ft 2 guy!

Maybe she didn't find a young 6ft 2 guy she liked as much as you, She compromised the height for whatever it is she likes about you.

For us swinging is about variety not fucking one type of person only, if we wanted that we’d have married it.

For you its about variety for others its about BBC or the skin contrast.

Secondly you haven’t grasped the point of using one race for sexual gratification, when in fact the people been gratified would not engage in long term relationships with that race due to perception about that race or non acceptance by family, friends, peers etc "

I did get your point I was just giving a different opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whatever floats your boat

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By *ristolwife4blkWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"I only meet black guys but it's my preference. I get called racist all the time on here and it gets quite boring. I have had abusive messages since being on here over 9 years on and off.

It's no different to someone that likes BBW women, slim women, brunettes,blondes etc there are plenty of women that state they don't meet black guys but it doesn't make them racist. Everyone is here for different reasons and fetishes if it's not your thing then move on to the next person. We are all here for fun x

Just wondering if you’ve been in a long term relationship with a black man? Or married to a black man thus making my point mute in your case"

I dated black guys for many years. Then met my white husband, had kids etc still married and also dating black guys with husband's knowledge it's what we like.

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By *TJxComboMan
over a year ago

birmingham


"Do you think this is racist? When women put this , Only asking , don't shoot me

No but I dont agree on women who go mad at you for mailing them, i like to read profiles before i message but I've mailed a women who had black only and got loads of shit from her.

Glad to say the block button defo works

They're probably annoyed that you messaged them.The fact you do actually read profiles and still message them, your setting yourself up to be honest.

I get that but I wasnt nasty in any way I just said she was a good looking girl and it was a shame that she wasnt into white lads "

Do you think they care what you have to say? All they see is someone who didn't respect what their profile says.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only meet black guys but it's my preference. I get called racist all the time on here and it gets quite boring. I have had abusive messages since being on here over 9 years on and off.

It's no different to someone that likes BBW women, slim women, brunettes,blondes etc there are plenty of women that state they don't meet black guys but it doesn't make them racist. Everyone is here for different reasons and fetishes if it's not your thing then move on to the next person. We are all here for fun x

Just wondering if you’ve been in a long term relationship with a black man? Or married to a black man thus making my point mute in your case

I dated black guys for many years. Then met my white husband, had kids etc still married and also dating black guys with husband's knowledge it's what we like. "

Do you only get sexual gratification from black guys then? Just trying to understand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not, we all have our preferences x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear

This actually made me giggle!

Sigh

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By *exfordMan
over a year ago

discombobulated land


"Do you think this is racist? When women put this , Only asking , don't shoot me "

No, not at all. You're just pissed because you're not black and really want to fuck the girls that are looking for black. He he.. Hard luck pal!

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By *itguy21066Man
over a year ago

leicester


"No but apparently to put white guys only is. "

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By *ristolwife4blkWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"I only meet black guys but it's my preference. I get called racist all the time on here and it gets quite boring. I have had abusive messages since being on here over 9 years on and off.

It's no different to someone that likes BBW women, slim women, brunettes,blondes etc there are plenty of women that state they don't meet black guys but it doesn't make them racist. Everyone is here for different reasons and fetishes if it's not your thing then move on to the next person. We are all here for fun x

Just wondering if you’ve been in a long term relationship with a black man? Or married to a black man thus making my point mute in your case

I dated black guys for many years. Then met my white husband, had kids etc still married and also dating black guys with husband's knowledge it's what we like.

Do you only get sexual gratification from black guys then? Just trying to understand "

Yes I do and that's why my husband allows me to date black guys that's ok I don't mind answering questions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only meet black guys but it's my preference. I get called racist all the time on here and it gets quite boring. I have had abusive messages since being on here over 9 years on and off.

It's no different to someone that likes BBW women, slim women, brunettes,blondes etc there are plenty of women that state they don't meet black guys but it doesn't make them racist. Everyone is here for different reasons and fetishes if it's not your thing then move on to the next person. We are all here for fun x

Just wondering if you’ve been in a long term relationship with a black man? Or married to a black man thus making my point mute in your case

I dated black guys for many years. Then met my white husband, had kids etc still married and also dating black guys with husband's knowledge it's what we like.

Do you only get sexual gratification from black guys then? Just trying to understand

Yes I do and that's why my husband allows me to date black guys that's ok I don't mind answering questions "

Not being rude if you only get sexual gratification from black guys, how and why did you marry a white guy? And why didn’t you marry a black guy?

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By *ristolwife4blkWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"I only meet black guys but it's my preference. I get called racist all the time on here and it gets quite boring. I have had abusive messages since being on here over 9 years on and off.

It's no different to someone that likes BBW women, slim women, brunettes,blondes etc there are plenty of women that state they don't meet black guys but it doesn't make them racist. Everyone is here for different reasons and fetishes if it's not your thing then move on to the next person. We are all here for fun x

Just wondering if you’ve been in a long term relationship with a black man? Or married to a black man thus making my point mute in your case

I dated black guys for many years. Then met my white husband, had kids etc still married and also dating black guys with husband's knowledge it's what we like.

Do you only get sexual gratification from black guys then? Just trying to understand

Yes I do and that's why my husband allows me to date black guys that's ok I don't mind answering questions

Not being rude if you only get sexual gratification from black guys, how and why did you marry a white guy? And why didn’t you marry a black guy? "

We met, my first white guy relationship , fell in love, married etc but have always been into the swinging scene. We are soul mates and have an amazing marriage but it's just the sexual side that we don't have. I have had a few black boyfriend's and it just works for us. Everyone is different. Yes if we had not married I would have married a black guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only meet black guys but it's my preference. I get called racist all the time on here and it gets quite boring. I have had abusive messages since being on here over 9 years on and off.

It's no different to someone that likes BBW women, slim women, brunettes,blondes etc there are plenty of women that state they don't meet black guys but it doesn't make them racist. Everyone is here for different reasons and fetishes if it's not your thing then move on to the next person. We are all here for fun x

Just wondering if you’ve been in a long term relationship with a black man? Or married to a black man thus making my point mute in your case

I dated black guys for many years. Then met my white husband, had kids etc still married and also dating black guys with husband's knowledge it's what we like.

Do you only get sexual gratification from black guys then? Just trying to understand

Yes I do and that's why my husband allows me to date black guys that's ok I don't mind answering questions

Not being rude if you only get sexual gratification from black guys, how and why did you marry a white guy? And why didn’t you marry a black guy? "

Why does she need to answer that ?

Why does she need to justify her relationship and sexual preference to you or anyone else for that matter ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only meet black guys but it's my preference. I get called racist all the time on here and it gets quite boring. I have had abusive messages since being on here over 9 years on and off.

It's no different to someone that likes BBW women, slim women, brunettes,blondes etc there are plenty of women that state they don't meet black guys but it doesn't make them racist. Everyone is here for different reasons and fetishes if it's not your thing then move on to the next person. We are all here for fun x

Just wondering if you’ve been in a long term relationship with a black man? Or married to a black man thus making my point mute in your case

I dated black guys for many years. Then met my white husband, had kids etc still married and also dating black guys with husband's knowledge it's what we like.

Do you only get sexual gratification from black guys then? Just trying to understand

Yes I do and that's why my husband allows me to date black guys that's ok I don't mind answering questions

Not being rude if you only get sexual gratification from black guys, how and why did you marry a white guy? And why didn’t you marry a black guy?

Why does she need to answer that ?

Why does she need to justify her relationship and sexual preference to you or anyone else for that matter ?

"

She doesn’t have to answer anything we are just engaged in an adult conversation and I’m trying to understand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think it’s racist at all, I appreciate people have a preference. You can’t be everyone’s flavour."

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every so often I post for a fantasy and this time it is two black guys

The though of their cock sliding into my pink mouth and my white pussy turns both Mr P and myself on.

The next fantasy will be something completely different

Am I racist? It makes me laugh that statement.

No! I m definitely not as I love white dick just as much

Mrs P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only meet black guys but it's my preference. I get called racist all the time on here and it gets quite boring. I have had abusive messages since being on here over 9 years on and off.

It's no different to someone that likes BBW women, slim women, brunettes,blondes etc there are plenty of women that state they don't meet black guys but it doesn't make them racist. Everyone is here for different reasons and fetishes if it's not your thing then move on to the next person. We are all here for fun x

Just wondering if you’ve been in a long term relationship with a black man? Or married to a black man thus making my point mute in your case

I dated black guys for many years. Then met my white husband, had kids etc still married and also dating black guys with husband's knowledge it's what we like.

Do you only get sexual gratification from black guys then? Just trying to understand

Yes I do and that's why my husband allows me to date black guys that's ok I don't mind answering questions

Not being rude if you only get sexual gratification from black guys, how and why did you marry a white guy? And why didn’t you marry a black guy?

Why does she need to answer that ?

Why does she need to justify her relationship and sexual preference to you or anyone else for that matter ?

She doesn’t have to answer anything we are just engaged in an adult conversation and I’m trying to understand"

Fair enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No but apparently to put white guys only is.

well there are black women who only want white men too..I cant say its racist.

One of the biggest problems really is; we typecast people into a narrative that suits a bias, normally that bias is self suited."

I have to ask, where?

In all of my travels, on fab and otherwise, never in my life have I met a black girl who only dates or plays with white guys. In fact I've met very very few who would look at a white guy with anything more than sexual contempt

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over a year ago


"I only meet black guys but it's my preference. I get called racist all the time on here and it gets quite boring. I have had abusive messages since being on here over 9 years on and off.

It's no different to someone that likes BBW women, slim women, brunettes,blondes etc there are plenty of women that state they don't meet black guys but it doesn't make them racist. Everyone is here for different reasons and fetishes if it's not your thing then move on to the next person. We are all here for fun x

Just wondering if you’ve been in a long term relationship with a black man? Or married to a black man thus making my point mute in your case

I dated black guys for many years. Then met my white husband, had kids etc still married and also dating black guys with husband's knowledge it's what we like.

Do you only get sexual gratification from black guys then? Just trying to understand

Yes I do and that's why my husband allows me to date black guys that's ok I don't mind answering questions

Not being rude if you only get sexual gratification from black guys, how and why did you marry a white guy? And why didn’t you marry a black guy?

Why does she need to answer that ?

Why does she need to justify her relationship and sexual preference to you or anyone else for that matter ?

She doesn’t have to answer anything we are just engaged in an adult conversation and I’m trying to understand

Fair enough

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We understand it’s an emotive subject, never want anyone to justify there preferences, hubby being mixed race means he has seen racism from both sides and believes that there is an undercurrent of white women using black men for sexual gratification whilst actually having prejudice against them, even heard the phrase “like fucking them, but would never have a relationship with a black man”

The other point is if I had one preference to only play with one type of person like ladies who want black only, then I would have married that type of person if that was the only type that would give me satisfaction, if hubby only wanted got sexual gratification from 6ft blondes I’d ask him why he didn’t marry one x

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By *ommenhimCouple
over a year ago

wigan

So no preferences (hiding preferences) equals loads of messages from people who you don’t want to meet. Then ‘no thanks’ reply returns ‘why?’ .... If it was as simple as that it would still be time consuming. Black only! .... reader doesn’t waste their time as they aren’t black and speeds to the next profile.... I believe it’s that simple .... why would anyone want to waste theirs and others times with people who clearly do not fit their preference... we have, clearly as the first line in our profile ‘no subs thankyou’ We don’t want them, won’t meet them... as I am one and one’s enough for us. Daily messages from subs which when I can be bothered do take some flak. It’s time saving to express your preference and time saving for the reader to gauge whether they fit. Why not?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only meet black guys but it's my preference. I get called racist all the time on here and it gets quite boring. I have had abusive messages since being on here over 9 years on and off.

It's no different to someone that likes BBW women, slim women, brunettes,blondes etc there are plenty of women that state they don't meet black guys but it doesn't make them racist. Everyone is here for different reasons and fetishes if it's not your thing then move on to the next person. We are all here for fun x

Just wondering if you’ve been in a long term relationship with a black man? Or married to a black man thus making my point mute in your case

I dated black guys for many years. Then met my white husband, had kids etc still married and also dating black guys with husband's knowledge it's what we like.

Do you only get sexual gratification from black guys then? Just trying to understand

Yes I do and that's why my husband allows me to date black guys that's ok I don't mind answering questions

Not being rude if you only get sexual gratification from black guys, how and why did you marry a white guy? And why didn’t you marry a black guy?

Why does she need to answer that ?

Why does she need to justify her relationship and sexual preference to you or anyone else for that matter ?

She doesn’t have to answer anything we are just engaged in an adult conversation and I’m trying to understand

Fair enough

We understand it’s an emotive subject, never want anyone to justify there preferences, hubby being mixed race means he has seen racism from both sides and believes that there is an undercurrent of white women using black men for sexual gratification whilst actually having prejudice against them, even heard the phrase “like fucking them, but would never have a relationship with a black man”

The other point is if I had one preference to only play with one type of person like ladies who want black only, then I would have married that type of person if that was the only type that would give me satisfaction, if hubby only wanted got sexual gratification from 6ft blondes I’d ask him why he didn’t marry one x"

I can't answer for those in white only relationship and want black men only. That's not my situation and never has been.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"I only meet black guys but it's my preference. I get called racist all the time on here and it gets quite boring. I have had abusive messages since being on here over 9 years on and off.

It's no different to someone that likes BBW women, slim women, brunettes,blondes etc there are plenty of women that state they don't meet black guys but it doesn't make them racist. Everyone is here for different reasons and fetishes if it's not your thing then move on to the next person. We are all here for fun x

Just wondering if you’ve been in a long term relationship with a black man? Or married to a black man thus making my point mute in your case

I dated black guys for many years. Then met my white husband, had kids etc still married and also dating black guys with husband's knowledge it's what we like.

Do you only get sexual gratification from black guys then? Just trying to understand

Yes I do and that's why my husband allows me to date black guys that's ok I don't mind answering questions

Not being rude if you only get sexual gratification from black guys, how and why did you marry a white guy? And why didn’t you marry a black guy?

Why does she need to answer that ?

Why does she need to justify her relationship and sexual preference to you or anyone else for that matter ?

She doesn’t have to answer anything we are just engaged in an adult conversation and I’m trying to understand

Fair enough

We understand it’s an emotive subject, never want anyone to justify there preferences, hubby being mixed race means he has seen racism from both sides and believes that there is an undercurrent of white women using black men for sexual gratification whilst actually having prejudice against them, even heard the phrase “like fucking them, but would never have a relationship with a black man”

The other point is if I had one preference to only play with one type of person like ladies who want black only, then I would have married that type of person if that was the only type that would give me satisfaction, if hubby only wanted got sexual gratification from 6ft blondes I’d ask him why he didn’t marry one x

I can't answer for those in white only relationship and want black men only. That's not my situation and never has been. "

Same here.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"No, i just avoid these women.

Same here; block, block, blockity block!

In case they see the error of their ways and try to get in touch?

No, I don't match what they're looking for, so I don't need their profiles clogging up my searches "

Logical. I also block those who cannot read or have a short attention span, as well as anyone who is into dogging or drugs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No but apparently to put white guys only is. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not racist it's just a preference BUT the logic of some women is extremely questionable. Some of the things I've heard you wouldn't believe.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"No it's not.

It's a sexual preference that's all.

I personally scroll past those profiles.

But I know from chatting to couples that there are still Asian and white men messaging them with

I'm not black but.....

Now that's wrong!!

Also Asian guys claiming to be black when clearly Asian.

Only fooling yourselves lads."

No, they usually say they are mixed-race.

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire


"Do you think this is racist? When women put this , Only asking , don't shoot me "

No, I do not think it is racist as t is not racism.

We all have preferences here and adults should be able to state them without worrying about judgement.

If say, this was a business and an owner said, we only serve such and such here. That would be racist.

Hopefully you understand the difference now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think this is racist? When women put this , Only asking , don't shoot me

No, I do not think it is racist as t is not racism.

We all have preferences here and adults should be able to state them without worrying about judgement.

If say, this was a business and an owner said, we only serve such and such here. That would be racist.

Hopefully you understand the difference now."

It’s not a preference to say you ONLY like one specific type of human.

That’s some kind of psychological conditioning. Sure say you prefer Chinese, black, white, ginger, whatever. But preferring is different to excluding.

When you believe you can only like one type of person then that’s weird to me.

Maybe it’s because I’m mixed I don’t really see the hang ups about race.

I’ve been with people of all ethnicities and there’s beautiful and fit as fuck people from every corner of the globe. I don’t get why someone would pick one skin colour and say “I only like this”.

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire


"Do you think this is racist? When women put this , Only asking , don't shoot me

No, I do not think it is racist as t is not racism.

We all have preferences here and adults should be able to state them without worrying about judgement.

If say, this was a business and an owner said, we only serve such and such here. That would be racist.

Hopefully you understand the difference now.

It’s not a preference to say you ONLY like one specific type of human.

That’s some kind of psychological conditioning. Sure say you prefer Chinese, black, white, ginger, whatever. But preferring is different to excluding.

When you believe you can only like one type of person then that’s weird to me.

Maybe it’s because I’m mixed I don’t really see the hang ups about race.

I’ve been with people of all ethnicities and there’s beautiful and fit as fuck people from every corner of the globe. I don’t get why someone would pick one skin colour and say “I only like this”."

It is not about liking, it is about sleeping with someone.

We all like different things, if some people want to only sleep with some people. That's their prerogative, it's not something to get worked up over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Can you show me where said queue is please lol.

Oh we can take you to some parties where it's just wall to wall hunks. Though not BMFC, we totally hate that party night. "

We will come with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not racist at all. However, maybe the site owners need to add/update categories...

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By *heHotwifePairCouple
over a year ago

South


"Not racist at all. However, maybe the site owners need to add/update categories..."

That would be good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And that's why an updated set of categories would push away thoughts of racism on the site - subliminal or otherwise...

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By *astyEricMan
over a year ago

Hull

No, for starters there is only one race of human on this earth called Homo Sapiens. And the amount of melatonin does not mean its different race.

I wonder when if ever people will understend that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any other Fabbers feel it's time for updated preference categories - primarily aimed at making searches less time-consuming...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And those ladies had every right to their sexual preference - nowt wrong with that at all...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Site is crying out for updated categories apropos choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think this is racist? When women put this , Only asking , don't shoot me "

No ! It’s everyone’s right to choose. If it’s your choice and it’s what turns you on then end of story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brilliant, intelligent and thought-provoking posts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all, people can't help what they like.

I myself don't get turned on by very dark skinned women, it's not because I dislike them because of mine or their race it's just personal preference that's all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Do people just start these threads hoping for a kick off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

MontyandCoco

Your posts are intelligent and thought-provoking

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

No I don't think so

But if a profile stated white men only it could be seen as racist , not sure why , maybe societies dynamics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the context. If it's a job advertisement then yes. It's no different to saying no blacks. If you're looking to shag a black man, you don't have to shag all the whites first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not in the context it’s used on here,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"MontyandCoco

Your posts are intelligent and thought-provoking"

Aww thanks

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"No I don't think so

But if a profile stated white men only it could be seen as racist , not sure why , maybe societies dynamics "

Not true.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"No, for starters there is only one race of human on this earth called Homo Sapiens. And the amount of melatonin does not mean its different race.

I wonder when if ever people will understend that "

Race is a social construct. Attraction is individual. People will not be attracted to each and every Homo Sapiens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of the stereotyping can be a drag and very cliched. Back in my nightclub days, I used to move away from the silly comments, "oh, you must be a great dancer" etc etc. YAWN

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By *rMisterMan
over a year ago

Near the Wall


"No I don't think so

But if a profile stated white men only it could be seen as racist , not sure why , maybe societies dynamics

Not true."

Well said madame.

It's just preference. You cannot bring equal opportunities into swinging that will be weird.

I have met plenty of ladies who only play with black men and i always ask why is that. Believe it or not few couples told me that their deal is that the missus can do what she wants but the only white man she plays with is the husband.

Then there are other who for some reasons just prefer black guys, and cock size has nothing to do with it (have seen few turning down white guys with huge cocks and go for black guys average size, have witnessed this few times in clubs).

I Have also met those who meet both but would prefer black guys if given the choice, for some reasons.

It's just preference. Few couple and single ladies have on their profile, no blacks. I never thought this was a replicate of Jim Crow Law, I just moved on to the next profile

I once contacted a couple in Manchester, when they fabbed few of my pictures. I had a reply back 'sorry she's not into black guys but I really want to see her with a black man, i will talk to her ' . It was the husband, I replied that he shouldn't force and they should display that on their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My father is Black.

The opinion re people of a certain race that look, smell, feel and dress "better" is highly subjective.

There have been women who have told me, "oh, your skin is so smooth and soft. It was a nice complement back in my younger days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefererence is preference.

If there is malice or hatred behind a preference, then there's a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This depait still going on... Haven't the other trillion posts answered this already ?

Racism on fab - when someone decided to send abusive messages on here due to personal preference not being with the same race as my own for reasons I don't need to explain to anyone.

Personal preference on fab - when someone has a preference to who they fuck no matter what their preference is.

My personal preference is black west Indian males, my inbox is filled with white guys living far away who just want to have a chat.

I don't initiate any contact with anyone so due to me not putting up my own personal preference on my profile (I used too but got abuse or guys just didn't read it) I only ever seem to get messages from white men.

Btw my profile is now one line... 1 line... Do they read it.. do they fuck !!!

Seen as I meet no one from here I gave up and now I just chat to anyone as it doesn't matter, none of them will ever meet me anyways. Unless they attend one of the club's I go too.

Plus the Scottish and the guy in new Zealand are great to chat too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I presume you mean British men of West Indian origin - or do you mean West Indian born men?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This depait still going on... Haven't the other trillion posts answered this already ?

Racism on fab - when someone decided to send abusive messages on here due to personal preference not being with the same race as my own for reasons I don't need to explain to anyone.

Personal preference on fab - when someone has a preference to who they fuck no matter what their preference is.

My personal preference is black west Indian males, my inbox is filled with white guys living far away who just want to have a chat.

I don't initiate any contact with anyone so due to me not putting up my own personal preference on my profile (I used too but got abuse or guys just didn't read it) I only ever seem to get messages from white men.

Btw my profile is now one line... 1 line... Do they read it.. do they fuck !!!

Seen as I meet no one from here I gave up and now I just chat to anyone as it doesn't matter, none of them will ever meet me anyways. Unless they attend one of the club's I go too.

Plus the Scottish and the guy in new Zealand are great to chat too."

I'm black n Scottish,what do I win?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I presume you mean British men of West Indian origin - or do you mean West Indian born men?"

You can presume but I find at least with those that I am friends with or in or have been in relationships with other than the accent and individual differences that they still hold the same humble down to earth view of life in a positive manner. So for me it makes no difference, culture is still there regardless all with their wonderful carecterist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This depait still going on... Haven't the other trillion posts answered this already ?

Racism on fab - when someone decided to send abusive messages on here due to personal preference not being with the same race as my own for reasons I don't need to explain to anyone.

Personal preference on fab - when someone has a preference to who they fuck no matter what their preference is.

My personal preference is black west Indian males, my inbox is filled with white guys living far away who just want to have a chat.

I don't initiate any contact with anyone so due to me not putting up my own personal preference on my profile (I used too but got abuse or guys just didn't read it) I only ever seem to get messages from white men.

Btw my profile is now one line... 1 line... Do they read it.. do they fuck !!!

Seen as I meet no one from here I gave up and now I just chat to anyone as it doesn't matter, none of them will ever meet me anyways. Unless they attend one of the club's I go too.

Plus the Scottish and the guy in new Zealand are great to chat too.

I'm black n Scottish,what do I win?"

You win a conversation, if you like. If not then not to worry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my first 10 yrs on the scene, I was mainly part of a cpl, and tended not to notice the race element. That may have been down to it being the cpls scene. The last 10 yrs seem more fragmented --- nothing wrong with that if punters and players are happy ).

I'm not BBC, yet not White. It's interesting when I take a lady friend to couples parties. I still sometimes hear in whispers, "oh look, there's that 'black' guy.

I personally think the swinging scene would be far healthier if there were more black women and black couples involved...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No but apparently to put white guys only is. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you mean by culture? And I presume you mean "Black" West Indian culture? I say this because on the Island of Trinidad, there is a slight majority of Indian West Indians...

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"Do people just start these threads hoping for a kick off?"

in my humble opinion one word answer "YES" lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Putting Whites Only is definitely acceptable - it's clear for everyone to read and if Whites only want to play with Whites or Blacks have a preference for other Blacks it is also fine.

I read loads of Whites Only profiles and then quickly move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fascinating topic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my first 10 yrs on the scene, I was mainly part of a cpl, and tended not to notice the race element. That may have been down to it being the cpls scene. The last 10 yrs seem more fragmented --- nothing wrong with that if punters and players are happy ).

I'm not BBC, yet not White. It's interesting when I take a lady friend to couples parties. I still sometimes hear in whispers, "oh look, there's that 'black' guy.

I personally think the swinging scene would be far healthier if there were more black women and black couples involved..."

There are loads on the scene. I'm in a relationship with trim who is clearly black. Majority of my friends on the scene are mixed couples or black.

Me n trim will go to white clubs and we go to mixed events. Very rarely does the fact that I'm white and he's black come into it. Only once did I speak to a couple and once they realised that my boyfriend was black did they not want talk to him but wanted my number.i politely declined.

Joke of it is that we play seperate but if you can't even hold a conversation with trim you sure as hell can't fuck me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Putting Whites Only is definitely acceptable - it's clear for everyone to read and if Whites only want to play with Whites or Blacks have a preference for other Blacks it is also fine.

I read loads of Whites Only profiles and then quickly move on. "

I dont see a problem with putting whites only, asian or black only. I wouldn't dream of someone having sex with someone who they just aren't attracted too.

I like deep drown eyes and a dashing smile and possibly dimples

I may struggle to get turned on with someone who doesn't have those. Their personalities would have to be cracking that's for sure. Specially if their missing front teeth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people just start these threads hoping for a kick off?

in my humble opinion one word answer "YES" lol "

They do and Im filling it up so it will be closed down... Till the next one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 more left including this one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aaaaand that's a wrap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see a number of mixed cpls. But at Bmfc I hardly see many Black ladies...

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