FabSwingers.com forum: The average couple

By *parxyndpetal OP Couple
over a year ago

Durham

Hey all, hope you are all well.

I just wanted to do a little post about the average couple.

Me and petal are by no means models (she is in my eyes) but we really are the average couple, how does this sit for other couples and single males that are looking for couples?

I mean I have a belly, losing my hair etc mrs has stretch Mark's she worries about.

When we look at everyone's pics it's like people are models!

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, when you met couples is it just about the attraction or is there some banter, chat that is important?

We are yet to get out to the social world and it's a scary thought that we wont be anyones cup of tea.

Sparxy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You guys look hot!

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By *YC SausageMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Hey all, hope you are all well.

I just wanted to do a little post about the average couple.

Me and petal are by no means models (she is in my eyes) but we really are the average couple, how does this sit for other couples and single males that are looking for couples?

I mean I have a belly, losing my hair etc mrs has stretch Mark's she worries about.

When we look at everyone's pics it's like people are models!

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, when you met couples is it just about the attraction or is there some banter, chat that is important?

We are yet to get out to the social world and it's a scary thought that we wont be anyones cup of tea.

Sparxy "

Took a quick look at your profile, you both have nothing to worry about. Great photos and shows a healthy sex life and good sense of humour.

Keep up with the banger and you’ll have no problems. It’s all about the chat.

Hope this helps

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By *parxyndpetal OP Couple
over a year ago

Durham

"Hey all, hope you are all well.

I just wanted to do a little post about the average couple.

Me and petal are by no means models (she is in my eyes) but we really are the average couple, how does this sit for other couples and single males that are looking for couples?

I mean I have a belly, losing my hair etc mrs has stretch Mark's she worries about.

When we look at everyone's pics it's like people are models!

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, when you met couples is it just about the attraction or is there some banter, chat that is important?

We are yet to get out to the social world and it's a scary thought that we wont be anyones cup of tea.

Sparxy

Took a quick look at your profile, you both have nothing to worry about. Great photos and shows a healthy sex life and good sense of humour.

Keep up with the banger and you’ll have no problems. It’s all about the chat.

Hope this helps

Thanks dude, just people post there best photos. Not the ones were we have just woke up ha ha

Sparxy

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By *parxyndpetal OP Couple
over a year ago

Durham

"You guys look hot!

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was going to say I would drive to Durham right now to see those amazing boobs in real life, but then I realised I would actually walk.

It’s 458 miles so not quite a Proclaimers song!

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Hey all, hope you are all well.

I just wanted to do a little post about the average couple.

Me and petal are by no means models (she is in my eyes) but we really are the average couple, how does this sit for other couples and single males that are looking for couples?

I mean I have a belly, losing my hair etc mrs has stretch Mark's she worries about.

When we look at everyone's pics it's like people are models!

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, when you met couples is it just about the attraction or is there some banter, chat that is important?

We are yet to get out to the social world and it's a scary thought that we wont be anyones cup of tea.

Sparxy "

fantastic pictures... lucky lucky man

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Hey all, hope you are all well.

I just wanted to do a little post about the average couple.

Me and petal are by no means models (she is in my eyes) but we really are the average couple, how does this sit for other couples and single males that are looking for couples?

I mean I have a belly, losing my hair etc mrs has stretch Mark's she worries about.

When we look at everyone's pics it's like people are models!

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, when you met couples is it just about the attraction or is there some banter, chat that is important?

We are yet to get out to the social world and it's a scary thought that we wont be anyones cup of tea.

Sparxy "

how havnt yous had a meet??

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Hey all, hope you are all well.

I just wanted to do a little post about the average couple.

Me and petal are by no means models (she is in my eyes) but we really are the average couple, how does this sit for other couples and single males that are looking for couples?

I mean I have a belly, losing my hair etc mrs has stretch Mark's she worries about.

When we look at everyone's pics it's like people are models!

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, when you met couples is it just about the attraction or is there some banter, chat that is important?

We are yet to get out to the social world and it's a scary thought that we wont be anyones cup of tea.

Sparxy "

Personally I go for personality then looks.

I'm short, fat and have stretch marks but no one has ever complained well not to ny face

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By *parxyndpetal OP Couple
over a year ago

Durham

"Hey all, hope you are all well.

I just wanted to do a little post about the average couple.

Me and petal are by no means models (she is in my eyes) but we really are the average couple, how does this sit for other couples and single males that are looking for couples?

I mean I have a belly, losing my hair etc mrs has stretch Mark's she worries about.

When we look at everyone's pics it's like people are models!

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, when you met couples is it just about the attraction or is there some banter, chat that is important?

We are yet to get out to the social world and it's a scary thought that we wont be anyones cup of tea.

Sparxy

how havnt yous had a meet??

Ha ha just taking our time dude. Also life commitments.

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By *oolstewieMan
over a year ago

Southampton

"Hey all, hope you are all well.

I just wanted to do a little post about the average couple.

Me and petal are by no means models (she is in my eyes) but we really are the average couple, how does this sit for other couples and single males that are looking for couples?

I mean I have a belly, losing my hair etc mrs has stretch Mark's she worries about.

When we look at everyone's pics it's like people are models!

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, when you met couples is it just about the attraction or is there some banter, chat that is important?

We are yet to get out to the social world and it's a scary thought that we wont be anyones cup of tea.

Sparxy "

Well my Hotlist begs to differ because your profile is on it. You have a lot of really sexy photos. There is a photo of your other half smiling... amazing.

There will be plenty of people running their photos through filters and Photoshop before posting them. But yours are real and they are a good hot real.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We meet people we find attractive, that doesn't mean they have to be models. It is about looks to a large extent with us although we have to get along on a superficial level. We would always turn up to a meet looking our best and expect anyone else to do the same.

I think you two might be worrying a bit too much

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By *arkinberksMan
over a year ago

Ascot

Looks cannot make up for personality deficiencies. As a photographer I’m always wary of photos on places like Fab. I know what can be achieved with a little judicious retouching or altered camera angle. I’m sure that a number of people on here are perfectly capable of adjusting their images. Equally, a high proportion either obscure or cut off the face. For me, the face is the most important part of the body. How many women would meet a guy who has the figure of a male model but whose face looks like it has been beaten with the ugly stick ? The thing that might change the situation is if the guy has a really lovely personality, is attentive and makes you laugh. Which kinda proves the point that looks really aren’t everything, but we all know that.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Looks cannot make up for personality deficiencies. As a photographer I’m always wary of photos on places like Fab. I know what can be achieved with a little judicious retouching or altered camera angle. I’m sure that a number of people on here are perfectly capable of adjusting their images. Equally, a high proportion either obscure or cut off the face. For me, the face is the most important part of the body. How many women would meet a guy who has the figure of a male model but whose face looks like it has been beaten with the ugly stick ? The thing that might change the situation is if the guy has a really lovely personality, is attentive and makes you laugh. Which kinda proves the point that looks really aren’t everything, but we all know that. "

In all honesty a guy can be the nicest person in the world but if I don't find him attractive I'm not going to meet him. I'm here for fantasy fulfillment not a long term relationship.

Of course I will happily be friends with people regardless of what they look like but I won't have sex with anyone unless I like how they look

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By *ustinCredible.Man
over a year ago

whitecross/sankey valley

Looks are what draws you in i guess but personality is why you meet. There's plenty of stunning people that can't count to 5 and same with ugly fucks like me.

But If I'm honest with the "beautiful" people i have slept with most were boring... So will approach fellow normies lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From what I can see you have nothing to worry about. We are all normal people here, we all have bits about our bodies we don’t like that others don't see.

When I have met couples and singles, the connection/attraction plays a greater part then just the physical aesthetics. This is a swinging site, not a random sex site and the difference for me is connecting with people, being attracted to them and enjoying their company.

You won’t be everyone’s cup of tea - not everyone likes tea. However you will/do appeal to a lot more people than you think you do.

I hope you enjoy yourselves here and have some fun.

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By *ettpairCouple
over a year ago

Kettering

Suppose we all have some hang ups but you guys look amazing.....happy fabbing

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

errr dont think folks cut off or obscure the face on public pics on here because they are pig ugly!!!! its more to do with discretion!!!! and can assure you none of our pics have been pissed about with in photoshop or any other app

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

In all honesty a guy can be the nicest person in the world but if I don't find him attractive I'm not going to meet him. I'm here for fantasy fulfillment not a long term relationship.

Of course I will happily be friends with people regardless of what they look like but I won't have sex with anyone unless I like how they look"

Yeah agree totally!we are here to fulfill fantasys, and looks are very important for this - who honestly fantasizes about someone they find unattractive?

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By *YC SausageMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

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By *YC SausageMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

In all honesty a guy can be the nicest person in the world but if I don't find him attractive I'm not going to meet him. I'm here for fantasy fulfillment not a long term relationship.

Of course I will happily be friends with people regardless of what they look like but I won't have sex with anyone unless I like how they look

Yeah agree totally!we are here to fulfill fantasys, and looks are very important for this - who honestly fantasizes about someone they find unattractive?"

Haha I cut my face off cause I’m fugly but I’m ok with that.

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire

"Hey all, hope you are all well.

I just wanted to do a little post about the average couple.

Me and petal are by no means models (she is in my eyes) but we really are the average couple, how does this sit for other couples and single males that are looking for couples?

I mean I have a belly, losing my hair etc mrs has stretch Mark's she worries about.

When we look at everyone's pics it's like people are models!

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, when you met couples is it just about the attraction or is there some banter, chat that is important?

We are yet to get out to the social world and it's a scary thought that we wont be anyones cup of tea.

Sparxy "

I'm not much of a tea drinker but if I was, I would love to have a cuppa

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Everyone else is posting their best photos too. And when we look at our own photos, we often only see the bits that we hate. Others might not even notice those 'flaws'. Petal looks great (Sparxy looks fine too, but I'll admit it wasn't his photos that I was really looking at).

There's little point comparing yourselves to others. There will always be something you can find that you believe they do better. It doesn't matter. All that counts is that people who you might want to meet like what they see. You'll appeal to plenty of people.

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By *ltcouple666Couple
over a year ago

cheshire

We are far from super models either in the body department ...we did worry that you had to be that way to be on here but its just not the case...we are looking to meet people who have great personalities who we click with...that goes a long way in the attraction part for us

K x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we are far from.being models too!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are the same j is a bit body conscious but since we've been on here exploring our options she's come right out of her shell,she is gorgeous and causing a bit if a stir in here were still very new to this so it can only go from strength to strength.

Everyone is different in shape size and personality the sooner people get over themselves when it comes to body image the better as far as I'm concerned.

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By *hat The CuckCouple
over a year ago

Croydon Area

Body average couple here to (detailed on our profile)

I (Mr) also have a belly, losing my hair etc so I don't play at all as I am not confident enough.

Mrs is more confident but again has some body insecurites due to having children so chooses who she wants to meet with very carefully especially if we feel their out of our league, both males and MF couples as we want to feel confortable.

We can relate that there are lot of very body perfect people on here but I guess there's a market for all types so it's just patience I guess and someone eventually will pop up thats a perfect match both body and personality wise.

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By *ltcouple666Couple
over a year ago

cheshire

"We are the same j is a bit body conscious but since we've been on here exploring our options she's come right out of her shell,she is gorgeous and causing a bit if a stir in here were still very new to this so it can only go from strength to strength.

Everyone is different in shape size and personality the sooner people get over themselves when it comes to body image the better as far as I'm concerned."

Love this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would class ourselves as just your normal average couple and that's the type of couple we try to connect with.

No one posts a bad picture of themselves so we tend to look at them as a guide and see what type of people are on there verified list.

You both look great by the way

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By *parxyndpetal OP Couple
over a year ago

Durham

"Body average couple here to (detailed on our profile)

I (Mr) also have a belly, losing my hair etc so I don't play at all as I am not confident enough.

We should meet!

I understand the no confidence part. It's a struggle but I think I whe we start going to clubs etc it will help me/us I hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have things we like and preferences but no matter how much someone meets your physical ideal if they aren't comfortable with themselves it will come across. Be comfortable and happy with yourself and you'll find people who are attracted to you.

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over a year ago

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By *ryanythingonce7274Couple
over a year ago

hook

Same here, we are what we are but had some great meets with people accepting us as we are.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Have confidence in yourself and don't compare yourself to other people. It shows when you meet if you have a low opinion of yourself

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

Go to a club. You will see every shape and size of both genders. All having fun. Doing their own thing in their comfort zone.

Worth remembering too that even the most beautiful people can have insecurities, we're our own worst critics.

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Definitely go to a club! It's done wonders for my confidence. And you have an excellent one on your doorstep.

Also, never think anyone is out of your league. The things you think rule you out might not be important to them. They might be attracted to other aspects of you. This is a lesson I'm still learning.

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

"Hey all, hope you are all well.

I just wanted to do a little post about the average couple.

Me and petal are by no means models (she is in my eyes) but we really are the average couple, how does this sit for other couples and single males that are looking for couples?

I mean I have a belly, losing my hair etc mrs has stretch Mark's she worries about.

When we look at everyone's pics it's like people are models!

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, when you met couples is it just about the attraction or is there some banter, chat that is important?

We are yet to get out to the social world and it's a scary thought that we wont be anyones cup of tea.

Sparxy

Took a quick look at your profile, you both have nothing to worry about. Great photos and shows a healthy sex life and good sense of humour.

Keep up with the banger and you’ll have no problems. It’s all about the chat.

Hope this helps

Thanks dude, just people post there best photos. Not the ones were we have just woke up ha ha

Sparxy "

Yup, guilty of posting the best pics here too lol

But we also think clubs are best for meeting fellow swingers,

that way, what you see is what you get so to speak lol

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By *uffnmuffCouple
over a year ago

London

"Hey all, hope you are all well.

I just wanted to do a little post about the average couple.

Me and petal are by no means models (she is in my eyes) but we really are the average couple, how does this sit for other couples and single males that are looking for couples?

I mean I have a belly, losing my hair etc mrs has stretch Mark's she worries about.

When we look at everyone's pics it's like people are models!

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, when you met couples is it just about the attraction or is there some banter, chat that is important?

We are yet to get out to the social world and it's a scary thought that we wont be anyones cup of tea.

Sparxy "
we are in our 40s and have all of the above stretch marks belly fat and so on its all about angels and light when it comes to our photos. And it's all about people who are down to earth with lots of banter for us. Get out to a club you will have a great time and make lots of new friends. We love clubbing we have met lots of great people some who we will be friends with for the rest of our lives.

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By *parxyndpetal OP Couple
over a year ago

Durham

Wow!!! Thank you everyone for your kind comments I (petal) have just saw this post I didn't even know he had done this!!

I'm terrified to get to a club because I don't want my self conscious to put people off

But think I'm gonna have to suck it up and get it done xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very sexy, I prefer the average xx

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

ClubF's Curvy Girls night is next Thursday. You should go - it's a very good introduction to clubs for people who are less confident with their bodies.

I can pass you the name of the woman who runs it if you'd like to talk to her about your fears. She's a great host, and makes everyone feel welcome.

If you want a friendly face to chat with in the bar or hot tub, I'll be there. There's no pressure to do anything, just opportunity if you want to take it.

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

Me and petal are by no means models (she is in my eyes) but we really are the average couple, how does this sit for other couples and single males that are looking for couples?

I mean I have a belly, losing my hair etc mrs has stretch Mark's she worries about.

When we look at everyone's pics it's like people are models!

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, when you met couples is it just about the attraction or is there some banter, chat that is important?

We are yet to get out to the social world and it's a scary thought that we wont be anyones cup of tea.

Sparxy "

Couple of things:

We prefer average or as we like it to be called, "normal"

We have found, imho, that the so called "beautiful people" on here tend to have the ugliest of personalities. All ego and no soul.

"Hot" couples really aren't, honestly, they aren't. They think they are but reality is a hard master. Face like a chewed burger but hey, they're a size 8 and he's got a six pack so they must be hot, right?

No, we want to meet ordinary, honest, normal people with all their flawed bodies.

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By *unny ValentineCouple
over a year ago

Crewe

Love this post and replies. Can't offer anymore advise to the OP than has already being said.

We all have body hang ups - I'd feel insecure if i tried to match myself against some of the 6pack 6ft guys on here. C Has her hang ups too, but we've always felt at home and been made welcome in the clubs with people of sizes, colours and looks. You will fit in and have a great time at a club - just be brave .

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

OP.

In reality most people in the swinging world are average.

We swingers are just like everyone else and we all find different things attractive.

I am certainly not "hot", as in gym fit or slim and beautiful but I am happy being me.

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By *ltcouple666Couple
over a year ago

cheshire

Wouldn't it Be great if all of us who consider ourselves "average" (though I'm sure you're not!) Could all club together..I'm so scared of being the one day on her own in the corner

K x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Me and petal are by no means models (she is in my eyes) but we really are the average couple, how does this sit for other couples and single males that are looking for couples?

I mean I have a belly, losing my hair etc mrs has stretch Mark's she worries about.

When we look at everyone's pics it's like people are models!

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, when you met couples is it just about the attraction or is there some banter, chat that is important?

We are yet to get out to the social world and it's a scary thought that we wont be anyones cup of tea.

Sparxy

Couple of things:

We prefer average or as we like it to be called, "normal"

We have found, imho, that the so called "beautiful people" on here tend to have the ugliest of personalities. All ego and no soul.

No, we want to meet ordinary, honest, normal people with all their flawed bodies. "

That's extremely rude and insulting to slim, good looking people. Why insult people to try and make others feel better?

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By *r and Mrs A HornyCouple
over a year ago

coventry

We don’t care Much on lucks it more if we click and easily get on. We think people label types to much. Xx

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I've met some conventionally 'hot' people who turned out to be lovely. You really can't tell what's inside by looking at the outside.

And everyone has their own ideas of what makes someone attractive. Slim and fit is by no means the whole story. For me, a nice smile goes a long way. And I do like curves. But the most attractive feature is simply being a decent person.

Back to the original post: yes, the chat is important. That's how you tell if they're a good person.

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

And the Great Fab Normal Person Club Meet would be awesome

Just tell me where to go!

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Hey all, hope you are all well.

I just wanted to do a little post about the average couple.

Me and petal are by no means models (she is in my eyes) but we really are the average couple, how does this sit for other couples and single males that are looking for couples?

I mean I have a belly, losing my hair etc mrs has stretch Mark's she worries about.

When we look at everyone's pics it's like people are models!

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, when you met couples is it just about the attraction or is there some banter, chat that is important?

We are yet to get out to the social world and it's a scary thought that we wont be anyones cup of tea.

Sparxy "

Creative lighting and angles can make for great pictures... we are also an average couple, but I think some of our pictures are awesome.

Cal

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

personality and banter for us attraction comes a bit into it but its not the bee all and end all

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

"Hey all, hope you are all well.

I just wanted to do a little post about the average couple.

Me and petal are by no means models (she is in my eyes) but we really are the average couple, how does this sit for other couples and single males that are looking for couples?

I mean I have a belly, losing my hair etc mrs has stretch Mark's she worries about.

When we look at everyone's pics it's like people are models!

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, when you met couples is it just about the attraction or is there some banter, chat that is important?

We are yet to get out to the social world and it's a scary thought that we wont be anyones cup of tea.

Sparxy

Creative lighting and angles can make for great pictures... we are also an average couple, but I think some of our pictures are awesome.

Cal

You guys have some amazing photos. Take them yourselves?

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By *old1974Man
over a year ago

Manchester

She is so sexy wow the boobs are fantastic.x

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

" That's extremely rude and insulting to slim, good looking people. Why insult people to try and make others feel better? "

Not really. Sadly, certain 'slim, good looking people' on here and at clubs think they are a cut above everyone else. How many profiles have we all seen that will say something along the lines 'hot couple seek similer' . Firstly, who are they to judge others and secondly, what the hell makes them think they're so hot in the first place? All ego, no soul.

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By *jbucksCouple
over a year ago

Bletchley

"Hey all, hope you are all well.

I just wanted to do a little post about the average couple.

Me and petal are by no means models (she is in my eyes) but we really are the average couple, how does this sit for other couples and single males that are looking for couples? For us we can relate as I have got shall we say the dad bod and Jordan has curves and stretch marks but for me I love it as those scars show me she did the miracle of giving birth to our two children so even though we may not think we are lookers like I say to Jordan she is and I’m sure she would say it the other way around by we are all sexy and we should own that. But I too see others and see their beauty like model worthy but I’m sure others will look at us and say the same so I would say it’s the eyes of the beholder.

I mean I have a belly, losing my hair etc mrs has stretch Mark's she worries about.

When we look at everyone's pics it's like people are models!

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, when you met couples is it just about the attraction or is there some banter, chat that is important?

We are yet to get out to the social world and it's a scary thought that we wont be anyones cup of tea.

Sparxy "

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

" That's extremely rude and insulting to slim, good looking people. Why insult people to try and make others feel better?

I prefer people to have a good opinion of themselves personally

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over a year ago

For me its more about the personality of the couples i meet. I think at the end of the day we all have certain insecurities about the way we look. I have insecurities about the way i look and im slim. Be proud of who you are and the way you look.

Your pics look great

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Creative lighting and angles can make for great pictures... we are also an average couple, but I think some of our pictures are awesome.

Cal

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You guys have some amazing photos. Take them yourselves?"

Most of our pictures we've taken ourselves, except for 5 with just Anita on which came from a Boutique Photo Session last year.

cal

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

" That's extremely rude and insulting to slim, good looking people. Why insult people to try and make others feel better?

So they should say ugly couple weeks similar?

The irony of your comment is stunning.

I don’t understand people who feel the need to express their own insecurities by putting others down with sweeping generalisations.

OP I’m distinctly average too but it’s about taking advantage of what you’ve got and realising that people aren’t hunting for perfection, they’re looking for attraction. Most people don’t notice what we consider to be our biggest flaws!

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By *parxyndpetal OP Couple
over a year ago

Durham

Thank you so much everyone, I'm sorry it's seemed to have turned into a bit of a slagging towards slim people,for me this isn't the issue

The only issue I've had with people on this site is with people who have done this for a long time, they aren't into newbies but that is their choice and I don't take offence to that at all

Usually I'm a confident person but this is a whole new ball game not only do I have to impress the men I also have to impress the women no pressure

haha

I'll definitely be getting to a club tho get my self out there

Thank you all for your advice and comments honestly I they have made me feel so much better

Petal xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Thank you so much everyone, I'm sorry it's seemed to have turned into a bit of a slagging towards slim people,for me this isn't the issue

The only issue I've had with people on this site is with people who have done this for a long time, they aren't into newbies but that is their choice and I don't take offence to that at all

Usually I'm a confident person but this is a whole new ball game not only do I have to impress the men I also have to impress the women no pressure

haha

I'll definitely be getting to a club tho get my self out there

Thank you all for your advice and comments honestly I they have made me feel so much better

Petal xx"

You don't have to impress anybody.

What you have to do *if you want to* is be the best version of yourself. There is far more negative judgement aimed at people who are perceived to have high self esteem than at any one else

You will be absolutely fine

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I just read that back

I don't mean you'll be fine to imply that you have low self esteem. I just mean you'll be fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bodies are just bodies what's inside them makes us fancy them. We're not gym bunnies but the spark is what attracts us to people. Don't worry find respectful people you like and take your time on this journey. Enjoy I know we do. Male

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By *parxyndpetal OP Couple
over a year ago

Durham

"I just read that back

I don't mean you'll be fine to imply that you have low self esteem. I just mean you'll be fine

Haha I get what you mean, thank you, I just don't get all this judgement if I'm honest especially coming from a swingers site haha xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I just read that back

I don't mean you'll be fine to imply that you have low self esteem. I just mean you'll be fine

Haha I get what you mean, thank you, I just don't get all this judgement if I'm honest especially coming from a swingers site haha xx"

You will find that if someone describes themselves as attractive they will be insulted but if they post saying they're unsure about how they look they will be complimented to the max. On the one hand you will be told to have confidence in yourself and the way you look but once you've achieved that and express it you will be knocked back for it. I genuinely don't understand why people feel the need to do this.

I like to see men and women with confidence in themselves and good self esteem.

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By *irty workmanMan
over a year ago

lincolnshire

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By *irty workmanMan
over a year ago

lincolnshire

Banter and chat for me

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Was wondering this because meets seem few and far between for us at the moment.

Plenty of couples view us but that's it and was wondering if it's because we aren't stick thin.

I'm a 14-16 and C has a belly. But there again here in Cornwall there isn't much of a scene anyway

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Was wondering this because meets seem few and far between for us at the moment.

Plenty of couples view us but that's it and was wondering if it's because we aren't stick thin.

I'm a 14-16 and C has a belly. But there again here in Cornwall there isn't much of a scene anyway"

It's got nothing to do with your size. If you read the forum regularly you'll see that the majority actually prefer women of your size or larger.

We don't get a lot of attention nowadays. I know it's because we're older I also know that we're both attractive. Not everyone will share our opinion but it's our own assessment that's the most important, not other people's.

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over a year ago

We think it's just a matter of personal choice really OP having looked at your profile you are actually a very attractive looking couple to us as are a few others in this thread!

It would be fair to say that we prefer more defined and curvier people physically however that said it's all about personality for us and that is what can really change the initial attraction.

Dave has a friend in vanilla life and she is actually a size 26 BBW lady but he swears that her personality is so cheeky and intoxicating that it makes her attractive and fun to be around.

For us both that is what makes the difference you could be the most physically fit or even just look amazing but that's only on the outside and a person's demeanour and attitude can completely change the way we perceive them to be.

Hope that helps?! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all at times have self doubt, be confident about yourself and this will always shine through xxx

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

"Was wondering this because meets seem few and far between for us at the moment.

Plenty of couples view us but that's it and was wondering if it's because we aren't stick thin.

I'm a 14-16 and C has a belly. But there again here in Cornwall there isn't much of a scene anyway

It's got nothing to do with your size. If you read the forum regularly you'll see that the majority actually prefer women of your size or larger.

Hmm possibly it's because of that we're into BDSM then. Though we clearly state we're happy to play vanilla

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Was wondering this because meets seem few and far between for us at the moment.

Plenty of couples view us but that's it and was wondering if it's because we aren't stick thin.

I'm a 14-16 and C has a belly. But there again here in Cornwall there isn't much of a scene anyway

It's got nothing to do with your size. If you read the forum regularly you'll see that the majority actually prefer women of your size or larger.

Hmm possibly it's because of that we're into BDSM then. Though we clearly state we're happy to play vanilla "

Yeah that's another reason we get one message a year

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By *arnsleycpl4uCouple
over a year ago

Barnsley

I was the same stretch mark bit chubby blue veins showing on legs now but still comfortable in my body x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality over looks for us everytime

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

For me it's way more than looks. I like to get to know who I'm meeting a bit first. Build up to the meet. Explore together in a nice relaxed way...

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over a year ago

We had all the same worries when we joined but mind soon put at ease once we started talking and meeting people might be worth your while attending an organised social meet in your area will put your mind at ease

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

This scene is full of all body types, everyone is looking for different things. What floats someone's boat doesn't do it for someone else. The thing we have heard from lots that are not so self confident is once they've got over their worries and visited a club, they've come out more confident than when they have gone in. The people in clubs are all different and your attraction will spill over to the folk who are attracted to you if that makes sense. Your profile and pics will attract a lot of attention. Get yourselves out there and watch your confidence build. It's a great lifestyle full of great non judgemental people. Not saying there are still lots of crazies but they can be ignored. Not forgetting fab is a social media platform full of trolls to be ignored too

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By *parxyndpetal OP Couple
over a year ago

Durham

"This scene is full of all body types, everyone is looking for different things. What floats someone's boat doesn't do it for someone else. The thing we have heard from lots that are not so self confident is once they've got over their worries and visited a club, they've come out more confident than when they have gone in. The people in clubs are all different and your attraction will spill over to the folk who are attracted to you if that makes sense. Your profile and pics will attract a lot of attention. Get yourselves out there and watch your confidence build. It's a great lifestyle full of great non judgemental people. Not saying there are still lots of crazies but they can be ignored. Not forgetting fab is a social media platform full of trolls to be ignored too "

Yeah I'm definitely going to get to a club think that's what makes me more nervous but like you say once we get there our fears will go!!

Kinda looking forward to it now haha thank you so much

P xx

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Yeah I'm definitely going to get to a club"

Hooray! You'll love it, I'm sure. And I'm sure it will do great things for your confidence. It has for me.

It's easy to imagine a club as a place that's for everyone else. In reality there's a wide range of people, and they're all accepted. Well, the nice ones are.

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By *istressdandsubtCouple
over a year ago

caterham

For us it really is about personality and if we click, we are not supermodels but we are here to meet fun people ,people who share the same kinks and want to explore them , we have found some of our best nights have been with people we didn't expect them to be either in looks or ages ,it shows that personality goes along way

Ps you too are fine you are just like the rest of us

Have fun and just enjoy

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

"Hey all, hope you are all well.

I just wanted to do a little post about the average couple.

Me and petal are by no means models (she is in my eyes) but we really are the average couple, how does this sit for other couples and single males that are looking for couples?

I mean I have a belly, losing my hair etc mrs has stretch Mark's she worries about.

When we look at everyone's pics it's like people are models!

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, when you met couples is it just about the attraction or is there some banter, chat that is important?

We are yet to get out to the social world and it's a scary thought that we wont be anyones cup of tea.

Sparxy "

For me, as a “single” Male who is also not a model, I don’t object to a slender body if you have it but I will potentially be just as much attracted to you if you are on the bigger size. In terms of facial attraction, I like what I like and I don’t like what I don’t like, but there is no hard and fast rule, if I make sense....Whatever I find attractive is just how my brain works and it may not work for somebody else. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's why it's nice to have a chat and a flirt and comfortable with each other it makes playing so much better especially on a regular basis

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over a year ago

"Hey all, hope you are all well.

I just wanted to do a little post about the average couple.

Me and petal are by no means models (she is in my eyes) but we really are the average couple, how does this sit for other couples and single males that are looking for couples?

I mean I have a belly, losing my hair etc mrs has stretch Mark's she worries about.

When we look at everyone's pics it's like people are models!

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, when you met couples is it just about the attraction or is there some banter, chat that is important?

We are yet to get out to the social world and it's a scary thought that we wont be anyones cup of tea.

Sparxy "

Just try a couple of clubs. Pictures can be doctored but I think you'll be reassured by the sight of real people. We're all far from being models after 40? With respect to those superstars who are! Well done both sexes. I admire the work you must put in!!!

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Yeah I'm definitely going to get to a club think that's what makes me more nervous but like you say once we get there our fears will go!!

Kinda looking forward to it now haha thank you so much

P xx"

Clubs are where we have most of our meets now. Great places, relaxed and no pressure. Great social and play if you want it, whether you play on your own or with others. Best thing we ever did was to go to clubs, everyone is genuine. Most say they wish they'd gone earlier, for us it was our very first thing we did in this lifestyle, the rest is history

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By *team7279Couple
over a year ago

London

"We had all the same worries when we joined but mind soon put at ease once we started talking and meeting people might be worth your while attending an organised social meet in your area will put your mind at ease "

Yeah, totally this. Doing the socials has really put us at ease with the whole thing, just because of how normal it helps everything feel and how lovely everyone has been. Mrs getting to stick her tongue down the throats of a few sexy guys hasn't hurt either...

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By *team7279Couple
over a year ago

London

(Also, you're straight onto our hotlist, so don't sell yourselves short!)

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over a year ago

"Hey all, hope you are all well.

I just wanted to do a little post about the average couple.

Me and petal are by no means models (she is in my eyes) but we really are the average couple, how does this sit for other couples and single males that are looking for couples?

I mean I have a belly, losing my hair etc mrs has stretch Mark's she worries about.

When we look at everyone's pics it's like people are models!

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, when you met couples is it just about the attraction or is there some banter, chat that is important?

We are yet to get out to the social world and it's a scary thought that we wont be anyones cup of tea.

Sparxy "

We sound the same as you, most people in clubs are too. There are some body beautiful people here, they’re not usually interested in us. So we just go for normal folks like us too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hiya sparx/petal.

I think there has to be an attraction at first because it's more than likely on here that you'll not know what personality is like until you get to know them,so attraction draws you in and then the best part which is personality,traits etc come along second as you get to know the person.

Me personally,and I've said this outside of fab,me personally I don't care about how great a body looks as I'm a sucker for a pretty face.

At the end of the day 99% of people have some insecurities but what looks bad to them doesn't look bad to others.

I've seen your pics petal....there's nothing wrong with you.

Be confident and stand tall.

Ps:Oh BTW sparx,get the razor on your head,best thing I ever done mate,and it's ideal if your out dogging as the moonlight on the bald head creates a torch for all to see haha.

Good luck.

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By *parxyndpetal OP Couple
over a year ago

Durham

Did you enjoy that I take it

Can't wait to start that

Thank you xxx

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Can't wait to start that"

Ooh, is Petal a kisser? I am going to have to make sure I'm there for your first club visit!

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By *parxyndpetal OP Couple
over a year ago

Durham

"Can't wait to start that

Ooh, is Petal a kisser? I am going to have to make sure I'm there for your first club visit!

I loooovvvveeeeeeee kissing

Mmmmm turns me on so much a good lush kiss!!!

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