FabSwingers.com forum: Yellow card before a block.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've seen lots of posts on here saying they are blocked for no reason ,who thinks there could be a yellow card button on here before a Block ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm......no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen lots of posts on here saying they are blocked for no reason ,who thinks there could be a yellow card button on here before a Block ?"

Why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would they know they had been yellow carded and would you be giving an explanation for the yellow card?

Some people react badly to being turned down, would they also react badly to being yellow carded?

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By *valanche1001Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"Would they know they had been yellow carded and would you be giving an explanation for the yellow card?

Some people react badly to being turned down, would they also react badly to being yellow carded? "

This

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Nope, yet another reason for men to spit their dummies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope, yet another reason for men to spit their dummies."

Agreed

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

There's always a reason for blocking. People just don't want to think about what it is.

A warning would lead to abuse and manipulation. (and honestly if I think there's hope to recover something, I can use my words. "I don't like x, stop it". And I have done)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you meaning blocks from profiles or being blocked by admin? That would give 2 different answers.

I think a block from admin would benefit from a yellow card..so you know what you did wrong.

If it's blocks from profiles, it's their choice and they don't need to give a reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can we just turn the block button in to a red card?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i block i block i dont need the person who im blocking to have a 2nd chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you meaning blocks from profiles or being blocked by admin? That would give 2 different answers.

I think a block from admin would benefit from a yellow card..so you know what you did wrong.

If it's blocks from profiles, it's their choice and they don't need to give a reason

Agree entirely.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"Are you meaning blocks from profiles or being blocked by admin? That would give 2 different answers.

I think a block from admin would benefit from a yellow card..so you know what you did wrong.

If it's blocks from profiles, it's their choice and they don't need to give a reason

i may be wrong but admin only ban for serious rule breaches which lets face it we should all know anyway, and is there too much harm in a short ban from say chat rooms or posting in forums i do see it may have some merit with newbies but serial offenders, which many are! i see little need as for a yellow card for users to use hell no way!!! imagine all the " boo hoo why did you yellow card me your and ugly bitch anyway" messages

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wow I didn't think people would be so against it ,but love your honesty.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Wow I didn't think people would be so against it ,but love your honesty."

It's a very different Fab on a woman's profile.

Most guys who I've "blocked for no reason"... There have been very very clear reasons.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"Wow I didn't think people would be so against it ,but love your honesty.

It's a very different Fab on a woman's profile.

Most guys who I've "blocked for no reason"... There have been very very clear reasons. "

there nearly always is!!!!!!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Wow I didn't think people would be so against it ,but love your honesty.

It's a very different Fab on a woman's profile.

Most guys who I've "blocked for no reason"... There have been very very clear reasons.

there nearly always is!!!!!!

Occasionally I've even given multiple chances.

Here are my rules. Violate rules. Sorry, I said I didn't do that. But violate rules. No really, I mean it. I'm going to violate rules! Block.

She blocked me for no reason!!!

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By *ev_1Couple
over a year ago

Bickliegh

Can we have VAR too

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I honestly don't see the point of it OP - if someone has behaved like an arse enough to merit a block, they're not going to suddenly change their behaviour because they've been given a warning.

Likewise if someone blocks someone because they don't like their profile enough to want to engage with them, and to prevent them wasting their time by messaging again (which people often do) then they're not likely to change their mind.

Ultimately it's down to people to take responsibility for their actions and accept that they may be blocked for any number of reasons and not to have any expectation someone will change their mind just because they have been given a warning.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Can we have VAR too "
only if it has straight lines.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

People use the block button for many reasons.

Because they don't want that profile to contact them again

Because they've contacted someone and been turned down

Because of something they said in the forum

Because they've been rude to them

And many, many more.

It's never for no reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen lots of posts on here saying they are blocked for no reason ,who thinks there could be a yellow card button on here before a Block ?"

Why? We block people we have no intention of meeting for various reasons so they don't show up in searches and don't waste their time messaging us. Are we meant to issue "a yellow card" telling them to become someone else or they'll be blocked?

Mrs

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I've seen lots of posts on here saying they are blocked for no reason ,who thinks there could be a yellow card button on here before a Block ?

Mrs "

Or "if you don't (pretend to) respect my boundaries I'm blocking you". That could be dangerous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen lots of posts on here saying they are blocked for no reason ,who thinks there could be a yellow card button on here before a Block ?

Mrs

Or "if you don't (pretend to) respect my boundaries I'm blocking you". That could be dangerous. "

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
over a year ago

Bolton

"Nope, yet another reason for men to spit their dummies."

But most men understand the Yellow Card system lol x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Nope, yet another reason for men to spit their dummies.

But most men understand the Yellow Card system lol x"

They'd argue with the ref.

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
over a year ago

Bolton

"Nope, yet another reason for men to spit their dummies.

But most men understand the Yellow Card system lol x

They'd argue with the ref. "

lol x

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Why so people can see that as a sign to falsely change tact or hide their true nature/intentions better?

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
over a year ago

Didcot

I know on some sites people use the block function to avoid keep viewing profiles of people they've deemed not for them, apparently useful for standard members on sites which limit the amount of profiles they can view.

My experience on gay sites like Fabguys is that many guys can' be bothered to read profiles or think they are going to be the exception to the rule and send some inane message usually involving BDSM or anal sex, a simple no thanks doesn't work, they just try again in a few days, I've found the only way to stop these idiots is the block button.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just had a particularly grim message from some random about a felching fantasy. In some detail. I don’t want to warn him that the message is horrid and inappropriate, which may result in him thinking that he is basically OK in his approach. I just want to block him so that there’s no chance of me ever hearing about him wanting to suck a black man’s sperm out of my anus ever again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I block people even if they have never messaged me, several locals who I know and often profiles I see were I know I will never be interested in them. It saves me seeing them in searches.

Yellow card idea is a non starter IMO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many of these discussions is there going on right now???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no point. If you deserve a yellow card then you probably deserve to be blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would they know they had been yellow carded and would you be giving an explanation for the yellow card?

Some people react badly to being turned down, would they also react badly to being yellow carded? "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not me, I love the block button. You may think you’ve been blocked for ‘no reason’ but the person doing the blocking will have a reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just not getting a reply is a yellow card really

Luckily enough I’ve never used the block button as the good ladies of fab have not figured out how to harass me yet ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just not getting a reply is a yellow card really

Luckily enough I’ve never used the block button as the good ladies of fab have not figured out how to harass me yet ha "

is it really, i see it as thanks but no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are all adults and i personally dont understand why people need to " spit the dummy". A simple Thanks but no thanks, happy fabbing is my normal response to people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just not getting a reply is a yellow card really

Luckily enough I’ve never used the block button as the good ladies of fab have not figured out how to harass me yet ha

is it really, i see it as thanks but no."

I would agree, maybe am viewing yellow card as a polite no thank you scenario

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are all adults and i personally dont understand why people need to " spit the dummy". A simple Thanks but no thanks, happy fabbing is my normal response to people

as online they can be keyboard warriors or be a knob!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just not getting a reply is a yellow card really

Luckily enough I’ve never used the block button as the good ladies of fab have not figured out how to harass me yet ha

is it really, i see it as thanks but no.

I would agree, maybe am viewing yellow card as a polite no thank you scenario "

ahh iget you now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just not getting a reply is a yellow card really

Luckily enough I’ve never used the block button as the good ladies of fab have not figured out how to harass me yet ha

is it really, i see it as thanks but no.

I would agree, maybe am viewing yellow card as a polite no thank you scenario

ahh iget you now

Am I forgiven ? Want to hug it out ?

Don’t block me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just not getting a reply is a yellow card really

Luckily enough I’ve never used the block button as the good ladies of fab have not figured out how to harass me yet ha

is it really, i see it as thanks but no.

I would agree, maybe am viewing yellow card as a polite no thank you scenario

ahh iget you now

Am I forgiven ? Want to hug it out ?

Don’t block me

fuck that lol

and you have given me no reason to block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone blocks you... or you've been blocked, why would you want to contact them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just not getting a reply is a yellow card really

Luckily enough I’ve never used the block button as the good ladies of fab have not figured out how to harass me yet ha

is it really, i see it as thanks but no.

I would agree, maybe am viewing yellow card as a polite no thank you scenario "
well said.

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

To give someone a yellow card would be suggesting they've done something wrong. There are several reasons why people block, and most have nothing to do with 'bad behaviour' - so what would be the point?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Erm......no."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you mean like a yellow card in football?

Two yellows equals a red,and you're off?

That might work,but myself and I'm sure others will just give two yellows one after the other,for those they wish no further contact ftom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen lots of posts on here saying they are blocked for no reason ,who thinks there could be a yellow card button on here before a Block ?"

No. People block people for what reason they chose.

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By *uckfunCouple
over a year ago

North Coast

People are under no obligation to have to receive messages from others on here or have them looking at their photos. As has been said, people have their reasons.

We block people whose intro message starts with ‘do you have photos?’, ‘I’m nearby let’s meet’ etc and also single men that pester with constant winks, friend requests and non-stop messaging even after we’ve said no thanks.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I was thinking about this earlier. The blocked for no reason threads would be replaced by yellow carded for no reason.

All suggestions are welcome though op.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I was thinking about this earlier. The blocked for no reason threads would be replaced by yellow carded for no reason.

All suggestions are welcome though op.

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than you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll keep my beloved block button... It's probably my most used function on this site.

Is there a limit on the number of blocks ???

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I'll keep my beloved block button... It's probably my most used function on this site.

Is there a limit on the number of blocks ??? "

I hope not!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Single men are taking a beating on here and I'm sorry if you have problems with a minority of single men in here BUT PLEASE dont tar us all with the same brush.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll keep my beloved block button... It's probably my most used function on this site.

Is there a limit on the number of blocks ???

I hope not! "

yeah i think 1500 so i was informed once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ignore the message, i suppose that's my yellow card, send another and you're blocked lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Single men are taking a beating on here and I'm sorry if you have problems with a minority of single men in here BUT PLEASE dont tar us all with the same brush."

Not tarring anyone at all. Only discussing the block function on my profile. Which I find most useful.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

It could be offered as functionality as long as people can actually somebody if they choose to.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"Single men are taking a beating on here and I'm sorry if you have problems with a minority of single men in here BUT PLEASE dont tar us all with the same brush."

no one is tarring anyone! the discussion is should there be a yellow card system and the general consensus is no as it is not needed folks block because they feel a reason couples and women get blocked too the difference is they dont whinge about it so much lol

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

"I've seen lots of posts on here saying they are blocked for no reason ,who thinks there could be a yellow card button on here before a Block ?"

If you got a yellow what would you do?

How would someone progress that to a red?

It sounds like wanting a right to appeal a block, which for most is enough reason to block in the first place.

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By *cgkcCouple
over a year ago

Hitchin

Yellow cards? I won't be happy until VAR is introduced

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I block for a reason, no need to give them a second chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope.

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By *imandHerNottsCouple
over a year ago

North Notts

"I've seen lots of posts on here saying they are blocked for no reason ,who thinks there could be a yellow card button on here before a Block ?"

No.

We use blocking to help filter. 90% of the people we have blocked have been smokers.

Each to their own of course but it absolutely not in line with our choice. Wouldn’t our yellow card have to be nicotine patches or e-cigarettes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are all adults and i personally dont understand why people need to " spit the dummy". A simple Thanks but no thanks, happy fabbing is my normal response to people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen lots of posts on here saying they are blocked for no reason ,who thinks there could be a yellow card button on here before a Block ?"

What is your example of when the yellow card would be used? What situation?

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

"Can we have VAR too "
?? haha

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

No. I think it would unnecessarily complicate matters. I can’t see any benefits to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are all adults and i personally dont understand why people need to " spit the dummy". A simple Thanks but no thanks, happy fabbing is my normal response to people

That’s good in theory, but it’s only led to abuse for us. We took that approach to begin with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope, yet another reason for men to spit their dummies."

And women

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

No, If I block there is a definite reason for doing so! No warning given and they should always know the reason behind it

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I’d also introduce a red card as well for the twats who are only on here to cause as much forum disruption as they possibly can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d also introduce a red card as well for the twats who are only on here to cause as much forum disruption as they possibly can."

Plenty of those.

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By *isa2018Couple
over a year ago

East Northamptonshire

The problem is the negative feeling behind being 'blocked'. It might be better if it was a 'hide' button as that is what we use it for really, to hide profiles of people that we dont have interest in sexually.

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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

"Single men are taking a beating on here and I'm sorry if you have problems with a minority of single men in here BUT PLEASE dont tar us all with the same brush."

Well said fella!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been blocked buy a few people in this forum and I dont even know why lol

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By *imandHerNottsCouple
over a year ago

North Notts

"The problem is the negative feeling behind being 'blocked'. It might be better if it was a 'hide' button as that is what we use it for really, to hide profiles of people that we dont have interest in sexually."

This is how we see it too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a massive site and I come across a family members profile so they was blocked instantly there is many reasons why people get blocked on here

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"Single men are taking a beating on here and I'm sorry if you have problems with a minority of single men in here BUT PLEASE dont tar us all with the same brush."

We will continue to block single men as we are not interested in them. No taring involved.

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By *imandHerNottsCouple
over a year ago

North Notts

"Single men are taking a beating on here and I'm sorry if you have problems with a minority of single men in here BUT PLEASE dont tar us all with the same brush.

We will continue to block single men as we are not interested in them. No taring involved."

Us too

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over a year ago

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
over a year ago

Didcot

Agreed, maybe a hide button as well, however, if I block someone it's for a valid reason, they have to have crossed the line, it doesn't happen here but on Fabguys and Cottaging, even though I'm very specific about being strictly vanilla, not liking the sir/master crap and very specific about anal sex either way, ie it's not on the cards I still get offers from guys who think they are going to be the exception, some will take a simple 'no thanks' others won't and end up being blocked, I've even had people set up a new profile a few weeks later and send the same inane messages. To be fair, if I get all that shit on the others sites un the family I can't begin to think of the sort of shit the females and couples have to put up with on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do people come on here to fuck people they hate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men sign up to this website horny, they see hundreds and hundreds of women with tits, pussy, legs.. Its the flys to shit syndrome

In goes first message... Instant block, the fustration builds and builds he continues to message, his content more wilder, braver, dirtier Until someone answers.. Then it Omg do they slowly wind the fishnet or pull hard...

They think back "ok" this tatic worked, he copies and paste onto notepad and stores it for the next victim.

He begins a more tactical approach spending time viewing verications, analysing previous players with ego boosting conculsions he will win!! so he makes the executive decision to display is manhood.. A quick wank, stands proud, snap... Snap snap.. Ah the perfect pic.. Upload that.

A profile now armed tactical with his warhead he reads the next womans profile.. The text is wayyy too long he's bored half way down, fuck that and reverts to fabbing pictures, he fabs away until it time to send the message

He fails

Now he's getting desperate.. Applies for swinging advice within the forum which he torn apart by women couples, dejected, he makes the appropriate changes, low on esteem confidence he goes again.. Sometime with a success must times not.

I think you can finish the rest

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Men sign up to this website horny, they see hundreds and hundreds of women with tits, pussy, legs.. Its the flys to shit syndrome

They think back "ok" this tatic worked, he copies and paste onto notepad and stores it for the next victim.

He fails

I think you can finish the rest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men sign up to this website horny, they see hundreds and hundreds of women with tits, pussy, legs.. Its the flys to shit syndrome

They think back "ok" this tatic worked, he copies and paste onto notepad and stores it for the next victim.

He fails

I think you can finish the rest

Join me on the park bench watching the world go past throwing bread at the ducks.

Alot calmer

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