FabSwingers.com forum: Timewasters

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why does the site allow fakes and timewasters on the site xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely it's kind of hard to police.

Especially the time wasters.

Sure, there could be an insistence of people photo verifying. That may remove the fakes, pic collectors etc.

But time wasters? People have the right to change their minds at any point.

What seemed a good idea at the time, may suddenly not appeal as much. A lot of people just like to chat. People are fickle. Simple as that.

You can't throw them off site for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does the site allow fakes and timewasters on the site xx"

I understand your frustration and I’m sure the site would. The million dollar question is how???

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By *inky B and kinky DCouple
over a year ago

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I think one way of stopping a lot of fakes would be to make it compulsory for photo verified when making a p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would imagine the majority of genuine people on site woukd have no problem with a photo veri rule.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve come to the conclusion that there aren’t that many true time wasters. I think many lose their nerve at the last moment.

We’ve started leaving the door open for those who have to 'work' at the last moment, have an ill granny/dog or who have had some other disaster and have actually had some decent meets through it. It’s a big thing to start swinging and not surprising that some get cold feet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would imagine the majority of genuine people on site woukd have no problem with a photo veri rule."

We’re not photo verified and can’t be arsed to do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've made a suggestion on here that a person could, before a meet submit a token. The person they met could, after the meet return the token.

Percentage meets would give one a star system to illuminate the occasional person who for whatever reason won't return a token.

It wouldn't be a 100% accurate system but it would differentiate between 'genuine' people and the fantasists who set up meet after meet and never attend any of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has had them just change the way you filter them out

We look at verifications if they have lots or if they have meet someone we know chances are they will be genuine. However bear in mind everyone has family / work commitments and cant drop everything for a meet

Hope these comments help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would imagine the majority of genuine people on site woukd have no problem with a photo veri rule.

We’re not photo verified and can’t be arsed to do it. "

Haha you have 62 pics on profile but cant be bothered to do one more with your name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would imagine the majority of genuine people on site woukd have no problem with a photo veri rule.

We’re not photo verified and can’t be arsed to do it.

Haha you have 62 pics on profile but cant be bothered to do one more with your name

That’s right. It’s never hindered us and when we have the camera out, don’t think about it.

Why? Are you saying we’re fake?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does the site allow fakes and timewasters on the site xx"

I understand the frustration, over the years it’s happened to me countless times. Now I just laugh to myself and block anyone who wastes my time. I know a lot of couples who only meet people at clubs and organised events for this very reason, personally I find that a bit inhibiting for my lifestyle.

As a few posters have alluded to, it’s such a difficult thing to police - even verified people can be time wasters sadly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you go to a lot of clubs and have had loads of people verify that you are genuine then photo verification becomes moot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fakes would be easy to rectify, make everyone photo verify within 24 hours or freeze/delete their profile.

Time wasters on the other hand not so easy. Some people just seem to get off it.... maybe include it in the list of interests.... just a thought

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

"Why does the site allow fakes and timewasters on the site xx"
what determines a time waster and a fake ? I don’t think I’m either but was accused of it recently just because I didn’t reply to a message within 2 minutes of them messaging me and when I looked on their profile guess what status update was something like why are single males all time wasters I took it as a dig at me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If photo verification is a guarantee that a person is genuine in your opinion simply don't interact with profiles that don't have the green flag. Admin have said they won't make it compulsory for all members.

Use mail filters and reverse search images too it will cut down on the number of fake profiles you encounter.

Other tips are if they want sex talk early on chances are they won't meet and if they go quiet after a meet is arranged.

Never spend money or travel too far, don't agree to turn up at a post code or street with the promise of being given a house number.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it hard to even get chatting to any singles or couples on here, makes me think most are fake profiles,its not that I'm not polite in my opening message

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Fakes would be easy to rectify, make everyone photo verify within 24 hours or freeze/delete their profile.

Time wasters on the other hand not so easy. Some people just seem to get off it.... maybe include it in the list of interests.... just a thought

The only thing that would rectify is men pretending to be women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does the site allow fakes and timewasters on the site xx"

Unfortunately life is full of time wasters.You only need to try selling a car to find that one out !

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By *emmabTV/TS
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Maybe the new rule that are coming in in regards to having to register your details with the site administrator will stop all the time wasters setting up profiles. Possible unintended advantage to the government busy bodies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fakes would be easy to rectify, make everyone photo verify within 24 hours or freeze/delete their profile.

Time wasters on the other hand not so easy. Some people just seem to get off it.... maybe include it in the list of interests.... just a thought

The only thing that would rectify is men pretending to be women"

Well there you go. That's one demographic dealt with....

How many men though, that come on thinking it's an easy shag site are going to be prepared to verify.

Not many.

So that's shot a lot of rude, arrogant asshats down in flames.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll ask the question I always ask....

Who decides which people are the timewasters and fakes, and how does one decide other than based on personal prejudice....

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

What is your definition of fakes and timewasters OP?

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"I would imagine the majority of genuine people on site woukd have no problem with a photo veri rule.

We’re not photo verified and can’t be arsed to do it. "

We are the same. Think our meet veris prove we are genuine, however we don't arrange meets off here, just use it to keep in touch with folk we know. If people think we are fake there is always the block button. Fab gives you the tools to run your profile as you see fit.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"Maybe the new rule that are coming in in regards to having to register your details with the site administrator will stop all the time wasters setting up profiles. Possible unintended advantage to the government busy bodies."

When is this coming in? Has it been confirmed by admin or is this just an assumption?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve encountered timewasters who are photo verified and have verifications. One of them I had actually met a couple of times although I should have known from the off when he binned me off for someone else on what should have been our first meet and tried blaming it on me.

As someone has said...laugh, block and move on.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Yeah I mean, when they tick that time waster box on joining, they should say oh you're planning to be a time waster? Sorry, you can't join.

How do you expect the site to deal with them? It's a site to facilitate people getting to know each other, the responsibility is on you to have a level of due diligence.

The site has a facility to report time wasters and will look in to it as far as the messaging system can but essentially it's two (sets of) adults deciding to meet. How can the site admin force both parties to turn up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would imagine the majority of genuine people on site woukd have no problem with a photo veri rule.

We’re not photo verified and can’t be arsed to do it.

Haha you have 62 pics on profile but cant be bothered to do one more with your name

That’s right. It’s never hindered us and when we have the camera out, don’t think about it.

Why? Are you saying we’re fake? "

Lmao calm yer jets there i never said anything of the sort i was just laughing at the stupidity of your statement cant be bothered taking one pic but i will take 62 others get a sense of humour jeezo or maybe i hit a nerve

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