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Hey, Hows you ? Does it work ?

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By *n080971 OP   Man
over a year ago

Billericay

I get a few of these type of messages, two this morning and its only 8.40am. Could be "want some" or "can I suck you" or "nice dick"

So I'm wondering does it ever work ? I tend to spend an overly long amount of time trying to find a relevant detail on someones profile about which to build a first message, but am I missing a trick here ?

This isn't a rant, each to their own, I'm just curious.

Has anyone ever arranged a meet based on a two of three word first contact ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it doesnt work as we just ignore them and if they keep sending then we block..

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Never. Instant no or usually they continue messaging so they end up blocked. Frustrating.

Av xx

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

The amount of times I write “good thanks” everyday!

I try to reply to most messages but omg, it’s dull

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Three words? As many as that?

I've had messages shorter than their user name.

But whether I'd meet depends if the message is from a man or a woman / couple.

I'm bi but more attracted to feminine partners, so if a man messages, he has to put more effort into persuading me.

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By *n080971 OP   Man
over a year ago

Billericay

Fair point, I guess it depends on the sender.

There are a few people on here I’d probably reply to if they sent me a blank message

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Doesn't get anywhere with me.

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By *TkitkatWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

I'm skeptical that people really want to know how I am, and if I said I was bad and my haemerroids were playing up would they actually care (they aren't, just putting that out there)

Actually that might be someone's thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I block

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Straight delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a positive message

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Doesn't work with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't work with me. "
HHyd?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The amount of times I write “good thanks” everyday!

I try to reply to most messages but omg, it’s dull "

This. There's a standard format it seems.

Hi?

How you doing?

What you up To?

What are you looking for?

How's fab treating You?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Doesn't work with me. HHyd? "
??

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

instant block from me. No effort on their part, which means they will be messaging 100s, so I'm not going to upset them. To them its a numbers game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. It’s a two way street. There’s nothing wrong with someone testing the waters and we don’t expect an essay or original message as that tester.

I wouldn’t expect someone in a pub to launch into a full bio of themselves when “Hi” would of worked just as well.

If we like the look of someone then it’s as beholden on us as much as them to get the conversational ball rolling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't work with me. HHyd? ?? "
Hi how you doing lol

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By *iamond coupleCouple
over a year ago

leeds

[Removed by poster at 18/06/19 09:11:56]

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Newton Stewart


"The amount of times I write “good thanks” everyday!

I try to reply to most messages but omg, it’s dull

This. There's a standard format it seems.

Hi?

How you doing?

What you up To?

What are you looking for?

How's fab treating You?"

The very same messages we get!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 18/06/19 09:48:40]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what comments do people like ? As my good old ,

Do you cum here often opening lines not working at all.

( I hope I don't have to say this of course a joke)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last week I got a message from some guy, he clearly hadn't read my profile so just deleted, next message I got was him calling me a slag and blocking me!!

Sunday x x

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

I usually look at the profile before replying if it grabs my attention then I'll reply. I get that there's no point sending a 1000 word essay as a first message just to be ignored.

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
over a year ago

Didcot

Any message I get that just contains 'How's you' or even more lazy 'Hows U' gets no reply from me, I really hate it and why do some guys send a 'Hi, nice pics' message with a load of their own pics attached, pics that are on their profile anyway?

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By *JayydeWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

I had some vile man simply write in a first message yesterday.

'Van sex now'

To which I actually just replied no.

Got all sorts of abuse of him saying I was dragged up blah blah blah.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I had some vile man simply write in a first message yesterday.

'Van sex now'

To which I actually just replied no.

Got all sorts of abuse of him saying I was dragged up blah blah blah. "

Yeah you and me both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually look at the profile before replying if it grabs my attention then I'll reply. I get that there's no point sending a 1000 word essay as a first message just to be ignored. "
Hey that's a very fair analogy

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By *sRedbbwWoman
over a year ago

Amwythig


"I had some vile man simply write in a first message yesterday.

'Van sex now'

To which I actually just replied no.

Got all sorts of abuse of him saying I was dragged up blah blah blah. "

I hate the guys that think this is a free hooker service

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....


"The amount of times I write “good thanks” everyday!

I try to reply to most messages but omg, it’s dull

This. There's a standard format it seems.

Hi?

How you doing?

What you up To?

What are you looking for?

How's fab treating You?"

This... depends on how I’m feeling as to how I reply...

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Stafford

No. I delete and block.

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Stafford


"No. I delete and block. "

I meant for the messages that say "Wana fuck" ect.

If it's a simple hi it depends on their profile as to if I reply or not.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

My profile says I won't reply unless I can tell you've read it. The hi hows u brigade are easiest because I often don't even have to open the message to tell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had some vile man simply write in a first message yesterday.

'Van sex now'

To which I actually just replied no.

Got all sorts of abuse of him saying I was dragged up blah blah blah.

I hate the guys that think this is a free hooker service "

This. Effort messages are more favourable and yes, so many Hi how are you as first text are a no no for me. Then again I've had some great texts as first intros too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's from someone I've been talking too then yes it works in carrying on an already good conversation.

If it's fresh meat as so to speak then no not really.

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham


"I'm skeptical that people really want to know how I am, and if I said I was bad and my haemerroids were playing up would they actually care (they aren't, just putting that out there)

Actually that might be someone's thing. "

You are lying ,, I can’t see them from here

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