FabSwingers.com forum: Single guys, always feel safe meeting on your own?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just thought I'd ask the question. Do single Guys ever feel they have safety concerns in the back of their mind when meeting a Couple or Moresome? Especially when it's the first time and at someone else's house or hotel room.

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By *man013Man
over a year ago

Derby

Oh I get real nervous when I attempt to go to a meet even more so now that I’ve gone only for no shows and people who drive past me in there car leaving there home as I walk down it’s a scary thing to do but you have to bite the bullet and hope that it’ll be worth the nerves and sadly in my case it never has but I can hope

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By *irkydirkyMan
over a year ago

kells

Yes 100%.. if anything did cross my mind I simply just wouldn’t be here.. Now, if I was a women? In this day and age I may think differently..

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By *utsidenakedMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

I don't have this problem

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By *opite 5Man
over a year ago

Bangor

In a situation like this....just don't strip off downstairs and go upstairs with your wallet in your trous/jeans pocket left downstairs. Think safety & ahead.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Just thought I'd ask the question. Do single Guys ever feel they have safety concerns in the back of their mind when meeting a Couple or Moresome? Especially when it's the first time and at someone else's house or hotel room."

I am always nervous about going to somebodies home. Hotels I am ok.

I always tell somebody where I am going. I always take a pic of the house before entering and send it to a trusted friend.

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By *019ReadyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I am always nervous about going to somebodies home. Hotels I am ok.

I always tell somebody where I am going. I always take a pic of the house before entering and send it to a trusted friend. "

Good idea

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

I don't meet random people at their homes. Before any meet, I have a week of chat at least. Often I'll have a social too. Because of this, I have little fear if/when I do meet for real.

There were a few times in the past, years ago when I would meet a few random women.

One time, I met a young girl who was really nice. We chatted for a week. We met for a social, and I started to notice a different personality. She said some really freaky stuff to me. It became clear that she had a very warped view of men. I honestly felt as though I was in danger and alarm bells were going off in my head. I felt as though she'd have carried out some sort of sexually motivated attack if I'd have gone to her house.

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By *019ReadyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I don't meet random people at their homes. Before any meet, I have a week of chat at least. Often I'll have a social too. Because of this, I have little fear if/when I do meet for real.

There were a few times in the past, years ago when I would meet a few random women.

Jesus - that's really scary! Always pays to suss things out before jumping straight in. Intuition / gut instinct shouldn't be ignored

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

I try too accommodate ....hen its down too the couple or ppl too come too mine..I feel safer...plus some couples prefer to be accomodated...

Any couples please hit me up..lol

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

"I don't meet random people at their homes. Before any meet, I have a week of chat at least. Often I'll have a social too. Because of this, I have little fear if/when I do meet for real.

There were a few times in the past, years ago when I would meet a few random women.

Jesus - that's really scary! Always pays to suss things out before jumping straight in. Intuition / gut instinct shouldn't be ignored

Absolutely, after it, I remember sitting in my car thinking "what would she have done if I'd have gone in?".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its. Interesting to see things from a male perspective on this

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By *019ReadyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Foolishly it's never occurred to me that guys might feel unsafe!

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

I spoke recently too a guy from a different site..and he said he got robbed by a couple ..she went in kitchen with him too get drinks..got bit sexy..while her hub was drumming the place...

He never reported it..scared of being outed as a swinger......

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By *ustinCredible.Man
over a year ago

whitecross/sankey valley

"I spoke recently too a guy from a different site..and he said he got robbed by a couple ..she went in kitchen with him too get drinks..got bit sexy..while her hub was drumming the place...

He never reported it..scared of being outed as a swinger......

I've had a woman steal £40 and didn't report for the same reason. She's still on the site and changes name regularly so no point naming and shaming...

To answer OP though ive always had a bit of the "what ifs" in the back of my head when meeting new people at thier homes, and like others have said it's why I tend to accom. Most of the time it turns out great though and think ive only had 1 BAD meet and that was because he drank too much and got jealous she was playing with me not him so he threw me out haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't know Ive never got that far with anyone. Dont know what im doing wrong

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By *eter8inchMan
over a year ago

Lancaster

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By *eter8inchMan
over a year ago

Lancaster

No, I’ve met various couples at their place or hotel.

Never felt threatened or worried, but then again I guess I am pretty hard!! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a guy who was tricked by a couple into a very disturbing sexual episode, so it does happen.

Always do your research and at least meet socially first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a genuine single woman and I only meet single men.

I don't like hotels. Anyone can hire a hotel. Doesn't even need to be in their name. So how does one know the person who will open that door, will be the person you arranged to meet?

I'm not going to go into a hotel bar and potentially find myself in an embarrassing situation. So I wouldn't arrange to meet him there first.

A perv or murderer etc etc, wouldn't give out his home address and wouldn't consent to a daytime social in say Costa.

I would rather meet in daytime and in Costa first to check him out then go to a hotel.

Biggest clue concerning a guy who can accomodate within his home, is that he's genuinely single. Doubt a married guy would accomodate within his house.

My way of meeting had never failed me. So I do what works best for me.

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