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Oral sex technique consensus...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ladies... the more of you I meet, the more varied the technique seems to be that works for you orally. Does it change dependant on mood? Some like long, strong licks directly on the clit to fast little flicks on the hood. Some like a varied motion. With fingers, without fingers (without helps some concentrate apparently). It’s not so bad when someone actually tells you it’s working, but sometimes you just have to use your intuition.

So, although everyone is different, can we see if there is a generally good starting point technique, for us guys (or girls), to employ in oral that would seem to suit you all and we can move on from there to suit your needs individually?

Asking for a friend...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

The only thing that works for me as a giver is starting slowly, experimenting, and listening. Most people give cues in their breathing or noises they make.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The only thing that works for me as a giver is starting slowly, experimenting, and listening. Most people give cues in their breathing or noises they make. "

It’s what I always have done, but recently I’ve met a couple of people who liked something so specific, you’d never have worked it out from just listening. For example, one wanted a very fast motion with the tip of the tongue with almost millimetre precision to a certain spot directly on or above the clitoris (think chasing an itch scratching a back: up a bit, down a bit). It just made me wonder how many people have specifics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only thing that works for me as a giver is starting slowly, experimenting, and listening. Most people give cues in their breathing or noises they make.

It’s what I always have done, but recently I’ve met a couple of people who liked something so specific, you’d never have worked it out from just listening. For example, one wanted a very fast motion with the tip of the tongue with almost millimetre precision to a certain spot directly on or above the clitoris (think chasing an itch scratching a back: up a bit, down a bit). It just made me wonder how many people have specifics. "

The build up before actually makes the oral better for me. Don't go straight to the oral. I love having my thighs touched and lips pushed together. Touch on the outside rather than in to start with. Just the feeling of being explored and that he/she is attentive. Eye contact throughout. Go in with fingers once the licking has started. Then focus above the clit for me, not directly on it. If it's too sensitive I will just want them to stop and it spoils it. I like the feeling of being snogged down there, like the best passionate kiss ever flustered now!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I get what your friend is asking but I'm not sure there is a technique answer. I think a generally good starting point would be to do it with enthusiasm. Like the very nature of what you're doing is turning you on and you can't quite quench your thirst. I was going to suggest kissing and teasing around the area but not all women enjoy it.

Me liking oral does change a lot depending on mood - it's not something I can normally switch off with. More fingering (not finger bashing) as a general starting point?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like giving oral and from my experience - and I in no way claim to be an expert - the women I've met (fab and wives/girlfriends) actually engaging with the area is only after a lot of foreplay, teasing, intimate touches around and on the area before getting down there and going for it.

The build up is a big part and enhanced the final act.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clueless but enthusiast has always been my approach.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A couple of you have mentioned the build up now. I know this, so thank you. If I’d have asked peoples favourite sexual position, I’m pretty sure you’re answer wouldn’t have been plenty of foreplay first?

I’m just discussing the act itself. It seems to vary a lot even with the answers given so far. It’s just interesting to me.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I always consult the individual’s dossier first. None of this putting notes on your phone stuff either, typewritten pages from a manila folder adds a sense of occasion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's like unwrapping a packet of well wrapped biscuits, slowly and intensely finding the starting point, gently easing it apart, but don't get frustrated and just pull at it or they will all fall out in a fractious explosion. Listen not to just the breathing, or voice but the whole body and you can't go far wrong. Male

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shit dude did you JUST find out women are all different. It differs from woman to woman and moment to moment. We are all built slightly different and there is not a manual or cheat code. You just have to be good, intuitive and pay attention to the signals coming from above you.

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By *ark ph0enixWoman
over a year ago

Teesside

What I enjoy does vary according to mood and progress towards orgasm. But what i enjoy most is knowing the giver is enjoying it too. My body is giving out plenty of signals but I like to be paying attention to your signals too. Well at least until I'm too far along to care anymore.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Shit dude did you JUST find out women are all different. It differs from woman to woman and moment to moment. We are all built slightly different and there is not a manual or cheat code. You just have to be good, intuitive and pay attention to the signals coming from above you."

Nope, I’ve always know it. It’s just I’ve met some folk who need such an individual technique I was wondering if there are others out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Clueless but enthusiast has always been my approach."

It ain't much but it is honest work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shit dude did you JUST find out women are all different. It differs from woman to woman and moment to moment. We are all built slightly different and there is not a manual or cheat code. You just have to be good, intuitive and pay attention to the signals coming from above you.

Nope, I’ve always know it. It’s just I’ve met some folk who need such an individual technique I was wondering if there are others out there"

Yes I would argue that we all need individual technique. E.g. I like internal stimulation more and my girlfriend gets off on clitoral play more. If you came at both of us with the same moves. One of us would be disappointed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that if they fall asleep my technique must be seriously relaxing

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By *wosmilersCouple
over a year ago

Heathrowish

I love hearing sounds from lady smiler as she gets more turned on....

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Shit dude did you JUST find out women are all different. It differs from woman to woman and moment to moment. We are all built slightly different and there is not a manual or cheat code. You just have to be good, intuitive and pay attention to the signals coming from above you.

Nope, I’ve always know it. It’s just I’ve met some folk who need such an individual technique I was wondering if there are others out there"

I mean, probably, but hopefully they'd tell you? I prefer some things over others, but part of the joy of swinging is that different people approach in different ways. For me, anyway. As long as you're not jabbing my orgasm button or mining for gold in there, I'm probably enjoying it.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"Shit dude did you JUST find out women are all different. It differs from woman to woman and moment to moment. We are all built slightly different and there is not a manual or cheat code. You just have to be good, intuitive and pay attention to the signals coming from above you.

Nope, I’ve always know it. It’s just I’ve met some folk who need such an individual technique I was wondering if there are others out there

I mean, probably, but hopefully they'd tell you? I prefer some things over others, but part of the joy of swinging is that different people approach in different ways. For me, anyway. As long as you're not jabbing my orgasm button or mining for gold in there, I'm probably enjoying it. "

Mining for gold is probably better than panning for gold, getting lots of gushing and using a sieve to find the good bits

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Shit dude did you JUST find out women are all different. It differs from woman to woman and moment to moment. We are all built slightly different and there is not a manual or cheat code. You just have to be good, intuitive and pay attention to the signals coming from above you.

Nope, I’ve always know it. It’s just I’ve met some folk who need such an individual technique I was wondering if there are others out there

I mean, probably, but hopefully they'd tell you? I prefer some things over others, but part of the joy of swinging is that different people approach in different ways. For me, anyway. As long as you're not jabbing my orgasm button or mining for gold in there, I'm probably enjoying it.

Mining for gold is probably better than panning for gold, getting lots of gushing and using a sieve to find the good bits "

Whatever it is, drilling my cervix hurts, yo. And not fun hurt.

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