FabSwingers.com forum: Miles and miles away!!!

By *irl1234xxx OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I get messages from people at the other end of the country on a regular basis.

I don’t understand it because there’s no way that I’d travel for 6 plus hours to meet a stranger and there’s no way I’d want someone to do that to meet me.

People are willing to do it though, it’s too much.

Is this normal? Would you travel that far to meet a stranger?

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Some people do travel that far or they are going that way anyway

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By *irl1234xxx OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Some people do travel that far or they are going that way anyway "

I get it if people are coming here for business etc or are going to be here anyway but they’re not!

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By *ipi2001Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

You right. Travelling to far is useless. However some people do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is Wrexham to far ?(about 40 miles)

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By *irl1234xxx OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"You right. Travelling to far is useless. However some people do that. "

Exactly! I wouldn’t travel further than 10 miles if I wanted to meet haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people do, if i was single and had free weekends i definitely would for the right person. Im in dublin and hopefully in the coming weeks, i have someone coming from the uk for some fun

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By *019ReadyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Would never travel that far. People are prone to disappearing at the last minute & not meeting - imagine travelling 6hrs for that to happen! No thanks!

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By *irl1234xxx OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Is Wrexham to far ?(about 40 miles)"

I think even that’s too far! Particularly with the number of beautiful welsh girls on your doorstep!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By the time you get around to meeting them they aren't strangers though..not if you get chatting and get along..

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By *irl1234xxx OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Some people do, if i was single and had free weekends i definitely would for the right person. Im in dublin and hopefully in the coming weeks, i have someone coming from the uk for some fun

Really? Maybe I’m just lazy then

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By *eriousGuyABCMan
over a year ago

( WEST OF ) Chippenham ish

"You right. Travelling to far is useless. However some people do that. "

How is travelling too far useless, if the two parties meet. What a really stupid statement !

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By *irl1234xxx OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Would never travel that far. People are prone to disappearing at the last minute & not meeting - imagine travelling 6hrs for that to happen! No thanks!"

Exactly!!! There’s plenty of people nearer.

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By *ompip3Couple
over a year ago

Paisley

When we first started, we deliberately looked much further afield, in case we came across someone we knew locally.

Our first ever meet was in Belfast!! BUT we like to travel and have a weekend/overnight away often, so it fitted in with our story for family etc.

Each to their own, I suppose? We now meet locally too, but would consider Liverpool lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In general no and I wouldn't go that far purely for that purpose. However if I liked someone enough and I was closer for other reasons I would potentially make a detour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But people will travel to the end of the world for a beautiful lady like you ( I know I would)

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By *irl1234xxx OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"By the time you get around to meeting them they aren't strangers though..not if you get chatting and get along.."

I see what you’re saying but to me, if I’ve never met the guy in person, they’re a stranger. I know others feel differently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get messages from people at the other end of the country on a regular basis.

I don’t understand it because there’s no way that I’d travel for 6 plus hours to meet a stranger and there’s no way I’d want someone to do that to meet me.

People are willing to do it though, it’s too much.

Is this normal? Would you travel that far to meet a stranger? "
I think if fabsters were incorporating it in a mini break it's feesable. I have a friend in Liverpool (coincidence!), who I'd love to meet, but I'd love to visit that place anyway. X

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By *irl1234xxx OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"When we first started, we deliberately looked much further afield, in case we came across someone we knew locally.

Our first ever meet was in Belfast!! BUT we like to travel and have a weekend/overnight away often, so it fitted in with our story for family etc.

Each to their own, I suppose? We now meet locally too, but would consider Liverpool lol!

xx"

I suppose if you enjoy travelling anyway and the meet is kind of just part of travelling about.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's almost always a hard no for me.

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By *irl1234xxx OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"In general no and I wouldn't go that far purely for that purpose. However if I liked someone enough and I was closer for other reasons I would potentially make a detour. "

A detour if you’re not that far for other reasons is one thing but travelling from say Devon for example to Liverpool to have a drink with a stranger - madness in my opinion.

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By *irl1234xxx OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I get messages from people at the other end of the country on a regular basis.

I don’t understand it because there’s no way that I’d travel for 6 plus hours to meet a stranger and there’s no way I’d want someone to do that to meet me.

People are willing to do it though, it’s too much.

Is this normal? Would you travel that far to meet a stranger? I think if fabsters were incorporating it in a mini break it's feesable. I have a friend in Liverpool (coincidence!), who I'd love to meet, but I'd love to visit that place anyway. X"

Slightly different if you’re meeting a friend also.

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By *irl1234xxx OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"It's almost always a hard no for me. "

Exactly! Imagine the pressure of knowing that person has travelled the length of the country!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I quite like to travel. You get to see another city and meet up with who ever you’re talking to

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"In general no and I wouldn't go that far purely for that purpose. However if I liked someone enough and I was closer for other reasons I would potentially make a detour.

A detour if you’re not that far for other reasons is one thing but travelling from say Devon for example to Liverpool to have a drink with a stranger - madness in my opinion."

I once had someone writing from south of London demanding I meet him because of my holdups.

I'm pretty sure they have M&S down there...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"It's almost always a hard no for me.

Exactly! Imagine the pressure of knowing that person has travelled the length of the country! "

That's exactly it. I don't want to feel the pressure like I owe them.

I have met people who happen to come here, but even that I usually don't.

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By *irl1234xxx OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"It's almost always a hard no for me.

Exactly! Imagine the pressure of knowing that person has travelled the length of the country!

That's exactly it. I don't want to feel the pressure like I owe them.

I have met people who happen to come here, but even that I usually don't. "

Exactly this!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

great username op

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By *irl1234xxx OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"great username op "

Thanks, took me all day to think of that one

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Yep I’ve travelled to Canaries and Cyprus .. best meets ... back out to Cyprus on Thursday ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say about 2 hours and no more. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get messages from people at the other end of the country on a regular basis.

I don’t understand it because there’s no way that I’d travel for 6 plus hours to meet a stranger and there’s no way I’d want someone to do that to meet me.

People are willing to do it though, it’s too much.

Is this normal? Would you travel that far to meet a stranger? "
Oh to be 20 years younger and living in Liverpool!

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By *irl1234xxx OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Yep I’ve travelled to Canaries and Cyprus .. best meets ... back out to Cyprus on Thursday ..

Wow!!! At least you get to have a nice holiday! I’d never, ever do that! You’re very brave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went to Amsterdam to meet someone but not from here and was chatting for 5 months previously. I also met someone in Hong Hong and Dubai but was going there for work so tied it in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get them all the time and when i tell them its to far they get the hump and block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But...I don’t meet just for sex. I wouldn’t travel far unless i had build up a friendship first and wanted to spend time with that person in and out of the bedroom.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

We always travel so it's not pointless at all. We tend to have our meets in London, we won't meet locally and prefer to be 'out of town', works just fine. If a no show occurs we continue sightseeing.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

"Yep I’ve travelled to Canaries and Cyprus .. best meets ... back out to Cyprus on Thursday ..

Wow!!! At least you get to have a nice holiday! I’d never, ever do that! You’re very brave."

That’s by building the relationship over Skype etc and face time before I went out there ... 4th trip this week to Cyprus to see the same person

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"But...I don’t meet just for sex. I wouldn’t travel far unless i had build up a friendship first and wanted to spend time with that person in and out of the bedroom. "

And this is where I'd meet if someone happened to be in my area. If we'd been talking for a good while first and developed at least rapport.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In actual fact these guys never turn up. I tried a few who said they'd travel anywhere but when it came it none of them arrived

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"In actual fact these guys never turn up. I tried a few who said they'd travel anywhere but when it came it none of them arrived "

Yeah I tried once. It was for a GB as it happens so not much lost, but it didn't make me feel it much.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I've done 5 and 6 hour round trips to meet people from here in the past and they have done similar for me, often meeting in the middle somewhere which makes the country a very small place.

Each and every one of those meets the person has turned up and we've had a great time.

But then each and every one of those meets we have spent time getting to know each other and building a connection and chemistry first - which has ultimately made the meet worthwhile - regardless of whether there was sex involved or not.

Each to their own though and if travelling for a meet doesn't work for anyone then that's equally fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to travel. Most of my meets have involved and epic amount of distance and been totally worth it!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

My objection is mostly, I always feel acutely that there's a power dynamic/ imbalance here. On the site I have the power and it emboldens me to meet, but in person things revert to more normal dynamics and I'm on the back foot. It's also possible to conceal things here. I don't want to be in the position where someone is saying, well I did x therefore you owe me y. If I do anything I want it to be entirely of my own free will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is Wrexham to far ?(about 40 miles)

I think even that’s too far! Particularly with the number of beautiful welsh girls on your doorstep! "
I'm a liverpool supporter so I'm there quite a bit.wish I could make it for the parade.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"great username op

Thanks, took me all day to think of that one

I can understand why

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Girl from London messaged me. Chatted for a month and then she came to visit for a weekend. 1 night in a hotel and the rest at mine (making sure she wasn’t crazy first). Amazing weekend.

However recently I went all the way to Manchester only to be stood up.

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By *inchyorksMan
over a year ago

huddersfield

If you get chatting and there is a definite connection why not.

The best meet i have had was a three hour drive, but we made a full weekend of it, had some great fun in and out of the bedroom.

She is coming my way next when we both have a weekend free.

Be a bit far for a fuck and go though!!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"My objection is mostly, I always feel acutely that there's a power dynamic/ imbalance here. On the site I have the power and it emboldens me to meet, but in person things revert to more normal dynamics and I'm on the back foot. It's also possible to conceal things here. I don't want to be in the position where someone is saying, well I did x therefore you owe me y. If I do anything I want it to be entirely of my own free will. "

I can understand how that could be the perception, but that is where building a connection and doing some due diligence beforehand comes into it - if it's been made perfectly clear up front what the boundaries and essence of any meet is, then you should expect them to be respected regardless of whether that person has come from two streets away or the other end of the country, and if there's a sense they won't be respected (again regardless of distance) then the meet doesn't happen.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

In theory, yes. In practice... It feels higher risk, so there's my line.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

In theory, yes. In practice... It feels higher risk, so there's my line. "

And that is the only thing that matters and should be respected

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